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100 Quotes About Breaking Up That Will Help You Get Over Your Last Relationship Once And For All

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 07:00 PM PST

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"Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."
—Marilyn Monroe

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"The best way to mend a broken heart is time and girlfriends."
—Gwyneth Paltrow

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"Pour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick, and pull yourself together."
—Elizabeth Taylor

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"The longer you're with the wrong person, you could be completely overlooking the chance to meet the right person."
—Taylor Swift

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"If someone breaks your heart, just punch them in the face. Seriously. Punch them in the face and go get some ice cream."
—Frank Ocean

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"Patience is key for getting over a breakup. That, and trailing off your interaction after the breakup."
—Drake

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"Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option."
—Mark Twain

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"Don't cry when the sun is gone, because the tears won't let you see the stars."
—Violeta Para

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"I miss your smile, but I miss mine even more."
—Kid Cudi

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"Dont worry, girls, one day you will find a guy who ruins your lipstick, not your mascara."
—SumNan

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"Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake & help us see we are worth so much more than we’re settling for."
—Mandy Hale

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"There is no need for hyperbole. I did NOT dump you. I peeled your mask off like a banana peel, did not like what was inside, and tossed it in the trash."
—Donna Lynn Hope

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"Pain is certain, suffering is optional."
—Buddha

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"He brought out the worst in me, and was the best thing that ever happened to me."
—Coco J. Ginger

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"He loved me. He loved me, but he doesn’t love me anymore, and it’s not the end of the world."
—Jennifer Weiner

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"Don’t allow someone not worth it to have the power to occupy your thoughts. If they don’t find you worth the effort or the time, why should you waste yours?"
—Donna Lynn Hope

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"Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding."
—Kahlil Gibran

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"Get up, dress up, show up & never give up."
—Genevieve Rhode

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"Breakups hurt, but losing someone who doesn't respect and appreciate you is actually a gain, not a loss."
—K. Fields

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"You have to go through the pain before you have the strength to see the sunshine."
—Anonymous

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"Sometimes the person you fall for isn't ready to catch you."
—Anonymous

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"Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you."
—Steve Maraboli

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"The biggest mistake I have made in my life is letting people stay in my life far longer than they deserve."
—Erik Grosset

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"Remember, you can't reach what's in front of you until you let go of what's behind you."
—Anonymous

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"The pain you feel today will be the strength you feel tomorrow."
—Ritu Ghatourey

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"If you are reading this, you have survived your entire life up until this point. You have survived traumas, heartbreak, devastation, and different phases of life. And here you are. You go, motherfucker. You're awesome."
—Anonymous

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"It doesn't matter who hurt you or broke you down. What matters is who made you smile again."
—Charles Ebanit-Opolot

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"You are one heartbreak closer to being with the person you are meant to be with."
—Anonymous

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"You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one."
—Michael McMillan

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"Be strong enough to let go and patient enough to wait for what you deserve."
—Anonymous

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"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain."
—Vivian Greene

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"Your past is just a story, and once you realize this, it has no power over you."
—Chuck Pahlaniuk

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"Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy."
—Robert Tew

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"It is better to have loved and lost than to live with a psycho for the rest of your life."
—Anonymous

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"That's the best revenge of all: happiness. Nothing drives people crazier than seeing someone have a good fucking life."
—Chuck Pahlaniuk

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"The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it…"
—Nicholas Sparks

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"Think about any attachments that are depleting your emotional reserves. Consider letting them go."
—Oprah Winfrey

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"I never wanted but your heart–that gone, you have nothing more to give."
—Mary Wollstonecraft

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"No matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn't stop for your grief."
—Faraaz Kazi

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"You can victimize yourself by wallowing around in your own past."
—Wayne Dyer

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"Stop being a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your future."
—Robin Sharma

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"I can still love an ex as a person, regardless if the breakup was bad. I would never wish anything negative on them. It takes more energy to hate them than to wish them well."
—Ashley Greene

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"I am never writing a breakup record again, by the way. I’m done with being a bitter witch."
—Adele

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"If someone constantly makes you unhappy, then you must build up the courage to let that person go. Your memories will always live on, but it's time to move on."
—Anonymous

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"New clothes are a great way to deal after a breakup. A good mix CD also helps you get through it and… you know, 72 hours of ice cream."
—Jennifer Love-Hewitt

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"Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together."
—D. Love

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"Ever looked at your ex and wondered, ‘Was I drunk the entire relationship?’"
—Anonymous

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"I'm going to smile and make you think I'm happy, I'm going to laugh, so you don't see me cry, I'm going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me—I'm going to smile."
—Lone Star

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"Watching you walk out of my life does not make me bitter or cynical about love. But rather makes me realize that if I wanted so much to be with the wrong person how beautiful it will be when the right one comes along."
—Nicholas Sparks

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"Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving."
—Albert Einstein

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"When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us"
—Alexander Graham Bell

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"I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mended whole was as good as new. What is broken is broken, and I'd rather remember it as it was at its best than mend it and see the broken pieces as long as I lived."
—Margaret Mitchell

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"Some relationships when finished should be celebrated. You never know how many psychopaths God has freed you from!"
—Anonymous

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"Letting go doesn't mean that you don't care about someone anymore. It's just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself."
—Deborah Reber

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"We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us."
—E. M. Forster

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"Letting go has never been easy, but holding on can be as difficult. Yet strength is measured not by holding on, but by letting go."
—Len Santos

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"No man is worth your tears, but once you find one that is, he won’t make you cry."
—Dwight D. Eisenhower

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"It hurts to say goodbye to someone you love but it's the best for both of us to move on."
—Anonymous

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"Don't cry because it's over, SMILE because it happened."
—Dr. Seuss

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"Move on, it's a chapter in the past, don't close the book, just turn the page."
—Anonymous

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"If someone you love hurts you, one of the best things you can do is to move on and find happiness elsewhere. Don't give them the satisfaction of seeing you suffer."
—Anonymous

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"Once you realize you deserve better, letting go will be the best decision ever."
—Anonymous

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"I'm letting go…so I can be free."
—Anonymous

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"Cupid needs to get shot with his own damn arrow and see how it feels!"
—Anonymous

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"Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or make you happy."
—Carol Sizemore

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"Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it's bad, it's experience."
—Victoria Holt

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"If someone you love hurts you, cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it."
—Anonymous

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"It's better to be alone than with someone who makes you feel like you're alone."
—Anonymous

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"The wound is the place where the light enters you."
—Jalal Uddin Rumi

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"Letting go isn't the end of the world, it's the beginning of a new life."
—Anonymous

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"Things end because something else is ready to begin."
—Anonymous

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"Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go."
—Hermann Hesse

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"Sorrows are our best educator. A man can see further through a tear than a telescope."
—Bruce Lee

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"You weren't a mistake, you were a lesson. Thanks for teaching me not to fall easy."
—Anonymous

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"Breaking up is a natural evolution when you try to figure out what you want in life."
—Usher

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"I have lost and loved and won and cried myself to the person I am today."
—Charlotte Eriksson

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"Let go of those who have hurt you, and make room for those who actually deserve you and want to treat you well."
—Anonymous

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"I thought I lost something this summer, but I just realized, I never needed it."
—Nicole Christie

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"Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift."
—Mary Oliver

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"Never be afraid to fall apart, because it is an opportunity to rebuild yourself."
—Rae Smith

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"We need never be hopeless, because we can never be irreparably broken."
—John Green

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"A bad love experience is no reason to fear a new love experience."
—Anne Hathaway

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"Turn your wounds into wisdom."
—Oprah Winfrey

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"You can keep your love, I will keep my respect."
—Amit Kalantri

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"Only time can heal a broken heart, only time can heal his broken arms and legs."
—Miss Piggy

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"Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears."
—Marcus Aurelius

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"Life always waits for some crisis to occur before revealing itself at its most brilliant."
—Paulo Coelho

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"One day they'll realize they lost a diamond while playing with worthless stones."
—Turcois Ominek

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"There will come a time you’ll see with no more tears, and love will not break your heart, but dismiss your fears…"
—Mumford & Sons

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"You are one heartbreak closer to being with the person you are meant to be with."
—Anonymous

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"Sometimes you miss the memories, not the person."
—Maria Beaulieu

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"No relationship is ever a waste of your time. If it didn’t bring you what you want, it taught you what you don’t want."
—Anonymous

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"No girl should ever forget that she doesn’t need anyone who doesn’t need her."
—Marilyn Monroe

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"I used to hope that you’d bring me flowers. Now I plant my own."
—Rachel Wolchin

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"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind."
—C. S. Lewis

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"What a revelation it was when she realized she didn’t need to settle."
—Anonymous

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"I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone."
—Robin Williams

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"Above all be the heroine of your own life, not the victim."
—Nora Ephron

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"What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls the butterfly."
—Richard Bach

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"No matter the amount of happy memories we created together, once we broke up, we become strangers."
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My Grandfather Worked At An Insane Asylum And I Found His Personal Logs Dating Back To 1902 (Part One)

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 06:00 PM PST

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My dad died. That’s not really what this is about, but it’s important to note because that’s how I found it. We weren’t on the best of terms the last few years, we both said some things we couldn’t take back and him finally kicking the bucket is the only real reason I drove four hours north to the crappy little apartment where he’d been staying. His landlord called me and said if I didn’t show up to clear it out all the junk was going in the dumpster out back.

I was pretty sure the old man probably had a few boxes of my vintage baseball cards squirreled away just to spite me. That’s what the last few years seemed to be about, spiting me — refusing to just die and be done with it so we could move on. Bastard was almost 98 when he finally croaked and if he didn’t have a bunch of stuff from when I was a kid I could’ve just forgotten about him, let the landlord toss his shit. It was his last good jab, I guess. I could almost see him, cigar clamped between chapped lips: “That’ll teach ya, boy. Have fun wasting your weekend to dig through my trash.”

And yeah, most of it was trash. I never did find my baseball cards — fuckin’ figures — but what I did find was an old, moldy trunk with a heavy combination lock on the latches.

See, the thing is, the lock looked pretty new. But the trunk wasn’t. And it was shoved way, way in the back of one of the old man’s closets. Like he didn’t want anyone to find it. I guess, in that way, he had tried to do me a favor.

What else are you supposed to do when you find something like that? Something someone else tried to hide from you? It’s human nature, man, there’s no getting around it.

I tried every combination I could think of — his birthday, his and mom’s anniversary, the day he retired — but nothing worked. (I didn’t bother with any dates important to me; I knew better than to hope for that.) Until I had this weird, weird feeling. And I tried the day he died: October 21, 2015.

The combination lock clicked open. I opened the trunk and out wafted the smell of what can only be described as age, a moldering wet smell like an old untended library.

Inside were stacks upon stacks of papers. Some were loose, some were tied with old strips of leather or string. Towards the bottom, there were bound notebooks. A quick glance at the corners of the documents showed scrawled dates, starting with June 10, 1902.

I didn’t know much about Gramps. Nothing, really. He died three years before I was born, winter of 1953. My old man wouldn’t talk about him, it didn’t make much sense to me as a kid but as I got older and we had our own falling out I understood. When I thought about him, I called him Gramps, because that’s what I would’ve called him if I knew him when he was alive.

One look at these papers, though, and I knew they were from Gramps, even before I saw his looping signature at the end of each entry. George Andrew Ryland. My Gramps.

I’m going to read them, all of them, over 50 years of his logs as a janitor at the Highville State Asylum For The Incurable Insane. I don’t know why he kept them, but I do know this: there was a reason they were locked in that trunk in the back of the closet.

50 years is a long time to keep logs of your daily work, so I’ve started pulling the most important pieces. What I think are the most important pieces, anyway. Maybe there’s nothing here, maybe there’s nothing I can do. Maybe I’m groping in the dark for answers that don’t exist. But it’s too late to turn back now.


June 10, 1902

I have been hired on at the Highville State Asylum For The Incurable Insane. It is a simple job, I will be mopping floors and cleaning up after the invalids, but it is a job nonetheless. There is still some construction to be done but I expect to be working by late summer.

This is the best I could’ve hoped for, I suppose.

August 29, 1902

The first 100 patients arrived today by rail. Drooling, snarling, some of them crying. I overheard Dr. Bowen telling some of the orderlies that they expect to increase that number sevenfold over the coming year. It is hard to believe there are that many cases of insanity in the world, let alone the state.

From what I hear, a lot of them come from the poorhouses. Or families that can’t bear the burden anymore. It makes me physically ill to be in this place, see the twisted faces behind barred windows in locked doors, but if I want to make Mary my wife I need to start squirreling away money for a ring, a wedding, a home.

I will work hard and try to ignore the sounds of the screams.

October 13, 1902

The hospital is filling to the brim with the insane. Patients have been made to sleep six to a room when the comfortable capacity is two. I cannot complain, it keeps my work steady, but I suspect it has more to do with Dr. Bowen receiving extra assistance from the state.

Today, at lunch, a few orderlies cracked open the skull of a patient who wouldn’t stop barking at his meal. They claim it was an accident but I saw it all. They just wanted him to stop barking.

Dr. Bowen has arranged with the police that they will not be charged.

October 30, 1902

A new woman was turned over to the hospital’s “care” this morning. Her name is Clara and she was driven to madness by the mother of the man she desired. The nurses were gossiping about it, saying that she’s a witch. Nonsense. She’s a beautiful woman with a broken mind, that’s all.

The advantage of being a janitor is that no one notices when you’re around, listening. It’s as though the mop and broom make me invisible.

November 3, 1902

Clara sings to herself in her room. Her cell, rather. She combs her long, dark hair with her fingers. This is all she does, all day long. I have changed my route to pass her room more often. The sound of her voice is enchanting.

I have not told Mary about this new patient. It is none of her concern.

Dr. Bowen plans to introduce her to hydrotherapy. An extreme method, but viable. As I said, she’s beautiful, but she’s here for a reason.

How does one bring themselves to murder a child? An infant, no less? There is something deeply wrong with her.

December 14, 1902

More bars have been added to the doors, the windows. Dr. Bowen says it is for the safety of the patients but I’ve learned by now he lies when it suits him. Just last week, a nurse had the hat snatched straight off her head by a woman in the throes of hysteria. She put up quite a fuss. I think if there were less patients stuffed into small rooms there would be less incidents like this one. Or the “accident” in the dining hall.

A patient broke another’s jaw during Thanksgiving dinner by swinging a food tray at his face. The way the rest of them laughed at the blood…

Clara didn’t laugh. She continued eating as though nothing had happened at all.

December 28, 1902

I surprised Mary with a proposal after the holiday. She was delighted, even though the ring was a meager thing. I expected to feel more but it’s almost as though there is something… missing.

Clara stopped singing. She seems to know when I am nearby. She wraps her pale, slender fingers around the bars and stares at me as I pass. Her dark eyes haunt me.

She has been asking the nurses about her baby.

January 2, 1903

Today, Clara spoke to me for the first time. Her voice is as lovely as she is, sweet and clear, like a bell ringing.

She asked me to do something… unspeakable. To put it into words is too hard. And yet I cannot stop thinking about it. It feels like something has crawled into my head and curled up inside my skull.

I am afraid to go to work tomorrow.


I’ve still got a lot to go through. This is just the tip of the iceberg, but I’m trying to hunt down the next entry. Turns out some of the pages got scattered, out of order. I’m starting to wonder if that was done on purpose.

One thing is for sure: I’ve got to find out what Clara asked Gramps to do. TC mark

Part 2 Coming Soon.

10 Legitimate Reasons You’re Perpetually Single

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 05:00 PM PST

Twenty20 / alexamundell
Twenty20 / alexamundell

No one makes it a goal to be single forever. We all want love; we all want a partner to share our lives with. Even though that is the goal, a lot of us mistakenly go about attaining the thing we want so much in all the wrong ways. We continue to live life in the same way and hope that it will somehow lead to different results. We know that this doesn't really make any sense, and yet we continue to operate from a default setting.

Being single isn't a curse and being in a relationship isn't a cure-all. No matter what stage you're in, it's important to take a personal inventory—to look at the habits and choices that are helping you, and the ones that are hurting you. It's not a matter of putting yourself out there more, of signing up for every dating site and side-swiping app—finding a truly amazing, healthy relationship is much more about being ready for such a relationship. It's about identifying faulty patterns and thought processes that may be blocking you from getting what you want.

I have written many articles on how to get the relationship you want. There are also ways to guarantee that you never get what you want. Seeing what they are is the first step in correcting the problem. And with that, here are ten ways to stay single forever:

1. Don't ever learn from your mistakes.

If you don't learn from your mistakes, you are bound to keep making them (this was the story of my life for many years!). If you find that you keep ending up in the exact same situations over and over again, it's time to do some reflecting and consider why it's happening, and what is leading you to this place. For example, if you keep ending up in pseudo-relationships with guys who act like your boyfriend but won't call you their girlfriend…try to uncover why you seem to only be drawn to the emotionally unavailable type. Take a look at your patterns and see if you can rewire some default settings.

2. Blame your singleness on the fact that there are no good men left.

It is statistically impossible for every "normal" guy on the planet to be unavailable. It's not that all the good guys are taken, it's that maybe you're so busy chasing the wrong guys and thinking they can give you what you want that you can't see and appreciate all the good ones that come your way.

3. Have really high expectations…and justify it by saying this is what you "deserve."

We all have certain criteria when it comes to a partner; some of these can be valid and others border on ridiculous. We don't know ourselves as much as we think we do and oftentimes what we think we want is not the same as what we actually need. You'll be surprised what can happen when you stop assessing if he has all the qualities you want and instead try to connect to him as a person.

4. Don't trust how he feels about you.

Assume he's going to dump you, he won't call you back, he won't commit, etc. If you convince yourself bad things are going to happen…then you increase the likelihood that something bad will in fact happen. Being paranoid about how a guy feels creates a vibe and energy that can turn this fear into a reality.

5. Overanalyze everything.

Analyze his texts, the things he said, his posture, the language he used. When you overanalyze, you aren't being present or authentic. You're in strategy mode and no matter how stealth you think you are, a guy can always pick up on this energy and it's off-putting. Instead of being on constant alert and trying to figure out exactly where he stands, maybe ask yourself why you feel you need to date so defensively. What are you trying to protect and how can you release whatever fear is driving you?

6. Don't take care of yourself and try to look your best.

It's been said many times and in many ways…men are visual creatures and physical attraction is extremely important. Attraction works differently for men and women. A woman can develop an attraction to a man because of his internal qualities. Men also need to be attracted to a woman on an emotional and intellectual level, but they will never get there if there isn't already a strong and established physical attraction. You shouldn't take care of yourself just to get or keep a man. Do it because it will make you feel good about yourself, which opens the door for many good things in life aside from a relationship.

7. Don't deal with your issues.

Most of us have been hurt in the past, be it a painful childhood or a painful breakup. It's important to remember that issues don't resolve themselves—you have to put forth some effort. Being in a happy, healthy relationship entails being your best self. You can only let in as much love from the outside as you feel on the inside, so if you don't make self-love your focus, you will never experience the joys of true love (this applies whether you're in a relationship or not).

8. Settle for "meantime" relationships.

If you are at the stage in life where you're ready to settle down and find a lasting relationship, don't date guys who clearly are not in the same place! It's pretty obvious when a guy isn't serious; you know the signs, but you just ignore them because, well, he's just so cute and what's the harm in having a little fling at least to pass the time until someone else comes along….

The harm is this is usually where you end up getting hurt because the more time you spend with him, the more your emotions take hold and drown out your objective reasoning, the part of you that knows it would never work out long-term with this guy. If you want a certain kind of relationship, then date guys who want the same thing. It's so obvious, yet somehow not.

9. Be afraid you'll never find better.

I'm not going to identify all the signs that you're in a dead-end relationship right now (I covered some in this article), but oftentimes you know the truth. You know he isn't going to commit in the way you want but you push that knowledge aside and you stay…because staying just seems easier than walking away and starting again. Maybe you're afraid you'll never find better, maybe you're afraid of being alone, maybe you rationalize that you've already invested this much time in the relationship so what's a few more months or years? Yes, staying can be more comfortable, but think of it this way: as soon as you leave a going-nowhere situation, you are one big step closer to getting the love you actually want.

10. Panic over the prospect of being single forever.

Sometimes the panic and anxiety oozing out of my single friends is so palpable I almost feel like I need a Xanax. Worrying about ending up alone gets you nowhere, the same way that worrying about what to eat for lunch doesn't magically make a sandwich appear before you. Worrying can feel like it's serving a purpose, but it's not. Instead, just keep it cool and calm, have faith that you will get the love you want when the time is right and try to just find happiness on your own until you get there. TC mark

This post originally appeared at A New Mode.

We Never Said The Word Love, We Didn’t Have To

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 04:00 PM PST

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It was a quiet love, a tacit love. It came without prelude or preamble. We never said the word love–we didn’t have to. It was in our laughter, in the sense of wonder we found in each other. And if we had doubts then, time has told us otherwise.

It was a gentle love, a tactile love. It was all hands and lips and hearts in tandem. There was motion in our bodies and emotion in our discourse. We were a symphony of melody and melancholy. When you find peace in another’s presence, there is no mistaken.

It was a kind love, a selfless love. I was an explorer and you were a traveller. We met at the crossroads. I saw love in your smile and I recognized it for the first time in my life. But you had a plane to catch and I was already home.

Like this poem? Read more in Lang Leav's book Memories, available here.

22 People Share The One Thing They Wish The INTJs In Their Lives Understood

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 03:00 PM PST

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1. “You're a brilliant group of people. But sometimes things don’t need to serve a purpose to have a place in your life. Try to enjoy some things just because.” –ENFJ

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2. “Emotions aren’t as scary as they sound. I promise. Stop being an android.” –ESFP

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3. “Don’t be condescending to others, I know it is easy to write everyone off as idiots, but sometimes others have valuable points of views as well.” –INTJ

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4. “I get that feelings are weird for you to express, but you have to give me SOMETHING to work with here. I’m trying to get to know you!” –ENFP

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5. “Don’t be so hard on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, even you. Also, don’t be so hard on others. Everyone makes mistakes, even you.” –INFP

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6. “Just because I’m an extrovert doesn’t mean you can’t hurt my feelings!” –ENFJ

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7. “Your mind is incredible. Please share your thoughts with the world. Your mouth is quiet but your mind is loud with ideas and theories and ambitions. Don’t hide these from a world that so desperately needs them. And, please take it easy on us Feeling types. We need people like you to keep us together.” –ENFP

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8. “Don’t be so cynical. Try to access that introverted feeling function.” –INTJ

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9. “You’re smart and I like that. But we're never going to get along if you insist on behaving like a know-it-all. Please show some respect to the rest of us.” –ISFJ

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10. “Warmth does not equal insincerity. If you take time and get to know us better, you will be surprised at how similar we actually are.” –ENFJ

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11. “It’s ok to feel hurt. You don’t have to disguise your hurt with anger or by pretending you don’t care.” –ENFP

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12. “People who are more vulnerable and candid arm more likable; be more authentic, and you might get more accomplished.” –ENTJ

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13. “Man I love you for your raw passion. Few people do intensity so well. But sometimes you hide behind these webs of rationalization, and you spin yourself so deep I can't figure out where we started or where we're going. Slow down. Feel the world, but don't let its chaos overwhelm you. Drink water. Stretch. Take a walk. Cry. It'll be okay.” –INFJ

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14. “Don’t be so quick to assume that you are always the smartest person in the room. Being harshly critical of others is not always a socially intelligent move. And social intelligence gets you places.” –ENFP

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15. “Lay back a little, not all of your time needs to be productive, some of the best moments happen when you are chilling and realize something.” –ENTP

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16. “There is more to life than straight lines and lists. Some problems don’t have three-step solutions. And I know you know that, but please try to let it resonate in your heart, not just your cranium, as impressive as it may be. You’re more than your brains. Don’t be afraid to break rules, or at least bend them. Please.” –ISTP

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17. “Being perfect is an impossible dream.” -ISFJ

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18. “Sometimes you need to decide if you want to be right or if you want to be happy.” –ISTJ

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19. “It’s ok to not enjoy raucous parties and social gatherings. It’s ok to only be able to bond one on one. It’s ok to have high standards of friendship and value those few close friends intensely. Don’t be bothered by those who may fail to understand and appreciate you.” –INTJ

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20. “Do not be quick to write someone off if they appear unintelligent. You may miss opportunities to learn things from unexpected sources. Be willing to change your mind about people instead of sticking to your first impression.” –ENTP

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21. “Your friends need your insight; It’s a precious gift meant to be shared. Let it out a little more often.” –INFJ

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22. “Not everything in life is factual.” –INFJ TC mark

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8 Places Where You’ll Never Find Happiness (So You Can Stop Looking There)

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 02:00 PM PST

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Unhappy people all share one thing in common: a never-ending, interminable search that always leads to an exhausting state of emptiness. If there's one lesson I've learned about happiness, it is that being happy is something personal. It has nothing to do with anything or anyone else. Searching for it is only going to make your life harder; here are the places you will never find it. 

1. In what other people have.

It is difficult to abstain from comparing ourselves to others because we are constantly faced with a swarm of people who seem to have it all figured out. But it is important to realize that 'appearance' is exactly that: appearance. It holds no truth. What you see, is not always so. So, instead of deceiving yourself into thinking that someone else has everything you wish you could have, realize that what you see is merely an illusion. Instead of spending all your energy on others, focus on yourself.

2. In a fantasy.

Since we are young, we are asked again and again what we want to be when we are older. While this changes from year to year, our human desire for that pictured life does not. Along with our new desires and goals, come new images of a life we wish we could have. Chasing such aspirations down to every detail will never leave you satisfied. You may never get to have exactly what you pictured, and that is perfectly okay.

3. In a long-gone past.

Searching for happiness does not always mean the search for something foreign and new. It could mean a longing for something you once had that has managed to find a way to slip into your future desires. When writing about this, I recall a quote that has left a mark on my life: don't look for happiness in the place you lost it.

4. In an ideal world.

What many people tend to forget is that this world we live in will always be far from perfect. People will always do you wrong, people will always hurt you, people will always disagree with you. But what other people do is actually none of your business, and you should not let such matters affect your happiness. If you keep happiness at bay because you want your life to always go smoothly, then you are setting yourself up for disaster.

5. In societal approval.

Many people base their happiness on third party approval. If you're one of these people then you should stop right now and realize that you will never gain everyone's approval. Whether you like it or not, those who disapprove of you will always be stacked up in a never ending line. Once you think you've finally achieved people's approval, there will always be more people to impress. Basing happiness on something this volatile and uncertain is foolish. You do not need anyone's praise, Instagram like, amazed gaze, or flattery, in order to feel good about yourself.

6. In your comfort zone.

Many people want so much out of life, yet they remain in their comfort zones simply because they are lazy. They believe that they will only be happy once they achieve something in particular, yet they never actually strive to do something about it. They laze around, thinking that being 'good enough,' or deserving is enough to get them where they want to be. This holds no truth whatsoever. As Neale Donald Walsch said: "Life begins at the end of your comfort zone."

7. In a perfectly controlled life.

Many people feel like they can never be happy if they are not in complete control of everything that happens around them. They attempt to control every area of their lives in order to keep devastation at bay, to the point where it becomes exhausting. But they do not realize that the very act of keeping every little thing together will never allow the peace of mind that comes with contentment.

8.  In materialistic possessions.

We live in an age where we are constantly bombarded with images of 'the perfect life' through social media. Many people think that they will only be happy once they get a new car, bag, outfit, house, and so on. But everyone who has virtually 'everything' can tell you that all these material possessions leave them feeling empty if they haven't really enriched their souls. Spend your time and effort on enriching your soul, instead of your exterior.

Do not look for happiness. If you truly want to be happy, start here, start now. Happiness is a state of being, nothing more, nothing less. It is being able to get in touch with yourself and getting to a state of mind where you are simply 'being.' It is only in this state of mind that you can notice the happiness that comes from a hot sun, drops of rain, and a gasp of air. TC mark

This Is Your Kissing Style, According To Your Zodiac Sign

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 01:00 PM PST

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There are so many different kinds of kissing — The Peck, The Eskimo, The Butterfly — and they all mean something different. If the guy you’re crushing on kisses you on your forehead, he thinks of you as more of a friend than anything romantic.

But it isn’t just the action of kissing, or the type of kiss; it’s the duration. If someone gives you quick kiss on the cheek, it can be them saying, “Hello,” but if their lips linger there a moment, it can mean they’re flirting with you.

We all have different ways we kiss, and whether we know it or not, our zodiac sign affects the way we kiss.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Aries are great initiators, are charismatic and always keep things fresh. They’ll surprise attack you with their kisses out of nowhere, grab you and kiss you passionately. They aren’t tentative with their kissing, but when an Aries has kissed you, you’ll know it.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Taureans are very focused, hardworking, and great at coming up with new ideas. When a Taurus kisses you, it involves ESP (Extra Sensory Passion). They’ll look at your face, inhale the smell of your perfume, touch your hair, and then when their lips make contact with yours, they’ll take in the taste.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Geminis have a quick mind, are very versatile, and are great communicators. The Gemini will bombard you with butterfly kisses, but when you try to return them, they’ll run off with a smile. A Gemini has no problem telling you on how to kiss them, the way they want you to kiss them.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Cancers live by their gut instincts, and care deeply about their family and friends. A Cancer will have a difficult time keeping their hands off you, as they want to show their love and desire for you by constantly kissing you. They’ll start with French kissing and get more heated from there.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Leos are bold, brave, and impulsive. Since Leos love to be in the spotlight, they have no problem giving you a big, wet kiss in public. There’s no such thing as performance anxiety for a Leo; they know how to deliver the kinds of kisses that make you melt and curl your toes. They’ll give you the kind of kisses you want and need, and won’t give up until you’re screaming for more.

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Virgos aren’t perfectionists, but perfection is something they strive for. But the qualities that make them successful in their career — like attention to detail — make them good kissers. When a Virgo is kissing you, they’ll completely envelop you with their body (straddling your leg, embracing you in a hug), and then they’ll only kiss you long enough to keep you wanting more.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Libras love beauty and the arts. They have great social skills, but if you’re the object of their affection, they’ll keep shooting you seductive looks at an event or party. Libra will kiss you in private intensely and without being self-conscious.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

There’s a good reason that Scorpios are known as the zodiac’s most passionate sign. When they kiss, they don’t just kiss you on the mouth — they kiss every inch of your body with a variety of different kissing techniques. Is licking considered kissing? For a Scorpio it is.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Sagittarius is known for being the most exciting and appreciative lover, one who enjoys pleasing their partner. They’ll shower you with kisses and compliments if they sense you need that, or playfully wrestle you to the ground and cover you with kisses when you’re pinned.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Capricorns are great problem solvers, are good at keeping secrets, and make wonderful partners and life-long friends. They sometimes can be late-bloomers but know they’ve done their research when it comes to kissing. They’ll try every trick in the book on you, often with great results. You’ll discover things (like getting kissed at the nape of your neck) that you never knew you liked.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Those of the Aquarius sign are unconventional, unorthodox, and love the arts. For the Aquarius person, it’s all about the art of the seduction, and they won’t just randomly kiss you. The Aquarius has to set the mood with the perfect music and lighting. They’ll start off slow with cautious kisses, but as their senses heighten their kisses will deepen and become all-consuming.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Pisces people are old souls and are selfless to a fault. They’re known to be devoted lovers and friends. When a Pisces kisses you, they’ll pull you in closer and closer. Watch out though; Pisces can be teases and will bite, lick, and brush your lips until you can’t take it anymore. TC mark

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20 Questions To Ask Yourself When You’re Wondering If You’ve Found Your Life Partner

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 12:00 PM PST

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1. Do I still feel like I can be my own person outside of the relationship?

2. Is it just as fun to stay in alone with them on a Saturday night as it is to have an expensive, active night out?

3. Do I love them enough to be willing to make sacrifices and difficult choices if it is what’s best for us as a partnership?

4. When we’re together, is it equal parts serious and light?

5. Do they force me to talk about things I’m struggling with, even when I don’t want to talk?

6. Do they support all of the dreams and goals I want to accomplish while still giving me sound and practical advice?

7. Does the relationship feel close to a 50-50 balance? Or is it more uneven, like 70-30 or even 80-20?

8. Do we have the same larger wants that will help keep us in harmony? In regards to kids or no kids, how important spirituality or religion is to us, how we feel about moving versus staying in the same place, etc?

9. But do we also have enough differences between us that will inspire us to grow as individuals and to try things that scare us?

10. Are they the first person I want to see and talk to when I have good news?

11. Are they the first person I want to see and talk to when I have bad news?

12. Do they call me out when I’m being selfish, greedy, lazy, etc?

13. Do they inspire me to be a better person simply because I’m so proud of them for the person they’ve become?

14. Do we have the same values?

15. Is my life lighter with them in it?

16. Do I feel like I always have something to learn from them and something to learn about them?

17. And do they treat me the same way?

18. Do I feel like they love me for who I am as a person, or do I feel like I have to earn their love through accomplishments, wealth, attractiveness, etc?

19. Are they the person I’m ready to pay the bills with, do taxes with, figure out childcare with, potentially move cities with, etc?

20. Does the mere thought of them bring me a source of comfort, even when we can’t stand each other? TC mark

24 People That Deserve To Have Their Internet Privileges Revoked

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 11:00 AM PST

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16 Items You Must Have To Call Yourself A Pizza Connoisseur

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 10:18 AM PST

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Let's face it. We all love pizza. But there are pizza lovers and there are the pizza lovers. The ones who have pizza boxes stacked from floor to ceiling. Who readily suggest meeting up at a pizza place for lunch and dinner. Heck, a true pizza lover might even eat pizza for breakfast (not that there's anything wrong with that!). Remind the pizza lover in your life just how much they mean to you—and how much pizza means to the world—with these 16 must-have gifts for pizza connoisseurs.

1. Slicing a pie gets even better with pizza shears.

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Nothing screams "functional" like a pair of pizza scissors. You can literally cut up your pizza. This uncommon kitchen utensil is also a total conversation starter.

2. Soap that let's you bathe in your favorite toppings.

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Showering is just another chore until you own this pizza themed soap. Why not channel delicious, crispy goodness throughout your home, from the kitchen to bathroom? That's what they call a dream house.

3. The ceramic stone that screams "gourmet."

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Owning a fancy ceramic stone for baking cheesy, tomato-y flatbreads (otherwise known as pizza!) truly underscores just how serious you are about anything and everything pizza. I mean, do you think a casual pizza lover would have this? No way! This is like possessing a pedestal for your pizza. Worship the pizza. You know you do.

Do You Dream Of Pizza On A Daily Basis? Check Out 13 More Items Every True Pizza Lover Should Have!