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50 Raunchy ‘Truth Or Drink’ Questions That Will Get The Entire Party Wasted

Posted: 20 Jun 2016 08:00 PM PDT

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Truth Or Drink is a very simple game.

First, a member of the group poses an extremely personal question to the rest of the players. Then, everyone who’s participating must either answer the question honestly, or drink.

There’s only one rule to keep things interesting: Questions cannot be “Yes” or “No” in nature, as drinking usually indicates the more scandalous of the two answers.

If you’re stuck for open-ended questions, here are 50 sexy starters that will get the game rolling:

1.

If you had to sleep with one person in this room, who would it be?

2.

What's the raunchiest porn you've ever watched?

3.

What's the hardest drug you've done?

4.

What's the most degrading thing you've ever done during sex?

5.

Who's the most inappropriate person you've ever fantasied about?

6.

What's the most embarrassing thing you've ever done while drunk?

7.

What's the biggest lie you've ever told a significant other?

8.

How many people in this room would you willingly bang?

9.

What's the most embarrassing item you've ever used to get yourself off?

10.

What was the last thing you masturbated to?

11.

What's the #1 thing you would never want your parents to find out about you?

12.

What was the worst sex you ever had?

13.

What's the kinkiest thing you've ever done?

14.

Which of your exes would you still be willing to sleep with?

15.

What's the biggest secret that you're keeping from everyone in this room?

16.

What's your magic number?

17.

What's the biggest age difference you've had between yourself and a sexual partner?

18.

What's the kinkiest sex toy you've ever used with a partner?

19.

What's the most scandalous location you've had sex in?

20.

What's the most disgusting habit you have?

21.

What's the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to you during sex?

22.

What's your biggest turn-on?

23.

What's your biggest turn-off?

24.

How long has your longest dry spell been?

25.

What – if any – amount of money would you be willing to have sex with a stranger for?

26.

What's the most embarrassing TV show that you watch?

27.

What's the furthest you've gone sexually with a member of the same sex?

28.

Which sexual act are you best at?

29.

Which sexual act are you worst at?

30.

Are you more dominant or more submissive in bed?

31.

What's the dirtiest thing a partner's ever asked you to do?

32.

What's the most illegal thing you've ever done?

33.

Where's the most inappropriate place you've ever masturbated?

34.

What's the most desperate thing you've ever done because you were horny?

35.

What's your most outrageous sexual fantasy?

36.

What was the last thing you cried over?

37.

How many sex toys do you own?

38.

What's the longest you've gone without showering?

39.

What's the most embarrassing thing you've ever been caught doing?

40.

How often do you fake orgasms?

41.

What's the hottest sex you've ever had?

42.

What is your biggest sexual regret?

43.

What's the dirtiest sext you've ever sent?

44.

What's something you've done while drunk that you would never do sober?

45.

What's the closest you've ever come to cheating?

46.

Who's the most scandalous person you've had sex with?

47.

How many of the people you've slept with did you meet online?

48.

What's the least amount of time you've known someone for before sleeping with them?

49.

What's the most bizarre sexual role-play you've ever participated in?

50.

Which of these questions would you be the most mortified to answer? TC mark

12 Warning Signs You’re Dating A Total Jerk

Posted: 20 Jun 2016 07:00 PM PDT

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Does it feel like your relationship is a roller coaster that you just can't seem to step off of? Do you go from happy to sad at the drop of a hat? Have you stayed up late picking your friends’ brains about your partner's behavior?

If you found yourself nodding to these questions, it's time to consider the strong possibility that you might be dating a jerk.

In the past I've talked about the signs you're dating a narcissist, but the garden variety jerk is something that I haven't talked about much yet. Clearly, there are more obvious things jerks do, like lie, cheat and steal, but what about the more subtle signs that you're dating one? The answers lie largely in how they make you feel.

Note: Jerkiness is NOT gender specific, so what follows can be applied to both men and women.

Here we go:

1. You make excuses for their behavior.

When they let you down, you tell yourself (or worse, your friends and family) the most seemingly logical reasons why they let you down (he was tired, she was busy at work) but deep down you know better. Their behavior sucks, and you're doing your best to rationalize and explain it away.

2. Their attention feels like a drug.

When they show you attention, you feel happy. When they let you down for the 23rd time this month, their withdrawal hits you right in the gut. If they're running hot, you can relax a little, but watch out when they go cold. Your emotions, thoughts and feelings hinge on their actions in an unhealthy way.

3. They toss you crumbs.

One night they may stand you up completely and text you the next day happily like nothing happened. You might have no luck getting a response one day, but the next they are completely on top of the communication. They have a hard time making time for you. You feel like you're dead last on their priority list.

4. They regularly flake on you.

You've come to realize that all plans with them are "tentative" since they only come through for you some of the time.

5. You feel "crazy" or "unhinged."

When the other person goes hot and cold, your emotions cycle from downright bliss to abject depression. A little bit of attention from them is enough to make you wonder if you're going off the deep end. The crumbs of their attention combined with the excuses for their behavior is enough to make you wonder if it's all in your head.

6. They insist that you do everything to their standards.

You might not even know what their standards ARE, but it feels like whatever you do is wrong. They are critical of efforts that you make even in good faith. The relationship feels difficult.

7. You feel like you have to chase them to get your needs met.

Because they don't really have your best interests at heart (or even vaguely on their minds), getting appreciation, encouragement or even acknowledgement is an uphill battle. They may make vague promises that they don't keep.

8. They don't ever ask about you.

They don't really seem to want to know much about you. Your conversations can be deep and wonderful (because they managed to hook you in the first place) but over time it becomes clear that they don't really seem to take much interest in you besides when you're in their immediate company.

9. When you need them, they're too busy.

Need a favor? Need help moving? They are nowhere to be found or have a lame excuse for why they can't help you.

10. They're selfish.

It feels like you're constantly dancing to the beat of their drum rather than the other way around. When given the choice between doing something nice for you or themselves, you suspect they'd choose themselves every time.

11. They're disrespectful and use "humor" to insult you.

They make mean jokes at your expense. They might call you a mean-spirited pet name like "bitch" or "asshole." When you get offended and speak up about their disrespect, they try to claim that it was all a joke. Even worse, they accuse you of being the sensitive one. They may tame it for awhile but over time their disrespect creeps back into your interactions.

12. They use how "damaged" they are as an excuse when you get upset at their poor behavior.

As a fun, zany hybrid of excuse-making, they blame their shabby relationship behavior on "being damaged," "previous bad relationships," "not being sure how to love again" and/or "having trust issues." If they're particularly jerk-y, they'll resort to sob stories and let you feel sorry for them AND make up your own excuses.

This might be the case if you find yourself thinking, "all I have to do is be nice to them, they've been through so much." It puts you in the position of wanting to heal their broken wing by being particularly forgiving. The shitty part about this is that while you're "being understanding," they're learning just how much they can get away with. TC mark

This post originated on Attract the One.

Send These 50 Texts To Your Partner If You Want To Have The Hottest Sex Of Your Life Tonight

Posted: 20 Jun 2016 06:00 PM PDT

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1. I’m already naked. I’m already wet. All you have to do is get your ass over here.

2. I just masturbated to a picture of you, but now I want the real thing.

3. I’ve already started touching myself, but you should feel free to come over here to finish me off.

4. Guess what’s waiting for you at home? Hint: Handcuffs are involved.

5. I’m thirsty. I need your come in my mouth. Or dripping down my chest.

6. What do you get when you cross whipped cream with my naked body? Get over here to find out.

7. My bed is empty, and my pussy is soaking wet. Which problem do you want to fix first?

8. If you get home late again, I’m going to spank you. But If you get home early, I’ll spank you even harder.

9. I don’t know if I want you in my pussy or my ass tonight. Help me figure it out.

10. Should I search for my vibrator or are you going to use your tongue on me tonight?

11. I’m walking around the house naked, wishing you were here to watch.

12. Would you rather have me send you pictures of my tits or my ass?

13. I’m about to hop in the shower. You should come help me soap up my body.

14. I had a wet dream that I gave you the most intense orgasm of your life. Want to make it a reality?

15. I want your cock in between my thighs. Or in between my lips.

16. I’m horny as fuck and you’re the only one who can help me.

17. Imagine thrusting yourself into me while I’m bent over the kitchen table, because it’s what’s going to happen later. 

18. I’m feeling extra kinky today. Any ideas?

19. I’m trying on the new lingerie I bought. Want me to send pics?

20. Don’t touch yourself today. I want you to orgasm as hard as you can tonight.

21. Come to bed, so I can make you come.

22. I want to feel your lips against my neck, and then I want to feel my legs draped around your neck.

23. Screw romance. Tonight, I want to fuck you like an animal.

24. We should stay in tonight, so we can eat dinner on the couch and then eat each other out.

25. I’m stuck at my yoga class right now, but I want to try some of these poses out in bed later.

26. I want you to fuck me until I’m too sore to get to work tomorrow.

27. Tonight, I’m going to make you come harder than you ever have before.

28. Don’t tire yourself out too much today. I have something special in store for you tonight.

29. On a scale of one to sixty-nine, how kinky do you want sex to be tonight?

30. I hope you don’t mind that I borrowed your boxers. They’re the only thing I have on.

31. I’m going to scratch up your back and leave a handprint on your ass.

32. As soon as I see you, I’m either going to go down on you or get on top of you.

33. I’m going to let you to tie me up and do whatever the hell you want to me.

34. I’ve been watching porn, and now I can’t stop thinking about letting you come all over my face.

35. I want my tongue jammed down your throat and then dragged across your shaft.

36. I’d tell you what I’m wearing right now, but I wouldn’t want to get you hard while you’re at work.

37. Fuck me from behind while you play with my ass. I know you want to.

38. I’m going to make you orgasm with my mouth. And then I’m going to make you orgasm while you’re inside of my pussy.

39. Get in your car now. I can’t wait another second to screw you.

40. Tonight, I’m going to take things slow and tease you until you beg me to stop.

41. I want to hear you moan my name as you slide inside of me.

42. Warning: The second we’re alone, every piece of your clothing is going to get torn off.

43. I’ll be in bed by the time you get home. Wake me up with oral, and I’ll return the favor later.

44. If you were here right now, your dick would be hard as a rock.

45. I can’t get any work done today. All I can think about is sucking your cock.

46. Remember when we fucked on the beach? Let’s do that again.

47. I’ve been reading an erotic novel, and now I want to create a steamy story of our own.

48. I’m tired of acting like an angel. I’m going to be as dirty as I can tonight.

49. If you love me, you’ll fuck me like you hate me tonight.

50. I’m soaking wet, just from talking to you over the phone. Imagine what would happen if you were here next to me.  TC mark

39 People On What They Learned About Sex The Hard Way

Posted: 20 Jun 2016 05:00 PM PDT

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Found on AskReddit.

1. The first time I came, I thought I’d injured myself.

"I remember the first time that I masturbated the only thing I really knew is that somebody had called it ‘spanking the monkey.’ I was in the bathroom and got hard so I started slapping my penis (albeit lightly) until I orgasmed. Oh, and I had no idea that orgasming was a thing, so that scared me to death. I assumed that I had injured myself somehow and that’s why my dick was spewing out this weird stuff and I suddenly had no sexual drive."


2. I thought “sex” was when a man peed all over your body.

"I went to a Catholic school. We had 'sex ed,' except they only taught us what happened once the sperm had already reached the egg…leaving us to wonder how the hell sperm got anywhere near the vicinity in the first place. In 7th grade, my friend told me that sex was when you are naked in bed with a man, he stands up in the bed while you are lying down, and he pees all over your body. I was an idiot and believed this—so the next year, another friend told me she had sex. I laughed and asked her what it felt like to be a human toilet."


3. I thought girls had balls.

"I (13) had to tell my friend (16) that girls do not, in fact, have balls. He argued with me over it for days."


4. I thought girls had penises.

"I found out girls didn’t have penises when I was 12."


5. I thought everyone had penises.

"Growing up, I really thought that everyone had penises, and that girls’ penises just didn’t grow until they turned 18. It took me asking another girl in middle school if her penis had started growing yet to realize how wrong I was."


6. I didn’t know you were supposed to remove the plastic part of the tampon.

"I put my tampon with the plastic that encapsules the cotton part still on. I didn’t know how I was supposed to put it in and that you had to pull out the other plastic. Then YouTube saved me.


7. When I developed pubic hair, I was convinced I was a Neanderthal.

"When I first started developing, there was two things I didn’t understand. First was pubic hair. I was convinced I was a Neanderthal that somehow slipped generations, and I was the only person to have this monstrosity. Second was when my breasts grew and I got some tiny purple stretch marks. Convinced veins in my breast were rupturing. Looking back, I wasn’t too swift. Then a boy did this motion at me in English class. He made a v with his fingers and stuck his tongue in the middle. I thought it was just some goofy gesture, and I went about my day doing it towards everyone."


8. I had no idea how messy sex would be!

"How messy sex would be! They don’t show people with tissue or towels after sex in movies."


9. I thought I was the first human being to discover masturbation.

"When I first learned about masturbation I had no idea it existed at all. I thought I invented it. I was like 'Holy shit, how can nobody else know about this?!' 'How do I let the world know without sounding weird?!'"


10. I didn’t know about the in-out part.

"I didn’t know about the in-out part until I found video porn. I thought you just put it in and left it there."


11. I needed the term “fudge-packer” explained to me.

"Had sex ed, but in my school’s sex ed obviously gay people didn’t exist. Fast-forward two or three years, and the first time I was introduced to anal intercourse as a concept was one when of my classmates called me a 'fudge-packer' and had to explain to a confused me what it meant."


12. I never knew you had to stick it in.

"Never knew you had to stick it in. Always thought you just rubbed the parts together like spreading peanut butter onto some bread. Boy, oh boy, was I wrong."


13. I panicked the first time I came—even cried a bit.

"Didn’t know about masturbation. So when I was masturbating without actually knowing that was what I was doing I came and panicked because I didn’t know what it was and cried a bit."


14. I mistook a bloody tampon for a cloth firecracker.

"I moved the year before sex ed happened in my school district and it was taught the previous year in my new school. There was a bloody tampon outside one of the girls' bathrooms and I was just like, 'WTF is that some kinda cloth firecracker?' and kicked it. My friends looked at me really weirdly and I guess just assumed I was joking."


15. I locked myself in the bathroom and cried for hours when I got my first period.

"I got my first period really early and I didn’t know about periods yet. All I knew was that I was in a lot of pain and my vagina was bleeding. It was terrifying; I thought I was going to die. I locked myself in the bathroom and cried for a few hours until my mom explained what was happening. Also I was under the impression that sex consisted of just sticking it and leaving it in there for a while, motionless, until suddenly the guy ejaculates."


16. I thought after a guy climaxed it would deflate like a balloon really fast.

"I was home-schooled so, while I had 'the talk' I didn’t have sex ed. I thought for whatever reason if a guy got hard there was no other way to get him un-hard unless he climaxed, which a very understanding guy I dated explained to me that it could. When I wasn’t ready for sex, but felt bad I got him so hard. Also for some reason I thought after a guy climaxed it would deflate like a balloon really fast; that is, in fact, not the case. For clarity: The guy I dated (while later being a jerk, but not in this instance) explained to me that his hard-on would go away without needing climax, which I didn’t think was possible until he had to explain it to me!"


17. I didn't realize there was a limit to how far back you could pull on your dick.

"I didn't realize there was a limit to how far back you could pull on your dick. Quite literally RIPPED my frenulum…blood everywhere."


18. I thought blowjobs were just the act of blowing into a guy's penis.

"I thought blowjobs were just the act of blowing into a guy's penis.

So 14-year-old me decided to take a straw into the shower with me, stick it in my urethra, and blow.

It was at that point that I knew I had fucked up."


19. I didn’t know what erections were until I got an obvious one in class.

"I've taken sex ed since (twice, actually), but I hadn’t at the time this happened.

I was in 5th grade, they hadn’t given us sex ed, and we were at that age where we were noticing changes in our bodies. You can probably tell where this story is going to go from the next sentence.

It all happened on pajama day. I was beginning to notice girls, and there were two or three girls in my class that I liked. The teacher told us to get up and get some papers.

But hold the phone! My weenie is standing up on end, sticking out (literally) like a sore thumb. My assumption was that I just had a really big penis and I got up in all my glory. All I can recall is one of my crushes saying. 'Well, that’s disturbing.'

I had no idea what was going on."


20. I didn’t know you can get a shitty STD with only one exposure without a condom.

"I learned that you can get a shitty STD with only one exposure without a condom, that you really do need to get checked if you are sexually active, and men actually will take a condom off if you aren’t vigilant."


21. I had no idea where the clitoris is.

"Where the clitoris is; why don’t you girls just move our fingers up a little?"


22. I was freaked out when I saw an uncircumcised penis.

"I was freaked out when I saw an uncircumcised penis. Had no idea what was wrong with it. My sister on the other hand thought cum was pus…again, didn’t know what was wrong."


23. I thought periods lasted only one day a month.

"I didn’t learn until a senior in high school that a girl’s period lasted longer than one day. I always assumed it was just one day a month, until I made a comment and was told how wrong I was."


24. I thought vaginas were supposed to smell like rotten fish.

"When I was 13 I started working in a seafood market in my little harbor side town. There was a cute girl that worked there and I started flirting with her. Her dad, who also worked there, didn’t like that. He would do little things to torture me and make my job ridiculously difficult but I persevered and not only stayed on at that job longer than he did, but I also ended up losing my virginity to his daughter, who was also a virgin. We dated for like a year so it was all good.

Anyway I’ll never forget something he told me long before it had gotten to the point of banging his daughter. There was some bait that had been left out of the cooler room over night and when we came in the next morning it was rank and stunk up the entire building. We finally found the source and he told me to stick my nose in there and get a good whiff. I did and it was potent. The stuff of nightmares. He looks me straight in the eye and says “if you ever get a girl naked and her pussy smells like that, eat that motherfucker up. Just bury your face in there cuz that’s the best pussy you’re ever gonna find.”

I believed him for the longest time. And though his daughter’s pussy smelled nothing like rotten fish, I longed for the day that I stumbled across this holy grail of vaginas. After breaking it off with his daughter, I set out of a fucking spree, mostly because I was in love with the act of sex, all the while measuring each vagina I came across to the memory of that smell. It didn’t take long. I think the 4th girl I fucked smelled so bad that the stench would fill up the room and linger. I hate to disappoint anyone reading this but once it finally happened and I had that chick laying there with her legs spread, the nauseating odor overwhelming, I realized then that he had been fucking with me. Because he hated me. Then it all made sense. I still hit it and I may have ran directly to the shower afterwards, eyes watering and throat closing up along the way, but I’m proud to say that I did not eat that girl out. Fuck you David.

I think a little sex education may have prevented me from seeking out rotten pussy."


25. I always thought women just peed blood on their period.

"I had a sex ed course in high school, but it consisted of our teacher playing movies every day (like Pirates of the Caribbean). And my parents never had any talk with me. I always thought women just peed blood on their period. So wrong when I woke up one day with ruined undies."


26. I assumed that during sex, my urethra stretched out over the guy’s penis.

"To be clear, I went through sex ed, had many 'talks' with my mom, and was still entirely confused about how the penis would get into my body. (I was 10 maybe?) I had no concept of a 3rd hole, so I assumed my urethra stretched out over the penis. I remember looking at a picture of a urethra and thinking, 'This is going to hurt a lot.' Eventually I figured it out."


27. I thought menstruation only happened once.

"I didn’t learn until 15 that menstruation wasn’t a ‘one off’ thing. Imagine my surprise when I realized that women bleed like once every month."


28. I was afraid of spontaneous ejaculation.

"I had a small amount of sex ed in school. But somehow I had mixed up the meanings of the words 'erection' and 'ejaculation'…so after my teacher was talking about how erections can happen randomly at any time during puberty, 'even just standing in line for the drinking fountain,' I spent a good 2-3 years terrified that I’d just spontaneously bust a nut in my pants without warning."


29. I thought the uterus was the size of the entire abdomen.

"One time in high school biology class we had to do this project where we had a boy and a girl lay down and be traced onto separate large pieces of paper and then the group had to draw organs where they were located.

I thought the size of the uterus was much, much, much larger than it is (like the entire abdomen) and I got laughed at by the girls in our group. They put the testicles in the dude’s thighs, though.

I guess what I really learned that people like to act like they know what they’re doing when it comes to sex, but really they’re just as clueless."


30. I had no clue I was circumcised until I was 20.

"I had no clue I was circumcised until I was 20. I didn’t even suspect until I was at the doctor getting something checked out and they mentioned it in passing. I still have no clue how most things work (21 now). The sex ed classes in my high school were horrible, and we only had to take two. We spent most of the time playing games. Plus, my parents never gave me the ‘talk’ or anything. I didn’t even know what sex was until I was 12."


31. I thought the vagina was like a big, cavernous hole.

"Two main things:

1) The first time I masturbated, I was like 14 and just touching myself casually (with my parents in the same room but around the corner so a little out of sight: still like 3 meters away though). All of a sudden, BAM. I freaked the fuck out. It scared me and I can still remember being so scared. I didn’t know wtf was going on, lol.

2) I had no idea what the inside of a vagina looked like. I thought it was like, a big cavernous hole. I asked my friend when I was like 23 and she corrected me. Lol."


32. When I got my first period, I thought it would last until the day I died.

"When I got my period for the first time, I wouldn’t stop crying and my mother didn’t understand why. Turns out I didn’t get the memo that it’s only for a few days a month. I thought it was permanent, every day, until you die."


33. I didn’t realize that I wasn’t like all the other boys until I started my first period.

"I didn’t realize that I wasn’t like all the other boys until I started my first period at 11. Two days before 7th grade started to boot."


34. I thought babies were made by simply sleeping together.

"I thought babies were made by simply sleeping together. Literally just a man and a woman just sleeping together. We learned about the reproductive system in the 5th grade or so with the sperms and eggs, but sex was never explained. So having the imagination of a child, I just thought that the sperm crawls out of the penis and travels through the distance into the woman’s vagina where the egg cell is. Something like that. Then I dismissed and put it in the back of my mind probably since it doesn’t concern me.

Unfortunately, I never really encountered anyone willing to talk about sex in high school. Only in college, that I realized, that people actually put the stuff in. :/"


35. When I got my first period, I thought I had back pain.

"I went to a Christian school that thoroughly taught us different methods of contraception (bonus!), gave us an immature 'how to' of sex, and then sent us on our merry way. No Talk from parents. When I got my first period, I thought I had back pain. It wasn’t until I saw the blood the next day did I clue in."


36. When I got my first period I thought I had shat my pants.

"I got my first period at age 12 and didn’t knew what was happening. For those who doesn’t have this gift of mother nature: it can be brownish (blood that is old). So I went to my mom crying, thinking I had shat my pants."


37. I didn’t know that ‘accidentally’ putting it in the wrong hole can cause severe pain and even bleeding.

"Suddenly, 'accidentally' putting it in the wrong hole, with or without lubricant, can cause severe pain, and even bleeding."


38. I thought that if you masturbated, you’d get possessed by the Devil and burn in hell.

"I was 11, in a Catholic school. So basically we had a ‘sex ed’ but it wasn’t very … accurate per se. They said ‘If you masturbate, you will get possessed by the Devil and die and burn in hell.’

I was thinking fuck wow I’m never gonna do that.

Several nights later, I got bored so I don’t even know why but I started touching myself and after I climaxed, I remembered what the teacher said and I started crying thinking I was possessed and when I went to school the next day I tried to be emo because I thought that’s what possessed people do and my peers were like oh wow I wanna get possessed too so within a week there was a whole class of possessed ’emo’ kids who were convinced they were going to burn in hell. The teacher was horrified.

I did it again the week after, as nothing happened."


39. I panicked the first time I got a boner.

"I didn’t know anything about sex or nudity, living in a country where the topic is a major taboo, until I was around 16.

And I was always a very curious kid, I wondered how naked people looked like. Especially after looking at all those diagrams in biology classes, and being a good student I had a habit of getting to know everything I studied. One night, at the age of 12 I pretended to sleep for an hour or few. Then I jumped out of bed at 1 AM, made sure everyone was asleep, and proceeded to search for ‘pictures of people without clothes’ on the Internet like the naive curious thing I was.

Then I had the first boner I ever felt, and I didn’t have an idea what was going on. I panicked. Panicked really a lot. I thought my dick was going turn to stone and fall off (and tear my stomach away), and that this was curse of the gods for me crossing the line and looking at indecent things. I went to sleep scared as hell.

…And I didn’t dare to do it again I learned about a thing called ‘porn’ after overhearing a few high-school classmates years, years later." TC mark

Here Is Every State’s Favorite Mexican Food Chain, According To Yik-Yak

Posted: 20 Jun 2016 04:45 PM PDT

Yik-Yak, the usually terrible, but sometimes funny, social media app that allows people to post content anonymously to people within a certain geographic radius recently posed a very very very important question to its users.

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Facebook / Yik-Yak

And the answers might be shocking.

If you’re ready, here’s every state’s favorite chain Mexican eatery:

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And just in case you were wondering, this is what the Electoral Map would look like if these three Mexican chain restaurants were our Presidential candidates.

270toWin
270toWin

Chipotle for President? Tbh, maybe the best thing that could happen right now…

Do you agree with your state’s choice? Was your state too close to call??? TC mark

I’ll Never Forget What It Was Like To Love You

Posted: 20 Jun 2016 04:00 PM PDT

Skye Jones
Skye Jones

I remember rolling over in bed and opening my eyes to the view of your starry face. With a million constellations all over your body. I remember waking up and wanting to kiss you but I didn't want to destroy the way your body seemed to be perfectly sculpted to the bed. The way the sheets fell upon your porcelain skin. I wanted to run my finger tips over your lips until I memorized exactly when they curved up and ran down. I wanted to brush my hand through your hair and tug at the ends to move you closer to me so I could kiss you.

I woke up with nothing but love for you, and I left.

I remember slowly moving my body out of your bed and finding my way around your maze to my clothes.

I remember staring at you and forcing my breath to mimic yours. The thought of losing you seemed too much for me to bear, so I figured that if you lost me, the pain would be much less for me to carry. I was wrong. I remember slowly closing your bedroom door and tiptoeing down the steps. I remember pausing at the door way because I wanted you to wake up and run downstairs to me. I wanted you to call my name and make me stay.

I wanted you. But I did not deserve you.

So I opened the door and left.

I left behind my scent. I left behind my hair tie from the night before. I left behind my favorite song playing on your computer when you open it up again. I left behind my memory of all those nights you held me while I cried softly into your arms. I left behind everything I was when I met you. I left behind my innocence and I left behind my best wishes for you. I could not survive without you and you could not survive with me. I remember the way your lips tasted at 2 in the morning after gas station runs to get slushies. I remember the way you hugged me so tight that I couldn’t breathe. I remember the feel of your favorite white naked souls shirt, the way it was worn in and familiar. I remember thinking how much it would hurt to lose you.

I don't remember when I fell in love but I did, and I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t allow myself to break, not again.

I remember meeting you and suddenly being in love.

I remember the 12 missed calls from you the week after I left. I remember the countless times you drove by my house in the middle of the night. I remember the box outside my house with all the pictures of me in it. I remember you moving on to a different girl.

I remember still loving you. TC mark

27 Men Describe The Specific Reason They Lost Interest In A Girl After 1-3 Dates

Posted: 20 Jun 2016 03:00 PM PDT

daphneemarie
daphneemarie

1. There are some things that are totally in a woman’s control:

Let’s take a walk down the hall of shame:

  • Being boring.
  • Being stuck up.
  • Using her phone all the time during the date.
  • Fetishizing my Asian ethnicity (yes, it can happen to guys too).
  • Acting and talking arrogantly.

2. And there are some things that are out of your control:

The following reasons were due to other issues, but the girls themselves were good:

  • Studying at a faraway college, and only visiting town every now and then.
  • She went through a recent break-up and didn’t feel ready to commit.
  • Moving to a different city or state.
  • Moving to a different country.
  • Home country was different (I met her while visiting that country).

3. For some guys it’s very basic stuff:

The deal breakers:

  • Bad hygiene
  • Boring
  • No purpose in life

4. It helps if you vet the big dealbreakers before you meet:

Found out she had a kid. I don’t want kids. So single moms are a big turn off.

5. This should go without saying, but don’t be a complainer.

The complainer/controller: By the time the first date ended, she had made 15 different complaints about me, and insisted that she’d change me. A couple that stand out, she didn’t like my beard. I shaved before the first date, and she kept complaining about it. The other, I had some logistics problems with my car that made it difficult for me to drive to her, and she both complained about that, and refused to drive to me, or even half way. The last straw: There was a lot of sex talk leading up to the first date, but when we actually met, she made it clear she was going home by herself, and while she did kiss me once, she didn’t do it a second time. Then she texted me later, complaining that I didn’t ask to come home with her, and then got offended when I mentioned making out.

The awkward/disinterested one: We met on Tinder, and she asked me to come to her apartment with food. When I got there she didn’t want the food, seemed to have no idea how to carry a conversation, and then started taking texts and phone calls. I left about 15 minutes after I arrived.

The clinger: After those last two dates, I publicly announced that I was taking a few months away from dating. This old friend from high school asked to hang out and commiserate as friends, but wound up trying to turn the situation romantic. I told her repeatedly that I wasn’t interested in a relationship, but against my better judgement, wound up sleeping with her. She spent the entire weekend attached to me, kept calling dibs on my time, and even though I was kind of blowing her off, tried to have the relationship talk with me. I said no, she didn’t believe me.

6. Sometimes the wishful thinking just wears off:

Seemed good at first but it turned out I had to ignore or overlook too many little annoying things in order to enjoy my time with her.
Sometimes you go into the first date blinded by desire, wishful thinking etc. As time goes your view of the situation clears up and you start seeing the problems. If there are too many red flags this will become apparent within a few dates and I decide to bail.

7. Try not to be completely heartless:

She called me stupid for giving a homeless man $5.

8. And don’t be a fucking weirdo.

On the second date she casually mentioned her husband. When I expressed concern over this (“whoa, what the fuck?!”) she told me that she had married her best friend when they turned 18 because, like, what even is marriage? It’s just a social construct, man.

9. He’s just not that into you:

He’s just not that into you.

If she has bad hygene, seems stuck up, seems boring, lied about her appearance, then the date wouldnt go past #1.

If it goes to date #2, I usually think I see a little bit of possibility. But if I end it after that, its because I discovered that my suspicions were wrong. I just didnt feel a spark.

10. Sometimes they really just are “too busy” ????

She was a really cool person! We had an awesome date and then life sort of got in the way…scheduling conflicts and whatnot. We kept talking for a couple weeks after the date but then we just sort of faded on each other.

11. He doesn’t think YOU’RE interested:

She didn’t seem to interested after two dates, so I didn’t bother asking for a third.

12. The sex was bad:

I wasn’t that into her in the first place and on the second date we were about do the nasty and she jerked my dick so hard that it hurt for like a week.

13. For every guy who’s superficial and picky, there’s this guy:

If I’m totally honest, I haven’t dumped many girls in my lifetime. I’ve been in many terrible relationships, but I’ve only ever dumped one girl and that was because she tried to control/manipulate me. Aside from that, I just like my girl to be human, have a pulse, and sleep on the other side of the bed to me, and put up with my shit..
Not really that picky.

14. Basically, learn how to make interesting conversation (and don’t be a racist):

Usually it’s because we just don’t connect, different world views, goals etc. Almost as common. She’s boring, can’t or won’t hold a conversation, gives one word answers. This indicates one of two things either she’s uninteresting or uninterested. Either way I’ll save us both the hassle.

She was late for our second date.

Was rude to the busboy, he dropped a fork or something on the floor while cleaning a table next to ours and she made some snide comment and then rolled her eyes and flinched every time he came by our table to help clear or serve plates.

One made an overtly racist comment and thought it was okay because “my dad got mugged by a ni**er.”

15. Again, don’t be a fucking weirdo:

She had cats. Eight of them.

16. Don’t make him feel like he’s fighting for your approval:

For guys, it can often feel like they are submitting themselves for judgement on the first couple of dates. I’m pretty much done with her if I feel I’m interviewing for the position of boyfriend.

Instead, the early dates should be about having a good time together to see if you are compatible.

17. Don’t smoke:

She was a smoker. But she also had great tits, so eventually I went back for a 4th and 5th. That was it though.

18. Be interested and interesting:

  • She described herself as a “film and book nerd” but didn’t seem at all interested in talking about either.
  • She was rude to the waiter for no good reason
  • She didn’t show up for the first date and showed up 15 minutes late for the second. In hindsight, going on the second one was a dumb idea.
  • She seemed like she really, really, really didn’t have any interest. Easily the most disappointing one. She was awesome, I met her through friends and they kept telling me she was crazy about me, but after 4 dates of not seeming interested and barely any communication outside I lost interest. Maybe it was some weird attempt at playing hard to get, but it certainly did nothing for me.

19. This should go without saying, but never talk about your ex:

Kept talking about her ex. We were good friends and I knew their history, but if you’re on a date, do not mention them.

20. There’s no chemistry:

The big thing is just lack of chemistry. That’s what those first few dates are for, if I don’t feel it there’s no point in continuing.

21. Seriously, don’t be a fucking weirdo:

I went out with a girl who drank 11 (???) beers over the course of our date, asked me too many questions about where I lived and “what window was mine”. She asked me for a ride home but ended up just having me drop her off at her weed dealers house.

22. In online dating, always use recent pics (and at least one full body). No surprises!

Because most of my dating was online, the biggest ones were those who misrepresented themselves in their profile. Pictures were several years old with significant weight gain, had some sort of undisclosed mental handicap leading to some awkward pauses, had zero consideration for being on time and just sitting there answering with just one word answers were some of the reasons I never pursued a second date.

23. Show up on time:

I am flexible with most things and can cut alot of people some slack, but i hate tardiness. went out with someone 3 times and every time we met up for the date she was late ; and not like 5-10 minutes late either.

24. It’s not all about looks:

Nothing to talk about was the main one. She was an NFL cheerleader and a smart girl, but we didn’t have much in common.

25. Don’t interview him:

Operates date like a job interview. You should be using the time to seduce me.

26. Everyone’s red flags are different:

She doesn’t at least offer to split the check.

27. Remember 1-3 dates is normal. You’ll find someone.

FYI, the vast majority of people you date you’ll only go out with 1-3 times. If you have more then 3 dates with someone, that’s uncommon, and should be considered the exception, not the norm.

Reasons why:

  • Not physically attracted to her
  • Boring/shy/can’t hold her end of an interaction
  • Doesn’t like my jokes/humor
  • Unwilling to be spontaneous and try something new
  • Didn’t offer to pay for her end of thing we did
  • Talks about the future/where things are going/asks me what I think about her (All pretty big signs of insecurity)

Honestly there are so many reasons why I wouldn’t ask a girl out again, but none of them really matter because a girl should just do what she feels is natural for her. If you’re changing your behavior to try and make guys like you then you’re setting yourself up for failure. Ultimately you’ll never be able to be yourself around them and the relationship will never work. If you’re naturally shy, find a guy who likes shy girls. If you’re the type of person that sits on their phone all day, find a guy who doesn’t mind.

TC mark

Why I Decided To Give Up On Us, Rather Than To Keep Fighting

Posted: 20 Jun 2016 02:15 PM PDT

Thought.is
Thought.is

My friends always asked me why I easily turned my back on you, or why I didn’t even try to fight for us harder. They always told me that I should have weighed things thoroughly, that our memories were worth much more than your mistake.

But why weren’t our memories enough for you not to commit that mistake?

Maybe it wasn’t me who was unable to weigh things, maybe it was you in the first place.

“Babe, we were only texting,” you say. Yes, you were only texting for four months while assuring me that you were not talking to anyone else. You only changed her contact name for me to not know. You were only telling her the things you chose not to tell me. You were just interested how her day went. You just wanted to check on her every day.

Yes, you were only texting.

I tried to understand that maybe you just found a friend in her, but when I asked you if you liked her you said you didn’t know, that, I couldn’t understand.

As I looked into your eyes, it all made sense. You had fallen for someone else. And as much as I wanted to lie to myself and believe that the stars I am seeing in your eyes were not just a reflection of the ones in mine, I couldn’t help but notice that I was the only one who wanted to keep on going. I knew there was nothing else left for me to do, but to give up rather than to keep on fighting. TC mark

Why Trusting Someone Is Just As Important (If Not More) Than Loving Someone

Posted: 20 Jun 2016 02:00 PM PDT

Leo Hidalgo
Leo Hidalgo

People consider "I love you" one of the hardest things to tell someone. Those three simple words can leave one tongue-tied, shocked, flushed, elated, or all those things at once. The first time you say it, you're choking on your words struggling to get them out, but soon enough "I love you" comes as naturally as breathing.

There's nothing quite like being in love. The mere thought of his smile makes you stop in your tracks. Hearing her laugh is music to your ears. And when you touch, your skin and bones set fire. The butterflies in your stomach are restless but you know you wouldn't trade this feeling for the world.

But relationships can only go so far based on love alone.

Love is fleeting and though you can feel it in your core, you can't shake the feeling that you need something to anchor it down.

And that's where the trust comes in. whether you'd like to admit it or not, "I trust you" can be one of the hardest things to say – and genuinely mean. Trust doesn't quite feel like butterflies; more like something in your gut telling you that this is right. And those little words may seem so underrated but trust means so, so much.

It wasn't love that broke your heart when you found out the lips that warmed your own touched another’s. You didn't pull your sleeves up a bit higher to hide your scars from her because you were in love. Love never stopped you from questioning his 2 am calls begging for another chance through intoxicated breaths. Because if those happened out of love, love would be enough to save it.

But putting your trust in someone and having them tear it back out is something that perhaps even love cannot heal.

Saying the words, "I trust you" is taking every fragile bone in your body and leaving it in someone's strong hands knowing they'll be perfectly fine.

And when that trust gets broken, the hands that held it, which once seemed strong and safe, now look like knives and you wonder how you could leave something so important in those hands in the first place.

So when someone tells you that they love you, remember that you hold a piece of their heart close to your own, and with it you hold everything beautiful that person has to offer. But when someone says, "I trust you," remember that you walk on thin ice and you carry that person with you. Know that the slightest bend in the road can send your love falling, and no matter how hard you try to lift her back up, her fingers will just keep slipping from yours.

And if you are lucky enough to have both love and trust at the same time, never take them for granted. Do not allow them break any person down to their core so that they never know what these two words mean again. No, instead, build on love and build on trust. Make it so that when these words are spoken to someone you truly care about, you are never questioned. Let them grow so that they only become stronger and so that there is enough to last a lifetime. TC mark

The Second Heartbreak Hurts More Than The First

Posted: 20 Jun 2016 01:15 PM PDT

Jeff Isy
Jeff Isy

When we all had our hearts broken for the first time, we thought our world was over. Heart in shambles, we find ourselves taking a step forward and two steps backwards, all the nights we spend sitting by our bedside looking at photographs and reading past messages, scrolling through Instagram reminiscing it all. The ache in our bones that we constantly tried to fill. We seek solace in the world of alcohol, we spend nights getting wasted, we spend nights out partying putting up smiles for friends to see, to only regret even more the next morning, and that empty hole in your heart still remained as big if not grew in size.

We try to fall for someone else thinking the ache would slowly but surely ebb away,

we end up going through the motions of it all, meeting new people, going on dates, but soon enough, you find that it's almost impossible for you to put the past behind you. When you have dinner with them and at the back of your mind you are smiling because you remembered how you had dinner by the bay with him too. You had to break it to them, that you were not ready for anything serious for a long time, you know how it broke his heart, you saw how their smiles fell as they listened to you explain yourself, all of them were great great guys but you knew how physically and emotionally apart you were from every one of them, and you couldn't help but compare them to your first love, and found that you were constantly fighting yourself fable teow he was still better than all of them.

One day, you wake up with the realisation that closure was prominent and that even if you wanted it or not, you had to move on. You learn to pick yourself up amidst the chaos and still, the occasional tears you shed. You started to read self love books, you found new hobbies, and you found yourself doing things out of your comfort zone, feeling like you are on top of the world.

You learn to love yourself in the midst of having no one to love.

You start to think if maybe you didn't need anyone anymore, and that you were actually happy. Until you met him. The one who came by just as you thought you could settle for nothing but yourself.

You who thought that it was enough and that you were so scarred from how the first relationship ended. You got to know him better, you found yourself thinking about him quite often and that scared you, you questions your wavering heart, who was now almost ready to give this another shot. You played hard to get, not because you wanted to , but the fear of you getting broken once more was stopping you. But he proved himself to you, time after time and you slowly let your walls down. You trusted your gut instinct and you felt that this was it. Everyone has their hearts broken at least once and you are finally not afraid to fall anymore. You thought you could trust him to catch you as you fell.

It was epiphany all over again, you went on dates that were different, you found yourself laughing at his silly jokes, you went on long midnight drives, talking about both your pasts, you listened and so did he. Everything was going great, you relationship started to become stable, you met his friends and he met yours too, you brought him home to meet your family and it seemed as though your life was coming together properly. You start to make all sorts of plans, for his birthday, or even for the monthsaries that were coming up. You started to put more effort into making everything seem perfect, that extra effort you put into putting on a little more makeup, putting on the nice blouse you scored at the store. You started to turn a blind eye against everything that was seemingly falling apart.

You told yourself this was just the two of you getting comfortable. You were so invested in the relationship, you failed to see beyond all the cracks you desperately tried to mend. You allowed every mistake to occur and you were quick to forgive without any explanation. You placed him first over anyone and everything else. It was eating you away and

you started to lose yourself in the midst of loving him.

It began to snowball into you just accepting things as how they were. Months past, things never got any easier. He got really busy and so did you. But was what different was that you were the only trying, harder than anyone to hold it together. Fights started to occur and so did the distancing.

He was constantly making excuses that he couldn't meet you. You said you understood. But you didn't. One day maybe because you were just doing too much that he felt that enough was enough, and he just left. He left in the midst of your plans to throw him a surprise picnic at the gardens. He left you hanging, so fast that when he left, you were in such a state of shock, you thought he was kidding. He left so abruptly that you are stranded on your own. Just when you thought it was all well again.

You picked yourself up after the first time your relationship failed and yet again you find yourself lonelier than before. He left you no note, no apology and there he was, out the door.

The second heartbreak hurts more than the first,

because you have handed him your broken heart thinking he would mend it, but instead he hammered it into smaller shards and stabbed you with it.

He left you with nothing but opened wounds, he left you without a closure, and the mess he has made in your heart. He expects you to pick yourself up just like how you had to the first time. This is why it hurts so much more. TC mark