Thought Catalog

26 Seriously Sexy Things She Wants You To Do While You’re Inside Of Her

Posted: 19 Jul 2016 08:00 PM PDT

1. Say her name. She wants to know that your focus is on her and only her. That you’re not fantasizing about the girl next door or some big-breasted porn star. So say her name. Again and again and again.

2. Rub her clit. Most women can’t come from penetration alone, so if you want to make her orgasm, you have to give her clitoris some attention. Get into a position that’ll make it easier for you to reach a hand (or a vibrator) over that sweet spot.

3. Kiss her on her lips, on her neck, on her collarbone, and on any other body part that you can reach while you’re inside of her.

4. Touch her hair. If she prefers gentle sex, then stroke her hair while you slowly rock back and forth. If she wants it rough, pull her hair while you’re ramming into her.

5. Compliment her in the form of dirty talk. Tell her she has the most beautiful pussy you’ve ever seen. Tell her that the sound of her voice gets you hard. Tell her you’ve been staring at her tight ass all day, waiting to rip her pants off of her. Make her feel flawless.

6. Roleplay. If you can fake a British accent, then go for it. It’ll instantly make you appear ten times hotter.

7. Listen to her moans. You won’t have to ask her, “Does this feel good for you?” over and over again if you just pay attention. Her moans will tell you exactly what she likes and dislikes.

8. Make your own decisions. Instead of constantly asking her what she wants, pick new positions and use new moves. She doesn’t want to be in charge all the time.

9. Pay attention to her pleasure points. Maybe that means sucking on her nipples. Maybe that means playing with her ass. Maybe that means nibbling on her earlobe. Every woman is different.

10. Look her in the eyes. It’ll create a new level of intimacy between the two of you.

11. Then make a show out of looking at her body. Take her tits in your hands and act like they’re the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen.

12. Switch positions every few minutes, for the sake of her sanity. Even if she’s capable of wrapping her legs around your neck, she probably won’t be comfortable if she has to stay in that position for too long.

13. Use different combo moves. One minute, you can thrust while playing with her clit. Then you can stop thrusting and focus solely on playing with her clit. Then you can leave her clit alone and go back to thrusting.

14. Use sex toys (with her permission). It might be easier for her to orgasm if she’s getting spanked on the ass with a paddle.

15. If she’s still half-dressed by the time you’re inside of her, take off her clothes. Make it clear that you want to get a good look at every part of her gorgeous body.

16. Take off your clothes. There’s nothing sexier than watching a man rip off his own shirt in the middle of thrusting.

17. Bite her lip. Nibble on her neck. Be a little rough to show her how badly you want her.

18. Pin her arms over her head, so she feels dominated. If you have a pair of fuzzy handcuffs in the room, put them to good use.

19. Whisper in her ear. It doesn’t really matter what you say, because the sound alone will give her chills.

20. Dig your nails into her waist while you’re thrusting. Women enjoy that sensation as much as men do.

21. Moan more often. She wants to know that you’re enjoying the sex as much as she is, so don’t hesitate to get a little loud.

22. Act confident, even if you’re not feeling your sexiest. Don’t say anything negative about your body (and definitely don’t say anything negative about her body).

23. Remove her bra without fumbling with the clasp for too long. If you don’t think you can get it open, fuck her without removing her bra at all.

24. Even if she doesn’t like it when you play with her “second hole,” you can still spank her ass or squeeze it while you’re giving it to her Doggie Style.

25. Orgasm. It doesn’t matter if you come first, as long as you’re willing to go down on her and finish the job before falling asleep beside her.

26. If you two have already said those three little words, use them while you’re fucking. It’ll make even the most raw, animalistic sex feel sweet and tender. TC mark

18 People On The Most Fucked Up Thing They’ve Ever Done Under Their Parents’ Roof

Posted: 19 Jul 2016 07:30 PM PDT

Lyubomir Ignatov
Lyubomir Ignatov

1. "I used to sneak guys in my bedroom window when my parents were sleeping in their room down the hall from me. I'd wait until I thought they were sleeping, invite them over and hook up with them. Very risky, but I never got caught." – Eleanore, 23

2. "I used to grow marijuana in my room and my parents never had a clue. Or if they did have a clue, they never said anything to me about it." – Nick, 26

3. "I had an orgy on my parents’ bed when they went away for the weekend." – Mason, 28

4. "I drove my car into my garage and lied to my parents that someone must have hit and run my car. They paid for all the damage to my car. I actually felt kind of bad, but I didn't want to tell them the truth." – Lauren, 22

5. "I smoked so much weed one time that I actually blacked out and projectile vomited all over the bathroom. I was way to stoned to clean it up so I just left it and passed out on the floor. My parents were not happy about that one." – Christina, 25

6. "I had a party one time in high school, my parent's were supposed to be gone for the night, but instead they came home early. And what was even worse was they came home to find two teenagers fucking in their bed. I thought my life was going to be over." – Chris, 23

7. "I used to invite girls over during the day when my parents weren't home and we'd fuck everywhere, even on the kitchen table. Sorry dad my ass was where your dinner plate was a few times." – Jake, 28

8. "My dad has a porn collection of old dirty magazines in his closet. I take them and jerk off to them when he isn't home on his closet floor." – Caleb, 24

9. "I used to have sex in my room when my parents were home because I thought I was sneaky. Turns out my parents heard me, they just never say anything until now." – Callie, 25

10. "My parents are really strict and my dad is a cop, but I used to think I was a rebel and smoke weed out of my bedroom window. His room is next to mine, looking back it was dumb, but at the time I thought I was really cool." – Brianna, 22

11. "Before I had my license I 'borrowed' my moms car without her permission and went to get food from a drive thru because I was starving. I ended up driving into a guardrail and dented her car. She was fuming mad at me." –Alysia, 26

12. "Whenever I'm home alone I always lock all the door because it's creepy AF and I am easily scared. Well, I ended up passing out in my bed and locking my parents out of the house. They pounded on all the doors and rang the doorbell, but I slept right through it. They were so mad at me about it." – Ashlee, 21

13. "I kept a collection of drugs in my nightstand and my parent's never knew. I'd be fucked up on cocaine in their house and they paid so little attention to me they didn't even realize. I'd also sell drugs out of their house, they didn't realize that either." – Daniel, 29

14. "I always threw parties when my parents were out of town. People would puke and break shit all the time so I'd just clean super hard in the morning and try as best I could do avoid things getting broken, but it was basically inevitable. One time someone broke one of my mom's favorite knick-knack things and she never let me hear the end of it. I still don't think she has forgiven me." – Alex, 23

15. "I found my parents’ sex toys and I used them for myself then I put them back. They never noticed they were gone." – Sam, 26

16. "I used to steal my parents’ pain killers and get high off of them." – Todd, 28

17. "I jerked off one time and my mom busted my door open as I was cuming. I've never pulled my pants up so fast but I had semen on my hands and she made me start kneading the pizza dough for dinner. I told her I needed to wash my hands first but she threw the dough at me before I had the chance. Everyone got a little bit of me that night for dinner and I barely ate my food." – Tim, 24

18. "My little brother used to flush his condoms down the toilet and it caused our septic tank to back up and explode and there was shit all over the house. It was disgusting." – Tina, 23 TC mark

15 Men On What Their Girlfriend Does That Turns Them On The Most

Posted: 19 Jul 2016 07:15 PM PDT


1. “Whenever she laughs. She has kind of a low, Scarlett Johansson type voice and I think it’s so incredibly sexy. And when I’m the one making her laugh? Oh, biggest turn on, EVER.” — Dwayne, 27

2. “My girl usually sleeps naked, so when she gets up out of bed in the morning, it’s the hottest sight. Puts me in a great mood for the rest of the day.” — Matt, 23

3. “Her ass. I don’t know if you were looking for a deeper answer to that question, but damn. That ass.” — Sam, 25

4. “My girlfriend is a dancer and very passionate about it. I get really turned on watching her perform. She’s just so sexy and powerful. And like, not just because her body is beautiful and she clearly knows how to move it, but seeing her do what she loves is very attractive.” — Kevin, 29

5. “She makes this intense face when she’s focusing on something. I don’t even think she realizes she does it, but she just looks so serious and cute. She kind of wrinkles her forehead a bit and I don’t know, it just drives me crazy.” — Dustin, 24

6. “Don’t know what this says about me, but when my girlfriend gets pissed off about something and calls me out on it, I end up wanting her so badly. She’s super feisty and doesn’t take shit from anyone. And if you haven’t ever experienced angry sex, you are seriously missing out.” — Michael, 21

7. “My girlfriend will spontaneously sext me while I’m at work. I never expect it and each time it’s like receiving the best surprise ever. Not ashamed to say I’ve taken extra long bathroom breaks.” — Raj, 33

8. “When we go to bed, my girlfriend always puts her hand on my stomach and says, ‘Sweet dreams, honey’ and it’s so endearing. I just want to kiss her all over.” — Luke, 23

9. “The shower in our bathroom is very see through, so you can very clearly see whoever is in it. I like to watch my girlfriend shower. And jump in when I can’t take it anymore.” — Nick, 26

10. “Sometimes when we go out in public, my girlfriend will whisper to me, ‘I guess I forgot to wear underwear.’ And then I get to walk around with her feeling like we’ve got this dirty secret between us.” — Bradley, 26

11. “She constantly turns me on. How could I pick just one thing that she does?” — Marc, 24

12. “We do this thing together called Naked Wednesday. And I think the idea is pretty self-explanatory.” — Jesse, 27

13. “I have a really stressful job and work a lot of late hours. My girlfriend goes to bed pretty early, so sometimes she ends up turning in before I’m home. But she leaves notes for me around the house, things like: ‘I love you’ or ‘I hope work wasn’t too stressful. There’s pie in the fridge.’ It’s so sweet and encouraging, and it just makes me so happy to have her. It makes me want her for life.” — Tim, 28

14. “Morning head.” — Zackary, 24

15. “She does this thing where when she’s relaxed and at home, she massages her boobs. She definitely isn’t aware she does it, but I find it so hot.” — Will, 27 TC mark

Here’s Why Your Girlfriend Is A Totally Crazy Bitch, According To Her Zodiac Sign

Posted: 19 Jul 2016 07:00 PM PDT

Jesse Herzog
Jesse Herzog

Aries (March 21st – April 19th)

She's loudmouthed, bossy, impatient and impulsive. This girl won't think twice about slashing your tires or lighting your entire closet on fire. She's undisciplined, action-oriented and fearless. While that's fun in the beginning-all that lack of self-control and devil-may-care attitude-I shed a tear for the person who crosses her. She'll run her mouth about what you did (or maybe something she perceived you did- she's not big on fact checking) to your friends and family, blow up your Facebook with public posts and will flood her Instagram feed with photos of her 'just hanging out' with other people to make you jealous. She's like a toddler with access to a smartphone and your house keys.

The good news is, because she's so impulsive and doesn't always think things through, chances are she'll just destroy the first thing she comes in contact with, be it your brand-new NorthFace jacket, your beat up, virus ridden six-year old laptop, or your ego. As long as you keep the truck locked in the garage and your lucky Von Miller jersey tucked safely away, they'll be safe. She lacks the follow-through to go looking for the stuff you actually care about.

Taurus (April 20th – May 20th)

The bull is prone to laziness, possessiveness, jealousy, materialism and penny-pinching. She's a whole lot of fun in the beginning. She'll treat you like royalty-the lady bull will shower you with gift and home-cooked meals, long, sensuous massages, a powerful sex drive and an unflappable demeanor. That said, once the bloom is off the rose and the Bull settles into her routine is when things can turn ugly.

If she thinks your work-wife is a little too much "wife" and not enough "work", prepare to come home to the Spanish inquisition. If you really cross her, that sweet little Ferdinand lass of yours will turn into Toro the Bull. I hope you've put away your valuables, because they're about to get smashed to smithereens. When she's really done (and mind you, it takes a while for her to get there, but once she's through, there's no turning back), after the screaming, the stomping, the pouting, the accusations and the destructions of your things (not hers, she's spent way too much money on her things), you better keep an eye on that bank account- especially if it's shared. She'll drain you for every penny you have, and not think twice. The bull is soothed by food, wine and material goods, and if she feels you've crossed her, she'll think nothing of emptying your pockets for her own satisfaction.

Gemini (May 21st – June 20th)

If you've hooked up with a Gemini, you've probably been temporarily blinded by her chatter and charm. Being with a Gemini is like being inside a butterfly pavilion. Everything is so light and easy, so pretty and stimulating, you don't know where to look first. She'll enchant you with her tinkerbell laugh and her childlike interest in everyone and everything. You'll think you've fallen into a land of fairies and pixie dust. Believe me, you haven't.

She's superficial, ADHD, unable to commit, wracked with anxiety and has zero direction.

Everything is new and fun and interesting to her whirling dervish of a mind, that she retains minimal information and is constantly flying off to the next flower. She's a tease, because she can't settle down with one person but sex is also oftentimes 'too much' for her, so she flits about driving everyone, including her partner, absolutely crazy. She's also incredibly moody, given her dual nature, and a ball of nerves due to her tendency to bite off more than she can chew.

Cancer (June 21st – July 22nd)

If you're with a Cancer, be prepared for the tears. Nonstop. Over everything and nothing. The woman has zero self-esteem and is constantly looking for outside reassurance. At first she may seem interesting and mysterious, due to her hard outer shell, but once you've broken through and committed yourself to her, she turns into a stage 9 clinger.

You better have lots of tissues, endless patience and unlimited minutes and texting on your phone, because she will be on you, 24-7. A night out with the guys is enough to send her into a tailspin for a week. She's not one to speak her wants and desires, expecting you to read her mind, and becoming livid when you don't. This woman acts like she's PMSing a full 24/7, 365. Cancer is also the sign on the mother, so she'll be on your for kids within the first few weeks of dating. Don't trust her when she says she's on the pill- make sure you're double-bagging that thing and always check for pinholes in the condom wrapper.

But hey, it's not all bad. Cancer woman tend to have great racks, so if you're a tit-man, you're in for a treat.

Leo (July 23rd – August 22nd)

"Off with their head!" is the Leo woman's motto. She doesn't just admire Beyoncé- she actually thinks she IS Beyoncé, and you, peasant, will treat her as such. She has a jealous streak to rival the Taurus or Scorpio woman, only hers is compounded by a flair for the dramatic as well. Prepare for public fights, drinks to be thrown in your face, screams about how you were lucky she ever spoke to you, how she can't believe she wasted her time with someone only made/did/went to (insert income/job/school here) and will stomp off, after stomping your foot with one of her stilettos.

You might think she'd stomped off home, but chances are, once she cooled down a bit, she stomped off to your apartment. You may very well come home to the kitten side of your Leo lady, now that the panther has licked her wounds a bit. You'll find her curled up in your bed, smelling like a whole perfume store, skin glistening, makeup perfectly applied, hair cascading all over her leopard print silk nightie, and practically purring to you how very, very sorry she is.
Just remember…even kittens have claws.

Virgo (August 23rd – September 22nd)

The Virgo woman is the original nagger, complainer, and hypochondriac. At first it seems sweet- she shows her affection through acts of service. She's so is highly organized so you'll never have ask twice where your socks are, if a bill has been paid or what's for dinner. It will all be pre-planned and taken care of, complete with an excel spreadsheet and a marked-off Google calendar outlining the next six months.

Slowly though…the nagging starts. The criticisms. The phantom sicknesses. Your house will smell like protein powder and B-12 tablets from all the supplements she takes (and will make you take too). What started out as gentle urging to maybe go to the gym more or take that night class will turn into a full-blown criticism of your beer gut and lack of professional ambition. While initially the sex will be earthy and sensual (although there WILL be a towel laid down and don't you DARE get a drop on the sheets), eventually it will dry up completely. If that's not enough to turn you away, the placement of the humidifier, nasal strips, compression socks, white cotton granny panties and neck pillow, to ensure a restful, healthful sheep should make you run for the hills. Unless you're another Virgo, in which case you can live happily in a little hypoallergenic bubble with her till the end of your days.

Libra (September 23rd – October 22nd)

Think back to when you met your pretty Libra lady. Remember how she smiled, tossed her hair and gazed at you as if you were the only person on the planet, and the most interesting one to boot? Remember how you left feeling like royalty? Well you're not. She does that with everyone. It's how she gets her way.

It doesn't take long for the 'psycho' to come out in Libra, but she's so skilled at making people see what she wants them to see, you may very well never notice. She's so socially graceful, so charming, and such a skilled conversationalist that manipulation comes as easy to her as breathing. She has such a wide variety of friends and lovers, and is so adept at keeping these people from meeting, that she doesn't just live a double life, she lives a tripe, quadruple life. But damn if she isn't so sweet and feminine and look to you like the big strong man (or woman) you are that you'll ever believe a word I'm saying! (Believe me- I'm a Libra myself). In the end though, it's not the lying, half-truths and manipulating that will do you in- it's the indecisiveness. This woman can debate and deliberate till the cows come home. Lucky for you, Libra tends to be rather self-involved, so she probably won't notice that you've packed your bags and left the city till you're long gone. She was too busy debating the merits of ketchup versus catsup.

Scorpio (October 23rd – November 21st)

I'm not going to even bother explaining how the Scorpio woman reeled you in. Chances are, it was a mixture of sexual titillation, fierce intelligence and "The Rules". This woman knows the game, and she plays it perfectly.

Should you cross her though…well…don't say you haven't been warned. Scorpios natural ruler is Pluto, the planet of death, destruction and regeneration. Their secondary ruler is Mars, the planet named after the God of War. It's a potent combination. She can play a long game, and oftentimes will. Here is the woman that will live with the knowledge of your affair for months on end, smiling sweetly at you the whole time, while putting arsenic in your coffee. Here is the woman who will track down the person you're sleeping with and begin torturing them with anonymous notes and threats, hang-up phone calls, drive-bys and all other sorts of mental manipulation. Miss Scorpio will do it so craftily everyone will think that your lover is the crazy one. Here is the woman that will, in the end, find your prized possessions and light them on fire, while she makes you watch, and then walk out the door with your childhood best friend, who she'd locked under her spell from the first moment she found out you'd wronged her. Revenge isn't just a dish best served cold- it's her favorite dish in the world.

Sagittarius (November 22nd – December 21st )

Sags, the archers of the zodiac, are known for their athleticism, sense of humor and chummy attitudes. Never ones to take themselves seriously, they are the proverbial 'lampshade-on-the-head' party girls, and their live-and-let-live attitude and bawdy jokes will have you clutching your sides. Much like their male counterparts, the archer lady doesn't see the point in dilly-dallying around before jumping into bed with you. The reason you'll stay? Even though she's easy, she has almost no-hang ups about antiquated notations of female sexuality, and she won't blow up your phone with questions about "Where is this going?" or "I never do that, I hope you don't think I'm a slut!"

The real reason she's not blowing up your phone? She's too busy doing it with everyone. The woman has no concept of fidelity, and when you catch her cheating for the seventh or eighth time (and she won't try and hide it, Sags are all about honesty), she'll be baffled as to why you're mad. She'll then becoming incensed that you are trying to 'own' her, and the dishes will fly. Along with the television. And the radio. And your weight set. And anything else she can get her hands on. All the while she's destroying your house, she'll be telling you exactly how SHE feels, with zero regard to your feelings in the coarsest language possible. My best advice for the person dating the Sagittarius lady? Go into it viewing the relationship as fun, not fidelity, don't ever except to tie her down and make sure you've got the number for a good clinic on speed dial in case you need an emergency shot of penicillin for when she comes back from her road trip from Vegas. What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas- except for that pesky case of the clap she brought home with her.

Capricorn: (December 22nd – January 19th)

Chances are you met your Capricorn lady somewhere defined as 'classy', like a high-end auction, law-firm meetup group or interning at the White House. That's because the girl has goals. She's ambitious in the truest sense of the word, and nothing stops her from achieving her goals. Not even you. Especially you.

She's the kind of girl you can take home to mom, with her twinsets, pearls and perfectly highlighted hair. She's extremely intelligent, and will be able to talk recipes with your mother and politics with your father. She's a firecracker in the bedroom, and most kinks won't make her bat an eye. But before you sit there thinking "what's the problem?" let's take a look at YOU, dear reader. Chances are, you've got a family with money, connections or some sort of family name. She's not with you because she likes you. She's with you because of what she can get from you. You're nothing but a peg on her way to the top, and once she's reached the top of whatever it is she's chosen (and believe me, she will), you'll have served your purpose and be tossed aside. If the sex was good she may keep you around for a couple more years to release her frustrations, or even convince you to marry her, but proceed with caution. The Capricorn lady only has #1 in mind, and that sure as hell ain't you.

Aquarius: (January 20th – February 18th)

The water-bearers are charming and quirky. You probably met her when she was volunteering at the animal shelter you adopted your dog at. She'll always be unconventional and intellectual, and probably seems fairly easy going and upbeat. She's the truest humanitarian, and knows her mind- when she makes a decision, she sticks with it.

Things will start to sour when all that unconventional, quirky energy becomes just plain annoying. You'll struggle to follow her logic since she'll speak in obscure quotes and non-sequiturs. Aquarius being the most detached sign of the zodiac, you'll find she doesn't really have any friends, just tons of different acquaintances from different backgrounds she collects. She has no idea how to relate to another person, be it physically or emotionally, so when your grandmother dies and you're weeping and distraught, she'll probably just stare at you and wonder why you're crying- the woman was 87 years old, after all.

She won't waste much time worrying about it beyond that, and just shrug her shoulders and stick her nose back in her book about underwater basket weaving or whatever asinine subject she's interested in at that moment. Sexually she's incredibly selfish- again, because, it's because she's got a loner complex and is completely disconnected from her partner or friends. She'll let you do all the work, never once thinking to reciprocate. Eventually you probably won't even be the one to leave- you'll just wake up one day and find that she's up and left the country to work with underprivileged llamas in Nepal, leaving behind nothing but her astronomy diorama and a few science fiction books she couldn't fit in her suitcase.

Pisces (February 19th – March 20th)

No doubt you met this girl at a bar, because she loves to get her drink on. And her coke on. And her molly on. Anything to get blotto. Pisces are the addicts of the zodiac. While at first all that drinking and recreational drug use seems fun and free-spirited, it quickly turns into a string of crushing hangovers, accompanied by an empty bank account from all those trips to the bar.

The Pisces woman has even less ambition than the Gemini. Oh she'll work if she has to, but she prefers to spend her days and nights at the bottom of a bottle, writing poetry that makes no sense, smearing paint on a canvas or simply staring at the sky. She's got a martyr complex, and you're fights will start because "you have no idea what it's like to be her". She'll become morose and dark, speaking in short phrases and thinly veiled suicide attempts. Occasionally you'll see her temper come out, with its drunk, lashing tongue and uncontrollable crying fits. Eventually you'll recover from this one in a rehab facility of your own, once you finally realize that all the tears, booze and drugs were never really going to end in suicide and finally get up the strength to come up for air and dry off and dry out from your Pisces lady. TC mark

10 Signs It’s Time To Let Someone Go  

Posted: 19 Jul 2016 06:00 PM PDT


1. They're inconsistent. One day they want to see you, one day they don't, one day they act like they're into you, one day they don't – one of the major signs of someone who is invested in you is consistency, without it, you will never have a foundation to build a connection on or bond deeply with each other.

2. They're not doing any extra effort. Effort and consistency go hand in hand. If the person you're talking to has never gone out of their way for you or made a noticeable effort to spend time with you, then they're just hanging out with you whenever it's convenient for them; not for you.

3. They always have excuses. Like work, or family commitments, or being too tired. We all have work and commitments but we still make time for the people we want to see; even if we're exhausted because seeing them would make us feel better. These are not good enough reasons why someone shouldn't see you.

4. They make you doubt yourself. This should be the biggest red flag for you. If you don't know where you stand, or you're confused and wondering if you mean anything to that person, then it's a warning sign that this person isn't giving you the reassurance and satisfaction you need because they're probably not sure about you or talking to someone else.

5. You have more questions than answers. You don't know many things about that person, you don't know any intimate details about them or their life simply because they chose not to share too many details with you. If you feel like you're being treated more like a friend than someone they like, then it's time to let go especially if they're not trying to know more about you.

6. You don't think your absence will affect them. Neither will your presence. If something tells you they'll be fine with or without you, then you're not very special to them and they probably won't fight for you. It's better to walk away from these situations and find someone who values you.

7. They remind you of your exes. Or they're following the same pattern somehow. If you find yourself in the same situations you were in or liking someone who resembles someone you used to date, it could be that you're into the wrong type of people who won't be able to give you what you want.

8. They don't show their support. They don't show up to your events, they don't ask about the big presentation you had at work or the project you were working on. They're simply not paying attention to what's going on in your life and they're not trying to.

9. They lie to you. About their current dating situation, about their future, about their upcoming plans. If they keep everything vague and tell you last minute, it's a sign they might be hiding more from you, or a sign that they don’t care.

10. They haven't said or done anything to keep you. At the end of the day, when someone wants you in their lives, they will do more or say more to show you that they care and that they're happy you're in their lives. If you keep analyzing and trying to find bits and pieces of effort or words they said to hold on to, you'll end up getting disappointed because they will keep getting away with minimal effort and you will always be expecting more.

Let them go and find someone who knows how to love and keep someone like you.  TC mark

16 People Open Up About Why They Stay In Relationships Even When They’re Unhappy

Posted: 19 Jul 2016 05:30 PM PDT

Look Catalog
Look Catalog

1. "At this point I'm just scared to live without him or realize I made a mistake. I've done everything with him for so long it's hard to imagine not having him by my side. Even though we rarely have good times together and the spark died out a while ago, he's my comfort and that's why I stay." – Alyssa, 30

2. "I really don't want to have to pick my life up and start over again. We've been together for so long that I now just am used to it and our life. Starting over would be hard and I really don’t think I’d want to put either of us through that." – Matt, 32

3. "It's easier said than done to leave. I still love her, but I'm not in love with her. We had a complicated history and I just don't think I could handle breaking her heart, or wind up finding out I broke my own heart by leaving." – Wes, 26

4. "I've already been with him for so long I just don't think it's worth it anymore to leave. We've built a life together, have kids, I know what I'm getting when I'm with him and I've accepted it. I might not be really happy, but is anyone?" – Jane, 34

5. "I really just don't want to be lonely. I know that I do feel like I’m trapped in an empty relationship, but I still have someone to wake up next to every morning. We might not agree on everything, but he's still there for the most part and I think I'd miss him if I left." – Leah, 25

6. "I stay because if I didn't I don't know what I'd do with myself. Everything is in his name, including our house and credit cards. I don't know the first thing I'd do if I left because I've been dependent on him for so long. If I started over, I'd be starting from nothing and that's a scary thought." – Maria, 40

7. "I couldn't leave because I'd feel too guilty. I'd feel so bad for breaking her heart, but I know our relationship hit it's high and now it's back down lower than we ever thought was possible. I stay because I'm scared to leave her, I just don't think it's worth it." – Charlie, 28

8. "We started off so happy in the beginning of our relationship, just like everyone else. I guess I'm just holding on because I'm hoping that we can get back to the way things used to be. Those were the best days of my life." – Cam, 29

9. "It's too hard to leave, I've been thinking about it for almost a year now and I still haven't left. It's just so hard to accept that someone who has been there for all the big parts of your life just won't be there anymore. I'm unhappy and hate the way he treats me, but I still love him at the same time. I don't really know how to explain it and I don’t understand it." – Madison, 27

10. "I just don't think I could do that to my kids. I don't think I'm strong enough to get a divorce and actually leave, so I don't. I'll stay together for the kids. I don't want them growing up in a broken home." – Jamie, 36

11. "Financial stability is probably the reason I stay. I don't know what I'd do without my husband. He keeps track of everything, I can't tell you the last time I worried about money on my own. And if I left I’d have to find a much better job to support myself." – Tracey, 31

12. "I stay because I'm scared if I left that he might try to hurt me. He hasn't really abused me before, but he does worry me from time to time and I think if I left that would be the trigger." – Ana, 27

13. "I'm scared I will realize I made a huge mistake if I leave. It will be like one of those 'you don't realize what you had until it's gone' kind of things. I think I take him for granted now, but maybe I'm just asking for too much." – Brooke, 26

14. "I don't think I could find someone else to love me. He was my first real boyfriend and it took me long enough to find him, so I'm not sure that anyone else could love me and then I'd really end up alone." – Bridgette, 29

15. "She's familiar. She can be a bitch, but I know when to expect it usually. I've mastered her reactions and now it's just listening to her rant and knowing what not to say. I don't want to leave because I don't want to start over learning someone new." – Mikey, 27

16. "We've got a schedule and a groove, we might not be the happiest couple, but we know what works for us. I pick the kids up from practice and she cooks dinner, we've got a routine so we just kind of go through it every day and it is what it is." – Martin, 36 TC mark

What You’re Like When You’re Sad, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Posted: 19 Jul 2016 05:00 PM PDT

Brandy Eve Allen
Brandy Eve Allen


(March 21st to April 19th)

You know an Aries is sad when they don't get worked up about things that would normally make them angry. As a very reactive person, when sad an Aries will skip the rage, and often turn to impulsivity. They will be noticeably toned down, with less vigor, and less energy than usual.


(April 20th to May 21st)

When sad a Taurus will isolate themselves. They will turn to binge eating and sleeping, and they will always play the victim in any situation. This allows for them to further turn into their comforts, and justify their descent into negative indulgence.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

When sad, a Gemini gets very quiet. However, inside their mind is racing, as they completely consume themselves in a bout of overthinking. They absolutely hate being sad, and refuse to allow themselves to feel morose, often disassociating and detaching in order to forget about their sensitivities.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

When sad, a Cancer will again start to cry. They will isolate themselves and the separation will feel so severe it will actually manifest into stomach aches and headaches. Because a Cancer feels so much, being sad is difficult, but it comes very easy to them. They are very quick to break down.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

When sad, Leo's get very wound up. They fester in their emotions, and they build them up to the point where they unravel and have a nervous breakdown. They are extremely short tempered when sad, though they are also extremely needy. Those closest to them know how to help, though they are at risk for being hurt due to the Leo's tendency to blow up when sad.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

When sad, a Virgo tends to isolate themselves. They develop compulsions, cleaning and washing their hands obsessively in order to get out of their mind and mask their emotions in work.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

When sad, Libras get quite moody. They are unstable and don't feel the need to socialize as much as they usually do. This causes them to feel a hopelessness within them, and they feel rejected and disliked by their posse. When sad libras will always try to be happy in order to pretend like nothing is wrong. Their composure is seen as a survival tactic, for they think if they break down they will be seen differently in the public eye. Libras are silent sufferers.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

When sad, Scorpios like to isolate themselves. They grow hostile and can have violent mood swings. Their intensity causes extreme emotions within them, and this can manifest into paranoia. Scorpios often think that it is them against the world, and will feel completely weighed down by that concept.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

When sad, a Sagittarius gets very emotionally tired. This lethargy actually turns physical when the sadness increases, and they often resort to substance abuse to feel alive. They are escapists, and will run away at the drop of a hat in order to feed their soul and shock it back into feeling happy again.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

When sad, a Capricorn succumbs to their overthinking. They lose all of their motivation to push themselves, and they often get extremely tired — both emotionally and physically. They will grow tense, and life will not impress them until they start to feel better.


(January 21st to February 18th)

When sad, and Aquarius tends to feel uneasy. They will be hard to reach, and will shut down and isolate themselves. They tend to detach when feeling upset, but they will try their best to hide it with a happy, fake disposition.


(February 19th to March 20th)

When sad, a Pisces will suffer from anxiety. They will isolate themselves, and they will feel their sadness in an extremely intense manner. They will ruminate over the situation that is upsetting them, and they will cry about every bad thing that has ever happened to them, even if those situations are irrelevant to them at that given moment. TC mark

If We’re Going To Stay ‘Just Friends’ Then Please Don’t Make Me Hope For More

Posted: 19 Jul 2016 04:15 PM PDT


Last night I had a terrifying realization: whatever we have is exactly what I've always wanted, and you don't feel the same.

As you drove me home with the windows down and the music turned all the way up, I decided I needed to kiss you goodnight. Once the car stopped and I thanked you for the ride, I looked into your eyes just long enough to see that you weren't thinking what I was. I smiled as I told you I'd see you bright and early, shut the door, and escaped with my pride intact. I just couldn't fathom how that this was all in my head.

At least from my (admittedly delusional) perspective, tonight was exactly what I'd wanted in a relationship, minus the physical affection. Do you wander around the bookstore with your friend? Sure. Do you come home and read in silence with your friend for a couple hours? Maybe, sure. Do you cook your friend dinner on a Saturday night? Fine. Do you walk with your friend to get ice cream as dusk turns to dark? Of course. I get it; this could all just be friendship.

But friends don't lean in just a little too close. They don't grin and slap your hand as you try to change the song in the car or flirt with you in the street at 2am.

They don't call you a punk or act like you're the only two people in the world or talk to you nonstop about absolutely nothing. Or maybe this time they do. Maybe it's all in my head.

It's not that I don't enjoy our constant conversations. It's quite the opposite, but I still wish you'd stop. Although I'm trying my best to accept that I'm just a friend to you, the way you talk to me makes this impossible.

It scares me that I could talk to you about nothing all day and all night. Normally I abandon my phone for hours when I'm caught up in a good book, but now I find myself pressing that stupid Home button every two minutes to see if you've responded. It's not like I'm waiting for an urgent reply; I'm checking to find out what you made for dinner or how you responded to my jab at your taste in music.

Strangely enough, I actually care because this is what I've always wanted.

I've always wanted someone like you. I hoped to find someone who would explore nature and read too many books by my side, someone who would challenge me and hold my interest, someone could cook as well as I do, someone who'd appreciate friendly competition, someone whose shameless love for fall and pumpkin spice everything could rival my own, someone solid, strong, and honest, someone who would change me and make me whole.

You're literally the person I've always wanted, but your heart is with someone who broke it.

I just have to remind myself that whenever you're with me, you're probably wishing I were him. Maybe I'm a placeholder. Maybe you're so used to in a relationship that this form of friendship is how you cope. All I know is that you don't feel how I do. The truth hurts, but knowing you is worth figuring out how to get over this because you're objectively awesome and someone I need in my life.

I promise that I'm going to be the best friend to you I can be and not expect anything else, so please don't make this any harder for me by acting like I'm something more. TC mark

16 Secrets Women Who Wear All Black Will Never Tell You

Posted: 19 Jul 2016 04:00 PM PDT


1. Everything is available in black.
Tanks, shorts, shirts, hats, necklaces, shoes: every style and every article of clothing will almost always be available in black.

2. Sweating is literally no sweat.
Are you perspiring a ridiculous amount? Most likely, especially in the summer time. Yet black clothing doesn't sell you out with pit stains. It's got you covered.

3. You appear confident and mysterious.
Because yes, black gives off the vibe that you aren't to be messed with.

4. Black will always be in style. Always.
Regardless of how many "new blacks" try to make a claim to fame, black will always be the original that never goes out of style.

5. You can be casual or you can be chic.
Black can be easily paired with jeans and flats for a casual day out, but can also be paired with heels and some red lipstick to go out on the town with your girls. And the transition between the two takes little to no effort.

6. Little black dress will never fail in the date night department.
It's simple. It's sexy. Win win.

7. Hello, slimming effect.
Whether you need it or not, black does have a slimming effect, so you never stress about gaining a few pounds here and there.

8. Black is easy.
Because it can be paired with almost any color, including itself, and not look ridiculous.

9. You will always be warm.
Black will absorb more heat than most, so you aren't nearly as cold as most people.

10. You feel a sense of delight (and sometimes smugness) when people realize you're not morbid or a killjoy just because of your wardrobe.
People who wear a lot of black tend to have very colorful personalities. Fact.

11. You have an excuse to do more with your makeup.
Your outfit doesn't scream for attention with patterns and colors, so you can decorate your face with colors that will pop without feeling like you're doing too much.

12. As well as your accessories.
Throwing on a necklace, bracelet, or earrings to all black is never an issue.

13. You are never worried that you'll spill something when you are out.
Black provides the perfect backdrop to any outing you might have, because if you spill something, you can't tell. No humiliation while walking around OR missing out on fun moments while you go home and change.

14. You are able to remain low key and stay under the radar.
Because all black doesn't usually stand out too much in a crowd, and you have no problems with that.

15. But on the (very rare) days you do wear color, it draws more attention.
People are so used to your all black aesthetic all the time that wearing any other color is a cause for notice, so when you're looking for attention, you know how to grab it.

16. At the end of the day, it's one less thing to stress about.
You might have 99 problems, but what color you're going to wear isn't one. TC mark

Read This If You Say ‘I’m Okay’ (And You’re Not, Really) Because You Don’t Want To Be A Burden

Posted: 19 Jul 2016 03:15 PM PDT

Aaron Anderson
Aaron Anderson

Whenever the question variation of, "are you okay?" or "what's wrong?" comes up, I always reply with, "Nothing, I'm okay."

Because even if I'm not feeling "okay" I blame it in a moment of weakness, I tell myself I'll be okay in the end. I tell myself that I'll be fine. I tell myself that there is really no reason for me to be upset. I tell myself that I've got no real problems and that by telling others my 'problems' I would just be burdening people with things that are irrelevant and that they don't care about.

I get upset for no reason at all.

It's like a wave of sadness that comes crashing down right on top of me. Pulling me under the current so I can barely reach the surface to gasp for air.

It feels like I'm downing in self-pity and wallowing away feeling sorry for myself. I feel pathetic.

I hate feeling like I'm complaining about my life because I've got a pretty good life, so I suck it up. I tell myself to get my shit together and be a better person. I tell myself that there is nothing worth getting upset over.

I tell myself that guy was a dickhead, I tell myself he didn't deserve my time, I tell myself he wasn't the right person because the right person wouldn't have just left. I tell myself that the reason I feel like shit is because of my own decisions. I tell myself that in order to be better I have to work on improving myself. I give myself constant pep talks, I tell myself that I'll be okay I just need to work harder on being better.

I wrap up my emotions, my thoughts; I'll pour my heart out on a piece of paper.

I'll type until my fingers are throbbing from smashing against my keyboard, but I'll never say the words, "no, I'm not okay" because I want to consider myself stronger than that.

I don't want to be a burden on people because I'm sure they honestly don't care how I'm doing. I know that it's just a gesture, a nice and polite way to start a conversation when someone walks by.

I just keep to myself, I just beat myself up between my own two ears because to me that is easier. That is the way I operate. I'm not saying it's healthy and I'm not saying it's good, but it's what I do. I let everything build, I let everything accumulate while I still pretend it isn't there. I pretend things don't bother me because I don't want to ruin someone else's happiness or good mood. I don't want to take away from the joy of their day by bitching about mine.

So, I'll just smile and sit there. I'll tell you everything is okay because I know that is what you want to hear. That is what everyone wants to hear. Everyone wants to think the world is flawless and no one actually gives a genuine shit about other people's problems because we've all got our own to deal with.

I want to pour my heart out about everything that's wrong, but I won't, don't worry I don't want to burden you. So yes, everything is okay. TC mark