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I’d Rather Be Alone Than Be With Anyone Who Doesn’t Deserve Me

Posted: 12 Jun 2016 08:00 PM PDT

apricotberlin
apricotberlin

We've been fed with the idea that love conquers all ever since we relied on "true love's kiss" to wake us up from horrific spells and a thousand years' worth of sleep.

I'm not saying this is wrong, as a matter of fact this post supports it, at least partially. Movies sugarcoat affairs I'll give you that, they provide the public with a befitting ending they all hope to achieve someday, but in reality few of them ever get to see the curtain drop with a smile on their face.

As of 2013 more than 40% of couples who get married file for divorce, and most relationships at my age are meaningless hookups where the guy ends up being called an idiot and the girl a psycho.

We've been relying on sexual tension and physical attraction rather than actually getting to know someone and giving them the time of day, as they are entitled to. Dates now rarely finish off with the boy walking his significant other to the door of her house without the expectation of receiving a "happy ending" before midnight.

I'm not a fan of jumping onto something so deeply as sharing your life with someone in a matter of weeks or a couple of months. I strongly suggest people should reach the point of running out of topics to bring up in each social engagements or romantic getaways before taking the decision of embarking into something that compromises both parties (a relationship in simpler terms).

Sadly, most fail because all it took for the guy to "bring out the big guns" and start calling that girl his girlfriend was a couple of night outs with tequila shots and two months of making out in his car. Working to gain someone's trust and actually getting to know them no longer exists; having long conversations that do not involve vain things and pointless drama don't prevail in this century.

Hollywood Cinema is unrealistic yes, as a matter of fact up until a few years ago the idea a woman could live without a man has been brought up to the screen. But they are right in one aspect, and that is fighting for the person you care about or have feelings for; actually showing them you care and making the effort, going against all odds, families, gravity, jobs, just to be with that one person. Falling deeply in love with all their persona and putting power and muscle into it.

Which is why I'd rather be alone then with you.

A friend once told me that if someone wants to be with you they will make it happen. The fact that I became a choice in your life is a position I never planned nor am I proud to have become.

It took me years to realize this, constant conversations with the people I love and self-meditation.

I know deep in my heart at some point in your life you did actually care about me, but I also know my worth… and that's something that unfortunately you cannot see.

But I can, and I know I deserve someone who does not think twice about being by my side, someone whom I know that despite my crazy personality and hundreds of flaws, will accept me and love me for who I am.

I never intended to be that girl, the one who kept waiting for months for a boy, not a man, but a boy, to make up his mind about whether I was the right fit for his life.
Dependency was my second name not so long ago, but now, that I realized how much I actually have a right to wish for, is why that 10 letter word is scratched off my vocabulary.

This doesn't make you a bad person, on the contrary, you yourself deserve to be 100% sure of the girl you want to be with. But it does not give you the privilege to come and go as you please.

Putting all my energy and time and effort onto someone or something that at the end of the day has been taking me for granted is something I'll probably never do again.

Not only do I think it's morally unethical for a person to not communicate their feelings and constantly keep someone on limbo, but I also have confidence that as more support towards young women grows as having a voice and seeking their self-worth, they will easily distinguish someone who truly treasures them and someone who just cannot see how valuable they are.

I may be too young to be talking so passionately about something that for my 40-year old mother may seem so trivial, but I'm also happy that at such a young age I am able to stand in my two feet and look into someone's eyes and say "NO, I want more, I deserve more."

Which is why I'd rather be alone then with you. TC mark

If This Is The End Of Our Story, Then I Want You To Know That You Are My Favorite Chapter

Posted: 12 Jun 2016 07:00 PM PDT

joelgonewild
joelgonewild

I don't always believe that timing should be a barrier in moving a relationship forward, sure it makes it harder but it doesn't make it impossible, but I'm also a firm believer that things have a way of falling into place, of happening naturally and I'm a firm believer that if something is meant to happen, then against all odds, it will happen. So if our story does not end here, I hope I'm still the same when you're back.

I hope it will still be easy to talk to you about everything and nothing, I hope I can still find depth and meaning in our most random conversations and I hope I can still feel the same comfort and ease of sharing things with you and I hope you can still be yourself around me; relaxed, happy and calm. I hope I can still calm you down when everything else is so overwhelming.

I hope I don't lose an inch of respect for you, I hope I can still admire your qualities whether you're near or far and I hope I can still go to you for advice and I hope you still care.

I hope that when we meet again, we can still look at each other the way we did before timing and distance got in the way and I hope that this time apart made us realize how much we mean to each other. I hope our story is not like all other short stories, I hope our story is long, full of plot twists, surprises, lessons and I hope our story has a happy ending.

I hope we can look back at this time as an intermission not an ending, as a cliffhanger not the end of a show and I hope we're meant to go our separate ways so we can reunite again rather than drift apart.

But if this is the end of the story; if this is all it will ever be, then I hope when we meet again, we're both happy, I hope we can still wish the best for each other because we both know how much we struggled to find meaning, to find love and to find ourselves.

If I see you again and I don't feel a thing, I hope there's no bitterness, no resentment and no sadness. I hope we can be a reminder of how God sometimes brings two people together to heal each other and once they're healed, they need to fly apart.

That healing is not the same thing as loving. That sometimes other people heal you so other people can love you.

If this is the end of the our story, then I want you to know that you are my favorite chapter, the chapter I will go back and read when I want to smile and the chapter I will go back and read when the story gets boring and I hope I'm your favorite chapter too.

If we are not each other's happy ending, I hope we're the chapter that led to it and I hope we are the reason why we started believing in happy endings again.

But if we are, then I hope we're both still on the same page when we meet again, that we can pick up exactly where we left off and keep writing the rest of our story together. TC mark

What Each Zodiac Sign Is Like As A Poem

Posted: 12 Jun 2016 06:00 PM PDT

Victoria Zeoli
Victoria Zeoli

aries;
people blur around you
the only remnants being noise;
you'll be here after hours
your memory blanking

taurus;
the soft touch of your shirt
the rattling of paper in the breeze;
just another day
another day of thinking

gemini;
you're frozen in time
shadows never moving;
a ring of sunlight on your cheeks
and maybe you're okay

cancer;
your fingertips are like ice
cold and frozen from fear;
touching them melts you
your hearts intertwining

leo;
you feel every cell in your body
as they're rubbed against with annoyance;
you don't see how they'd understand
they probably never will

virgo;
your heart is made of stardust
lifting you slowly;
you don't need them
you are but a galaxy

libra;
laughter is surrounding you
somehow you feel closed in;
feeling small has always been
the opposite of being able to breathe

scorpio;
you could have sworn it was warm
but you lift the mug to your lips anyway;
maybe this is just a metaphor

sagittarius;
sprinting is what you do best
speeding by any and all forms of life;
leaving things behind
that is your specialty, isn't it?

capricorn;
shreds of paper surround you
another idea gone to waste;
even though, everyone knows
that your mind is extravagant

aquarius;
your fingers lightly touch the strings
the curve of the instrument laying perfectly over your thigh;
your lips move into wasted words
never quite able to say what you mean

pisces;
staring out the window again
your favorite past time;
watching the people move by
wondering when that will be you TC mark

30 Dr. Seuss Quotes About Life And Love That Will Turn Your Day Around Immediately

Posted: 12 Jun 2016 05:00 PM PDT

tpetersson3
tpetersson3

1. “Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you!”


2. “Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”


3. “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You’re on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who’ll decide where to go.”


4. “The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.”


5. “A person’s a person, no matter how small.”


6. “Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.”


7. “You’re in pretty good shape for the shape you are in.”


8. “You can get help from teachers, but you are going to have to learn a lot by yourself, sitting alone in a room.”


9. “Whenever things go a bit sour in a job I’m doing, I always tell myself, ‘You can do better than this.'”


10. “If you never did you should. These things are fun, and fun is good.”


11. “You'll miss the best things if you keep your eyes shut.”


12. “Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.”


13. “Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living, it's a way of looking at life through the wrong end of a telescope.”


14. “If things start happening, don't worry, don't stew, just go right along and you'll start happening too.”


15. “It is better to know how to learn than to know.”


16. “Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment, until it becomes a memory.”


17. “Only you can control your future.”


18. “So, open your mouth, lad! For every voice counts!”


19. “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.”


20. “I'm glad we had the times together just to laugh and sing a song, seems like we just got started and then before you know it, the times we had together were gone.”


21. “I'm sorry to say so but, sadly it's true that bang-ups and hang-ups can happen to you.”


22. “They say I'm old-fashioned, and live in the past, but sometimes I think progress progresses too fast!”


23. “It's a troublesome world. All the people who are in it are troubled with troubles almost every minute. You ought to be thankful, a whole heaping lot, for the places and people you're lucky you're not.”


24. “You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”


25. “I know, up on top you are seeing great sights, but down here at the bottom we, too, should have rights.”


26. “All alone! Whether you like it or not, alone is something you'll be quite a lot.”


27. “I'm afraid sometimes you'll play lonely games too, games you can't win because you'll play against you.”


28. “Adults are just obsolete children and the hell with them.”


29. “Nonsense wakes up the brain cells. And it helps develop a sense of humor, which is awfully important in this day and age.”


30. “Children want the same things we want. To laugh, to be challenged, to be entertained, and delighted.” TC mark

Sweet Girl, You Are Whole Without Him

Posted: 12 Jun 2016 04:00 PM PDT

MagdalenaRikanovic
MagdalenaRikanovic

Maybe he broke your heart, maybe he didn’t. Maybe he wanted you, maybe he didn’t. Maybe he’s still yours, maybe he’s long gone. Maybe he was jerk, maybe he is the greatest guy you’ve ever met. Maybe you’re married, maybe you’re single. Maybe you’re in the healthiest relationship you’ve ever been in, or maybe you’ve never been more confused in your life.

The situation doesn’t matter. Your heart could be full or broken, steady or shaken. Pieced back together, or shattered all across the memories of him you’ve been forced to leave behind. No matter what happened to you then, no matter what’s happening to you now. No matter how happy or how sad you are, or how confident or how lost you feel – you are whole without him. You are a being all on your own, a light, a presence, an existence. You are a strong soul, no matter how broken you may feel. You are you, completely, regardless of where he fits or used to fit into your life. You are a combination of all the lessons you’ve learned, all the feelings you’ve felt, all the choices you’ve made, all the things you’ve said, all of the battles you’ve fought, all the love you’ve given and received.

And being with him, or not being with him, will never take any of that away from you.

You are whole without him, you are person outside of his existence. You always have been and you always will be. Maybe it doesn’t always feel that way. Maybe sometimes you feel like you’ve lost yourself because of him, or you’ve lost yourself within him. But you haven’t. You’re always there, you’re always you. Sometimes it just takes a little longer to pull yourself out, especially if you’ve been shattered before. The instinct can be to hide, to close in on yourself in order to survive. To allow yourself to camouflage into your surroundings, in order to protect your heart – even if you’re with someone who you know will take care of it. But regardless of how far away your true self feels to you, you’re always there, somewhere. You just have to remember to look, to remember you are whole and that you can find yourself on your own.

Knowing that you are whole – and that you are whole without him – doesn’t make you hard, or callous, or too rough around the edges. It doesn’t make you a man-hater, a bitch, a cold-hearted ice queen. It doesn’t mean you view all men as evil and wrong. It doesn’t mean you’re stubborn or trying to prove anything. There is nothing here to apologize for. There is nothing weird about wanting to be, and believing that you are, a full and complete person outside of him. He can or could have been part of you – part of the things you’ve felt and experienced and learned. It doesn’t invalidate who he was or who he still is to you. It just means that even without him, still, there is so much to you. That outside of your relationship with him or your breakup with him or whatever else he is to you, that you are still your own person, your own self – with a history, a point of view, a set of beliefs and a set of values, things you want, goals for the future, things you’ve accomplished and things you’ve failed at, people you love and people who love you.

You are your own protagonist, not a supporting character in someone else’s story.

Some people might make you feel weird, for being so self-assured. They might accuse you of just being angry, bitter, scorned. But figuring out, or wanting to figure out, who you are outside of another person does not make you hate-filled or resentful. If your heart was broken, then sure, you’re probably holding onto some anger and sadness. But overall, making the choice to get to know yourself really has nothing to do with him. It could mean that you’re working through some pain, but it’s just as normal to be in a happy, healthy relationship and still have a strong desire to solidify who you are outside of him.

It is not about hate, resentment, revenge. It’s not about him at all. It’s about the empowerment of you, the joy of getting to know yourself, the wonder of setting yourself free – and discovering that, in the process, all it does it make your heart even bigger, and even more open to love. You’re out there, somewhere, you just have to look. Do it for you. TC mark

3 Reasons You Haven’t Attracted The Right Person Yet

Posted: 12 Jun 2016 03:00 PM PDT

 freestocks.org
freestocks.org

You could be in a relationship by the end of this week.

I'm not joking. One reason you aren't in one is because you haven't met the right person. First, let's get clear on who the right person is.

The right person is someone who wants what you want, and accepts you as you are (and you them).

Now if you meet a great person who isn't interested in dating you then they are not the right person for you. They could be, but as it stands, they're not.

If you meet a great person who you wish would change, again, not the right person for you. They could be, but at the moment, as they are they're not. The right person for you is the person who wants what you want, and accepts you as you are and vice versa.

Meeting the right person is one of the biggest challenges single people face in dating. Apps like Tinder and resources like Match.com are popular for a reason. To put it simply they help us meet people. People, that we likely wouldn't meet otherwise unless we spent most of our day looking for them. No one has that kind of time.

You might be single and wondering why you haven't met the right person yet. Out of all of the options in the world, you're still waiting to be thrilled by who you can date. If you're not meeting the right people then you're probably not in sync with what you say you want for the following reasons.

1. You are not this person.

Be who you want to date. I know you've probably heard this phrase a million times but I'll reiterate it once more. Be the person you want to date. If for no other reason, other than the fact that when it comes to dating, we are all looking for ourselves.

Except we're looking in the wrong place, another person. By being who you want to date you ensure that you are aligned with the right person for you and you increase your chances of meeting them. If you haven't attracted the right person yet, it's likely that you don't have enough similar qualities to match with them either online or in person.

Wayne Dyer famously said, "You don't attract what you want, you attract who you are."

If you're negative you will attract negativity. If you're insecure, you'll attract an insecure person. If you're a homebody then utilize online services because your perfect person is probably at home too.

If you have a list, look it over and see how many of those qualities you posses for yourself. Think about the person that you imagine yourself dating.

Who is this person? Are they thin, tall, smart and if so, are you? Are you the person that you want to date? Are you exciting, thoughtful, interesting and as attractive as who you expect to meet and marry?

If you want to attract the man or woman of your dreams you must know who that person wants to date and become them. Better yet, you must already be so much like them that your energy attracts you to each other.

This is why meeting the right person is seen as so serendipitous. It's really not. It's just two similar people who happened to make the similar choice to be in a certain place at a certain time.

When you employ the attraction principle of like attracting like, it doesn't mean that you will only come in contact with one type of person.

Like attracting like doesn't mean that two perfect people will be attracted to each other. It only means that two people with similar core beliefs will be attracted to each other.

You will cross paths with several potential partners but you will only accept what you believe you deserve. What that means is the possibility of you meeting the right person for you is 100% but the probability of you dating them is greatly reduced by your attitude of worth and value.

2. You doubt their existence.

It's hard to meet someone while doubting their very existence. If you want to meet the right person you have to, without a doubt, believe in their existence.

You are looking for them and guess what, they're looking for you.

The person that you want to date is already alive and well. They are living their life somewhere in this world, on this earth, and it serves you to trust in their existence.

If you want to meet the right person and you're ready to meet them then visualize that moment. Start to imagine what it will be like to have them in your life.

There's a saying, you have to go there before you get there.

It basically means that you have to envision meeting this person, crossing their path and even having them in your life before they actually show up.

You have to hold onto the idea that the person that's right for you is out there, and not that far away.

We make so many excuses for why we won't get what we want that we create low expectations for our love lives. We tell ourselves that although we want these character traits so badly, this person we've envisioned just isn't real.
I will tell you with complete certainty that they are real.

You have to raise your expectations, and believe that what you want exists.1 If you don't expect to get the best results then you won't. Once you start to expect to meet high quality partners, the chances of meeting them are increased. You'll not only believe that you are worth this person's time and attention but you will expect to get it.

3. You spend too much time with the wrong people.

You will never find the right person while focusing on the wrong one. Whether you are currently seeing someone, who is less than you want, or you are hung up on a past relationship, this tie to the wrong person is blocking the right person from coming into your life.

The confidence you need to accept more and move on is lacking. This deficiency makes connecting with the right person a challenge.

Why are you afraid to let go of the wrong person and wait for the right one? Why are you holding on to a relationship that is less than what you want? Why is this person not the right person for you right now?

These answers are easy to see but commonly ignored. If you want to make room for the right person to come into your life it means letting go. It means clearing your mind of the distraction of a better than nothing relationship or the frustration of an ex. If you want to attract the right person you have to clear the path from you to them.

You have to make it as easy as possible to accept the right person into your life and that means clearing out the baggage of past relationships.

So now that you know why you haven't met the right person, how can you actually meet them? The steps are easy.

Believe in them.

Live without a shadow of a doubt that the right person for you exists and pass up anyone that is less than you want.

Ask for them to come into your life.

Quit telling the universe that love isn't important to you or that you're "ok," not having the relationship that you want. When it comes to love you should want it, wish for it and work for it.

Expect to meet them.

Everyday is an opportunity to meet the love of your life. Show up for the occasion. Dress for it, get excited about it and take advantage of any opportunity to make it happen. Say yes to unexpected invitations or any subtle calls from the universe to be in new places.

Take inspired action to bring love into your life. It's your right and you deserve it. I hope this was helpful. TC mark

Here Are All The People Applauding The Orlando Gay Club Shooter

Posted: 12 Jun 2016 02:59 PM PDT

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Twitter / Orlando Police

As you probably know, last night there was a brutal hate attack on Pulse nightclub in Orlando, Florida. A terrorist by the name of Omar Saddiqui Mateen stormed the club, and opened fire on the attendees. Some were held hostage, before law enforcement was finally able to take him down. Dozens are dead, and reports are coming in that some are so badly disfigured from the gun attack, that is proving challenging to identify the bodies.

While information is still coming in, political debates about guns, religion, and sexual orientation have already cropped up. The shooter is alleged to be Muslim, and many Trump supporters are using this attack to vindicate their point. Others are trying to argue that the shooter was a Democrat, and saying that liberals are to blame for this. And other still — and most shockingly — are trivializing the attack because of the sexual orientation of the victims:

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These people are an important part of this conversation, because they show why gay pride still needs to exist. Just because the United States has achieved marriage equality does not mean our struggle to live, laugh, and love freely is over.

These tweets and comments leave me without words. Except to say that it will get better — it must get better — and hopefully, with awareness, education, and love, the world we leave our children will be a little brighter. TC mark

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I Think I’ll Always Be Missing You

Posted: 12 Jun 2016 02:00 PM PDT

iStockPhoto.com / Leonardo Patrizi
iStockPhoto.com / Leonardo Patrizi

Every time another relationship ends, I think of you. I think of the moment it was over between us and how it made me feel and I can't really figure out why endings don't hurt me as much they used to, is it because I've gotten so used to them that they don't break me anymore? Or is it because you were the most painful ending? I don't know what it is but nothing is ever as deep as it was with you; not the pain or the joy.

Every time I start falling for someone, I think of how I fell for you and suddenly I'm not even sure if I can ever fall for anyone the same way again.

It's like you were the fall I never really recovered from, you took the biggest part of my heart that I may not be able to get back.

Every time I think I'm closer to finding someone who treats me the way I deserve, I remember you and all I want is for that person to be you, I want to hear those loving words from you, I want you to be fascinated by me the same way he is and I want you to be my plus one. I don't know if that means I'm not really into him as much as I thought or you were the high I couldn't get down from, you were the utopia I was looking for and anything after you feels ordinary. You showed me a glimpse of heaven in a real world and I don't know if anything will ever be as beautiful as heaven.

Every time someone touches me, I don't feel a thing. I don't feel the butterflies I felt with you or the safety that came with your embrace.

Sometimes I feel scared; scared that I will not be able to let someone touch me or get too close because these are not your arms and sometimes I wonder if they're scared of touching me too because they know I'm thinking of someone else.

I think I'll always be missing you. I'll miss your voice when someone else speaks, I'll miss your eyes when someone else looks at me, I'll miss your hands when someone else touches me and I'll miss your love when I start falling for someone else.

And I wonder if this is all because I keep looking for you in them trying to find someone who resembles you.

But maybe this is the problem, maybe I need to find someone who doesn't resemble you at all, who doesn't remind me of you, who doesn't have anything in common with you and someone who makes me believe that maybe you're just not the one for me.

Sometimes I think I'm holding on to your love because I will not find anything better and sometimes I feel I'm holding on to it because you are too, but all I know is that in order for me to start feeling again, to start loving again, to start opening up again, I have to stop missing you.

Because missing you is my sweet escape from falling again, it's the only way to guard my heart from that same kind of love I had with you but I need to stop missing you because I miss myself, I miss who I was before I loved you and I miss how I used to fall in love recklessly before you introduced me to holding back and putting up walls.

Maybe I'll never stop missing you but that’s okay because I'll always miss myself more. TC mark

Here’s The Cold Hard Truth: No Closure IS Closure

Posted: 12 Jun 2016 01:00 PM PDT

Jenavieve
Jenavieve

Closure. We all want it, but is it ever really achievable? In today's modern dating world, ghosting has become a common means of ending a relationship. This disappearing act turns our significant others into magicians who vanish without a trace of ever being there.

If not for the fingerprints they left on our hearts, perhaps we would question whether or not the relationship ever happened.

I have been ghosted a few times in the past, but upon being on the receiving end of silence from my friends-with-benefits of two years, I began to question societal standards for widely accepted dating practices, and thus, my own. Why do people ghost? Do they think it's easier than having 'the talk,' and that they're sparing us pain and heartache? Or do they simply not care?

Here's my story. I began seeing a good friend of mine, and after a drunken night I began seeing him naked. After 8 months of non-committal bliss, I wanted to settle into something serious. I confessed my feelings and though they were reciprocated; he said he did not want to be in a committed relationship. This was the first sign that I had entered fuckboy territory, but the damage had already been done; I was in love with him.

After another year of mind games, on-again-off again sex and failed attempts at finding security, we ended up here, in the land of almosts.

After completing exams of our third year of college, we went on a 4-day spree of hanging out and having sex before starting full-time work for the summer months when our busy schedules would be less permitting. I texted him a week into work but to my dismay, no reply. This wasn't an anomaly, he had been flakey in the past, but this time I left his bed on good terms. I gave it a few days hoping he would reach out to me, but nothing. Maybe he didn't get my text? I tried calling him, no answer. Maybe he is just super busy. Or his phone is broken? I went to send him a Facebook message only to discover he had deleted me as a friend. What the actual fuck.

What I want people who ghost to know is that avoiding a difficult conversation by ignoring someone stirs up a lot of unhealthy self-talk within the ghostee.

Often times, uncertainty is worse than the truth, even if it's a cold truth.

When you share your life with someone, whether it be for a year, a few months, or even one date, ghosting sends the message that the person you previously exhibited interest in is no longer worth your time and consideration. When he silently erased himself from my life, a series of questions flooded my insides with anxiety. Is he mad at me? Was the sex no longer satisfying? Did he meet someone else?

Self-doubt is a toxic river in the mind leading to a sea of low self-esteem. Confidence is shattered, self-worth is put into question, and lack of clarity becomes insomnia's greatest companion. Night after night I agonized over his desertion. I felt inadequate and the confusion surrounding our demise left me cynical.

The hard truth is this: we make time for the things we want.

If he doesn't make any effort to contact you, there's a good chance he's over you. But the good news? You deserve so much better than someone lacking the emotional maturity and basic human decency to be honest with you. He is straight up an asshole, plain and simple, and you are someone who looks for the good in people. He does not deserve the benefit of the doubt, and he is most certainly not worth the pain. By accepting that sometimes we will never get the answers we so desperately hope for, we can let go and move on. But don't let it change you, because the world forever needs empaths.

In the words of Warsan Shire,

"If he wants to leave
then let him leave
you are terrifying
and strange and beautiful
something not everyone knows how
to love." TC mark

26 One-Sentence Reminders For Every Person Who Wants To Feel Better Than They Do Right Now

Posted: 12 Jun 2016 12:00 PM PDT

adamkuylenstierna
adamkuylenstierna

1. You maybe did not conquer the world today, but you did get out of bed and sometimes that is more than enough.

2. You are not for everyone, and that is perfectly okay.

3. Likewise, not everyone is for you.

4. Love is not one thing, nor does it come from a single place.

5. Time does not heal wounds, the steps we take to mend them do.

6. It is okay to ask for help.

7. Being alone does not mean you are unwanted, it is simply a state of being.

8. Life is messy, unfair and unpredictable, but it is all we have.

9. Not everything happens for a reason, but you can learn something from all that has happened to you.

10. You are loved.

11. Even when you are feeling like the ugliest and meanest version of yourself, you still need to try and be kind; it is the only remedy.

12. When in doubt, take a walk.

13. You are beautiful to someone.

14. It takes strength to say goodbye to what is no longer good for you, even if you do so with shaking knees.

15. Just because someone else gave up on you doesn't mean that you have to give up on you.

16. A supportive friend is a rarity, so treat them well.

17. A broken heart is merely a redirection.

18. Some people become our homes, some people are lessons and some are just jackasses; the art is figuring out who is who.

19. Hard work may not pay off for a long time, but it is always worth it.

20. You are the people you surround yourself with, so be wise in your choices.

21. No one truly knows what they are doing.

22. It does not matter if you are 18 or 36, you can call your parents if you need them.

23. If you need to be lifted up, smile at a stranger.

24. A heavy heart has a lot to give, so do not be afraid to share it.

25. You are not your past.

26. Be kind and patient with yourself because you're doing the best you can. TC mark