Thought Catalog

How To Gain Someone’s Respect, Based On Their Zodiac Sign

Posted: 18 Jul 2016 08:00 PM PDT

Noël Alva
Noël Alva


(March 21st to April 19th)

An Aries love a straight shooter, and an independent person. If you have a life outside of your friendship or relationship with an Aries, they will respect you deeply.


(April 20th to May 21st)

The most impressive thing for a Taurus is someone who is simply just honest and real. They hate fake people. They love reliable presences in their life, and will respect those who are not flakey. Gain huge points with a Taurus by letting them do their thing, at their own pace — they hate to be rushed, and really appreciate people who let them take their time.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

A Gemini will respect you if you are well spoken, well dressed, and if you have a wit to you. They appreciate banter and think that those who can shell it out are intelligent and superior to those who cant.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

Cancers always respect those who have good reputations. They are impressed by people who prove that they can be trusted, and often appreciate those who are endearing.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

To impress a Leo it is quite simple. Demand attention, be charming, and look them straight in the eye. They respect anyone who challenges them.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

A Virgo respects anyone who is very well put together. They admire those who have something going for themselves, and who have a plan for their lives.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

Libras respect anyone who has a wit to them. Confident people who have a lot going for them are also very well liked by Libras.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

A Scorpio will respect you if you show them that you are classy and a little weird. They like people who can relate to them when it comes to being odd, and often admire those who are different than most people.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

To impress a Sagittarius, stimulate them. They appreciate and respect people with goals, and will always admire those who have explored the world.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

To gain a Capricorns respect, you must be confident. They are impressed by those who appeal to the inner snob they hold within them, so if you hold a high place in society you can guarantee that a Cappy will find you admirable.


(January 21st to February 18th)

In order for an Aquarius to respect you, you must agree with them. They admire people who think the same way they do.


(February 19th to March 20th)

To gain the respect of a Pisces, all you have to do is simply be a nice person. They really admire creative types who are also affectionate and deep. TC mark

Why People Think You’re Funny, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Posted: 18 Jul 2016 07:00 PM PDT



(March 21st to April 19th)

An Aries has a very goofy and physical approach to humour. They are extremely witty and are some of the funniest people in the Zodiac.


(April 20th to May 21st)

A Taurus is very observational. They don't even realize they are being hilarious because they take from their environment and simply build off of its momentum. They never have a problem with laughing at themselves, and are often the first to make a witty joke about something they did or a blunder they experienced.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

Quick on the uptake, they remember jokes really well and can laugh at just about anything, This sign is most prone to making fun of someone, but not in a mean way, it's usually because they're interested.

The Gemini loves humour. They remember a lot of jokes and can laugh about anything. They will however, never hesitate to make fun of someone. It is usually never mean, instead it is often seen as being playful and flirtatious.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

Often self-depreciating, a Cancer has an odd way of being funny. They tend to make fun of themselves in order to stay guarded, and can usually be found making silly facial expressions to get a quick laugh.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

A Leo will hook you with their humour, and they know it. They have the ability to take in everything around them, and serve funny jokes about those things seamlessly. They will use exaggeration to make people chuckle, and groups will often be found laughing loudly in their presence.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

Virgo tends to use complaints to make people laugh. They will poke fun while being witty about the issues they have with the world, entertaining those around them quite easily.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

Libras tend to be extremely sarcastic, and they love to tell stories that end in howling laughter. Libras are entertainers who will always go on a tangent and tell a long winded memory for a laugh. There's no stopping them when they get started.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

Scorpios are the rulers of sarcasm. They will always have something to say, and can often come off as rude to those who do not know them well enough. They constantly comment on things, and can use passive aggressive humour to get their point across.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

A Sagittarius will turn everything into a funny joke or a hilarious story. They have observational and sarcastic moments when it comes to humour, and those harmonize well to make these easy going Sags the life of the party when they get rolling.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

Capricorns are the bluffing pros in the Zodiac. They can keep a straight face and then they will suddenly burst out laughing at themselves. People can't help but laugh with them when this happens.


(January 21st to February 18th)

An Aquarius is simply funny in a very natural way. They don't try to be a joker or make people laugh, but they do. This bewilders them and often leaves them giggling along out of confusion.


(February 19th to March 20th)

A Pisces will either tell cute, funny stories, or they will be obnoxious with their humour. It is very easy for them to get carried away and spend an hour telling something that loses its comedic appeal very early on. TC mark

This Is The In Depth, Conclusive Proof That Taylor Swift Is ACTUALLY Being Set Up By Kimye

Posted: 18 Jul 2016 06:21 PM PDT

Instagram / Taylor Swift
Instagram / Taylor Swift

These are the facts: in a GQ interview last month, Kim dropped a bombshell condemning Taylor Swift, who denied approving lyrics in Kanye's song "Famous" which referenced her:

"I feel like me and Taylor might still have sex/ Why? I made that b**ch famous."

She said that not only did Taylor approve the lyrics, but that she and Kanye have a recorded phone conversation which proves it.

Kim's claim seems to go against Taylor's official statements made when the song was released. After Kanye released Famous, a representative of Swift had this to say:

"Taylor was never made aware of the actual lyric, 'I made that bitch famous.'"

This statement doesn't deny that Taylor spoke with Kanye about the song before its release. It does not say that Taylor didn't approve at least some of the lyrics. It makes a claim that Taylor took offense to one specific line, "I made that b**ch famous," which she had not approved.

Last night, Kim released a series of videos on her personal snapchat which show 10 second soundbites clearly taken from the phone conversation between Taylor and Kanye.

This should be enough to show that Taylor knew all along, right? Wrong.

If Kim's intentions were honest — if she was actually trying to clear her husband's name — why would she have chosen a format which insists on awkward chops of 10 seconds?

If her intentions were to catch Taylor in a lie, to show that Taylor knew exactly what the lyrics were and was okay with them, Kim should have released this as a normal video. No cuts. No edits.

Instead, she chose to use it as a chance to gain snapchat followers. Not off to a great start. Let’s get into it, shall we? I've included the snaps in the order they appear. If one snap started where another finished (which proves they came sequentially in order), I've grouped them together.


Snap 1.

Kanye: “For all my south side n***as that know me best / I feel like me and Taylor might still have sex.”

We KNOW Kanye said at least this lyric into the phone. It seems highly plausible that Taylor was on the other line while he was speaking, but we don't even know that for sure as we cut away to a new snap before we hear Taylor say anything. Notice this is the only line shown in the snaps. We have no idea if he told her he was thinking of using the "I made that b**ch famous" line.

Snap 2+3.

Taylor: I’m like this close to overexposure.
Kanye: Oh, well this one, I think this is a really cool thing to happen.

Taylor: I know, I mean it’s like a compliment kind of.

Taylor had reservations. She was not 100% all in; she had to be convinced. This is important. Kimye most likely chose to include it because it showed Taylor being a business woman. She is thinking about her public image. Again, it's implied that this exchange happened right after Taylor heard the lyric above. We have no way of knowing if that's true. If this is the closest Kim and Kanye could get to a soundbite of Taylor approving the song, it's pretty pitiful. It's like a compliment kind of? I see approval sandwiched between two phrases which imply hesitation. But hey, maybe that's just me.

Snap 4.

Kanye: What I give a f–k about is just you as a person and as a friend, I want…
Taylor: That’s sweet.
Kanye: …things that make you feel good. I don’t want to do rap that makes people feel bad.

This seems like the most shady of all of the edits. Nothing about the start of this snap suggests it came after Taylor gave her lukewarm approval. It paints Kanye as the saint, as even Taylor makes clear that she is impressed that he came to her to get lyrics approved.

Snap 5.

Taylor: Um, yeah, I mean, go with whatever line you think is better. It’s obviously very tongue-in-cheek either way.

This is crucial. This seems to be the most damning evidence that Kim and Kanye have on Taylor. She gave him the go-ahead to use whatever line. What this implies to me is that Taylor approved of any of the lyrics Kanye said to her in the phone call. What we don't know is what lines Taylor heard besides the one shown in the first snap. What's crucial is we still don't know if Taylor has heard "I made that b**ch famous."

Snap 6+7.

Taylor: And I really appreciate you telling me about it, that’s really nice.
Kanye: Oh, yeah, I felt like I just had a responsibility to you as a friend, and uh, I mean…

Kanye: I mean, thanks for being, like, so cool about it.
Taylor: Aw, thanks. Um, yeah, I really appreciate it. Like the heads up is so nice.

Again, Kanye repeats "as a friend" and shows more of Taylor offering her approval and her sincere thanks for giving her the heads up. We still don't know what Taylor approved! It seems so shady to share all of this without mentioning the one line that Taylor took offense to.

Snap 8.

Taylor: “… things without, like, even asking or seeing if I’d be OK with it. And I just really appreciate it. I never would’ve expect you to tell me about a line in your song.”

From context and tone of voice, it seems plausible that snap 8 came shortly after snaps 6+7 in the timeline, but it starts in the middle of her sentence. That's what happens when you're stuck working with 10 seconds at a time. If only there was a way to show one continuous video. Hmm….

Snap 9.

Kanye: “…it was pretty crazy.”
Taylor: “And then the flowers that you sent me, I, like, Instagrammed a picture of them and it’s the most Instagram likes I’ve ever gotten. It was like 2.7.”

Taylor's grateful. She's showing that she appreciates using Kanye to get ahead; however, she's doing it in a deeply respectful way. Yes this shows that she cares about Instagram likes, but it also shows that she appreciates what others do for her. Also, WHAT was pretty crazy, Kanye? Your shady taping of private phone conversations?

Snap 10.

Kanye: “Relationships are more important than punchlines, you know.”

Feels completely out of context. Also feels like such a spot-on, relevant line. Almost as if he was arming himself against becoming a punchline by recording this video.

Snap 11.

Taylor: “Yeah. I mean, I don’t think anybody would listen to that and be like, ‘Oh, that’s a real, that’s a real diss, like, she must be crying about …'”

This suggests that at least one of the lines was fully approved by Taylor. But it doesn't even prove that. For all we know, Kanye had just read Taylor another line which he wanted her opinion on, one that he worried might offend a female celebrity he was referencing. What it doesn't prove is that Taylor approved any one specific line.

Snap 12+13.

Taylor: “You gotta tell the story the way that it happened to you and the way you experienced it. Like you honestly didn’t know who I was before that.”

Taylor: “It doesn’t matter if I sold 7 million of that album before you did that, which is what happened. You didn’t know who I was before that. It’s fine.”

It's clear that this is suggesting that she's referring to "I made that b**ch famous." Maybe Kanye was trying out a different line that didn't include "that b**ch." If he said "I made her famous," Taylor's quote shows that she understands he wrote this song based on the mindset he was in at the time, not how he feels now. She seems to be implying that she understands he respects her now more than he did at the time of the original VMA incident.

Snap 14+15+16.

Taylor: “I might be in debt, but I can make these things happen then I have the idea to do it and I create these things and concepts. And, like, I’m always gonna respect you.”

Taylor: “And I’m really glad that you have the respect to call me and tell me that as a friend, about the song and …”

Taylor: “It’s just like, it’s a really cool thing to do, and like, a really good show of friendship. So thank you.”

Kanye: “Oh, thank you, too.”

Taylor's most likely talking about Kanye's rags to riches story in Snap 14. Taylor has complete trust in Kanye now. He's shown he cares about her as a friend by getting her approval on lyrics which in her eyes, goes above and beyond the call of duty. All this does is add context to why she would be so hurt if he changed the lyrics after he got her approval and blind-sided her.

Snap 17.

Taylor: “And, you know, if people ask me about it, I think it would be great for me to be like, ‘Look, he called me and told me the line before it came out. Like, joke’s on you guys, we’re fine.'”

This is something Kim specifically condemned Taylor for, and hearing this it makes sense. Taylor did say she was willing to be in on the joke. But what's really important here is Taylor says "he told me the line." The line. The single line. This suggests he gave her a few options for what he was trying out, but implied that there would only be one.

Snap 18.

Taylor: “You guys wanna call this a feud, you wanna call this throwing shade. But, you know, right after the song comes out I’m gonna be on a Grammy red carpet and they’re gonna ask me about it and I’m gonna be like, ‘He called me.'”

It seems odd that Taylor would go out of her way to say that she would be fighting those who plan to use this lyric as evidence of a feud if she was planning on turning right around and fanning the flames. Especially after she went into great detail to share how she appreciated their friendship and respected Kanye as an artist.

Snap 19.

Taylor: “…awesome that you’re so outspoken and they’re just gonna be like, ‘Yeah, she does, it made her famous!’ You know. It’s more provocative to say, ‘Might still have sex.'”

First of all, we have no context for what came before this. That's crucial here. All we have here is further confirmation that she heard the lyric "might still have sex" but we knew that already. It seems likely she would have quoted the "made her famous" line word for word if that is in fact how it was phrased during their phone call.

Snap 20.

Taylor: “…it’s not. It’s not. It doesn’t matter to me. There’s not one that hurts my feelings and one that doesn’t.”

This is it—the final snap. It again implies that Kanye gave Taylor two lines he was choosing between. He wanted to know if she found one more offensive than the other. This is the last snap, and we still haven't heard what the other lyric is that he was testing on her. I remain entirely unconvinced.


Calling someone to get a lyric approved is by no means a noble effort, but it's a common courtesy many wouldn't even consider. But recording that call? Why record a call if not because you know you're going to up the ante in the final cut? What a great way to give yourself a bit of added collateral in case referring to your good, openly feminist friend as "that b**ch" strikes a chord with her. After you take the time to call her, take the time to loop her into your intentions and make her feel a part of the process, she's going to feel pretty blindsided and hurt when you make a last minute change.

Taylor has a huge spotlight on her. She has an army of adoring fans, yet just as many are looking for any excuse to tear her down. It's a shame how many are going to take these snaps as fact, how many are going to watch the video or read the transcript and rush to condemn her without considering that snaps are easy to tamper with. There are two sides to every story. TC mark

Here’s How Your Ex Deals With Your Breakup, Based On Their Zodiac Sign

Posted: 18 Jul 2016 06:00 PM PDT



(March 21st to April 19th)

An Aries will never admit that they care when a relationship ends. However, they truly do. Underneath their strong, brash nature, is an underlying lack of confidence and a fear that they may be unworthy of love. They will work to convince everyone around them that they are doing just fine, and they will often commit to a lot of new things in order to forget about how hurt they are.


(April 20th to May 21st)

A Taurus hates change. They absolutely despise it. If they have been in a relationship for a long time, it will also take a long time for them to get accustomed to being single again. They will often suffer from extreme insecurity and hurt when they have their heart broken, feeling unworthy of love during the healing process. However, Taureans have a way of putting up a very deceiving front, and will often keep all of their sad and dark feelings inside of them in order to maintain their nonchalance. Taureans often suffer from heartbreak behind closed doors, and they can feel so intensely that they shut down completely when rejected or mourning the loss of love.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

A Gemini will act like they do not care when their heart is broken. They will never take on any responsibility for the ending of the companionship, and will always blame the other person for being unworthy, ill-equipped. This stems from their extremely superficial and prideful personality. They will likely set out to find someone better for them, searching for the next upgrade they can sink their teeth into instead of coping emotionally.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

Because they are often hurt, Cancers take a long time to open up and trust someone. Therefore, if they have their heartbroken by someone they genuinely thought they could confide in and love, they will take the breakup very badly. Cancers have a tendency to always look into their past, and they drive themselves crazy overanalyzing what went wrong and how they could have changed or prevented the outcome. It will always take a long time for Cancer to move on.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

Just like a Lion, a Leo revels in their pride. Therefore, to have their heartbroken, rather than to break the heart of the person they were with, often hurts their ego. A Leo, however, will hide that bruised ego and they will hold their head up high — moving on in a very regal and poised manner. They will go searching for attention and affection, as a means of healing and recharging their ego.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

Virgos are not very trusting when it comes to lasting relationships, so they tend to anticipate broken hearts before they happen. They are analytical and observant, and see things coming before they actually happen. During a heartbreak, they have already come up with a way to heal themselves and to distract their hurt. In a way, a Virgo started to mend from an impending heartbreak long before their heart is actually broken, speeding up the process.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

Libras are not as prideful as Leos, but they do have quite a large ego. Heartbreak leads to a Libra experiencing insecurity, but they have such a natural charm to them that they will often find a replacement in no time. Since they cannot be alone, Libras move very quickly when rebounding in order to heal their broken pieces and pump up their ego again.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

Scorpios may never talk about their feelings, but they are extremely emotional beings. They are considered to be some of the deepest people in the Zodiac.Therefore, when a Scorpio is dealing with heartbreak, they feel their broken heart in full force. They feel hurt, sad, angry, betrayed, insecure and confused all at the same time. These feelings will last quite a while, before they slowly start to harmonize their life again.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

Sagittarius is a truly independent sign in the Zodiac. Though they do care about being heartbroken, they truly will not dwell on it, and they will never let it hold them back. Due to their fleeting tendencies in relationships to begin with, Sagittarius will move on quickly and find a new, exciting, adventurous conquest to ease them into a new chapter.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

A Capricorn will usually just accept a broken heart. They are insanely hell bent on proving themselves, so a broken heart is just another opportunity to do better and to excel in difficult situations. This is also how Capricorns distract themselves from hurtful feelings.


(January 21st to February 18th)

An Aquarius is never fully emotionally attached in a relationship, so their broken hearts aren't as bad as some other Zodiac examples. They do not hurt as deeply. Though they still experience feelings of insecurity at first, it usually only takes a day or two for them to realize that they are worthy of much more.


(February 19th to March 20th)

When dealing with heartbreak, a Pisces will often resort to self pity. They will feel heartbreak in full force, and they will often succumb to their insecurities. They will convince themselves that they were not good enough, and that they drove their past love away. In order to cope with the intensity of their sadness, a Pisces will isolate themselves and revel in their dreamworld until someone comes along to fill their heart with excitement and hope again. TC mark

15 Reasons To Date The Girl Who Thinks Too Much

Posted: 18 Jul 2016 05:15 PM PDT

Twenty20, michaela.savka
Twenty20, michaela.savka

1. We’ll buy you the best birthday gifts you’ve ever gotten. It doesn’t matter if we have to spend hours browsing through websites or drive miles to visit a specialty store. We’ll do whatever it takes to find the perfect present.

2. We won’t say anything that we regret during fights. We’re not the type to call you a selfish asshole, and then try to take it back an hour later. If we say something, we mean it, because we’ve had the argument with you twenty times in our head before it became a reality.

3. We always know when something’s wrong. We’ll notice the slight change in your eyes and your smile. So if we fuck up and make you upset, it won’t be long until you get an apology.

4. We’re prepared for any and every situation. If it starts raining during our picnic, we’ll have an umbrella stored in our bag. If you accidentally brush your fingers against some gum, we’ll have hand sanitizer for you to borrow.

5. Not to brag, but we come up with the most spectacular date ideas. You won’t be dragged to the movie theater every other week. No, sir. We’ll take you on fun adventures to go zip lining and snow tubing.

6. We’ll help you out of jams. If you get into an argument with your boss, all you have to do is give us the details and we’ll find a way to fix it. We’re always thinking, which is why we’ll probably be able to come up with a solution before you can.

7. We think way too much, which means guilt weighs heavily on our conscience whenever we do something bad. That means there’s no way we’d ever cheat on you or do you wrong. We wouldn’t be able to live with ourselves.

8. We never forget important events. In fact, we’ll start planning fun ideas for your birthday months before it actually happens. We like to think ahead.

9. We actually care about your opinion. If it seems like you aren’t enjoying the date we’re on, then we aren’t going to enjoy it either. So we’ll do our best to make sure you’re as happy as we are.

10. We’re pros when it comes to making plans for the future. If you’re going to spend forever with us, then you’re in luck, because we already have our entire wedding planned out.

11. We never make impromptu moves. We prefer to think things through, which is why we won’t end up coming home with a new puppy without talking it over with you first. We think before we act.

12. Our brains are always working at their full capacity. It’s why we’re so damn smart.

13. We think of things you never would’ve thought of yourself. If you have an interview the next day, we’ll remind you to iron your suit beforehand or to buy a new pair of shoes that go with your fancy clothes.

14. We like to look at situations in as many different ways as we can. So before we make a decision, we’re going to consider how it will impact you. We wouldn’t want to harm the person we love the most.

15. If we’re dating you, you know we’re serious about you. After all, there are so many fears that fly through our heads on a daily basis. But none of them involve you. Otherwise, we wouldn’t be with you. TC mark

16 Things That Happen When You Finally Find Yourself Falling For The Right Person

Posted: 18 Jul 2016 05:00 PM PDT

Thought Catalog
Thought Catalog

1. You aren't afraid to be open with them about your personal struggles.

What used to feel difficult and uncomfortable to disclose feels easy and natural with them. You know that they aren't judging you for anything you've been through (or are currently struggling with), so it's easier than ever to let your guard down and let them get to know the real you.

2. Your silences don't feel uncomfortable.

You don't have to be constantly talking in order to feel at ease around each other. You can lapse into comfortable silences and still feel close and connected to them. Not all communication is verbal, after all.

3. You're never left guessing about how they feel.

You aren't on pins and needles waiting of them to text you back or initiate plans. They're upfront about how they feel and they make you a priority within their bustling lives – just like you make them a priority in yours.

4. You can disagree without disrespecting each other.

You don't see eye-to-eye on everything, but that doesn't mean you're constantly arguing. You respect one another's points of view and see your differing opinions as interesting rather than infuriating. You can agree to disagree at worst, and challenge one another at best.

5. You're turned on by them even when they aren't being sexy.

The way they sip their coffee or talk about their interests is somehow as erotic to you as seeing them naked. You're attracted to the very essence of who they are, rather than just the way they look.

6. You don't worry about revealing your weird habits to them.

No Pants Taco Tuesdays? No problem! They not only accept the strange, indulgent habits you became accustomed to as a single person, they're enthused about joining in on them. How soon can they take their pants off and get in on your seamless order?

7. You love their friends as though they're your own.

You aren't just grinning and bearing the social time when they introduce you to the people they love – you're genuinely intrigued by the company they keep and find yourself wanting to spend more and more time around their friends. After all, great people attract the best company!

8. You are excited to introduce them to your friends.

You aren't worried that your friends are going to disapprove of your new SO or 'want better for you.' You're finally with someone who treats you right and you can't wait to introduce them to your friends. You have no doubt that they'll love him or her just as much as you do.

9. You enjoy doing nothing with them.

You can spend an entire day lounging around the house with them and enjoy every minute of it. You don't constantly have to be doing something in order to relish your time together – being lazy around them is just as much fun as doing, well, pretty much anything else.

10. Touching them feels like second nature.

Whether it's sexual or entirely innocent touching, your bodies are effortlessly in tune with one another's. You can lazily rest your head on their shoulder, carelessly grab their hand or deliberately, passionately embrace them and it always feels perfectly natural. Their body feels like a second home and it’s one you’re settling into with ease.

11. Everything is hilarious around them.

It doesn't matter if you're catching an outrageous comedy show or just lounging around in your track pants – there's nothing that the two of you cannot turn into a joke. Life is ten times more hilarious around them and you're constantly in stitches when you're with them.

12. You don't have to filter yourself around them.

You aren't worried about voicing the wrong thought and watching your whole relationship go down the drain. They like your strange, unfiltered thought process and you like theirs. It takes the anxiety out of, well, pretty much everything you do together.

13. The conversation flows naturally and easily.

You rarely find yourselves struggling for conversation topics – you love picking each other's brains about absolutely anything and everything. You have natural conversational chemistry and once the two of you get started, the discussion often goes on for hours.

14. You can poke fun at each other without offending each other.

You aren't walking on eggshells wondering whether something you've said has offended or been misinterpreted by them. You get each other's sense of humor and you know exactly how to be playful with them without crossing any major lines.

15. You don't have to stress about when to text them.

When you see something you know they'd find hilarious, you can triple or quadruple message them and not worry about 'coming on too strong.' Your communication isn't a game – it's a genuine form of getting to know each other and you're both enjoying every minute of it.

16. You're not worried about what others think of your relationship.

You don't feel the need to broadcast your love on every media channel, obsess over vague texts with your friends, or nervously wait to hear if your parents think that they're right or wrong for you. You know how you feel, full stop. You're confident in the relationship and for the first time in a long time, you don’t need any second opinions. TC mark

20 Sad Long Lyrics For Your Broken Heart

Posted: 18 Jul 2016 04:15 PM PDT

Jake Melara
Jake Melara

1. “I know if we’re face to face, she’ll come to her senses. Every drunk step I take leads me to her door. If she sees how much I’m hurting, she’ll take me back for sure.” — Nothing, The Script.

2. “And deep down I know this never works but you can lay with me so it doesn’t hurt. Oh, won’t you stay with me? ‘Cause you’re all I need.” — Stay With Me, Sam Smith

3. “Now, here it comes, the hardest part of all. Unchain my heart that’s holding on. How do I start to live my life alone?” — The Art Of Letting Go, Mikaila

4. “I see your blue eyes every time I close mine. You make it hard to see. Where I belong to when I’m not around you? It’s like I’m not with me.” — I Never Told You, Colbie Caillat

5. “You said, ‘Goodbye, it’s not the end. And if you need me, I’m still your friend.’ Well, that’s easy for you to say cause you caught it by the handle and I caught it by the blade.” — The Blade, Ashley Monroe

6. “I still don’t know how to act, don’t know what to say. Still wear the scars like it was yesterday but you’re long gone and moved on. But I still don’t know where to start, still finding my way. Still talk about you like it was yesterday but you’re long gone and moved on.” — Long Gone And Moved On, The Script

7. “But if you love me, why’d you leave me? Take my body, take my body. All I want is and all I need is to find somebody. I’ll find somebody like you.” — All I Want, Kodaline

8. “Do you know that I went down to the ground, landed on both my broken-hearted knees. I didn’t even cry ’cause pieces of me had already died.” — Ghost, Ingrid Michaelson

9. “You only know you love her when you let her go.” — Let Her Go, Passenger

10. “And the tears come streaming down your face when you lose something you can’t replace. When you love someone but it goes to waste, could it be worse?” — Fix You, Coldplay

11. “I thought that I’d been been hurt before but no one’s ever left me quite this sore. Your words cut deeper than a knife. Now I need someone to breathe me back to life.” — Stitches, Shawn Mendes

12. “How can I begin again? How can I try to love someone new, someone who isn’t you?” — How, Regina Spektor

13. “The silence isn’t so bad till I looked my hands and feel sad. ‘Cause the spaces between my fingers are right where yours fit perfectly.” — Vanilla Twilight, Owl City

14. “I tried to sever ties and I ended up with wounds to bind like you’re pouring salt in my cuts.” — Fix A Heart, Demi Lovato

15. “Another shot of whiskey, can’t stop looking at the door. Wishing you’d come sweeping in the way you did before. And I wonder if I ever cross your mind. For me it happens all the time.” — Need You Now, Lady Antebellum

16. “Don’t it always seem to go that you don’t know what you got till it’s gone?” — Big Yellow Taxi, Counting Crows

17. “So I’ll check the weather wherever you are ’cause I wanna know if you can see the stars tonight. It might be my only right.” — Split Screen Sadness, John Mayer

18. “And when we meet, which I’m sure we will, all that was there will be there still. I’ll let it past and hold my tongue. And you will think that I’ve moved on.” — White Flag, Dido

19. “And I’ll take with me the memories to be my sunshine after the rain.” — It’s So Hard To Say Godbye To Yesterday, BOYZ II MEN

20. “Oh, I thought that we could be the greatest story that I tell. I know that it’s time to tell you it’s over but I don’t wanna love somebody else.” — I Don’t Wanna Love Somebody Else, A Great Big World. TC mark

Guarding Your Heart Is Actually A Huge Mistake

Posted: 18 Jul 2016 04:00 PM PDT

When a man says those three little words, everything become more complicated than it should be. What does he mean? Is his interpretation similar to mine? What kind of love is it?

Some people say those words just for the sake of saying them, without meaning it. I find it offensive when people misuse the word, because it’s unfair to the people who actually believe in the sacredness of it.

Many argue that love takes different forms and languages. However, one thing I do know, from countless experiences with friends, family, and myself, is that when we say we’re “falling in love,” it means that we are collapsing. Does that imply that weakness is attached to love? Do we become weak when we’re in love?

A lot of people say that love makes you stronger, gives you reasons to live, to fight, to wake up everyday. Yes, this could be true, but that also means we’re fighting, living, and waking up each day, knowing that we are weak individuals who continue to search for reasons and answers.

How much should we love then?

I know a lot of people, and it would be hypocritical of me to not include myself, who put their walls up to shield themselves for various reasons. When they enter a relationship, they become guarded, alarmed, doubtful. They tell themselves not to love wholeheartedly, because they’re worried about what will happen if they grow too attached.

This might sound stupid, but this is exactly why you should love a person like you've never loved before.

Yes, you will get hurt. A thousand times. A million times. It will hurt because their name was deeply engraved in your heart. You will have a harder time losing them than their exes who had loved them halfheartedly. You will struggle, and that's okay.

You already know that there's a possibility of losing that person, which is why you have to love them as much as you can, before you part with them.

Many of us take people for granted, because we feel too comfortable with their presence in our lives. They may love us, but our love is not always enough to convince them to stay. So one day, you might wake up, find them gone, leaving you with a pile of regrets, wishing you didn't hold back.

Many might argue, well, if he or she really loved me, then wouldn't they stay no matter what the circumstances were? That is the wrong question to ask. The proper question would be, “Did I love them with everything I had?”

If the answer is yes, and they left regardless, then at least you can walk away knowing you did your best and it didn't work out. If the answer is no, then maybe you never even loved them at all, and that person realized it.

You can’t guard yourself and love someone at the same time. You may have issues in your life, but if you really want to let someone in, you will do your best to crush those walls and to let the other person into your universe.

I have heard people advise their friends on how they should be wise in their decisions, especially when it comes to loving a person. They should think, and not let their heart rule over them. They should think about practicality, financial stability, what their benefits are from the relationship.

But no, they are not wise for protecting themselves. They are not wise for thinking about themselves first. In fact, it is foolish for them to say that love is something you should think about. It's supposed to felt. The ones who love less deprive themselves of their ability to constantly give. They deprive themselves of discovering the extent of their generosity and self-expression.

Uncertainty is evident in all relationships, whether it is the smooth-sailing kind or the rocky rollercoaster on-and-off type.

That’s why you should love with the thought of losing the person at any time.

Love like it's your last dying breath. TC mark

Choose Someone Who Loves You Without Fear

Posted: 18 Jul 2016 03:15 PM PDT


We all understandably get scared of rejection, of confrontation and of getting hurt. So, sometimes, when we take our old bruised and beaten down hearts and give them to someone else, we get frightened. We get anxious. We get the urge to sprint the other direction.

But you shouldn’t choose the one who wants to run. You shouldn’t choose the one who sprints away from you. Never, ever choose the one who hesitates.

And never, ever choose the one who looks the other way when you pour your heart out to them.

Choose someone who stares right at your flaws and doesn’t flinch. Choose someone who sees the worst parts of you and doesn’t cover his eyes. Choose someone who witnesses you spit venom, and doesn’t hide in fear. Choose someone who will say “I love you” confidently and easily. With no tremble in their voice. And no shakiness on their lips.

Choose the person that listens to you when you’re hurting, and will hold you through it instead of scoffing at you. Choose the person who looks up at you instead of looking down. Choose the person who lets you shine on your own, and lets you walk at your own pace.

You deserve someone who won’t run at the first sign of trouble.

You deserve someone who won’t leave when you need them the most. True love isn’t supposed to flee the scene of the crime. True love stays, through thick and through thin. True love is stronger than the urge to say goodbye. True love should never apologize for its strength. And it should never apologize for shining so brightly.

The right person for you should love without a whisper of hesitation.

They will love you fiercely, without any doubt that you are the best person that they have ever met. They will kiss you loudly, and shower you with their confidence in you. They will hug you proudly, the kind of hug that doesn’t have a question mark in it. They will hold you, embracing you in their safety net. They won’t let any fire break their grip on you.

Choose someone who loves you without fear. Who shouts instead of whispers. Who leaps instead of walks. And who runs towards you, instead of away from you.

Choose someone who always has a hand out for you to grab onto. Choose someone who never looks at you with a frown, but looks at you with a gleam in their eyes. Choose the one who says “I love you” in everything that they do. Choose the one who loves you with every atom in their body and who will say “I love you” just by a touch. Choose someone who loves you and doesn’t ever leave. TC mark

What It’s Like To Find Out You Were Only A Rebound All Along

Posted: 18 Jul 2016 03:00 PM PDT

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Jesse Herzog –

After we broke up, a lot of smoke started to rise about why our relationship truly ended. Side hoes, flings, online cheating and other gossip added elephants to the room that we had already left.

But then one major truth was revealed to me. It was something that everyone claimed came straight from my ex's poisoned mouth: All along, throughout the whole relationship, he still had feelings for his ex (which is why he never really poured it all in).

I don't know if I am more like Calvin Harris or Tom Hiddleston in this whole situation, while my ex is already swifting his way from bed to bed.  Calvin Harris, because after we broke up, my ex was so hyped to move on that he already had someone else in his front seat. Tom Hiddleston, because during the relationship, I was emotionally cheated on. I was the rebound (and there's a great chance Hiddleston might also be).

Society thinks being a rebound is a hurtful phenomenon that could happen to anyone in the dating world. I agree with society but then, I do not let it control how I live my life right now. There's no use moping or pondering about it forever. It's done. It's over. But for what it is worth, here are a few things I realized after two hours of listening to “moving on” albums:

First, I might have been the rebound, but I figured out that I was the better person. I am the survivor. Although my ex did not give me the type of love that I deserved, I still gave that Taylor Swift disciple everything I could offer. It might sound hopelessly romantic, but really, it pays when you loved truly. It might not be now or in ways you expect, but God (or if you're an atheist, the Universe) has their own way of returning everything you invested to that douche named *insert you ex's name here*. Be hopeful. There's more to life than living with unappreciative jerks.

Second, be proud, because you had the decency and respect to treat the relationship like a real one. My ex might’ve thought about it as his playground, but since I still have my values intact, I treated our relationship as a commitment. Stick to your values. Do not let others dictate how you should think about yourself. Always have this in your soul: integrity. It’s an enormous quality that is less common than common sense.

Third, you might be the rebound, but you can still strive to be the best person that you can be. Do not let your ex or their immature actions thwart you from achieving your goals. Yes, your ex might end up with their ex or with some other victim. Let them be happy so you can be happier. It is not your fault if they want to downgrade. Let them live their life. Let them chase each other's tails while you become the head.

Junk the thought that you are a rebound. You no longer are. For now, give your heart a break after the gruesome heartbreak. Breathe in the winds of change and start to walk your own path. Live your own life, because yesterday's sun has already set.

Lastly, count the lessons you have learned and not the number of times you cried over the douche. You need to move on. Everybody needs you to be strong. You do not need your emotional baggage at this point. Wake up! You have to get up and grab those opportunities you have lost because of that failed relationship. It's time to make you and your dreams fly again. Now, slay! TC mark