Thought Catalog


This Is What Women Want When We Say We Want Rough Sex

Posted: 27 Apr 2016 08:00 PM PDT

Shutterstock, Kuznechik
Shutterstock, Kuznechik

"I am going to fuck you. I am going to fuck you very hard, and it is going to hurt," he says to me. We are lying in my bed staring at each other. Both of us are on edge, annoyed with the other, and it seems that the only reasonable way to work it out now is to fuck.

I yank him on top of me and we kiss, hard and messy and passionately. He sucks my tongue into his mouth. I bite his lip a little longer and harder than I usually do. I dig my nails into his back, which I know he likes. They're sharp, pointed at the tips. "I'm going to fuck you now," he whispers.

I grab his hand and place it on my clit. He begins to move his fingers in slow circles the way he knows I like, then speeds it up. "Do you feel that?" I ask. "Do you feel how bad I want you?" He groans. "I want you to hurt me," I say. "I want you to hurt me."

“I slide down on his dick and both of us gasp. He grabs my boobs, big handfuls, squeezes them tight.”

Then his hands are in my hair and he's pulling, pulling and yanking so tightly that if I were a girl with thinner, less-resilient hair, I'd be afraid. But I'm not, and I fucking love it. I arch my back underneath him and our mouths meet. He gets hold of my bottom lip and he bites it – hard. Really hard. I drag my nails even deeper up and down his back, trying to leave big red marks for him to wince over in the morning. "Make it hurt," I say again. He loses control, then, and consumes my whole mouth with his. I can feel how hard he is, and even though we've already fucked twice today, I need it again.

By now I'm really wet, wanting him to shove inside me and make it hurt. I want it furiously. "Stand up," he says. "Get up." He yanks off my underwear and shoves me facedown on the bed, thrusts inside me, every inch of his big, hard dick slipping in and out. He takes another yank of my hair and I yelp. He's thrusting fast, hard, his breath coming in big ragged gasps. I tilt my ass up and bring my legs together so my pussy feels tighter – I know he likes that. "Grab my balls," he instructs, and I do, reaching under and cupping them firmly in my palm. "Uh huh, baby, just like that."

I bite at the comforter to keep from making too much noise; I'm sure my neighbors can hear the headboard whacking at the wall as we fuck. Then he pushes me up on the bed and onto my stomach, fucking me like that until he flips me over. I wrap my legs around him and dig my nails into his back, pushing him further and deeper into me. He dips his head down and bites my neck, nipping at the tender skin.

"Get on top of me," he commands, pulling out and laying down on his back. I slide down on his dick and both of us gasp. He grabs my boobs, big handfuls, squeezes them tight. In turn I run my nails up and down his thighs, making deep scratches so tomorrow he'll feel them and think about me. "Fuck me," he says. "Ride that big dick, baby." I pull his hair as I move on top of him, bite his lobe as I breathe and moan hotly in his ear the way I know he likes. He guides my hips up and down on his cock, slamming me up and down over and over and over until he can't take it anymore. "Grab my ass," I tell him, and he does, hard. I hope there will be marks there in the morning. "Harder, baby."

"I'm gonna come," he whispers. "Oh god, I'm gonna come." I've got his balls in my hand again as I ride him.

"Look at me," I say. "Look at me when you come. I want to watch you." We lock eyes and as he comes I shove my mouth onto his, muffling his groans of pleasure. I feel his orgasm ripple through me from my lips to my toes. We stay like that for a minute, his hands still holding my ass, until our breathing goes back to normal. In the morning, he'll complain of phantom scratches on his arms and I'll ache pleasantly all day, admiring the ring of bite marks hidden under my shirt. We'll both feel a lot calmer. TC mark

8 Reasons Why Choosing To Be Selfish Is The Best Decision I Ever Made

Posted: 27 Apr 2016 07:00 PM PDT

GaudiLab
GaudiLab

We live in a selfish world where there are people who would do anything to have things their way; they will manipulate, use, and even destroy other people for their own benefit. All they do is care about themselves.

On the other hand, we have people who spend their entire lives living for others; they do everything to make others happy, they always put others' happiness and needs before their own. It is a very admirable quality – but in the process, you can sometimes forget to take care of yourself. 

After years of caring about what others think, felt, and said about me, I decided to hide in my little cave of words and quotes, and start focusing on myself. I felt selfish, I felt mean – but it helped me personally, and it helped me help others. This is how my life changed when I decided to be “selfish” for once. 

1. Having a better relationship with myself allowed me to have better relationships with other people.

I started to treat myself well, and I surrounded myself with people who treated me the way I deserved to be treated – people who wanted me to be happy. I stopped putting up with the downers. I let go of grudges that I had held onto, that were heavy and were dragging me down.

2. I learned that it is okay to be happy.

There will always be bad things in the world, but I cannot spend my entire life worrying and feeling guilty that someone out there is not as well off as me if it’s out of my control. You cannot change the whole world, but you can change how you feel about the world and yourself. I will do what I can to make the world a better place, but won’t beat myself up when I cannot.

3. I realized that it’s okay to want what I want in life.

My family wanted me to be a doctor, my professors wanted me to be a scientist – but I did not know what I wanted. Eventually I realized this is my life, and I am the only person who is going to be with me as long as I live – so I want to choose a career that I love every day. I am still not quite sure what that is, but I’m enjoying the process of finding it. 

4. Being selfish made me a better friend.

Before I was constantly struggling with confusion and darkness in my life, but when I started to shed light on myself, I was able to clearly see my friends and be there for them one hundred percent without being dragged down by my own issues. Once I started taking care of myself, I could genuinely cater to my friends. It made me a nicer person to be around. I liked myself more, and at this point, I can finally say I would be friends with me.

5. I became less judgmental.

It is a universal truth that we do not want to be judged, even though we still judge everyone else. But when you take care of yourself and are happy with yourself, you do not feel the need to find faults in other people. You see what is good in others, instead of zoning in on their flaws. Focusing more on myself made me more content. It is all a matter of perspective, and my glass is starting to always look half full.

6. I stopped blaming other people for my unhappiness and for the things that did not go well in my life.

When I was younger and something went wrong, I never had a hard time finding someone else to blame. It was easy to find fault in myself and belittle myself until I could not anymore. I left myself feeling down and unworthy. But when you start to love yourself, and then shit happens, you are more capable of dealing with it. Those horrible incidents that consumed my life in the past, are now a few minutes (or hours) of some tears, wine, and a good talk with a friend. I started to believe that all bad phases are just a phase, and they pass.  Everything will always be okay in the end.

7. I started being kind to myself.

I always tried to be nice and kind to others before, but once I started to treat myself with kindness, it became much easier to be kinder to and more considerate of other people. When you feel good on the inside, it is easy to spread that light of happiness to others. Things just look better when you are loving towards yourself and everyone else.

8. Every day is more exciting now.

I have bigger problems now than I did a decade ago, but it’s okay, because I found the strength to deal with these problems while continuing to live fully. Yes, things can get hard and you will want to give up, but when you think about yourself the way you would think about a loved one, you will not give up on yourself. You know it will be tough, but you also know that life is too good to ever give up.

So, call it selfish – I put myself first and took care of myself first – and now the whole world looks more beautiful, every day has a unique charm to it, and I smile more often. There is this calmness inside me that I had never felt before. Not everything is perfect, but I am okay with that. I feel mentally strong. I see the good in other people and I want to believe that there is more good in the world. I can finally say that I have a happy heart. I love seeing the world from this perspective. It's the best view ever. TC mark

Advice To My Future Son On How To Handle Your Love Life Like A Real Man

Posted: 27 Apr 2016 06:00 PM PDT

contento
contento

As I'm writing this, I haven't met your mother yet. Your Dad probably has a lot of growing up to do before he's lucky enough to meet your mom. Be that as it may, I feel obliged to share this advice with you, not only for guidance, but also as a forewarning.

By the time this has reached you, I'm sure that there are even more technological advances interceding with dating than there are now. And if the present is any predictor of the future, then people are even more disconnected, isolated, and lonely than they are right now.

It's comforting and safe – sending texts, Snapchats, liking recent photos on Instagram. Making sure you don't seem too available. Playing the game. But you're my son, so trust me when I tell you, you really don't want to get sucked into that. Instead do this:

Take her on a date. A real date. An "I'm going to pick you up at nine" date.

Show her that you're for real. Life is too short to play games and if you're not interested in playing them — show her that.

Show her that you're comfortable enough to brave the unknown of it all.

Because the truth is, if you actually get rejected, it's the best possible news you could ever get — you're actually one person closer to finding a real companion and you no longer have to waste anytime on someone who doesn't want to meet you halfway. Sure, it hurts a little, sometimes a lot, but it's never personal. If you can see the reality of the situation, it's actually great news.

As a man, there has to be a time when we're done with the games. We're done playing. This is how we feel about her and our actions have to reflect that.

Success in any other endeavor really isn't any different: This is what I want. This is what I'm going to do to achieve it. There's no half-way, half-hearted approach about it. It's simple. Be simple. If our love life is going to get any easier then we don't need more technology or more dating apps, we need simplicity. Most of all we need courage and common sense. We all want to save our time, our money, and our heart, so let's just cut the bullshit and find out who this person really is, face-to-face.

Taking her on a date shows her that you're a gentleman, you have manners, and that you value your time with her. Be old fashioned. You don't have to show up with flowers and you don't have to take her somewhere fancy. It doesn't even have to be dinner; it can be anything. Mini golf, coffee, an art gallery, hell, take her to monster truck rally because at least that's more ballsy than 1,000 carefully crafted texts that elicit your desired response.

When you take her out, get to know this person. There's a completely unexplored world sitting right in front of you.

Relax, laugh, have fun. Don't take out your phone. Be present. Be yourself. Don't feel like there are these crushing expectations of how it's supposed to go. It's not a job interview.

The fact is: it takes guts to take someone on a date, it really does. It takes guts to put your ego on the line, to risk rejection. It takes guts to really tell the truth — to show that you're genuinely interested in this person and there's nothing in you that is willing to hide it. But that's what being human is all about.

And the truth is, it's so much more interesting taking these chances. Because you don't learn anything from hiding behind a phone; you don't grow. You don't get a chance to outgrow or even embrace your awkwardness. You don't get any cool stories either. What kind of life is that? It's not the one I want and it isn't the one I would want for you either.

Nothing compares to the real thing. Being face to face with another human being that you hardly know, but want to get to know — that's the real thing. When you get out of your car and walk her to her door — that's the real thing. And when you don't know whether or not you should kiss her and inside you're freaking out but you do it anyways — that, my son, is the real thing.

But when you invite her over to binge-watch Netflix, (well, you're in the future right now, so Lord knows what you're watching. Hopefully it's season 15 of Sherlock) — that's not real.

The butterflies, the awkwardness, the forced conversation. Usually, we try desperately to avoid these. But they're a rite of passage.

Nothing truly good is free in this world, it has to be earned. You don't get to find someone you're truly happy with by playing it safe, by not putting yourself out there.

Robin Williams said it better than I ever could. "You’re not perfect, sport. And let me save you the suspense. This girl you met, she isn’t perfect either. But the question is: whether or not you’re perfect for each other. That’s the whole deal. That’s what intimacy is all about. Now you can know everything in the world, sport, but the only way you’re finding out that one is by giving it a shot."

So give it a shot, son — you won't regret it.

Oh, and one last thing. When you take her out, wear shoes. Real shoes. Not sneakers, not Jordans, not Airmax’s and definitely not sandals. Just trust me on this one. TC mark

Thank You For Walking Away

Posted: 27 Apr 2016 05:00 PM PDT

Danielle Drislane
Danielle Drislane

First of all, Fuck you.

Second of all, thank you.

Fuck you because you took a part of my life that I can never get back. Thank you for giving me a part of my life that I will never forget.

Fuck you because I can never listen to one of my favorite songs without thinking of you. Thank you for laughing with me when I tried to hit the high notes.

Fuck you for being a selfish asshole. Thank you for caring about me enough to drive an hour to watch a stupid movie with me.

Fuck you for letting me trust you to enough to let my guard down. Thank you for giving me a chance to care about someone the way I did with you.

Fuck you for walking away.

You made me understand that you are not who I thought you were. You showed me how to not be treated. You made me realize my self-worth. You gave me a chance to know who I am.

So thank you. TC mark

The ‘Fitspo’ Trend Is Dumb And It Needs To End

Posted: 27 Apr 2016 04:00 PM PDT

iStockPhoto.com / PeopleImages
iStockPhoto.com / PeopleImages

A few weeks ago I stopped following every single person on my social media feed that is involved in the world of fitness. I just cannot take the narcissism, shameless self-promotion, nauseating displays of selfies and worst of all, the constant pictures of their meals anymore. Seriously guys and gals, enough is enough. Every day, people that are friends with those in the fitness industry are bombarded with videos of workouts, pictures of food showing you're clearly an orthorexic, lame affirmations and of course your "expert" workout advice. Don't even get me started on the amount of athlete pages people put up on Facebook and ask all their friends to like when they've never even stood on a podium.

In the real (i.e. non-fitness) world, there is this concept called mastery. Mastery takes a long time and is not easy. In the fitness world, this concept has been thrown out because apparently popularity rules. Why do difficult things for a long period of time when you can put pictures of your arse up on social media and pretend like you actually know something about something? Jenn Selter is my favourite. She was named the 29th most influential person in health last year because she has millions of followers on social media. She dishes out workout advice to people who want an arse like hers despite the fact that she has no qualifications at all in that area. Having a great arse doesn't mean you know anything about nutrition and exercise science. The worst thing about people like her? When anyone points out their lack of qualifications or the fact they don't know what they're talking about, they throw out the asinine "haters gonna hate" line, as though everyone else is just jealous and they are so above establishing any kind of credentials.

Zyzz was another great example. The amount of morons that put him above professional bodybuilders actually winning titles because he "had a huge following and inspired people to chase their dreams" is breathtaking. Here's a tip — it isn't an achievement to inspire a few people to get into the gym just because you're shredded and you used steroids to get there. If you truly think that, you need to stop believing your own press and maybe read up about people like Martin Luther King Jr for example. You know, people that actually were inspirational and did important things for humanity. Having a mad body and pairing it with some stupid line like "if you believe it you can achieve it" on Facebook is not for anyone else's benefit but your own. Please spare us all the eye roll and go masturbate in the bathroom instead.

There is also this trend of people wanting to become "fitness icons", whatever the hell that means. Well, we do know what it means, it means that you earn money for nothing else than your highlight reel of narcissism on social media. Here's a tip: get an actual job. If you don't like your job, find a better one. If you want to make a living based on your arse, become a model or a porn star. For all you wannabe fitness icons, you need to know something really important. When you have millions of followers on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, but your entire feed consists of selfies of your arse and tits hanging out, more than three quarters of them are guys that just enjoy ogling your bits. Don't even get me started on your lame workout videos, with you doing hamstring curls with close ups of your arse or your deadlifts with 40 kilos on the bar. Wow, that's some impressive shit right there! It's right up there with those stupid motivational posters that say "strong is the new sexy" when the person is shoulder pressing with 5kg dumbbells.

The one I love the most is when a woman is there in her extremely revealing clothing holding, wait for it…fit tea. Hahahaha. Does anyone actually buy this shit? Oh yeah, I'm sure that's all it takes to get that Instagram famous body, don't you know all the celebrities are doing it? Don't even get me started on this thing of posing for a picture with a green smoothie in hand. Please, stop pretending like that shit actually tastes good. I tried some kale last week and you know what? It tasted like something that grows in a swamp. I was then told "it needs to be massaged to not taste terrible". Sorry, any vegetable that requires massaging has no place in my diet.

This goes for all of you that clog up our feed with your constant updates. We don't need a picture of you standing at the gym with the caption "let's get it on!" Why the hell is that even a thing? Guess what, we also don't care that you did a few cable flies because they "give you a mad chest pump and show your striations", we're tired of you posting photos of your food, as though "eating clean" is the absolute highest goal in the universe and like green vegetables actually taste good without butter. Finally, we're really and truly tired of the constant selfies of your abs or arse or whatever your favourite feature is, as though your great body is the ultimate achievement everyone should be striving for in life.

This doesn't just happen with the vapid fame chaser crowd though. There are some really smart, really qualified trainers that hold world records who clogged up my feed with videos of their clients. They say stuff like "Mary is 40 and a mother of two, she can bench 70kg, what's your excuse?". Seriously, shut the fuck up. I'm a lifter and it pisses me off, so imagine what non lifters think when they see it. Not everyone wants to lift weights to stay healthy, don't start shaming everyone for it. Do you see science professors getting on their feed saying "Chris has 2 kids and is about to finish his thesis on string theory, what's your excuse?" You don't, because they're not raging douches with an inflated sense of how important their pursuit is to mankind. Please, do us all a favour and focus on your clients and their needs, rather than the shameless self promotion on social media. If you're a good trainer you don't need to whore yourself out like this.

I want to finish with something really important — how many champions do you see out there cultivating a huge following on social media? Could you imagine Ed Coan ever putting up videos of his training a set of 3 on the squat? Of course you can't, he was too busy doing shit. TC mark

22 College Seniors On The One Piece Of Sex Advice They Wish They Could Tell Their Freshman Selves

Posted: 27 Apr 2016 03:00 PM PDT

Tatiana Pérez
Tatiana Pérez

1. "Don't let him make you feel weird about having your period. He's fucking weird."

— Viva, 21


2. "You don't need to follow the normative rules of 'the game.' Never, ever let yourself feel invalidated or wrong based on what somebody else tells you is right."

— Molly, 22


3. "Don't give a shit about what people think, and don't give a shit about labels. Do what you want with your body when you want to."

— Christa, 22


4. "College is not just about having casual sex. Don't put pressure on yourself to hookup with anyone."

— Sal, 21


5. "You don't owe fucking shit to a guy just because you go home with him. It really makes me sick to think about how many times I pressured myself into hooking up with an older guy simply because I'd already gone home with home with him and felt like it would be rude or selfish to leave."

— Imani, 21


6. "Don't feel weird about being a virgin."

— Alex, 23


7. "Oral sex is not a one-sided undertaking. I went down on way too many dudes without expecting them to do the same for me. Shit is fucked up."

— Genevieve, 22


8. "If he won't have sex with a condom, he's not worth another moment of your time."

— Ondine, 22


9. "Your orgasm is just as important as important as his."

— Lupe, 21


10. "Don't be pressured into not having sex or 'making him wait' because you think people will call you a slut, and never feel like you have to just because 'everyone is.'"

— Tasha, 22


11. "Um literally it's better to have a full blown bush than bloody ass razor burn vag."

— Wynne, 21


12. "Coconut oil."

— Jabari, 23


13. "You don't have to stay the night. If you feel weird, peace the fuck outta there."

— Marbella, 22


14. "DO NOT PLAY WITH FIRE, U WILL GET UR ASS BURNED."

— Ash, 20


15. "Don't you dare let yourself think you did something wrong if he doesn't follow through. I spent way too many hours contemplating what the fuck I did to drive this guy or that guy away. I didn't drive them away. I didn't do anything wrong. They were just assholes."

— Quayla, 21


16. "Don't fuck a ton of girls just to make yourself feel like the man. You'll be a lot better in the sack if you learn how to pleasure one woman well."

— Darius, 22


17. "Unfortunately, even if a guy is your friend first, he will still talk about you like a girl he just hooked up with, so don't fool yourself into thinking anything stays between the two of you. But that doesn't mean you don't have every right to freak the fuck out if he divulges something he shouldn't have."

— Farrah, 21


18. "Don't play dumb when you know someone you marginally care about has been with the person you're trying to fuck/likes that person/is that person's 'ex.' This is a message about micro home wreckage lol sry"

— Rickie, 21


19. "People who judge your sex life probably don't have a very happy one themselves. Keep your head up, and block out the haters."

— Ziad, 22


20. "Don't have dorm shower sex. It will end poorly."

— Carlos, 23


21. "Make sure you give them the code to your room before they go to the bathroom just in case you pass out while they're in there so they don't get locked out. Smh"

— Maddox, 21


22. "Keep hooking up with that cute ass girl from bio. Y'all about to date for the next 3 years."

— Adam, 22 TC mark

17 Things That Happen When You Have An Anxious Mind But A Laid Back Personality

Posted: 27 Apr 2016 02:00 PM PDT

via Jake Coffey
via Jake Coffey

There's really no such thing as having an "anxious mind." There is only having your anxiety fueled by your thoughts (which is something that everyone experiences now and again). But the people who tend to feel it most intensely are those whose rapid thinking is in constant contrast to their super chill, laid back personalities. They never know when to fight or flight, everything seems like an over-reaction, and their self-angst is maxed out, because their hearts are calm and their heads are crazed, more often than they will ever admit. Here, all the things that happen when you have an anxious mind and a laid back personality

1. You epitomize leading a life of "quiet desperation." Half of the reason you're anxious all the time is because you don't naturally act or, therefore, process your emotions, and while that's positive in some ways, it's debilitating in others.

2. You're naturally zen in that you observe your emotions objectively. Which is fantastic in that you're not controlled by them, but harmful because you then start to believe that you only have to process or truly feel the ones you want.

3. You're highly indecisive; your head and heart are a paradox all within themselves. You feel as though you're always going back and forth between preparing for the worst and hoping for the best, and rarely in-between.

4. You're laid back because you know how to quiet your mind. Most of your #chill lifestyle was developed out of necessity. Your brain starts to short circuit when you overload it with any more drama or worry, so you actively go out of your way to create a life where the only problems you have are the ones you make up in your mind.

5. You're intelligent enough to know what could possibly happen, but grounded enough to know that worrying about it won't prevent it. You're aware that ultimately, an infinity of unfortunate fates are to fall on us all. You often think that the whole problem with humans is that we're animals that don't want to be animals… beings who do everything in their power to make their collective eventuality (death) more palatable in any way.

6. Yet, you're most comfortable with your life when you feel prepared for the worst. Your mind constantly goes back to what you'd do if you were to lose a job, lose a relationship, etc., and when you realize that your savings account will support you or that you won't be emotionally wrecked by losing one particular person, you feel free to happily go about your life.

7. You seek solitude and relaxing environments so your brain can process and deprogram and let off steam. You're not one of those people that needs any more external stimuli to keep them entertained or wondering or interested – you've got that all covered, perhaps to an unhealthy degree.

8. You are your own locus of control. And perhaps this is the most positive characteristic you have: you do not assume that anybody else is responsible for your emotions, and you know this because thinking otherwise places you in a minefield of suffering for the rest of your life.

9. You're very casual about your self-development. You're one of those people who reads Deepak Chopra on the beach.

10. You're non-confrontational to a fault. You'll do anything to avoid not having to upset anybody and that often results in you not communicating how you really feel, when doing so would eliminate the problem altogether.

11. You often wonder if it is your resistance to action that creates your anxiety-thoughts. That maybe feeling jealous or anxious or upset is just an internal call to do better, one that's being avoided.

12. You're fascinated by personality types and the ways humans function. You're probably into astrology or psychology or Myers Briggs personalities, and your classifications of people within these systems infiltrates your daily conversation about them. Ultimately, it helps you understand yourself better.

13. You keep a tight social circle. You feel like you can only really have fun when you're in the presence of people you're truly comfortable with. Otherwise, you're trying to mentally place yourself enough to be comfortable.

14. You're particular about what you want, yet super chill about what you have. You probably need to keep a gratitude journal if you don't have one already, one, because that's something you'd be into, and two, because you have a hard time being completely "in the moment."

15. You're all but convinced that the smartest people on Earth have somehow transcended their neurological hardwiring, and know how to just enjoy life. You know that "ignorance is bliss" may be a misquote and a generally terrible way to approach life, and yet you often fantasize about how lovely it would be to just not worry at all. Side note: you also probably love dogs.

16. You'll argue that over-thinking and your apprehension to immediately trust someone is, in fact, what preserves your peace of mind. While not always the healthiest frame of experience, you can also acknowledge that it's people who are too trusting and too shallow in their assumptions that end up getting hurt and manipulated and so on.

18. Your entire life struggle can be summed up as not having "the wisdom to know the difference." You're very good at letting go. You're even better at trying harder. But knowing when each is appropriate is completely lost on you. Alas: the #struggle. TC mark

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22 ‘Lemonade’ Lyrics That Prove Beyoncé Is The Baddest Bitch In The Game

Posted: 27 Apr 2016 01:23 PM PDT

Beyoncé / Tidal
Beyoncé Lemonade: The Visual Album

1. “Who the fuck do you think I is?
You ain’t married to no average bitch boy
You can watch my fat ass twist boy
As I bounce to the next dick boy”

DON’T HURT YOURSELF


2. “Always stay gracious, best revenge is your paper”

FORMATION


3. “I don’t give a fuck, chucking my deuces up
Suck on my balls, pause, I had enough
I ain’t thinking ’bout you”

SORRY


4. “I break chains all by myself
Won’t let my freedom rot in hell”

FREEDOM


5. “And keep your money, I got my own
Get a bigger smile on my face, being alone”

DON’T HURT YOURSELF


6. “Stars in her eyes
She fights and she sweats those sleepless nights
But she don’t mind, she loves the grind”

6 INCH


7. “When he fuck me good I take his ass to Red Lobster (cause I slay)
If he hit it right, I might take him on a flight on my chopper (cause I slay)
Drop him off at the mall, let him buy some J’s, let him shop up (cause I slay)”

FORMATION


8. “Middle fingers up, put them hands high
Wave it in his face, tell him, boy, bye”

SORRY


9. “I’ma riot, I’ma riot through your borders
Call me bulletproof”

FREEDOM


10. “I just might be a black Bill Gates in the making”

FORMATION


11. “Fuck you hater, you can’t recreate her no
You’ll never recreate her no, hero”

DON'T HURT YOURSELF


12. “I see it, I want it, I stunt, yellow-bone it
I dream it, I work hard, I grind ’til I own it
I twirl on them haters, albino alligators”

FORMATION


13. “Now you want to say you’re sorry
Now you want to call me crying
Now you gotta see me wilding
Now I’m the one that’s lying
And I don’t feel bad about it
It’s exactly what you get
Stop interrupting my grinding
I ain’t thinking ’bout you”

SORRY


14. “Them old bitches is so whack I’m so tough, wassup”

LOVE DROUGHT


15. “How did it come down to this?
Scrollin through your call list
I don’t wanna lose my pride, but I’ma fuck me up a bitch”

HOLD UP


16. “Tryna rain, tryna rain on the thunder
Tell the storm I’m new
I’ma walk and march on the regular
Painting white flags blue”

FREEDOM


17. “I like my baby heir with baby hair and afros
I like my negro nose with Jackson Five nostrils”

FORMATION


18. “She stack her money, money everywhere she goes
She got that sake straight from Tokyo
She got them commas and them decimals
She don’t gotta give it up cause she professional”

6 INCH


19. “Let’s imagine for a moment that you never made a name for yourself
Or mastered wealth, they had you labeled as a king
Never made it out the cage, still out there movin’ in them streets
Never had the baddest woman in the game up in your sheets
Would they be down to ride?”

HOLD UP


20. “Earned all this money but they never take the country out me
I got a hot sauce in my bag, swag”

FORMATION


21. “Six inch heels, she walked in the club like nobody’s business
Goddamn, she murdered everybody and I was her witness”

6 INCH


22. “Y’all haters corny with that Illuminati mess
Paparazzi, catch my fly, and my cocky fresh”

FORMATION TC mark

3 Good Reasons To Go For The One Who’s Not Your Type

Posted: 27 Apr 2016 01:00 PM PDT

Twenty20, umuller
Twenty20, umuller

We don't like to admit it much, but I believe we all have certain qualities we sort of 'look for' in a potential mate. There's nothing wrong with that. I often say, "I don't have a type…" just like the rest of us, but really what I mean when I say that I wouldn't be closed minded about getting to know anybody. To be honest, I fall in love with people every day. I look at character far more than I look at anything else in a person. That doesn't mean that I don't prefer darker men to lighter men or that I'm not crazy about a man who is tall versus a man who is short. Nevertheless, those things are not deciding factors in my choosing to get to know someone better. I find that most times, when I do decide to go after a person that I want, they hardly ever fit that typical person I picture I see in my mind. I end up building very genuine relationships with the person who actually isn't much like the person I see in my head a lot. I won't deny that it will be a little bit uncomfortable, but that brings me to my first point. So, here are three good reasons to go for the one who's not your type. Let's get into it!

1. It takes you out of your comfort zone.

Just like anything else worth having, it's highly unlikely you will find the right person for you inside of your comfort zone. Usually when I go after someone who I usually wouldn't go for, it causes me to have to approach the entire situation completely different than I'm used to. I have to think of fresh ways to present myself and I have to open myself up to receive that person in whatever ways they may present themselves to me. It's quite refreshing to be honest. It's the authentic 'getting to know' you moment. You have to really get to learn about that person and they have to do the same for you. It's likely that you two will still find things you have in common, but you'll have differences too, which is always fun and interesting.

2. You'll find better qualities to value in them.

When you go for someone that you wouldn't typically go for, you won't be distracted by the qualities you usually look for in someone. That will allow you to open your eyes to many of the qualities you overlook because of what you're used to. You will be able to see and appreciate the finer qualities of that person, which again makes for a great 'getting to know you' stage. As you learn more about that person you will learn to value the very things that set them apart from the kind of person you usually go for.

3. It's a new experience.

If nothing else in life, we should always want to experience something fresh and new. It's no different with finding new friends and pursuing new relationships. It's important to want to experience new things with someone. It's almost inevitable that if you pursue someone who you usually wouldn't, the two of you will enjoy a good bit of new experiences together just off the strength of getting to know someone you usually wouldn't have the opportunity of experiencing in that way. This, for me, is the most exhilarating part of going after the guy I usually wouldn't approach. It's what keeps me coming back.

I hope that this encourages you to go out and look for something a little different than you usually do. I also hope this gives you just a little bit more hope that love is out there for all of us. It may not look, feel, or be the way we imagine it, but it's for the better. Let's go find that special one.

Here's to the best throughout the search. TC mark

I Need More Than A Relationship Through Text

Posted: 27 Apr 2016 12:00 PM PDT

Sophea Choun
Sophea Choun

1. I want to get to know the real you.

I don't want the perfect version of you who always responds with a witty text and a cute emoji. I want the real you, standing right in front of me, with sweaty palms and stuttered words. I don't give a damn about the version of you that takes twenty minutes to respond so you say just the right thing. I want the imperfect, unfiltered version of you.

2. The awkward silences are important.

I want to bask in the moments when we're sitting across the table from each other and can't think of anything else to say. Those are the times when some ridiculous topic will come up, because it'll be the first thing that pops into our heads. Then we'll get to talk about zombie invasions and polka music instead of complaining about the election for the hundredth time.

3. It's not serious if we never see each other.

Texting me day and night without making actual plans is just a way to string me along, so you don't have to make a real commitment. That way, you'll have me around to make you feel better about yourself on lonely nights, but you won't be stuck with me during the inconvenient times when you want to fuck other people.

4. I want to be the only thing on your mind.

You might be texting me at the same time you're texting ten other girls. How am I supposed to know? I want to be face-to-face with you so you can't copy and paste your conversations. So you can show me that you're willing to listen to what I have to say, and that you're not just nodding along.

5. Sexting isn't as good as the real deal.

Reading a message about how badly you want to run your tongue across my body is nice, but it doesn't replace the real thing. I don't want to hold a vibrator in my hand while I look at your dick pics. I want you to be the one rubbing against my clit. That's real intimacy.

6. The phone causes too many misunderstandings.

I can't figure out your tone when we're texting. I can't decide if you're joking around in a flirty way or if you're just being a douche. And when you phrase something in a confusing way, I can't even continue the conversation, because I have no idea what you're trying to say. Talking in person would make all of those problems disappear.

7. I don't take half-measures.

If we barely know each other, technology isn't bringing us together. It's pulling us apart. It's stopping us from going out on dates, because we know we can just Skype until we fall asleep, so we don't have to get dressed and get out of the house. It's making us lazy, even though real relationships require real effort.

8. They didn't need phones back in the day.

The happy couples out there, who have been married for fifty plus years, didn't use phones to communicate. They kept their relationships strong by going out on picnics and looking up at the stars and actually looking each other in the eyes.

9. Texting is holding us back.

I'm a real person with real feelings. It's easy to forget that when you never see my smirk after you sext me or hear me laugh after you make a ridiculous pun. But how are we supposed to take the next step in our love story when I don't even feel real to you? We need to be brave and go out on an old fashioned date if we want something serious.

10. I can't fall in love over a phone.

It's just not going to happen. I need to look into your hazel eyes and feel your plump lips. I need to smell your aftershave and hear you say my name. Texting was a great way to get to know you, but it's not going to let me fall in love with you. For that to happen, we'd have to put down the phones and pick up our car keys. TC mark