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36 People Spill The Dirty Details About The Sluttiest Thing They’ve Ever Done

Posted: 02 Jun 2016 08:00 PM PDT

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When They Said Time Heals Everything, They Lied

Posted: 02 Jun 2016 07:00 PM PDT

Jenavieve
Jenavieve

“I want more days without you.. infinite days. Not just tomorrow, next week or next month. I want you to forever be gone from my heart and my mind.”

I found this note written on a small paper in my bedroom. Hidden between pages 253 and 254 in my favorite book. And then I laughed.

How could you wish to forget someone who once meant the world to you? Who was once your happiness? Who was once the one you loved? Is it possible for us to forget someone simply by deleting them in our phone directory or blocking them on Facebook? Is it possible for us to continue our lives without even thinking about them?

I don’t know. I don’t know if I could.
Because as much as I want to forget you, you’re always there.

Every time I look at my gallery, you are there.
Every time I read my favorite book, you are there.
Every time I drink my coffee, you are there.
Every time I listen to my mix tapes, you are there.
Every time I try to sleep, you are there.
Every time I read poetry, you are there.

You’re always there, in my dreams, in my head and in my heart. I still remember how it feels – you holding my arms tightly; your hands were so warm and soft.

How could you live with that?
Leaving me too many memories to remember.

I’ve been aching for years now, and I understand why I end up writing scribbles and prose about you.

About “US”

I write because somehow it helped me to reduce the pain of remembering you. I sip my coffee every morning, remembering how it tasted the last time I had it with you.

Honey, you’re my caffeine; you are addictive and tasteful.

I was nothing but stoic on the day when you learned how to walk away from me. Looking at you slowly disappearing into the horizon hurt so much and I knew that was the end of having you. Each step you took brought distance, separating us and all the good days we had.

You’re like a stain that never fades away.

Who told you that time heals all wounds and pains? Time doesn’t heal anything. You just have to move forward with your life because you have to, because you need to.

You carry the wounds forever, until you learn how to handle it and forget it for a little while and then you feel it again. It’s always there, the pain and the sorrow of losing someone who was once the reason for your happiness.

That’s how it works. That’s how I try to move on from you, dealing with pain everyday. TC mark

30 Empowering Quotes That Will Help You Believe In Yourself Again

Posted: 02 Jun 2016 06:00 PM PDT

 Paolo Raeli
Paolo Raeli

1. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." ― Eleanor Roosevelt

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2. “If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” — Vincent van Gogh

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3. “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

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4. “Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.” — Peter T. McIntyre

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5. “When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” ― Helen Keller

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6. "I am the greatest; I said that before I even knew I was." – Muhammed Ali

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7. “Don’t waste your energy trying to change opinions … do your thing, and don’t care if they like it.” — Tina Fey

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8. "I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." — Maya Angelou

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9. "Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life." – J.K. Rowling

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10. "Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world." – Harriet Tubman

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11. "People are capable at any time in their lives, of doing what they dream of." – Paulo Coelho

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12. "Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do." – Steve Jobs

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13. "Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray." – Rumi

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14. "You have enemies? Good; that means you have stood up for something, sometime in your life." – Winston Churchill

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15. “You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

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16.  “People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.” — Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

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17. "The beautiful thing about fear is that when you run to it, it runs away." – Robin Sharma

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18. "Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid."– Albert Einstein

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19. "You must be the change you wish to see in the world." – Gandhi

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20. "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." – Dr. Seuss

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21. "You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream." – C. S. Lewis

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22. "For what it's worth … it's never too late, or in my case too early, to be whoever you want to be. There's no time limit. Start whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. There are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people who have a different point of view. I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you're not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again." – F. Scott Fitzgerald

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23. “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” — Oscar Wilde

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24. "You don't become what you want, you become what you believe."  — Oprah

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25. "There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." – Albert Einstein

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26. "Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself." – George Bernard Shaw

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27. "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection" – Buddha

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28. "Your love makes me strong, your hate makes me unstoppable" – Cristiano Ronaldo

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29. " Don’t ever let somebody tell you… You can’t do something. Not even me. All right? You got a dream… You gotta protect it. People can’t do something’ themselves, they wanna tell you you can’t do it. If you want something’, go get it. Period." – Will Smith

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30. "Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light." – Brené Brown.  TC mark

When You’re The One Who Cares Too Much

Posted: 02 Jun 2016 05:00 PM PDT

María Victoria Heredia Reyes
María Victoria Heredia Reyes

You get hurt. You feel like you're the one who gets let down the most. You feel disappointed in people when they don't do something you would do for them. You let your feelings dictate your emotions, but you can't help it and there is nothing wrong with it.

There is always one who cares more, there has to be one that cares more. Everyone has experienced times in their life when they are head over heals for someone who merely thinks they are a friend. There are times when its opposite and we can't stand the person who thinks the world of us. It happens, because someone has to care more.

But honestly, who cares if you're the person who cares too much and cares more. Why does that have to be a bad thing? Even though you feel like you set yourself up to get hurt sometimes with your big heart and grand expectations it doesn't make you weak, it makes you strong because you don't give up. You're resilient.

You always see the best in people no matter how many times you've been broken or let down and that's freakin' awesome.

Who cares if you try harder, who cares if you love harder and who cares if you care 'too much' because someone is going to fall in love with you over those qualities. They are going to love how you care so deeply about everything. They are going to laugh when you start crying in a movie that wasn't even sad, but to you it meant something because you think harder about things.

It's been known that the one who cares less has more power in the relationship and while that might be true to some, I think it's definitely bullshit. You shouldn't change who you are. You shouldn't stop caring to seem cool and to cover up what you're feeling because that is no way to live.

The way you care so deeply about everything is such a blessing, even if it does feel like a curse from time to time. It allows you to feel everything more and experience moments that others miss out on by covering their emotions. Things mean more to you and that is rare, and you should cherish it.

Stop thinking it's better to care less or not care at all. The world needs more caring people; the world needs the soul inside of you.

So, care too much because most of the people don't care at all. Be the person who always follows through with their plans. Keep your promises and words to people because you don't want to let them down. Be the person who loves unapologetically every single time because the world needs more people who care.

Don't let the world make you cold because that is the last thing you need is another person who doesn't give a shit. Be you, wear your heart on your sleeve, scream your emotions from the rooftop, care and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. TC mark

Let’s Be Bored Together Forever

Posted: 02 Jun 2016 04:00 PM PDT

kirstylee
kirstylee

When you grow tired of partying every weekend
When you grow tired of hungovers on Sunday mornings
When you get sick of waking up alone or next to someone you have nothing in common with When you get sick of your same old routine
When you realize that Life is just boring
Remember me.
When you grow tired of chasing the wrong people
When you grow tired of empty feelings and compromises
When you realize that there's something more worth trying
I will be here.
And you'll feel good
You'll feel whole
You'll feel like you're special again.
You won't mind boredom
You'll enjoy the little things
Because you feel alive with me.
When you are ready to step out of your comfort zone
Come and ask me to share this lifetime with you
As a friend, as a confidante, as your loyal companion
As a caring lover
Let's brighten up the next 50+ years we have left
Let's make forever seem like Heaven
Let's intertwine our bodies and souls
Let's breathe
Let's rest
Let's be bored to death together
And fall happily into oblivion. TC mark

This Is What It’s Actually Like To Date A Sociopath

Posted: 02 Jun 2016 03:00 PM PDT

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We talk about the bad boyfriends, the crazy girlfriends, the people that damage our egos or make us the insecure people we are today. But we don't call them out on what they really are. The word is sociopath. They are scary, hurtful, handsome, beautiful, kind, caring, destructive, manipulative, over-protective, demeaning and so on. The devil is handsome, they say. Well, sociopaths can be too. They can be well-hidden, living completely normal lives and having normal relationships, at least that you know of. Believe me when I tell you, I've crawled on my hands and knees through hell with a few of them. I have the scars to prove it.

It all begins when we're young, doesn't it? When we're too young to know what love is and the times where respect is limited. Some of us come from divorced parents who skew our outlook on love and relationships and others just want to find the love they see in their homes every day. We fall for the older, handsome boy or the beautiful, popular girl and we think we've hit the jackpot. We think we have found someone, at this ripe, young age, that will love and care for us forever. What a twisted joke in the circle of life, am I right? Adults call us naive at the time and our hurt is just something we face with the age. I don't think that is true. Not everyone gets tangled up in a downward spiral of an abusive relationship.

Let's dabble into what a sociopath lives for: Control, is a main thing. They love to feel power and a sense of urgency. They want to make you feel like they are the only one in the world who will ever put up with you, or love you, so that you can't breathe when they're not around. They want to hold your heart and lungs in both hands and squeeze them, just enough to make you believe they are your life line. It's like they are orchestrating the rhythm of your heart beat. They are the ones who become offenders of domestic violence, the rapists, the offenders of aggravated assault, the attempted suicides and sometimes worse. They want to make everything about them and everything your fault. The entire world seems to be against them and they've done nothing wrong to deserve that. They cheated? It's because you did something wrong, made them mad, they think you're cheating or plainly because you didn't put out. They'll make you feel sorry for them, so that you will never leave them, because they might kill themselves over it. They want to scream at you, punch the steering wheel of their car and tell you how much they need you and that they aren't crazy. Manipulation is terrifying.

They want to make you feel like you're safe. They always want to know who you're with and what you're doing, because deep down they are so insecure it's terrifying. They want to control who you spend your time with, because if they don't have 100 percent of you, they don't know how to function. They want to control your whole life, including your money, your time, and your heart. That is what fuels their whole being. You start to abide by this and only hang out with them, because it's much easier than hurting and fighting. Sooner or later you've lost everyone and now you're even shutting your phone off, or hiding it in your purse downstairs when you're at their house. God forbid someone texts you, they'll spaz, because let's face it, you're not giving them enough attention and you're probably cheating on them. A week later and you're on a "break," because you're a bad girlfriend. Now he's sleeping with someone else and that's totally your fault; you made him do it. So now you're feeling like you can't breathe. He can't leave you, how will you live? Squeeze that heart and those lungs a little tighter, sociopathic freak.

There are a lot worse things that can and maybe will happen. You might be manipulated, or even forced to do things you don't want to do, just to make them happy. You might find yourself crawling into a deep depression, but not believing they are the cause. You might start controlling the only things you have left, like your eating habits, or lack thereof, just to feel like one thing in the world is still yours. One day, you might even think you're rid of that person. You might have broken things off and you've been intertwined with another sociopath for the last few years, thinking you're happy than ever! And maybe one day that first demon will come back. They'll win you over with that amazing smile and you'll be hooked back up to that IV again. Maybe this time, they'll hurt you so bad, you'll never be the same person again. Maybe they'll take the light from your eyes and make it so dark, you're not sure if you can go on. Maybe. Sociopaths don't come with a disclaimer, so you never know.

When you read "abusive relationship" you assume it means physical violence and that surely couldn't be something you'd ever put up with. Also, you definitely don't count all the times they punch a wall next to your head or shattered glass across the room; that's not abuse, right? Let me remind you that physical is not the only type of abuse. Just because they aren't connecting their fist to your head, arm, stomach, leg, wherever, does not mean you're not being abused. Emotionally and mentally abusive relationships are just as bad and sometimes worse than physical ones. Never let another person make you feel like your abuse isn't as bad as theirs. Sociopaths and their effects come in all different shapes, sizes, genders and packages. They are the monsters, ready to grab your ankles from under your bed. They are the people that unleash the demons in your soul, that you never thought would surface. They make you happy, make your heart race, give you a sense of safety and love, and then rip it all away in one moment. Back and forth you will fight, to try and clutch onto them with everything you have, because you don't want to see them go. You cry every single day, but you "love" them, so how can you leave? This is all part of the game. Don't allow yourself to be a tired, worn-out, injured athlete in the 2016 Abusive Olympics. It's tiring, draining, and emotionally damaging for everyone who is involved.

A quick word of advice to the readers who may or may not be going through this: get yourself out before it's too late and you are just a shell of the person you used to be, believe me. It has taken me years to settle with the emotion damage I have gone through and I am still working on it today and every day. Don't be mad at the friends who try and push you to let go of your relationships, they are just trying to help. One day they will give up on you though, because there's only so much a person can say or do to help and they don't want to watch it happen anymore. Don't be mad at them for walking away from you, just look at yourself and the choices you are making. So many people are blinded by this skewed "love" and I pray for those people every day. I wouldn't wish on anyone what I went through, so get help and identify what is happening in your life. It is not love, believe me. It is hell. TC mark

This Is Why It’s So Hard To Leave An Abusive Relationship

Posted: 02 Jun 2016 02:00 PM PDT

Tony Ciampa
Tony Ciampa

He was good. Good in the sense that his intricate web of lies aligned just enough with my self-doubt that he had me hooked. He had me just where he wanted me, until he didn't.

Domestic violence is just that – intricate. I have heard so many people debate the simplicity of the matter. People think getting away from an abuser is simple. They think you just leave. But what they don't realize is that not leaving doesn't make you weak. It is the very thing that makes you strong.

I can't describe to you the exact way I felt the first time my boyfriend wrapped his hands around my throat and tried to strangle me. It was surreal really. I was in disbelief that his hands, the ones I used to so graciously hold, were now wrapped around my neck cutting off my air supply.

What was even harder to imagine was still loving someone with purity after that. Forgiveness is a funny thing, because it often comes with expectations. That is, expecting the person not to repeat the same act that led to such pain and disappointment. And that is the very thing that abusers are so good with. Making the same mistakes over and over again and convincing you somehow that every time is different.

That ferocious man – the one that on numerous occasions deemed it acceptable to put his hands on me – also came in the form of a very amicable man capable of love. And I loved that man with every single part of me. What I couldn't accept for a very long time was that loving that amicable man also meant loving the ferocious one. And the truth is: you can't do both.

My abuser did everything to drown me and then everything to keep me afloat. Clarity was always lacking when I tried to figure out his intentions. I was his soul mate, but then I was a fat whore. I was the love of his life, but then the stupid bitch who knows nothing. And after months of trying to figure out which one he meant more, I realized that who I am would never be for him to decide.

Even though those words – his filthy collaboration of belittling phrases – still remain unsettling, I am at peace knowing that they are of no value. I have realized that the only way to truly love someone is to respect them, and respect was infinitely lacking when it came to my abuser. Most importantly, I have realized that everything he did had everything to do with him, and absolutely nothing to do with me. Perhaps that is the most profound.

You see, abusers thrive off of their incessant need to control you. They turn truths into doubts, and perpetually tell you that everything is a direct response to your faults. And after months or even years of replaying this concept to yourself, it is only when you are out that you can see the true invalidity of it.

So even though some days are plagued by memories of him, there is much more sunshine on the outside than there ever could have been on the inside. I refuse to let this situation victimize me, but I do highlight the strengths that have become pronounced as a result of it. As Maya Angelou once wrote, "I may be changed by what happens to me, but I will not be reduced by it." TC mark

17 Men Confess Exactly How They Wish Women Would Flirt With Them

Posted: 02 Jun 2016 01:00 PM PDT

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“Offer to buy me a drink, I’m serious. I’d feel extremely flattered and be instantly interested in you.”

—James, 26

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“If you slowly and deliberately run your fingers through my hair while smiling at me I will instantly notice. There’s certain kinds of touching that are intimate without being sexual and I love that kind of touching from a woman who’s flirting.”

—Isaac, 28

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“Personally, I’ve been trained by life to not assume I’m being flirted with. As a result I can never tell I’m being flirted with. About a month ago a girl was talking to me at the grocery store of all places about produce. Dope that I am, I figure she just wants to talk about lettuce for five minutes. Just when I was about to go on my way, lettuce in hand, she says “I’m flirting with you.”

It was the most amazing thing ever. We’ve been on a bunch of dates since then and we really like each other.

So, what I’m saying is don’t be afraid to spell it out.”

—Greg, 24

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“Be smart! Please do not play dumb or do the hair twirling, gum snapping dopey girl routine. I’m not saying I don’t want to make out with that girl if she’s for real but if you’re playing dumb then I’m dumb enough to think you’re actually dumb and will then always think you’re dumb.

It screws both of us out of getting to know one another. Be as smart as you are because I’m sure trying to be as smart as possible.”

—Nate, 23

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“Just being nice and having a good conversation with me will get my attention immediately. Good conversation is a total turn-on for me. If there’s nothing to say then it’s just meh.”

—Abraham, 25

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“Black lipstick…that is my kryptonite. Aside from that, sincere compliments. You’d be surprised at how few compliments men actually get. We don’t get them at work. We don’t get them from our friends because ‘that’s gay’ and we don’t get them from random strangers.

A compliment will turn my head.”

—Adam, 24

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“Some men feel differently but I really prefer it when a woman isn’t overtly sexual when she flirts. Subtlety goes a long way. What I’m saying is that touching my hand briefly goes a lot further than talking about how much you love giving head. And yes, that’s absolutely happened.”

—Jason, 29

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“I’m Black and this bit is for White girls. Please do not say anything about ‘Black guys’ this or whatever. I know you might think you’re trying to relate to me but it can come off like you think I’m exotic. To put a positive spin on it, if you want to flirt with me then just say hello, I thought I’d come and talk to you.

That kind of up front ‘hey, I think you’re interesting’ approach really goes a long way with every non-idiot out there.”

—Eric, 22

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“Look me in the eyes for just a little too long and then look away like you’ve been caught. Such a rush.”

—Frank, 24

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“Just be yourself. Don’t feel the need to show how much you can be like the guys. I like the guys but I don’t want to date the guys. Cussing like a sailor and being super rowdy to try and impress me usually has the opposite effect.

Of course, maybe you’re just a rowdy sailor but if you’re not then don’t try to be.”

—Edward, 23

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“Insist on dancing with me. Pull me out there onto the floor. Show me you want to have fun with me and that you’re adventurous.”

—Chris, 24

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“Compliments are a good way for a girl to flirt with me. If I compliment her back then I’m absolutely interested.”

—Stephen, 22

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“It might sound stupid but laugh at my idiotic jokes if you’re interested in me. I tell jokes because I’m trying to make you laugh/help us have a good time. Laughing tells me that, if nothing else, you appreciate the effort I’m making.”

—Charles, 25

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“I don’t know what flirting specifically works for me. It’s different with every girl I’ve ever dated. They were all different. I’ll tell you what doesn’t work. Not talking to me. That doesn’t work.”

—Jim, 25

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“This is pretty next level but if things are going well and we’re both flirting with each other I like to say ‘oh god, you’re flirting with me’ in a playful way. The really skilled flirters I’ve met will deny it to the grave all the while continuing to flirt. It’s so fun and I find it puts us both at ease a bit since it’s basically me saying ‘I like this flirting’.”

—Dave, 27

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“Smiling does not count as flirting if that’s all you’re doing. If a woman smiles at me I will assume she does not hate me. I won’t assume she’s flirting with me.”

—Chad, 26

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“The most intense feeling of being flirted with I’ve ever had was with a woman who was out on the dance floor and looking at me while I sat at a table on the sidelines. Went on for a good ten minutes and by the time she came over to speak to me I would have done anything she asked.”

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If Only I Could Tell You All The Things I’m Thinking

Posted: 02 Jun 2016 12:00 PM PDT

daenyssa
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If I had the courage to tell you all the things I wanted to, this is what I would say. I would tell you that you are not the first thing I think of when I wake up or the last before I go to sleep but everything in between. From sun up to sun down you are constantly occupying my thoughts and no matter how hard I try to fight the thoughts away they just keep coming back like a train at a station, one leaves and shortly a new one arrives. I would tell you that your smile is the most beautiful thing my eyes have ever seen and when it's me that made you smile I feel like I just won the most prestigious prize.

I would tell you that when you say my name I feel like I am by far the most important person in the world, not any queen or any president has ever compared to me. When you laugh I can't help but smile because it means you are happy in that moment. I would tell you that when I see you my heart feels as if it is going to jump out of my chest and run to you begging for you to steal it, and keep it, and take care of it. It is physically in my body but it belongs to you.

I would tell you that I want to get you drunk every time I see you because that's the only time you kiss me and my God I could never get enough of your lips touching mine. The one time I was fortunate to fall asleep with your arms wrapped around me is something I will cherish forever because in that moment any pain I had was overtaken by this sense of comfort. I would have told you I could have spent the rest of my life laying there and nothing else in the world would ever matter.

I would tell you I love you. I would tell you to choose me if that's how love worked but it's not. We don't choose who we love if we did, I wouldn't have chosen you. I wouldn't have chosen someone who doesn't want me. I wouldn't have chosen someone who only kisses me while they're drunk. I wouldn't have chosen to love someone who could honestly have any girl he wanted because those kind of people don't chose me. I wouldn't have chosen someone who I constantly have to try to pry away my feelings from. I wouldn't have chosen someone who I can't tell all these things to you. It's not my choice though.

So I will never tell you any of this and I will pretend like I, too, only also kiss you while I'm drunk. I will pretend to only see you as a friend and I will always act like I am just one of the guys so you don't ever feel you need to run as soon as you see me because you know I am in love with you. I will keep these thoughts locked away as if they were some top secret information that no one can ever know about. My mouth will never speak of what my heart feels. TC mark

An Apology Letter To Taylor Swift — You Deserve Better

Posted: 02 Jun 2016 11:15 AM PDT

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Dear Taylor,

I'm sorry.

No, really. You don't know me, and I don't really know you. But I'm sorry nonetheless.

I'm sorry that despite the success you have obtained over the years — for your music, songwriting, and who you are as a person — people will still turn you and your relationships into punchlines. How after every headline announcing that you have parted ways with someone you cared about, people will make attempts at being clever and post tweets joking about how your next album is around the corner.

I'm sorry that in this day and age, we still live in a culture where slut-shaming is the norm: where we will listen to a man write/sing songs about their relationships and celebrate it, but hear a woman do the same and turn her into a running joke.

While still buying her music, of course.

I'm sorry that when things like this happen the immediate response, from both your diehard fans and others, is usually an overwhelming, "Can't wait to hear your new music!" It's the equivalent of saying "I'm so glad you ended this relationship because I need you to produce more music, and obviously you only put out great music if it's about a breakup!" I'm sorry that even your well-meaning group of Swifties can sometimes have tunnel vision and only see what could come of this news, rather than taking a step back and seeing the reality:

That you just got out of a relationship and you're probably hurting an incredible amount right now.

I will be the first to stand up and say it: I love your music. Every album, from your country self titled to the full pop 1989, I have eagerly and unashamedly bought and listened to repeatedly. I've cried on the floor listening to "All Too Well" and plotted revenge to "Picture to Burn." I've pined after unrequited crushes to "You Belong with Me" and forgotten the haters, fakers, and heartbreakers to "Shake It Off." All of your albums have perfectly resonated with me in different phases of my life, and it has helped me more than I could ever express. Your honesty in your music has partially been my inspiration to be as open and honest as I am in my own writing-because women like you do so unashamedly.

Yet I'm sorry that people, myself included, forget that you're an actual…person.

Breakups, regardless of who ended things with who and the reasons behind it, are devastating. They can leave you broken and vulnerable. So even when someone seemingly can have it all together in front of people, we know that internally they are hurting inside, just like any of us would. We all understand the pain of breaking up by now and if it were ourselves, our best friend, or our sister we would be comforting them and be understanding when they don't want to talk about it; When they are healing after they've been ripped open emotionally. Yet if it's a celebrity-if it's Taylor Swift-we use our 140 characters to roast and poke fun or flood the comment sections on social media with how psyched we are to hear the next album now that she has separated from a relationship.

At the end of the day, you'll heal from this and you'll do it in whatever way you decide. Maybe you will write songs about it, maybe you won't. If you do, maybe you'll decide to keep those to yourself, because you have a right to keep things personal as anyone else does, despite that you're in the spotlight. Maybe you'll cope in an entirely different way that you haven't previously done before, and you know what? That's okay. As long as you do what you have to do to heal.

At the end of the day, I'm sorry we've forgotten that despite everything you've accomplished and everything you're known for, you are a human being just like the rest of us.

I'm sorry we haven't opened our eyes. Here is hoping that today, we will start. TC mark