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Brown University Students Go Nuts Posting Pictures Of Themselves ‘Partying’ With Malia Obama

Posted: 16 Oct 2015 09:47 PM PDT

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Brown University students seemed pretty okay about ratting out one of America’s “first daughters” for allegedly playing beer pong and taking shots while she was there for her college visit. Multiple twitter users purport to have “partied” with Malia while she was visiting Brown University, and they have taken to social media to brag about the presidential company they had.

Some tweets have since been deleted (maybe in an attempt to coverup for Malia??) but were screenshotted before being lost to cyberspace:
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The Daily Caller also claims to have a snapchat of Malia at a party, but the photo hasn’t been confirmed by any outside media:

The Daily Caller
via The Daily Caller

This might not have been the first time Malia has been “out on the town” either, as this tweet from September implies:

Talia Brianna, one of the individuals who spent some time with Malia, told Thought Catalog that while Malia was checking out the night scene she “wasn’t doing anything crazy”:

Like Malia, I was at Brown last weekend as a prospective student. […] Unfortunately for Malia, the media is going berserk about her “partying.” Like any other teenager touring a college, of course Malia checked out the night scene at Brown, but she was totally responsible and wasn’t doing anything crazy. Most of the time I spent around her, she was just having a good time meeting new people and getting a good feel of the school.

Whatever happens, I hope people realize that even thought she is the President’s daughter (and trust me, this seemed like a huge deal for me at first), she’s really just a cool, normal teenager. I had a great time with her last weekend, and I hope all the media buzz doesn’t get in the way of her decision about where to attend college next fall.

Good luck navigating the “college lyfe,” Malia! If you manage to figure it out, please come back and tell the rest of us how to do it! TC mark

For Those Who Want To Become Ghost Hunters, Read This

Posted: 16 Oct 2015 12:39 PM PDT

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Flickr / Helmuts R

Here is a question I get a lot…

Do I watch ghost hunting shows? Like Ghost Hunters, Ghost Adventurers, Ghost Stalkers, etc.

The answer is yes, I do. I watch them for lots of reasons. One, I like to see how spirits are manifesting themselves to others. I also like to learn about the history of locations. I like to see scientific advancement in the field.

I also like to help the spirits and people I see on these shows. How can I possibly do that, you might I ask? If you hold the belief that prayer helps others, if you have studied the healing practice of Reiki, then you are aware that you don’t have to know a person or be near a person to send them light and healing energy. If you also communicate with spirits, than you surely know that you don’t have to be present in their specific manifesting points to call them forward and communicate as well.

Here is my main rub with those who “ghost hunt” – it seems more like ghost fishing to me.

You dangle the bait out, call them forth, invoke them, they do just as you ask them to do, and then you throw them back to where you caught them from. I am not judging here and I fully concede that I am not privy to what goes on afterwards or even in the heads of those who are ghost hunting. From what I have seen though, I am not sure there is much help offered to the spirit to help them cross over or find peace. I also see a lot of people placing themselves in danger of attachments and entities that can severely alter a person’s emotional body as well as wreak havoc on their lives and those around them.

What came first? Are the people who ghost hunt empaths at the start or do they grow into that after exposure to paranormal and spirit activity/presence over time? If it is the latter, what is being done to educate the ghost hunters who are opening up their energies and becoming more and more sensitive (therefore vulnerable) to how to not only shield and protect themselves, but also to help a spirit who may be ready to transition from this plane to the next?

So, many times I’ve watch as ghost hunters go into a location and violate — yes, I used the word, violate — spirits. We wouldn’t as human beings go into a room, walk up to a stranger, and start barking orders at them. “Show yourselves!” or, “Move that chair!” or, “Throw something!” or, “Say something!” And you say this all while filming and recording their responses?

To me, it feels like the equivalent to a one-night-stand. I don’t mean to be crass here, but you go in and have this intimate moment with something you don’t know. You just came in contact with it, and then it’s like you leave without getting a number or any intention of connecting again. What ever happened to good ole’ kissing or a second date?

There is no responsibility in that and there certainly isn’t a whole lot of respect in it.

So I very humbly and graciously ask that if you are going to ghost hunt, if won’t you try a new approach? One that I am most certain will grant you even better results than you have had? Go into your hunt not as a fisher of ghosts, but as an advocate. Go in with the pure intent of helping them, of caring about their stories, and why they are still choosing this plane of existence. Go in equipped with not just digital recorders and EMF readers, but with the knowledge of who to call on, and how to help the spirit if it is ready and willing to transition.

If you are not capable of this, you could easily bring someone along who has the training and/or gifts to do just that while you get the experience and can pursue what it is that draws you to ghost hunting in the first place. A win-win, right?

These are just my thoughts. If you are passionate about the field, taking the time to learn how to help while also how to better communicate with a spirit can only enhance your results. And isn’t that what you are truly wanting in the first place? Better results means proof and answers. TC mark

This post originally appeared at The Closet Clairvoyant.

What You Need To Know About Girls Raised In The South (Also Known As, GRITS)

Posted: 16 Oct 2015 11:53 AM PDT

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Twenty20 / courtboyd12

No matter where you take us, we'll be the best dressed in attendance. If it's the Kentucky Derby, we'll have the most spectacular Southern Belle hat at Churchill Downs. If it's tailgating, since football season means high fashion, we'll rock the perfect gameday attire – which means a sundress and pearls in the south. If it's just the two of us in the bed of your truck on a sweet summer night, we'll be irresistible in our Johnny Cash t-shirt, our cowboy boots and "what's left of those blue jeans". You might have to wait a few extra minutes for us to finish getting ready but we believe it's better to arrive late than to arrive ugly. You won't catch us looking like we just got off the Hot Mess Express!

With that said, you should know that we were raised to wear our clothes tight enough to show we're a woman but loose enough to show we're a lady. We are well polished and our taste is refined. We don't do tacky. Instead, we dress like every day is National Wear Your Lilly Day. So if you want a girl whose pants are so tight you can see her religion, don't let the door hit-cha where the Good Lord split-cha.

As near and dear as Lilly Pulitzer is to our hearts (God rest her soul), this is the Dirty South and we can "rock the boots and the daisy dukes like only a country girl can." But if you do us wrong, we'll "kick you to the curb in our red high heels."

If you take us hunting, don't make fun of our monogrammed 20-gauge Winchester! We'll still be "turnin' them heads" in our camouflage and pearls. We know it doesn't matter how still we are, diamond studs aren't allowed in the deer stand! (There's nothing like shotgun shells and Southern belles!)

Yes, what you've heard is true – we really were "Little Miss" something, at some point, in some pageant, somewhere below the Mason Dixon Line. There's something about a South Carolina beauty queen that'll have you "tryin' to pour a little sugar in our Dixie cup".

We're only helpless when our finger nails are wet and even then, we could still pull a trigger if we had to.

Losing a game of Cornhole is reason enough for having our lips poked out from here to Jesus for a few minutes.

We wink at everybody so don't get your feathers all ruffled.


We're "tired of fast moves." (You can learn a lot from Conway Twitty.)

If you don't open our door, we're not getting in that truck.

You'll be amazed what the arch of a Southern girl's eyebrow will make a man do.

We mind our manners. We say "sir" and "ma'am" and "please" and "thank you." And when we say the blessing, we expect you to take your hat off.

Our accent will render you defenseless. A man will fall all over himself when a woman puts a little south in her mouth!

But y'all have some ammunition too. All it takes to make us melt is a kiss on the forehead from a boy in a bow tie.

We're lil firecrackers and you better stay away when we get mad. "Cause we can make your world fall apart and when we love, we love with all our heart." But we'll always forgive you and you can be redeemed from most of your transgressions with a David Yurman box or a weekend in Hilton Head or Tybee Island. If not, you done messed up! "You better pack up your shit and get gone!"

We know 101 ways to use a Mason jar. We put everything in 'em – from our sweet tea to our vintage buttons to the flowers you bring us. And when we have kids, that's what they'll put their lightnin' bugs in someday.

There are some things a lady just doesn't talk about – especially if they involve hay bales, a tractor and some moonshine! But "rock my world, little country girl" is a tribute to us. So let your imagination run wild with that.

We "wanna love like Johnny and June."

We don't care who you are, how much money you have, how big your boat is, if we forget how to walk when you take your shirt off or which SEC football team you were on – it takes a whole lot more than some lazy text messages to get our attention. If you can't do better than that, we'll just swipe and delete.

If you want us to marry you (and you got our Daddy's permission) and your last name is not compatible with our monogram, just know that we're gonna have to buy ALL. NEW. EVERYTHING.

And for the love of all things holy – if you manage to hit the jackpot with a "Carolina girl, sweet Southern pearl" – don't be dumb enough to cheat on us. Didn't your Mama teach you that you can't ride two horses with one ass? The world is full of guys who would fight Hell and half of Georgia for a Southern girl's honor. If you don't appreciate what you have, you'll learn the hard way to appreciate what you had.

You get what you pay for – and I'm not talking about money. I'm talking about what no amount of money can buy. A Southern girl is like a diamond in a rhinestone world. When you find something precious and rare, you value it and you take care of it. If you throw it away like it's trash, be prepared for it to become another man's treasure.

"She don't just rain, she pours. That girl right there's the perfect storm."

So fellas, if you love a Southern girl, raise your glass. If not, raise your standards. TC mark

50 Simple But Meaningful Questions For Couples That Want To Get Closer Faster

Posted: 16 Oct 2015 03:37 AM PDT

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1. What do you consider your best and worst qualities?

2. Have you ever had your heart broken?

3. Are you friends with any of your exes?

4. Do you believe it’s possible to maintain platonic friendships with members of the opposite sex?

5. How do you honestly feel about monogamy?

6. What's your definition of cheating?

7. Do you have any unfulfilled sexual desires or fantasies?

9. If you won the lottery tomorrow, how would you lead your life moving forward?

10. What's your earliest fond memory?

11. What's the most terrifying thing that's ever happened to you?

12. What's your greatest fear?

13. What soothes you the most on the back of bad news or a tough day?

14. What is the best advice you've ever gotten?

15. Who's the person you respect most in life, and why?

16. Who do you confide in more than anyone else?

17. Can you actually keep a secret, or is it tough for you to keep your mouth shut?

18. In what circumstances do you think it's okay to fib?

19. Are you the type to bottle things up, overshare, or something in between?

20. What are you most passionate about in life?

21. Would you characterize yourself as someone who lives to work, works to live, or neither?

22. How would you respond if one of us was offered a job that required a lot of traveling?

23. Would you be willing to relocate for either of our jobs?

24. Would you prefer to run your own business or to work for someone else?

25. If you could design your own schedule, would you work more during the morning or at night?

26. How many hours of sleep would you say you need to function at 100 percent?

27. Are you a pet person? If so, what kind of pet do you see yourself owning?

28. How often do you like to see and/or speak to your parents, siblings, and other family members?

29. Have you ever lost someone or something you truly loved?

30. What's your ideal climate for establishing a permanent home?

31. What's your ideal type of vacation?

32. How do you feel about group vacations with other couples?

33. At what age do you envision yourself buying a house or owning real estate?

34. What keeps you going day to day?

35. What do you value more: careful planning or the freedom to be spontaneous?

36. Do you believe in reincarnation, or an afterlife?

37. How would you react if we had trouble getting pregnant?

38. How do you feel about adoption?

39. How many kids do you want (if any)?

40. Do you want to raise your hypothetical children religiously?

41. Would you ever stay home to parent full-time?

42. Do you expect your partner to parent full-time?

43. How do you feel about outsourcing certain responsibilities like childcare and cleaning?

44. How important are birthdays, anniversaries, and other holidays in your view?

45. How do you envision splitting holidays between your family and your significant other’s?

46. Which household chores do you most like to do?

47. What percentage of your income are you comfortable spending versus saving?

48. Do you have any outstanding debts?

49. Do you have any savings?

50. At what age do you want to retire, ideally, and where do you imagine yourself at that stage in life? TC mark