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Beautiful Surrender: 13 ‘Godly’ Christian Wives Explain Why They Submit To Their Husbands

Posted: 18 Aug 2015 07:30 AM PDT

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1. “When the man takes charge and makes really good, well-thought-out (and prayed for) decisions, it's pretty easy for wives to submit. Why not? He's made the right call. All you have to do is go along with it.” — Kirsten, indebtedmom.com

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2. “The best part of domestic discipline is what has happened emotionally between this long-time married couple. This new way has made us loving, more loving than ever before. Our marriage is energized. We are touching, hugging, playfully spanking, and making more love than ever before. Why? Because my Jack is taking the lead. He is the boss. It feels right and the way it should be.…It has made a difference in our lives in a big way.” — Meredith, learningdd.com

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3. “The definition I’m using with the word ‘submissive’ is the biblical definition of that. So, it is meekness, it is not weakness. It is strength under control, it is bridled strength….First Peter 3:1 says, ‘In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives.'…It is very difficult to have two heads of authority….It doesn’t work in the military, it doesn’t work — I mean, you have one president, you know what I’m saying?” — Candace, huffingtonpost.com

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4. “Well I finally got my first Spanking! Thanks to a suggestion and my loving HOH’s (head of household’s) permission it was a ‘test’ spank. I think he probably smacked my bottom about 10 times (bare bottom, OTK, with his hand). AND GUESS WHAT?? I WASN’T SCARED!!!! Now I have a renewed confidence in our decision to live a CDD (Christian Domestic Discipline) lifestyle….Hubby also informed me that we are going to be working on a habit I have that he can’t stand. He is giving me enough leeway so I am not really stressed about it, and since our ‘test’ spank, I know what I’m in for if I fail. That alone gives me a strong desire to please him….What I am trying to say is MEN…If you lead she WILL follow, and she will be content in doing so.” — Anonymous, christiandomesticdiscipline.com

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5. “We have no “set rules” so to speak. I know his preferences for what needs to be done & when he says “end of discussion,” that is it. Certain things like really bad attitude, yelling at anyone in the house, throwing a fit when mad, or being disrespectful (especially in front of others) will all add up to a bad whippin after a while. There is no, “Well you missed a load of laundry,” or “The dishes are dirty” type spanks in our home. There might be an “Ok, you know I want these things done and all week you have slacked off, you have until tomorrow (or tonight or whatever) and I will remind you if I have to,” but he has never had to. If I am given a warning I usually get it done.” — Kali, christiandomesticdiscipline.net

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6. “Oh boy, here we go. I can remember being a little girl (probably middle school age) and hearing someone tell me the Scripture in Ephesians that calls women to submit to their husbands. My reaction then was much like most women and like the world's view of submission. I remember saying "There is NO WAY I'm going to be some man's slave and stay at home and cook and clean for him!" It was not until I sat through a Bible study on the book of Ephesians that I truly understood submission. Submission is not meant for bad…it's meant to give us more freedom actually….” — Danielle, butlerpartyof3.com

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7. “I’ve been exploring submission for some time, and the one thing that I have discovered above anything else is the fact that wifely submission brings harmony to a home. There is no longer a power struggle between two people who both want to be “in charge.” It is a confession of our dependence on one another and an acceptance of our natural roles….Do you submit to the wishes of your boss? If you are given instructions, do you follow them? If you didn’t, you wouldn’t have your job for very long, would you?! My husband is simply the “boss” of my home.” — Becki, everydaymiracles.hubpages.com

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8. “As a strong-willed person, I see submission as a form of feminine chivalry. So when I serve my husband it’s not out of weakness, but out of strength. Just as our Lord washed the feet of His disciples, it wasn’t to show that He was beneath them, but to show that real leadership serves.” — Regina, christianforums.net

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9. “There is a beautiful surrender that comes with allowing myself to be vulnerable and submissive. When I was a little girl, I was a quiet little sweetheart who was pleasing to be around. My bad experiences hardened me and now my marriage is helping me relax my rigid boundaries….I always said that I would never leave the city and here I am willingly becoming a country housewife.” — Mrs. Submission, christianforums.net

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10. “Yes, It's true. I find joy in being a submissive wife. "Submissive" is not a four-letter word. It's actually ten : )…Notice we are not commanded to love our husbands. We are commanded to submit to them. However, the husbands are commanded to love us….Bottom line—men would rather be respected than loved. Women would rather be loved than respected. It's only by bringing the two together under complete subjection to Christ by both parties that the marriage will ever be complete.” — Anonymous, musingsofaministerswife.com

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11. “I wish there wasn’t a knee-jerk reaction to the word “submissive” but unfortunately there is such a stigma. When you mention being a submissive wife, people’s minds tend to go in either one direction or the other. Either they think you are into some sort of kinky lifestyle or they think you are a mindless doormat. That’s why I always make sure I add “Biblical” in front so there’s no confusion. ;) I am neither kinky, nor a doormat. My husband and I would be considered rather boring by most people. He is very particular about how he runs his household, his likes and dislikes. He can even be a bit bossy at times. But he is a wonderful, loving husband and father, a great provider and well, being in charge just suits him. Not to mention I find it tremendously sexy and attractive. I’m a happy happy wife!” — Anonymous, experience project.com

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12. “My husband is in seminary to be a music minister and I noticed that he doesn’t spank me like he used to. I don’t know what to do?!? I love him with or without discipline, but to be honest I really want it in my life. Does anyone have advice?” — Anonymous, christianddgroup.typepad.com

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“I am a submissive wife but do not always submit. For instance if my hubby is asking me to do something I believe isn’t in my best interests I simply refuse. Hubby seems to like anal sex. I do not and will not oblige him in his depravity. I may be submissive, but I’m no idiot doormat!” — Anonymous, experienceproject.comTC mark

17 Undeniable Things That Happen When You And Your BFF Are Attached At The Hip

Posted: 18 Aug 2015 07:54 PM PDT

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1. It doesn’t matter if either of you have a significant other, you will still ALWAYS be each other’s plus one.

2. It’s imperative that if one of the BFFs is dating, the other BFF get along with the new boo. Because if not, you might as well just NEXT it right now because that romance will inevitably go up in flames.

3. If you’re not physically hanging out, you’re texting, Tweeting, Facebook messaging, Snapchatting each other. It’s a constant stream of communication, with a few breaks for sleeping every now and then.

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4. Their family expects you at “close family events.” You have your own place setting.

5. You do even the most mundane activities together: grocery shopping, hair cuts, dentist appointments, etc. The more boring, the more you should be together to endure.

6. You share a secret language comprised of subtle eyebrow movements, shifts in energy, and throat clearing.

7. You’re both experts in telepathy and have a freaky tendency to predict what the other one is going to say long before they ever open their mouths.

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8. You get far more jealous of them spending time with someone else than you would someone you were dating.

“YOU TELL THAT GIRL TO WATCH OUT BECAUSE YOU’RE *MY* BEST FRIEND!! Oh, what’s my boyfriend up to? He’s in Vegas, eh, idk. Who cares, THIS IS ABOUT US!!!”

9. You don’t keep any sort of running tab on what the other owes, money wise. You basically just trade off getting each other things and know it’ll all even out in the long-run.

10. They know every weird, intimate detail of your sex life that even you forgot about.

11. Seriously, good luck ever forgetting about something strange you did or said because your BFF will be there to remind you. And in all likelihood, they were there for it.

12. You’ve not only seen each other naked numerous times, you’d easily notice if something on their body looked different.

“Did you start on a new pill or something?? ‘Cause giiiiirl, your boobs look a full cup-size bigger.”

13. You will hear the same story told in 20 different ways. And after the first few times you tried a gentle “you told me this already,” you’ll realize it’s easier to just smile and nod along.

14. When the two of you sit down to eat at a restaurant together, you totally know what the other is going to order, and sometimes, before even they do.

15. People don’t even bother sending you individual invitations anymore. Parties, events, casual get-togethers – doesn’t matter -because they already know you’ll be coming together.

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16. You are woven all throughout each other’s Instagram accounts and Facebook photos. A large percentage of your profile pictures contain one another.

17. They’ve seen you at your absolute grossest. And I’m talking GROSS. Bodily fluids flying everywhere, and a face that, in that moment, not even a mother could love. And the best part? They’re still around. TC mark

16 Men Try Their Best To Describe What The Female Orgasm Must Feel Like

Posted: 19 Aug 2015 05:37 AM PDT

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1. "I picture it undulating like a wave machine, but there are waves of pleasure undulating across your whole body. Men just get a few quick spurts, but women get to experience some powerful, slow-motion tsunami that rolls over the whole body. Frankly, I’m jealous."

— Jason, 18

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2. "I would think it's much more spiritual, meaningful, soulful, and healing than the male equivalent. Far less messy, too."

Michael, 21

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3. "It probably feels like ten thousand tiny angels are dancing on their clits, but I wouldn't know how that feels because I don't have a clit and all those extra bonus nerve endings that girls received as a gift from Mother Nature. Plus, I’ve never met an angel."

Christopher, 27

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4. "Sometimes when I'm, you know, ‘alone’ and reach a ‘personal moment of ecstasy,’ I'll reach down to the taint area between my balls and my asshole. When I'm cumming, I can feel it throbbing. I would guess it kind of feels like that, only you don't have a dick."

David, 24

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5. "Well, with the way some of them act, I'd guess it's much more intense and longer-lasting than a guy's orgasm. I mean, if a couple gets in trouble, say, for having loud sex at a motel, it's usually the woman who was doing the screaming, right? So, yes: More Intense, Longer Lasting. Brought to you by the Female Orgasm Ad Council."

Daniel, 24

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6. "I think it's exactly like a guy's orgasm, only with the fluids reversed—with a girl, the fluids come before the orgasm, and with a guy they come right at the point of impact. Then again, I'm not sure I've ever made a woman cum, so I'm speculating."

James, 22

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7. "The genius of the female orgasm is that until we develop the proper low-cost bedside machinery, there is absolutely no proof that it ever occurs. With a guy, there's a handful of vanilla pudding. There's a 'crime scene,' if you will. With a woman, she could have had a hundred orgasms, but you'd have no way of verifying it. If she's mean-spirited, she could even deny she ever came once just to hurt your feelings. That happened to me once with a woman. Or at least I think it did. A guy can never be sure. But playing the Devil's advocate and assuming that female orgasms actually exist, I would think they're about a million times more powerful than male ones."

Tad, 21

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8. "I bet it's exactly like a male orgasm, only there's no ‘phantom limb’ there. Otherwise, no difference at all."

John, 21

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9. "The main difference between the female and male orgasm is that it makes a woman want to cuddle, while it makes a man want to fall asleep."

Robert, 20

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10. "I would guess it feels good, even though some of them sound like they’re in pain. I’m going to sound like a complete and total asshole for saying this, but I’ve never given it much thought."

Freddie, 27

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11. "It's kind of like trying to explain what Bigfoot or the Abominable Snowman look like. No one's ever given photographic evidence of a female orgasm but everyone's heard about it, so you just kind of have to draw pictures in your head. I would guess it feels like jumping off a 100-foot bridge into an ocean of warm marshmallow sauce."

Peter, 23

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12. "The male orgasm is a dialup connection using AOL. The female orgasm is a lightning-quick fiberoptic connection that delivers a billion times the electronic payload. What I'm saying is that I'm suspicious that girls get much better orgasms, and I kinda hate them for it."

— Ralph, 29

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13. "I'm sure it's not this way, but I kind of imagine it being like a brumski? You know, that’s when some douche shoves his face in between a girl's boobs and makes a loud, obnoxious ‘BBBBBRRRRRAPPPP’ sound with his mouth? I mean, you can do that with your mouth on your hand and feel how it vibrates and moistens the flesh. But I picture it feeling like a very pleasurable brumski. Or maybe like the most insanely enjoyable fart in world history. Like I said, I'm sure I'm wrong. But pretending is fun."

Joshua, 31

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giphy14. “I think of it like gyration. It's this circling motion that becomes more and more intense and pleasureful, but never explodes and ends ends like the cannonball of a male orgasm. It just keeps moving and moving at different paces, different degrees of pleasure.”

— Chris, 29

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15. "I'll bet it feels cleansing, like the first time I went to confession and had all my sins forgiven. Or like The Wizard of Oz where everything suddenly turns from black and white to color. Or like when Saul of Tarsus was riding the horse in the New Testament and the scales fell from his eyes. Or like in the romance comedies where the girl finds a handwritten note tacked onto her apartment's front door and she realizes he finally loves her. Shit, I don't know. Good—I'm sure it feels good."

John, 27

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16. “What’s weird about the female orgasm to me is that you can’t really pinpoint exactly when it starts or ends. So I think of it as this glowing ball of pure sensational bliss that starts out tiny and builds and builds until that ball, which rolls uphill in my mind for whatever reason, reaches the peak of a beautiful cliff and falls. Every woman I’ve slept with seems to be falling as she climaxes, but in a good way. Falling freely, without any fear.”

— Marty, 24 TC mark

30 Hilarious Photos Of Inanimate Objects That Mildly Resemble A Penis

Posted: 19 Aug 2015 08:11 AM PDT

1. Must’ve been a giant or something.

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2. When you see it…

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3. That’s what happens when I watch Baywatch!

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4. Yo! Gabba Gabba! Check this out!

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5. I prefer cucumbers.

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6. Putting frosting on it must’ve been fun.

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7. I’m thankful for this photo.

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8. Some mug.

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10. Bubble sword for kids… Or a sex toy?

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11. THIS IS WHY CATS WILL CLAW AT YOUR DICK.

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12. I’ve never heard of ‘Choking the clam’ before.

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13. Talk about disappointing.

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14. His milkshake brings all the giraffes to the yard…

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15. Those Vikings sure did love their phallic humor.

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16. Speaking of Scandinavian dick humor, check out this tree from IKEA.

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17. Tony, get that shoe off your dick!

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18. Deer. They will eat your trees and leave you with this giant ‘Fuck You.’

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19. ‘Pipe’

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20. This ice cream IS magic.

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21. Jump for joy when you get an erection while flying.

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22. Swedes sure do love their penis-shaped objects.

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23. Even Mother Nature is in on it.

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24. This is from an elementary school.

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25. ‘P’ & ‘P’

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26. Yet another example of getting screwed.

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27. Poorly placed thumb.

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28. What’s wrong with this limp cactus?

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29. Enough bones to grow a bush.

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30. Apparently I’ve been drinking space jizz?

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Why Won’t You Date Him?

Posted: 19 Aug 2015 04:25 AM PDT

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"If you like him and he likes you, why won't you date him?"

While in a simple basic understanding of that statement, yes inevitably that would reflect that perhaps dating is a good option. "Dating" –meaning boyfriend and girlfriend titling. Having been faced with various different questions that sometimes I'd rather avoid, I have inevitably started to form what I mean when I say, "I am not ready for a boyfriend."

It doesn't mean I don't like the person I am seeing…It means that I am not rushing anything. I am not saying I would never date someone…I am saying that I am getting to know the person to decide if we fundamentally and genuinely want to be each other's significant other. It means that at the point I am at I am not willing to consider the obligations that come with truly considering someone to be your boyfriend. That takes time…

Sometimes, for some people, dating isn't as simple as just liking someone and not wanting them to be with someone else.

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In this culture, it seems as though there exists an idea that you have to date people in order to prevent them having “other relationships,” meaning if you don't turn someone into your boyfriend or girlfriend, they can inevitably have sex with someone else.

It is in fact true and I hate to say it, but anyone can meet someone else or be intimate with someone at any stage in a relationship whether there is a title attached or not, it's just whether we label it as cheating or not. It hurts either way if you care about someone.

Having rushed into referring to someone as my boyfriend before and later finding out that we were in no way truly compatible is something that I have a general unwillingness to do again. I will take my time no matter what society demands of me. To me calling someone my boyfriend means you see a real future with the person, which I believe often takes a long time to know. I don't want to call someone my boyfriend so they don't sleep with someone else or feel that obligation to me. I want someone to want to be with me so bad that they don't want to sleep with someone else. I want to feel that at the end of the day I want to invest a part of my heart in that person's life and in return their investment in my life.

I am not over here naive, trying to cheat the system, thinking if I don't call someone my boyfriend it won't hurt him if I were to be with someone else, but I am only cheating myself if I call someone my boyfriend before I am ready to invest a part of my time and energy into them.

In some ways I love how our culture allows for relationships to form without having to put a title on what it means. For me this has allowed me to be honest with my feelings and how I currently don't want or feel the need to have the pressure of calling someone my boyfriend. When you take the pressure away from the "title" it allows you to get to know someone without questioning whether 'holding their hand' is going to communicate the wrong message.

It's all very confusing, but for me rushing has never had any positives, so I might as well just take my time. TC mark

11 Undeniable Reasons Why Fall Is Clearly Better Than Summer

Posted: 18 Aug 2015 11:24 PM PDT

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1. So many crunchy leaves! It’s probably a little concerning how cathartic stepping on a perfectly crunchy leaf is. Like, Hey! Look at this beautiful piece of nature! LEMME GO OUT OF MY WAY TO STEP ON IT. Oh well. Can’t stop, won’t stop.

2. The seasonal foods and beverages return. This isn’t some love letter to the pumpkin spice latte. However, so many other yummy treats are returning to your life in the best of ways. Like pumpkin bread. I’m a little bit in love with pumpkin bread.

3. The month of October. There’s a reason everyone recommends traveling in October. The weather’s agreeable pretty much everywhere, and did I mention how pretty the Earth is for that miraculous month??? LOOK AT IT.

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4. Halloween! You don’t have to go trick-or-treating to love Halloween. It’s great. There’s candy. Costumes. Jack-O-Lanterns. And….

5. Disney Channel movies!!! The ’13 Nights of Halloween’ special on Disney Channel is a special kind of miracle. Hocus Pocus, Halloweentown, Tower of Terror, Hocus Pocus… If I could summarize my childhood in one month of movies, this would be it.

6. It’s The Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown. Yep. Everything about this.

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7. Beach season is over! I’m a full supporter that every body is a “beach body” simply because it’s a body and it’s on the beach. However, it’s nice to move past those hot months with their side of body shaming to the chill months of sweaters and scarves.

8. SWEATER WEATHER. Literally everyone looks great in a sweater, and they’re so comfortable! Brb, taking a nap standing up because I’m just that cozy all the time in my sweater.

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9. TV shows are finally returning! We’ve been waiting in agony for MONTHS to find out what’s happening on How To Get Away With Murder and with fall comes all the TV. I’VE MISSED YOU, SHONDA.

10. Corn mazes are surprisingly fun. It seems like the ultimate cliche of autumn, buuuuuut they’re fun. I’ll admit it. Especially when you get to end the maze fun with hot chocolate. And pumpkin bread.

11. ‘Fall’ as a verb is immensely better than ‘summer.’ I can’t be the only one that gets superiorly annoyed whenever someone mentions that they’re “summering” somewhere. It’s fine to say you’re going on a vacation, but summering? Really? Can you not please? Ten more points for fall.TC mark

The Agony And The Ecstasy Of The Third World

Posted: 18 Aug 2015 08:47 AM PDT

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Every time I come to India, I entertain the thought of moving here as a primary residence. For my cost of living in Los Angeles, I could live like a prince in India with a gigantic apartment, a cook, a maid, a driver. It is only after a month or so in India that I begin to remember the conveniences of first world living are too precious to give up.

In the Third World where technology is lacking or wildly expensive and infrastructure is literally poor, you need the support and help of others for the simplest of tasks. If you were to try to do everything yourself, you'd end up mad with less than half accomplished.

The concept of convenience stores does not exist. There is no Duane Reade, CVS, or Rite Aid where you can purchase both toilet paper and Aspirin. For medicine, one visits the chemist shop, for fruit one visits the corner stand, for shampoo the beauty store.

At home, I don't need a maid because I have a washing machine and dishwasher. I don't need a cook because Whole Foods and Trader Joes prepare my meals for me. I am my own driver. I prefer this unencumbered existence to one where people are constantly coming and going, where I am dependent on others.

My Indian friends don't know how to do laundry or pack a suitcase – they have simply never done it before. Their families had one or several people whose job it was for these types of tasks. They have never cleaned up after themselves so they tend to be messy when taken out of their normal environment. It is not their fault; it is simply part of the culture where the population is so gigantic making the cost of labor exceedingly cheap. It is less costly to have one hundred people do the task of one machine.

Most everything is ridiculously cheap. A toothbrush can be bought for twenty-five cents, a bar of soap for fifty cents, a hand-embroidered shirt for two-dollars. Of course, the flip side is that the quality is often dubious. I bought a mop for $4 which promptly fell apart the first time I tried to clean the bathroom floor.

We have paid our maid 3,600Rs for the month, or $60, to come and clean our flat every morning, make breakfast and do the shopping. I stayed for a night in a palace once used to house the maharaja of Mysore's guests for $60. I had an hour oil massage for $18. One can have a huge meal for less than $5.

The other side to this is that customer service is generally lacking due to a minimally educated populace. A friend and I went to a restaurant which caters to Western yogis. She asked for an iced coffee. The server said it was not possible. Coffee was on the menu. I told him to bring her a coffee and ice cubes on the side. The simple logic of adding ice to coffee went beyond the realm of his imagination. At the same restaurant I ordered a green tea smoothie, which I had there previously, and was delivered something brown. It was supposed to be green. He insisted it was the same smoothie until he realized he forgot the main ingredient.

Anything imported is wildly expensive. A jar of Ragu tomato sauce which costs $2 at home costs $6 here. Electronics can cost nearly double.

You may only pay a rickshaw driver $2 to take you across town, but the ride is full of stomach-churning potholes, exhaust fumes and a constant cacophony of car horns so that the ride is a Hellish experience, making you wish you had the option to pay full price for an Uber.

One can live like royalty in the Third World – the only issue is that you're the king of a cesspool. TC mark

Please Don’t Tell Me To Relax

Posted: 18 Aug 2015 10:45 PM PDT

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It’s Saturday morning and I can hear him playing a Charlie Parker record in the other room. I’m eating a slightly stale bowl of Chex and practicing saying words in French. Embrasse-moi. The Chex tastes like cardboard, but I keep eating. Embrasse-moi.

He sits down beside me and I shift my legs to dangle over his lap. “Embrasse-moi,” I purse my lips and he smile-laughs. It’s my favorite, the smile-laugh. He begins reciting more French words that I can’t quite remember the translations to, but I imagine they’re complimentary because now he’s kissing my neck. I picture adding a cigarette to my free hand and how perfect the whole scene would be. But then I remember I’m pretty grossed out by smoking. So I nix the idea.

I’m wearing a T-shirt of his as a nightgown, but he looks at me like I’m in nothing. He’s always been able to do that. He leaves me split, undressed, a body waiting for inspection, even when I’m still fully clothed.

He kisses me with the kind of mouth that feels urgent. It’s like he’s always telling me to stay without a single word. I probably shouldn’t like it so much, because there’s something unnerving about a boy who kisses like that. But here I am. Here I stay.

In between pressing his lips against my skin, he says, “Not everyone gets you like I do,” but this time, it doesn’t really feel like romance. It feels a bit like a threat. My stomach tightens and I count back all the times he’s told me to relax.

I count back all the times he’s told me to stop worrying, to not overreact.

Embrasse-moi. Embrasse-moi. Embrasse-moi.

And it hits me.

It hits me why he kisses me with a mouth like that and why he looks at me across the kitchen table like I’m so delicate.

Conversations I always try to hush come spilling back into the room. The times he compared me to ghosts of girlfriends, pointed out their flaws and where I could improve. And how I swallowed my own pride and listened.

He tells me he loves to refurbish old bicycles and cars and I wonder if I’m not just one of the same. I’m the old bike he found outside in the alley. Something that was just tossed aside. Because it was too much work, required too much attention, was just not the model that fit into most homes. So someone just left me there, oh, but he brought me inside. He slapped a new coat of paint because he doesn’t mind getting his hands dirty. Because he’s a man who loves projects and I’m a girl who doesn’t mind being called one.

Except that I do.

I do mind.

Embrasse-moi.

“Why am I never enough the way I am?”

Embrasse-moi.

“I don’t ever ask you to change.”

Embrasse-moi.

No,

I’m not kissing back this time. I’m not relaxing this time. I’m not a fixer-upper. I’m not a rough draft. I’m not putty to mold into the perfect girl. I touch all my bruised parts and remind myself that does not mean I am broken pieces for him to rearrange.

He tells me to relax. He tells me to calm down. He tells me I’m overreacting.

I say, “Then why does it finally feel like I’m speaking?” TC mark

19 Children’s Book Quotes That Are Still Incredibly Relevant To Adults

Posted: 18 Aug 2015 06:06 PM PDT

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"If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world."

–J.R.R. Tolkien, The Hobbit


2.

“It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live, remember that.”

–J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone


3.

“They say the world is a stage. But obviously the play is unrehearsed and everybody is ad-libbing his lines.”

–Bill Watterson, Calvin and Hobbes


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“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.”

–Dr. Seuss, The Lorax


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“Isn’t it nice to think that tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet?”

–L.M. Montgomery, Anne of Green Gables


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“Listen to the MUSTN’TS, child,
Listen to the DON’TS
Listen to the SHOULDN’TS
The IMPOSSIBLES, the WONT’S
Listen to the NEVER HAVES
Then listen close to me-
Anything can happen, child,
ANYTHING can be”

–Shel Silverstein, Where the Sidewalk Ends


7.

"Here is my secret. It is very simple: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye."

–Antione de Saint-ExupĂ©ry, The Little Prince


8.

“Now, here, you see, it takes all the running you can do, to keep in the same place. If you want to get somewhere else, you must run at least twice as fast as that!"

–Lewis Carroll, Through the Looking-Glass, and What Alice Found There


9.

“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”

–Dr. Seuss, Happy Birthday to You!


10.

"You must never feel badly about making mistakes … as long as you take the trouble to learn from them. For you often learn more by being wrong for the right reasons than you do by being right for the wrong reasons."

–Norton Juster, The Phantom Tollbooth


11.

"Never do anything by halves if you want to get away with it. Be outrageous. Go the whole hog. Make sure everything you do is so completely crazy it’s unbelievable"

–Roald Dahl, Matilda


12.

I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship.

–Louisa May Alcott, Little Women


13.

The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease forever to be able to do it.

–J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan


14.

“A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked chin and stick out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”

–Roald Dahl, The Twits


15.

So many things are possible just as long as you don’t know they’re impossible.’

–Norton Juster, The Phantom Tollbooth


16.

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…”

–Dr. Seuss, Oh, The Places You’ll Go!


17.

“The true courage is in facing danger when you are afraid.”

–L. Frank Baum, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz


18.

"Inside all of us is Hope.
Inside all of us is Fear.
Inside all of us is Adventure.
Inside all of us is… A Wild Thing."

–Maurice Sendak, Where The Wild Things Are


19.

“It's a magical world, Hobbes, ol' buddy…Let's go exploring!”

–Bill Watterson, Calvin and Hobbes TC mark


22 Women On Why They Would Or Wouldn’t Say ‘I Love You’ Before Their Boyfriend Does

Posted: 18 Aug 2015 12:55 PM PDT

via Flickr - Kelly Schott
via Flickr – Kelly Schott

1. “I’ve never been the one to say ‘I love you’ first. Maybe because there’s so much pressure on women to play it cool. There’s this idea that we have to play hard to get and we don’t want to be that ‘clingy’ girlfriend. It’s frustrating. But it’s a hard taboo to get over.”

—Grace, 24

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2. “I would say ‘I love you’ only if I really absolutely meant it – so it doesn’t really matter if he says it first or I do. And I certainly don’t want to hear it if it’s not true. But I think it’s kind of cute when both people know it and are struggling to say it because they want the other to say it. Still, get on with it. Life is short.”

—Natalie, 25

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3. “I've only done it once and never did it again. Why? Because it seemed like it put him on the spot like it was unwelcome and suddenly he started acting like there was all this pressure on him to act a certain way. Like, just be yourself because that's the guy I love! Since then I just let them say it. That way I know they're over the emotional hurdle already.”

—Emma, 26

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4. “Well this is one of those things where I wouldn’t prefer to be the first one to say it because a part of me is scared of being the one who doesn’t get an ‘I love you’ in return and then I come off looking desperate. Also I never said ‘I love you’ a lot as a kid and it makes me uncomfortable. It’s such a loaded thing to say. So I always kind of leave it being left unsaid for a long period of time and then having us both be like, ‘oh yeah, duh, we love each other.’"

—Kris, 23

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5. “It's sad to say but the person who shows the least interest in a relationship has the most control. For my part, I always feel like dudes have most of the power anyway and so there's no way I'm going to tell them I love them first especially if I know I do.”

—Veronica, 27

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6. “I’ve never said it first but that’s never been deliberate. I’ve dated a lot of emotional men so whether or not they’re feeling that way isn’t something I’ve had to worry about. However, I could see myself being hesitant about it if I thought that love meant something different to us. The guy I’m dating now is a very serious person so if/when I do feel like I love him, I’d be careful about saying it until I was sure we were on the same page. To me, ‘I love you’ is an expression of affection, whereas to him I feel like it’s an indication of a serious commitment. So unless I felt like I was ready for that commitment, I don’t think I’d say it to him.”

—Kimberly, 28

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7. “I'll say it first, sure, and I have. Only once did the guy get this scrunchy look on his face that told me he was uncomfortable with it and that let me know he didn't feel the same way. I'm not going to be ashamed of how I feel even if it means I risk getting hurt. Men that say 'I love you' first will hurt you too.”

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8. “I know I'm probably the exception but it's never mattered to me. By the time I or the guy I'm seeing say it it's always made sense like it was already implied, y'know? It seems like a confirmation of what we both know we're already feeling.”

—Crissy, 31

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9. “I have never said it first for the simple reason that my mother always told me that you should let the man get there before you do or he might think you’re needy.”

—Patricia, 22

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10. “The first few guys I dated I said it first with but around my early 20s I encountered the first guy who clearly felt pressured after I told him I loved him, and I did love him. That didn't work out for other reasons but I'll never forget that freaked out reaction he had. I haven't done it since.”

—India, 25

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11. “Whatever you're comfortable with, I guess. Some of my girlfriends have rules about all this stuff but I don't. I've never said it first but it's not like I planned it out that way. Guys have always just told me first. I guess I'm lucky that way.”

—Michelle, 23

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12. “There's no way I'm going to say it first.”

—Tina, 20

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13. “I'll only say it first if I really mean it which is rare. There have been guys that said it first to me and if I really liked them I would tell them I just wasn't there yet. On the other end, I've been told I love you by guys who clearly weren't feeling it when I was the first to say it so not everyone operates with the same honesty. I don't think anyone should feel pressured to feel something they don't feel.”

—Ashley, 29

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14. “‘I love you' has just come to mean 'I'm not seeing anyone else' these days. I've had guys tell me they love me after like a month and it always seemed like an attempt to lock me down. Looking back I think I used to do that too but I don't anymore. It's exhausting to say something like that if you don't mean it because you have to keep saying it. But yeah, I'd absolutely say it first if that's how I felt and I thought they felt the same way.”

—Erin, 26

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15. “If I felt like we were both in love with each other but were just afraid of being rejected then I absolutely would. You don't want to end up in this weird stalemate where both of you want to take things to the next level but can't.”

—Victoria, 23

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16. “I haven't been in love since I was like 17 but I have told men I loved them when they said it to me. At the time I just really didn't know what else to say and I didn't want them to leave because I did care for them. I can't help how I don't feel though. If I was in love though I definitely wouldn’t hesitate to say so if only because I'd be so excited to feel that intensity again.”

—Dianne, 23

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17. “I've actually said it first every time and I've never regretted it. If you love someone then I think you have to tell them. Keeping those feelings hidden is just pointless and stifling. I won't do it.”

—Fiona, 25

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18. “I just feel like the guy should say it first. That may sound old fashioned or whatever but I feel like it's romantic. I like to be pursued and I think that a man going out on a limb to talk about how he feels is sexy as hell. It also shows me he thinks I'm worth the risk of rejection.”

—Ann, 24

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19. “Up until I hit like twenty four I was very cool with the idea of telling a man I loved him and being the first to do it but at some point the whole dating thing took on a more serious feeling. I didn't meet guys through hookups anymore and the idea just quit being fun to me. I would say it first if I trusted the guy but I'd rather know he has serious feelings for me first.”

—Cynthia, 28

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20. “Nope, I felt really intensely for a guy I’d started seeing when I was twenty and told him I loved him after about two amazingly intense weeks. He chuckled. He apologized immediately after but that didn’t change the fact that he’d chuckled. So, no, I won’t be the first to say it. That made me feel lower than anyone has ever made me feel in my entire life. I would never do that to someone.”

—Tanya, 24

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21. “Apologies if this is a bit real but guys will tell you they love even when it’s because they just want to keep having sex with you. They’ll tell you they love you and in that second they’ll mean it. It’s only later that you discover that not only did they not mean but they didn’t even know they didn’t mean it. I’ve said it first before and meant it but I’m always suspicious of guys when they say it the first time especially if it’s during a rocky part of the relationship.”

—Jessica, 27

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22. “I’ve said it, absolutely. I said it to my husband and there was nothing more wonderful than to say it to him and know I meant it. It was pure joy because I wanted him to feel that love I had for him. I still hope he does every day.”

—Kelly, 30 TC mark