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Ewwww!: 50 Insanely Gross Videos Of Actual Pimples Being Popped That You Can Never Unsee

Posted: 15 Jun 2016 08:00 PM PDT

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31 Beautiful Bible Verses Every Woman Who’s Tired Of Hookup Culture Needs To Remember

Posted: 15 Jun 2016 07:30 PM PDT

Jesse Herzog
Jesse Herzog

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Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. — Proverbs 13:20

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I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God–this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will. — Romans 12:1-2

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Stay away from people who are not followers of the Lord! Can someone who is good get along with someone who is evil? Are light and darkness the same? — 2 Corinthians 6:14

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More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. — Romans 5:3-5

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The unmarried woman is concerned about the work of the Lord, how she can be holy in both body and spirit. But the married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world, how she can please her husband. — 1 Cor. 7:34

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…those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this. — 1 Corinthians 7:28

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to the pure you show yourself pure, but to the devious you show yourself shrewd. — Psalm 18:26

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Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. — Matthew 5:8

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Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. — Psalm 51:10

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"Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? — Matthew 6:25-27

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Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken. — Psalm 55:22

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do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. — Philippians 4:6-7

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So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal. — 2 Corinthians 4:16-18

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Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. — Romans 12:12

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No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. — 1 Corinthians 10:13

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Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go." — Joshua 1:9

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I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world." — John 16:33

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For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. — Galatians 1:10

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Do not be deceived: "Bad company ruins good morals." — 1 Corinthians 15:33-34

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Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Commit your way to the Lord;
trust in him and he will do this:
He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn,
your vindication like the noonday sun. — Psalm 37:4-6

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Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes. — Psalm 37:7

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For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. — Jer. 29:11

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but those who hope in the Lord
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint. — Isaiah 40:31

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But godliness with contentment is great gain. 7 For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. 8 But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. — 1 Timothy 6:6-8

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Your eyes are too pure to look on evil; you cannot tolerate wrongdoing. Why then do you tolerate the treacherous? Why are you silent while the wicked swallow up those more righteous than themselves? — Habakkuk 1:13

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Yet the Lord longs to be gracious to you;
therefore he will rise up to show you compassion.
For the Lord is a God of justice.
Blessed are all who wait for him! — Isaiah 30:18

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We would not dare put ourselves in the same class with, or compare ourselves to, those who recommend themselves. Whenever they measure themselves by their own standards or compare themselves among themselves, they show how foolish they are. — 2 Corinthians 10:12

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The Lord All-Powerful, the Holy God of Israel, rules all the earth. He is your Creator and husband, and he will rescue you. — Isaiah 54:5

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For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul? — Matthew 16:26

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And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. And those whom he predestined he also called, and those whom he called he also justified, and those whom he justified he also glorified. — Romans 8:28-30

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A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
"Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all."
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. — Proverbs 31:10-31 TC mark

For The Women Who Feel Like ‘Too Much’

Posted: 15 Jun 2016 07:15 PM PDT

 Noël Alva
Noël Alva

For the women who feel like 'too much' – you know exactly who you are.

You're the ones who grew up always feeling different – feeling crazy, feeling brash, feeling just a little too passionate and fierce. You're the ones who've spent your whole lives being told to bite your tongue, to sit on your hands, to settle down and shut up and quell your restless mind for just long enough to blend in.

To find your place within the calmer, cooler crowds.

You're the ones who've always struggled to regulate your spirit. The ones who've felt the pull between the wild and the tame – the never-ending yearning to go and yet the underlying longing to stay. The constant need to explore further and yet the quiet desire to settle down.

You're the ones who can't find peace within yourself. Who have always wanted to try harder, run faster, push yourself further than the world around you ever expected you to go. You're the ones with the expectations so high that even you can never live up to yourself. Even you can sometimes find your mind to be 'too much' for your body.

And yet you're also the one who's irreplaceable.

You're the one who may always be a little too passionate, a little too reckless and too intense.

But you're also the one who loves the hardest. Who fights the longest. Who refuses to cash in her chips and give up when the rest of the crowd has laid their swords down and gone home.

You're the one who keeps pushing for the changes that need making. Who won't sit down or shut up or settle down when what the stakes are rising higher than you're ready for. You're the one who's not afraid to stand up when the rest of the world is staying silent.

You're the one who may always be 'too much' for the people who are calm and complacent and steady.

But you'll never be too much for the fierce ones.

You'll never be too much for the ones who burn as brightly, who reel as wildly, who move as quickly as you.

You'll never be too much for the people who want to experience the whole of life fully – arms wide open and spirit braced for whatever's coming their way. You will always be just the right amount for the people who's fire matches your own.

But there's a catch-22 when it comes to finding them.

Because they're not the ones sitting down. Shutting up. And listening to what they have been told their entire life to do.

They are the ones running ahead of the pack.

And if it's not too much for you to handle,
It is up to you to run and catch up. TC mark

I Am Done With Letting My Dating Life Determine My Self Worth

Posted: 15 Jun 2016 07:00 PM PDT

natemueller
natemueller

I know how hard it is to find yourself as a young adult in your twenties, wondering where all of that confidence went from your youth. You ponder why that guy won't text you back after your night together, and you wonder what you did wrong or what you could've done differently. In this day and age, it has somehow become so difficult to have a simple and meaningful relationship with someone. Communication is nonexistent, and adultery is always the way out. I feel as if many young people are losing their self confidence, but more importantly, their own self worth.

Why should what someone else says, does, or feels towards us dictate how we feel about ourselves? Aren't we, as an individual, entitled to procure our own self worth? We determine that, not someone else. Why, in this time, do we allow the opinions or actions of someone other than ourselves manage our own personal thoughts and feelings?

I struggle with my worth more than I think I do. I use dating apps so I can meet and connect with other people who share common interests with myself, but it always ends in sobbing fits on the bathroom floor. I am worth so much more than people think of me, and I want them to realize it. To the many dates and encounters I have had on Tinder, my biggest regret is forgetting what I am worth on these occasions. Too often I have let someone tell me what I can or cannot do. Too often I have compromised my beliefs and values in order to keep talking to someone. Too often I am left staring at blank conversations, wondering why someone won't talk to me anymore.

I have realized that my worth is not measured by how many times someone swipes right to me, or how many dates I go on, or how many people I can talk to. My worth is measured by my own actions, feelings, and thoughts. It is measured by my hopes, dreams, and aspirations. It is measured by my kindness to others and my wonder about the world. I will never let someone define my worth, so why should you? TC mark

16 Guys On The Painfully Honest Reason Why They And Their Girlfriend Broke Up

Posted: 15 Jun 2016 06:45 PM PDT

Jesse Herzog
Jesse Herzog

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"There's no nice way to say this but she changed too much. She went from being that chill, fun girl that I fell in love with to someone who always seemed like she wanted to tell me how I was doing something wrong or could do better. I couldn't take it anymore. No one wants to be constantly lectured and nagged at by someone who is supposed to just love them." — Adam, 27

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"We just grew apart. We started dating at the beginning of college and by junior year we weren't the same people who we were when we'd started dating. By the end we were more like best friends than people in a relationship." — Zach, 24

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"I was interested in someone else, and one day that other girl I wanted to get with was on the market so I went for it. It sucks but it is what it is." — Kyle, 27

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"We stopped having fun. We both grew too content in our routine that was actually a rut and I stopped being excited to see her, excited to be with her. And eventually, that translated into stopped being in love with her." — Evan, 25

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"Our fighting went from healthy discussions to all out FIGHTS. We said nasty, horrible things to each other and we never really healed after those things were out there. Once you've told someone you hate them and meant it…yeah it's kind of over after that." — Dalton, 29

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"She wanted kids, I really don't. Pretty cut and dry." — Parker, 31

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"We had been long distance for most of our relationship which, as I now know, meant we were a 'vacation' relationship. Whenever we were together one of us (or both of us) was always on vacation. So when we finally got together in our 'real life' and were faced with 'real life' problems, we cracked. We couldn't handle our stress when it was actually in front of us and not buffered by space." — Dean, 27

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"I figured out pretty quickly that she was annoying AF. Whatever, she was hot but so, so, SO not the girl you actually date." — Andy, 25

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"I cheated. Plain and simple. And then I wanted to see what’d happen with the girl that I cheated with. I don't regret going after something I wanted, but I do regret hurting my ex in the process. You live and learn." — Jake, 24

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"We both stopped trying and became really complacent in the relationship. We just expected that we'd be there, rather than actually hoping and wanting the other person to be there. We stopped chasing the love and eventually it just fizzled until it wasn't there anymore. At the end I didn't even recognize her." — Nicolas, 26

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"She used sex as a manipulation. She'd withhold it when she was mad, or use it to get what she wanted. It was ridiculously obvious what she was doing and honestly, really immature. I got fed up with it after a while and peaced. No one needs that." — Logan, 25

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"We had had a really intense back and forth, heated chase thing between us before we finally ended up together. And when we defined the relationship that spark was gone. So after the spark and 'wanting what we can't have' thing wasn’t there, I wasn't interested." — Ryan, 24

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"I thought I would be with her forever and then one day, I realized that we were headed in completely different directions. But I was already on a really awesome trajectory in other parts of my life and couldn't bring myself to give up everything for her. She felt the same. So we parted and went off with the hope that maybe we'll meet back together someday. I think we both know that was just a way of lessening the blow that it's really over." — Samuel, 29

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"I looked through her phone and found out she'd been sexting a couple of her guy friends. We ended, appropriately enough, over text." —Mark, 24

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"I loved her. I really, really did. But the reality about love is that it's work. And she had a lot of problems and baggage she wasn't willing to work on letting go of in order to be able and ready to accept love from me. So eventually, I stopped working at giving it. And when you stop choosing to give your love to someone, it's unsalvageable." Josh, 30

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"I proposed and she said no. You don't stay together after that." — Greg, 28 TC mark

‘Is This Love?!’ 22 People Share Exactly How They Knew It Was Finally The Real Thing

Posted: 15 Jun 2016 06:30 PM PDT

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1. When That Nagging Doubt Is Finally Gone

When you look into that part of your brain that has ALWAYS has a nagging feeling that every relationship you’ve been in might not be right… and you’re shocked to find there’s nothing there at all. When it seems ridiculous that you actually thought you liked any of those other people you used to have a crush on/date because they’re just so obviously not suited for you in hindsight. When you realize you’re an endless source of entertainment for each other, that you can spend two weeks together 24/7 in close quarters on a trip, and then still spontaneously stay up all night talking the night after you get back. When everything’s easier because you basically think the same way, and the ways in which they think different delight and entertain you.

2. They Are Your Refuge

I am reminded that I love him when I come home from a terrible day at the office, and seeing him makes everything terrible seem trivial because I am so happy and at ease to come home to him. Also, we can openly discuss pooping.

3. You No Longer Have To Pretend They’re Flawless

When you can accept their flaws. No one’s perfect, if you’re telling yourself “Wow Cindy is so perfect I love her so much everything she does is right ~” you’ve just got a crush. People are flawed, whether they’re selfish, lazy, passive aggressive, whiny, etc. Everyone does things that would annoy you. Loving someone isn’t whitewashing them, it’s loving all the great things and all the shitty things.

4. Fart Wrestling

I recently looked my partner in the eye and told her that I love her dearly, but sometimes she pisses me off to no end. She said the same about me. Then I farted on her crotch and then wrestled on the kitchen floor about it. That is love.

5. The Entire Future Changes

I knew when I could not think of a future without her in it.

6. The Nugget Test

When you’re eating chicken nuggets and instead of offering to split the last one you give them the whole thing.

7. You Truly Care About Them More Than Yourself

I’d like to think you start to love someone when you care about them more than yourself. It’s when you would do anything for them just to make them happy. You could spend everyday with her/him and never want things to change. The worst part about this feeling…is when they don’t feel it too.

8. Happy Alone Is Nothing

You know you love someone when you’d rather be upset with each other than happy alone.

9. Together You’re Timeless

Time starts behaving weird. Like you’ll be talking and suddenly it’s 3:30 in the morning. And you’ll be absolutely convinced that there’s no way that could be right.

10. When They Make You More

When you realize that being around this person makes you want to be better yourself. That all your long talks, all your deeply intimate conversations, spark a motivation in you that you’ve never had before.

When she’s always on your mind. Not necessarily at the forefront, but always there. And you make better choices and work harder just for the thought of her. And every day you catch yourself thinking about the times you’ve spent together.

And even her trust issues and her need to take things slowly don’t put you off. When you accept her flaws and lows because they’re still her.

That’s love, I think.

11. It Really Conquers All

When they do something idiotic and all you can think is “I love that moron.”

12. This Is What “Partner” Means

To put it as simply as possible, when there are no doubts.

You don’t feel insecure around this person. You don’t have to impress them, or hide parts of yourself from them. You don’t feel like you have to pretend around them to ‘protect’ them from who you really are.

They are the person that makes you feel comfortable in your own skin.

They are the person you strive to be more like- you admire them and their good qualities, and they challenge you to be a better person every day. It’s not that you would change for them, but that you would strive to be better for yourself.

They are your partner in all things, and as such, they move through different parts of your life seamlessly. There’s no friction over friends, jobs, hobbies, etc. Any part of your lives that you disagree on, you still respect and accept, because you trust and value their judgment.

13. You Will Know

May sound silly but if you really love them you will “know”. They won’t ever leave your mind.

14. When They Remain “The One”

When I still get butterflies in my stomach thinking about her even though we’ve known each other for almost a decade.

When I care about her more than anything else

When imagining myself spending the rest of my life with one person, she’s the one who pops to mind

When the thought of her not being in my life simply isn’t a possibility.

15. You Fear Losing Them

I knew I loved my SO when I would watch movies or shows where someone’s SO died or was separated from them and I’d start crying because I was scared of that happening to him.

16. You Miss The Bad Things Too

When I miss his jokes even though they’re bad.

17. Love Perseveres

At the beginning of a relationship, when everything about your partner is perfect…that isn’t love. When you’ve been together long enough to start to see their faults, that you want them to change so that you can be happy… that isn’t love. When you realize that you want to be with that person just as they are, flaws and all, that is love.

18. Contentment

I realized when I saw the girl and I couldn’t help but smile and feel content.

19. Funny But True

If she showed up at your door covered in blood you would let her stay there to hide from the cops.

20. The Difference Becomes Like Night And Day

For me, it was when I compared my current relationship to past relationships, and the difference was night and day. I really thought I loved my ex-girlfriend. The nagging doubts and the endless fights and the constant wondering that maybe there was someone better out there, I actually believed those were just a normal part of a healthy relationship. But now I have no doubts. I don’t want to avoid my girlfriend, I want to see her everyday. I think about her when I’m feeling down and I feel better because of it. We haven’t had a single fight ever. We want nothing more than for the other person to be happy and comfortable, and I love her more than I thought possible. I don’t know what else to say. You kind of just know when it happens.

21. “I” Becomes “Us”

For me, it’s realizing my identity has changed. I’m a part of two people now, and if someone took her away I would be broken because I would be half of what I’m suppose to be.

22. It’s The Same As Having A Passion For Anything Else

The same way you know you love something; you begin to live your life for them. If you love, truly love music, you’ll live in a focus on music, surrounding yourself in and dedicating your time to it. If you truly love your job, simply doing it well is what will bring you satisfaction and happiness and your paycheck is simply how you survive so you can continue doing what makes you happy.

In much the same way, if you truly love someone, your life and your happiness becomes intertwined with theirs. You live in a state of directing your focus and effort towards their happiness and satisfaction. TC mark

15 Twenty-Something Women On Why They’d Rather Be Single AF Than Committed To Anyone

Posted: 15 Jun 2016 06:15 PM PDT

Drew Wilson
Drew Wilson

1. "The way I see it, a boyfriend would get in the way of figuring my own shit out. Why bother???" — Marisa, 24

2. "I had my heartbroken once and it ruined me for like six months because I was way too dependent on my boyfriend for way too long. I was a mess until I realized that I need to figure out how to be happy on my own, which is what I've been doing ever since. If you can do that, you can kill it at life no matter what happens to you romantically. That's power, you know?" — Karlie, 23

3. "I truly believe that if you settle down with someone too soon in life, you don't leave enough room for yourself to grow into who you are." — Maddie, 26

4. "When you start seriously dating someone, it's hard to resist thinking about marriage and a family and I know that in order for me to achieve the things I want in life, I need to postpone marriage and family." — Fiona, 21

5. "I'm all about maintaining a few friends with benefits. Guys are my side hustle. My main focus is on becoming a doctor, which has always been my dream." — Gretchen, 23

6. "My mom think I'm nuts, but my plan is to find a guy in my mid-thirties. I think I'll be ready by then for a husband, and maybe a kid or two. But I'm nowhere near that point yet, so for now I Tinder occasionally but it never gets more serious than morning sex or morning after brunch." — Rose, 27

7. "What's the upside? Regular sex? It's not like it's hard to get laid when I need to. I have fun with guys in bed sometimes, but when it comes my day-to-day, I'm not interested in a tag-along." — Caroline, 24

8. "Relationships are a responsibility. They require work and if I'm going to work on something these days, it's going to be school and then my career—not some other person who's probably too young to know what he wants in life anyway." — Victoria, 21

9. "I'm a pretty sexual person, so I do lean on guys sometimes to get my needs met. But I'm totally fine hooking up with a few guys here and there without making things complicated." — Sonya, 22

10. "I've never had a boyfriend, and I doubt that I will for another five years or so. No time, no desire." — Eveline, 23

11. "I'd rather hang out with a bunch of my girlfriends at this stage than snuggle up on the couch and Netflix and Chill or whatever. The whole him-and-her thing is for the 30- or 40- plus set in my opinion." — Maggie, 25

12. "I don't envy any of my friends who are in a serious relationship. They spend so much time doing couple-y things. It's like, WHY? You're missing out!!!" — Tatiana, 20

13. "I really want to find love one day. But I’m in absolutely no rush because I have other objectives and I don’t want to shelve my goals for any reason, not even true love." — Sienna, 26

14. "Identifying as one-half of a couple is my actual nightmare. I want to travel and be free and not have to answer questions about where I am of how I'm feeling about this or that constantly. I want to be ME." — Katie, 21

15. "The guys I know in my age group are soooooo immature, it's not even worth trying to date them and I'm not about to go older because that's just gross." — Ivy, 24 TC mark

It Only Takes One Person To Walk Away

Posted: 15 Jun 2016 06:00 PM PDT

Drew Wilson
Drew Wilson

You cried in your bed last night because you knew. You knew whatever "this" was never going to be was over, and for good this time.

You cried of relief, sadness, and secretly happiness. You wasted so much of your time waiting for him.

But he was never going to be ready.

He was never going to start anything with you. All along you knew this, you knew, but couldn't accept it. You couldn't come to terms with reality. But let's be real for a second here, is anyone ever "ready"? I say no.

No one is ever "ready" for love. You can't prepare for what it will do to you- if this even is love. You don't have the ability choose who you fall for. You can't choose the fights, the struggles, the distance. However, you have the ability to choose if you walk away from someone. You have the option to do nothing with it too. You can stay, if you want. You can leave as well. You can waste it, or you can pursue it. But, if someone does nothing with it, and leaves you stuck- you have to get yourself out of the quicksand, because that's all you ever will be. A quick, falling, desperate girl waiting. You don't want to be that girl anymore.

It's all on you- remember that. It has and always is on you. Someone else out there will not give you excuses. Someone else will want to put their time and effort in. Someone else out their wont need to know if they're "ready" they'll just be with you. Someone else is out there.

You have to validate your feelings and listen to yourself- that's a choice you have to make. You know yourself better than anyone else.

You know he is never going to change, so what are you going to do to change that? Are you going to let it always be his way? Are you going to continue wasting your time on someone who is never going to be ready to love you the way you want to be loved? Because that won't change and you can't no matter how much you try- change a boy. He's either not ready to man up or he's just keeping you at a distance, because he knows you'll always come back. He's never going to be the man you envisioned him to develop into. Are you ready to walk away? I mean it for real this time. Can you look in the mirror and say it?

Do something good with all of that effort you invested that wasn't for yourself. Use all of that energy you were willing to give in, that you tried to give into a failed relationship into yourself- not someone else. Please, work on yourself, because you're going to need to after this one. He's done a lot to you by doing nothing at all. I am sorry that you had to put up with this for so long, but it's been on you all along. You have to make the change. You have to want to change for the benefit of yourself.

There may be an "us" in "focus" but you can't do that if you haven't done it for "u" yet. Focus on yourself for a bit.

It takes two to make something work, and two to break it.

It only takes one person to walk away, to step aside and acknowledge that it's not healthy or beneficial.

Maybe "walking away" isn't the right term… don't neglect the problem, just walk. Walk east, west, north, south. Walk in circles for a while if you need to. Just whatever you do, find out what is on the other side. There are so many brighter sights to see than this dim, fading light that you've been fighting to turn off. TC mark

Fall In Love With A Guy Who Shows The Fuck Up

Posted: 15 Jun 2016 05:45 PM PDT

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Fall in love with a guy who shows up. A guy who comes five minutes early, a guy who brings flowers or a hug. The guy who doesn’t make you feel like you’re an obligation, or just another checkbox on a list of things he has to do before the end of the day. Fall in love with a guy who takes the stress away — not adds more. Fall in love with a guy who seems to melt time when you’re together. The guy you can fall asleep with, the guy you can wake up with, the guy you can cook breakfast with.

Fall in love with a guy who asks if you’re home — not for some booty call, but to make sure you made it there safely.

Fall in love with a guy who makes his affection obvious. The guy who talks to you not just to make you happy, but because he genuinely wants to hear the sound of your voice.

Fall in love with a guy who makes an effort. The guy who doesn’t throw in the towel when things get hard, who doesn’t storm away and run when you have a disagreement. A guy who is willing to sit down and talk through shit, even when it’s uncomfortable or hard. A guy who is always honest, always direct, and speaks kindly.

Fall in love with a guy who treats other people well — not just you. The guy who speaks well of people when their backs are turned.

The guy who tips waiters well when you’re out to eat, and always holds his friends close. Fall in love with the guy who will leave a casual date with you if one of their friends is having a crisis. Fall in love with the guy who cares about you, absolutely yes, but also cares about their friends and humanity.

Fall in love with the guy who calls his mom once a week, and speaks well of her. The guy who wants you to meet his parents, and wants you to me a part of his life. The guy who introduced you to his childhood dog, and shows you the park where he played as a child. Fall in love with the guy who wants to know his world, and be a big part of it.

Fall in love with a guy who cooks you dinner. Who gives you surprises, who does something little everyday to make your life better. The guy who offers to drive you places — even just to hang out with your friends. The guy who goes out of his way to make your life a happier experience.

Fall in love with a guy who gets along with your friends, and wants to get to know your friends.

The guy who encourages you to hang out with your pals, and doesn’t insist on having your attention every second. Fall in love with the guy who treasures every moment he has with you, but appreciates that you have other people in your life that you care about too.

Fall in love with the guy who you have inside jokes with. Who you’ve spent enough time around to find constantly hilarious. The guy who makes you laugh, and laugh, and laugh over the silliest most trivial things. Fall in love with the guy who brings joy to your life — not just temporary happiness, no — but longterm and enduring joy.

Fall in love with the guy who shows the fuck up. The guy who is here to be apart of your life, not just take a chunk of it in the form of sex, or your time, or your looks. Fall in love with the guy who is ready to share something with you. Fall in love with the guy who shows up and makes the most of every moment. Fall in love with the guy who isn’t just going through the motions with “some person,” fall in love with the guy whose love is exclusive. To you. TC mark

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I’m Trying Not To Get My Hopes Up For Resident Evil 7 But Its Incredible Teaser Is Making That Hard

Posted: 15 Jun 2016 05:30 PM PDT

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I was but a tender wee thing when my then-boyfriend (now-husband) bought me a Gamecube copy of the remastered Resident Evil game. He knew of my love for all things spooky and told me “You’ll love this! It’s a classic horror game, really scary.” As much as I did enjoy scary things, I’d never played any horror video games.

As he played some shiny computer game on his PC behind me, I sat at his old-fashioned tube TV and started my adventure in Spencer Mansion.

I remember that summer as being full of jump scares, zombie dogs, and the horror that is Lisa Trevor. I remember that summer as being the one where I fell in love with Resident Evil.

I didn’t have the systems capable of playing Resident Evil 2 or 3 at the time, so I skipped straight to Resident Evil Zero, also for Gamecube. Yeah, it was… fun! I mean, the dynamic was a little trickier, but the story was still pretty solid and the combat seemed more fluid. So far, so good.

Then came Resident Evil 4. Oh, my sweet baby. This game got me through some of the toughest years of college. I played it once and fell in love. Played it again, just to find more treasures. Played it again when I found out that I could get an infinite rocket launcher. Again, again, again, and it never got tiring — well, of course, except for Ashley. She sucks. (“LEON!!!”)

After that, well… things sort of went downhill.

I waited four long years for Resident Evil 5. Four long, patient years. I DID MY WAITING! And then when it came out…

Fart noise. That’s the only thing I can use to describe it.

I mean, the update to a secondary character not being a complete burden was nice. Sheva was cool and could take care of herself. But there was just something… lacking. I mean, wow, another exotic locale infected by a parasite. Another village I have to mow down. More big bosses. A few extremely frustrating vehicle chase scenes. While I can recall El Gigante from RE4 and Lisa Trevor from RE1, I can’t recall a single memorable moment from RE5 other than gross-jelly-monster-Wesker. And at that point it’s like, okay. I don’t care.

Truth: I didn’t even finish playing this one for almost two full years. I only picked it up again because I heard Resident Evil 6 was coming out and thought, well, I guess I should.

So I finished it. Weeeeeeee.

Surely, I thought. Surely Resident Evil 6 will soothe my aching heart, hold me close to its spooky bosom and tell me everything’s going to be all right, then scare the shit out of me.

Nope. Between the jittery story shifts and the lackluster story I was just… not impressed. To this day I haven’t finished it, and RE6 came out in 2012.

So. Four more years of waiting in Azkaban and now here we are. I sort of suspected maybe Capcom was done with Resident Evil. In my opinion, their issue was that the games started to mimic the horrendous film series far more than its original eerie ancestor. Now, to be fair, it’s not that the film series itself is terrible. Not great, no, but not terrible. It’s just… not in the spirit of the original Resident Evil. It’s far more “ACTION SHOOT GUNS GUNS FLIP BULLET TIME WOOOOO” than “creeping alone through a dark mansion, trying to find clues, unraveling a mystery.” And for the box office, I get it. But not for my console.

That being said, when my husband played the Resident Evil 7 trailer for me yesterday, I was cautiously guarded, like a shelter dog who’s been adopted and returned one too many times. I can no longer give you my heart, Capcom. You have stomped on it again and again.

And then, well, god dammit.

That ambiance. That song. EVERYTHING ABOUT IT. OH GOD I WANT TO LOVE IT, CAPCOM, I WANT TO, BUT HOW DO I KNOW YOU WON’T HURT ME AGAIN?!

So I downloaded the 17-minute playable teaser today, which is apparently not actually part of the gameplay — but meant to give you an idea of the upcoming game, due for release in January 2017.

And god dammit.

It’s good. Like, really really good. Much less “The Matrix” and far more “Texas Chainsaw Massacre.” While some may cry “WALKING SIMULATOR!” that’s far from the case. There are clearly inventory items, things to pick up and investigate, and action happening. Not to mention the utter genius of the VHS tape you pick up.

I won’t spoil much, but when I figured out that the VHS tape I had slid into the VCR wasn’t just something I was watching, but something I was now PARTICIPATING in “Ghost Adventures” style? Well, from that point, I was hooked.

The end of the teaser only cemented what I had begun to suspect from the start: Resident Evil 7 has returned to its horror roots. I actually felt my heart pound as I hurried for the back door. I was terrified as I scrambled through my virtual inventory for the key. I was relieved when the door opened and I saw the sunlight — but as you might have guessed, it’s just not that easy.

The final thing we are left with, for now, is this cryptic message:

The Family is expecting you early 2017
Open the door to the "Resident Evil Ambassador Program" #re7

You better believe I have already applied for said program and can’t wait to hear back. I’m also very excited to see Capcom actively reaching out to its audience, looking for feedback, getting us involved. I have so much to say. I don’t want to give up on you. I want this to be as good as it looks and not a total bummer, like so many games of the past.

I have hope for you, Resident Evil 7. Don’t let me down. TC mark