Thought Catalog


Let’s Keep Pretending That We Don’t Miss Each Other

Posted: 20 Jul 2016 08:15 PM PDT

 Ines Perkovic
Ines Perkovic

Let's keep pretending that I don't care
And you don't miss me
That I don't need you
And you don't want me
Let's keep hiding behind our lies
Let's keep pretending that we're okay
That we're so independent and happy
Let's keep posting happy pictures
To make each other jealous
To tell one another that we're happy
That life is better when we’re apart
That we're alive and kicking
Let's keep pretending that we're not lonely
That you don't sleep at night
Wishing I still cared
That I don't dream of you
And the touch of your hand
That you don't hold your phone
Thinking of texting me
That I don't hold my phone
Thinking of calling you
Let's keep pretending that we've moved on
That you're not trying to find me in someone else
That I'm not trying to forget you with someone else
That you don't compare her to me
And I don't wish he was with you
Let's keep living a lie
Hoping to turn it into reality.  TC mark

How To Tell If Someone Has A Crush On You, Based On Their Zodiac Sign

Posted: 20 Jul 2016 08:00 PM PDT

Jeff Isy
Jeff Isy

Aries

(March 21st to April 19th)

An Aries will try to touch you a lot if they like you, so expect a lot of hugs. As a naturally competitive person, you will be challenged by an Aries. If they like you they will want you to prove yourself by playing one of their games, so accept the challenge and stand your ground. If an Aries gets upset or jealous when they see you flirting with someone else, you can be sure that they are interested in you. An Aries will often think about you, and will therefore ask you questions about your day; they will want to know what is going on in your general life. This is their way of keeping up with you, and showing an interest in you. However, the great thing about an Aries is that they will often just tell you that they are fond of you — they tend to be quite straightforward.

Taurus

(April 20th to May 21st)

When a Taurus likes you, they will ask you for your thoughts on a lot of things, and they will engage you in stimulating conversation. They are a nurturer, so if you see them getting protective over you, it is a good sign that they are fond of you and want to keep you safe. They appreciate your small quirky details, and will notice things that others don't about you. When a Taurus makes fun of you, know that it is good natured, and it is their playful way of showing interest. A Taurus will always compliment the apple of their eye, and can be extremely sweet when they admire someone. It is unfortunate, because they often fear that their sensitivity will lead them to be rejected or hurt. If you notice a Taurus doing any of the above, nurture them back. Make them understand that you too are interested, because they can discourage themselves and end up guarding their advances.

Gemini

(May 22nd to June 21st)

If a Gemini likes you, they will not stop talking to you. They will ask questions, make conversation, and keep the momentum going. It is often said that a Gemini tells you that they like you with their eyes — they will be absorbed by you, and will stare deeply at you. Though they will try to play it cool, if a Gemini is paying more attention to you than others, you can be sure that they like you. The usually don't waste time with people who do not intrigue them. They will be touchy, and will often whisk you off of your feet when you least expect it. However, you must be wary of the Gemini. They are known players, often leading people on for the fun and adventure of it all.

Cancer

(June 22nd to July 22nd)

A Cancer is very shy and very sweet when they like someone. Though they may not show it, you can always tell if a Cancer likes you by observing how their friends act around you. A Cancer will tell everyone they are close to about the apple of their eye, and their loyal friends will help to get you two together. If you catch a Cancer looking at you, they are probably contemplating how to approach you and how to interact with you, as everything about them is coy and cautious. Be open to them if you feel like getting to know them as well, for this cautiousness comes from a deeply insecure fear of rejection.

Leo

(July 23rd to August 22nd)

In all honesty, a Leo will most likely just tell you that they are fond of you. Everyone will know that a Leo likes you because they do not back down from those they are interested in, and will declare their affection. They will play games and they will also get very touchy, so if a Leo keeps grabbing you, ticking you, or smiling at you from across the room — they are definitely fond of you. If a Leo really likes you, they will pay more attention to you with their eye contact, and they won't break it. They will also talk to you differently than others, using a sweeter, smoother tone. They will always try to impress you — be sure not to see this as arrogance, because it is simply just nervous flirting.

Virgo

(August 23rd to September 22nd)

A Virgo will challenge you with their negative qualities in order to see if you will stick around. This is a big way to tell if they are fond of you. The very insecure Virgo will need to know that you will love them at their worst, and that you won't run away when things get tough. If a Virgo respects you and wants to court you, they will often start to pick out your flaws as well, for they love in a way that strives to make those they are with the best version of themselves. If a Virgo is tagging along with your friend group a lot, you can be sure that they want to be around you. Be sure to be quite consistent with a Virgo, for if they misinterpret your feelings, they will turn cold and paranoid.

Libra

(September 23rd to October 22nd)

Libras are naturally charming and well loved, which can be confusing when trying to figure out if they like you. Sometimes their friendliness can be misleading. Though it may be hard to muster the courage, if you want to know if a Libra likes you — ask around. Not one to lie, if a Libra has been asked if they are fond of someone, they will tell the truth. Their close friends will most definitely have the low down on their current crush.

Scorpio

(October 23rd to November 22nd)

If you are trying to figure out if a Scorpio likes you, pay attention to how they are around you. Are they giving you extra attention in public? That is a tell tale sign that they are fond of you, because Scorpios do not bother wasting their time with people who do not intrigue them. Around their crush, Scorpios can be really awkward, and you may not realize that they like you because of that. If a Scorpio makes intense eye contact with you, and stares at you often, this is another big sign. Scorpios are known to speak with their eyes, so if they are focused on you — you have them right where you want them.

Sagittarius

(November 23rd to December 21st)

If a Sagittarius likes you, you can expect that they will try to make you laugh. They will go out of their way to make you smile. They will be playful with you, and they will try to impress you with all of their funny skills and odd behaviors. If a Sagittarius really likes you, they will stutter and act shy around you — something that rarely happens with a Sag. Expect to be complimented a lot when you are being courted by a Sagittarius.

Capricorn

(December 22nd to January 20th)

If a Capricorn likes you, they will be very hot and cold. One day they will be flirting with you, and they next day they will avoid you. This is due to their overthinking, they don't want to seem too eager, and will often choose indifference after a day of affection. Capricorns need to feel superior, and having a crush makes them feel weak. This often causes them to break things off before they even start, because they do not want to risk being hurt. However, if you make them feel secure, and show a Capricorn that you too think they are wonderful, they will stick around, and they will eventually admit their feelings for you. Pay attention to the advice you get from a Capricorn, it is a very big sign of affection. Capricorns want to make sure you know about all of their unique talents, and this is their way of impressing you. They will make eye contact with you if they are fond of you, and will often stare at you intensely if they foster feelings for you.

Aquarius

(January 21st to February 18th)

If an Aquarius likes you they will want to be around you. They are reserved when it comes to emotions, but they will encourage you to take what you want. Usually, this means them, but they will test you to see if you will be deterred. If you are unsure of an Aquarius and have another conquest in mind, they will often tell you that you deserve better than that person. They will always try to steer you in their direction. If an Aquarian keeps a conversation going with you for a long period of time, know that they admire you — Aquarians are very bad at focusing their attention in regular situations.

Pisces

(February 19th to March 20th)

If a Pisces likes you they get very coy and very silly. They are dreamers, and they will always want to share their craziest fantasies and desires with you. Their awkwardness is often very endearing, and their fits of laughter are a tell tale sign that they find you charming. If a Pisces likes you, it will feel like you are in high school again. They will poke you and giggle a lot, and they will approach you in childish ways, sending cute text messages, and flirty comments your way. If a Pisces flirts with you more online versus in person, just know that this is because they are shy, and they tend to withdraw in real life situations. This does not mean that they don't like you, or that they're playing games. They're just more confident online. TC mark

I Want The Kind Of Love That Comforts Me

Posted: 20 Jul 2016 07:15 PM PDT

iStockPhoto.com / Eva Katalin Kondoros
iStockPhoto.com / Eva Katalin Kondoros

You know that feeling of seeing the sun or a rainbow after a storm? That's the kind of love that I want; one that would give me a sense of comfort. The feeling of being safe and sound. I need someone to be my sun and my rainbow because oftentimes, I think I am the storm.

I am clingy. Cuddling is one of my ways to show affection, and I need someone who would be okay with spooning all day long, especially on a cold, rainy day while watching romantic films on our laptop screen. I need someone who would be clingy too—that occasional resting of head on my shoulder or stealthy kisses or arms around my arms or gentle squeezes when we're holding hands. I need someone whom I would find comfort with, even if that comfort comes from simple glances across a busy room.

I am a worrier.
I tend to worry about the simplest of things like being late in movie houses or my favorite character possibly dying towards the end of a series. And as someone who worries about something every minute of the day, I need someone patient enough to always remind me that everything is going to be okay; someone who would tell me that we can re-watch the start of the movie in case we miss it, or that my favorite character will most likely live (or that in case he doesn't, someone who would assure me that it's all part of a grander plan). I need someone who would be my human blanket when I tremble and would never make me feel as if I am alone in my fights, even if these fights are against myself. I need someone who will comfort me especially during times that even I doubt myself, times when I just feel like crying because I feel completely and utterly lost and empty inside.

I am a pessimist. I feel pressured about a lot of things and I admit, most of these things are the kind of ideas that are in fact not a big deal to most people. I think about getting stuck in traffic on my way home, about a report I need to submit in three weeks, about what's going to happen in the next three months or how my life would turn out to be in three years. I think about my career—if I'll ever land on my dream job. I think about my family—if when I can be able to return the favor they gave me for the past years.

I think about the relationship I have or will have–if it will last long. If it will last forever. It's not because I lack faith; it' just that no matter how much faith I put into things, there's always a part of me that sees the end of the road with less light.

I always tend to feel like something wrong or something bad is about to happen. I think more about the cons rather than focusing on the pros. What if this turns into a heartbreak, too? What if along the way, we find ourselves incompatible? What if, just what if, s/he's not the one I'm destined to be with?

Nevertheless, I just want the kind of love that comforts me.

I need someone whom I can be myself with—all weird personalities I am. I need someone whom I can joke around with during a long road trip, whom I can play with in the supermarket, whom I can piggy back when we're in bed (and vice versa), whom I can dance with when my favorite song plays on the radio, whom I can take a hundred selfies with and who can take a hundred more photos of me when we go somewhere new. I need someone whom I can be serious with, too. I need someone whom I can talk to about anything under the sun—the different names of the stars, our favourite movies, the books we love, our deepest fears, or happiest and saddest experiences, the other universes that may exist. I need a friend and a lover rolled into one.

It's a bit one-sided, to be honest; being the one in a relationship who often needs more comforting. But I need someone who will understand that. That more often than not, I am a storm. Sometimes I am the sun or the rainbow but often times I am a storm. There is a storm inside me that does not rest, and I need someone who's brave enough to fight the raging winds with and within me.

I need someone who wouldn't find it weird that sometimes I get sad for all possible reasons and even for no apparent reason, and in turn would simply be the more clingy one between the two of us. Because that's what I need: a simple touch, a warm and tight hug, a light kiss in the forehead, or a passionate one in the lips.

What I need is to know that there is someone beside me, one who has the ability to comfort me and to understand that I am and will always be a work in progress.
I need someone to understand that I am a person slowly embracing my uniqueness and my self-worth. I need someone who, whether or not I get past being a worrier or a pessimist, would still love me anyway. TC mark

61 People Confess What They Would Say To The Ex Who Was ‘The One That Got Away’

Posted: 20 Jul 2016 07:00 PM PDT

Sophia Sinclair
Sophia Sinclair

Sometimes “The One That Got Away” is that famous Katy Perry song that unconsciously plays in the background when you come across a rather happy photo of your ex, but most of the time it’s just the ex — that one person you could’ve and should’ve ended up with if it hadn’t been for a couple of bad decisions you both have made, or some force beyond your control a.k.a. fate. Basically they’re the ones we regret, in one way or another.

More often than not they disappear from our lives too quickly and just leaves us with this huge dump of unsaid things and a shitload of emotions to deal with. Here are sixty and one souls — different people, different cities, different faces with different stories, different ages, some young, some too young and some, well, not so young. All have one thing in common. They all have something to say to their one that got away. If it matters, a couple of them have been together in the past and are talking about the other. Care to guess who used to be with who? While some of them requested for their names to be changed, some didn’t. And one of them might actually be talking about you…


1. “My family misses you. Sometimes it feels like they’ve been with you longer than I have. I remember how my mom and my little brother literally cried when I told them we’ve decided to end things. They kinda miss you quite terribly. I miss you quite terribly too.”

— Sean, 20

2. “I wish I hadn’t pushed you away.”

— Sabbie, 19

3. “You are, by far, the best and the worst decision I’ve made.”

— Nina, 22

4. “I’m sorry we had to let each other go. We weren’t exactly the best couple, we had so many misunderstandings, so many differences, and I think it’s the universe telling us that we’re not made for each other. I’m sorry for all the pain I’ve cause you, and thank you for making me realize who I am, to become the person I am now.”

— Jake , 18

5. “Guess I should’ve swiped left?”

— Kim, 18

6. “After you left, I changed my best friend’s contact name to yours and asked her to text me good mornings and good nights every day. It went on for months. It was creepy hahaha but it helped me move on for some reason. I still miss you sometimes though.”

— Marie, 20

7. “I’m really sorry for scratching your car and telling your parents that I thought you were cheating. Turns out you weren’t….but I was. Just thought it takes one to know one. I’m really sorry.”

— Asha, 20

8. “Well you weren’t completely my TOTGA because we got back together after a couple of years but I was really stupid. I didn’t know what I was going to lose until you walked away from me. It was painful seeing you wrap your arms around him and kiss him along the halls and everyday in class. And when prom came, I’ve never seen anyone look so good in a dress and it broke me that I wasn’t your first and last dance that night. You and him, young love, in the most innocence of the phrase. And even now that we’re together again, it still kills me inside knowing you could have spent those little moments with me if I wasn’t such a dick.”

— Luke, 25

9. “I still miss you and I do think about you often but I definitely don’t want you back in my life. Au revoir, motherfucker!”

— Adrian, 23

10. “I always tell people that I never really liked or loved you. But truth is, I did and I still do. There’s just something about you that makes it hard to forget.”

— Aisha, 20

11. “No regrets. Thankful you’re the one I shared all my firsts with. Thank you for trusting me.”

— Sara, 22

12. “I really thought you’d say yes.”

— Gene, 24

13. “I’m getting married soon. My fiance doesn’t know about you and she doesn’t know that I still love you after all this years. But I hope you don’t come back anymore because I don’t want to end up leaving her.”

— Koko, 26

14. “I don’t really know. Sucks to think that all the years we’ve spent together are now just memories long gone. Was he worth it? Was he worth this? I sure damn hope he is. I wish you two all the happiness I can’t have.”

— Chris, 21

15. “It hurt when your friends had no idea I exist in your life. When we’re around other people it’s as if I’m nothing to you. You change the way you act and I don’t know, I just wish I was the prettier type or the kind of girl you can flaunt when you’re at parties and when you hang out with your buds. Cause I was never that kind of girl you know? I wish I wasn’t so embarrassing for you. I wish I was something you could be proud of.”

— Sam, 19

16. “I wish you weren’t 23 and married and I wish you had used a condom when you fucked my best friend years ago. Fuck you cause I still love you.”

— Alex, 22

17. “I would’ve said ‘I do’ if you ever asked.”

—Marga, 31

18. “I wish your parents weren’t so homophobic.”

— Albert, 20

19. “I don’t have a real life TOTGA thankfully, but okay, I wish you weren’t a fictional book character and I really wish you didn’t die. Also, fuck you Jojo Moyes and Suzanne Collins.”

— Janelle, 16

20. “Why are you still so good to me? I wasn’t ready, I left, I lied, I cheated, I fooled around when you gave me all your attention. So, why? It would’ve been easier to move on if you just became cold to me. I deserved it anyways.”

— Bill, 19

21. “I regret deleting your messages.”

— Sansa, 18

22. “You were a terrible, horrible, really bad kisser but I seriously remember you in every person I kiss and sleep with. I always secretly wish and imagined it was still you who I’d sleep with and wake up to the next day.”

— Xavier, 26

23. “It took me a while to make up my mind. It was March 18, 2014 when I flew to surprise you with flowers, a script of apologies and a poem in my head. You always loved my poems..but wow I was a week and two days late. You were already with someone then. I still mean that part where I said “I’d give up all my tomorrows if it meant reliving every single yesterday I spent with you.” 2016 and it still haunts me how you said you would have said yes if I arrived at your doorstep a week and three days earlier.”

— Dave, 23

24. “I really hope we bump into each other at the coffee shop where we first met. Just so I could gladly spill coffee all over you again. Fucking. Boiling. Coffee.”

— Soso, 20

25. “I hope you meet some other dude who will sweep you off your feet before I become stupid and selfish enough to ask you to come back and stay with me again. Please, please, just fall in love with someone else who isn’t me. I don’t deserve you.”

— Lorenzo, 22

26. “One of the worst things you can ever do to someone is cheat on them. I mean, it really sucks. I admit I’ve long forgiven you but I carry your mistake even when we’re no longer together. I’m with someone else now and every time I find myself tempted to cheat, I just remind myself of how bad it hurt me when you did. So thank you.”

— Ivan, 19

27. “When you left, I literally forgot who I was before we were together.”

— Mikee, 19

28. “The last time I called you wasn’t an accident. My brother pressing your contact or him wanting to talk to you was all some petty lie just to talk to you and hear your voice. I’m sorry I’m not the best at burning bridges. Guess you just meant more to me than I did to you.”

— Kyle, 17

29. “I don’t hate you anymore, but I still can’t forgive everything you’ve done to me. Sorry.”

— Winona, 21

30. “I’m still hoping that one day you’d call and tell me that you made a mistake and that you still love me.”

— Jean, 19

31. “Can we literally and figuratively sleep with each other one last time?”

— Andro, 24

32. “I still can’t believe how anyone could just throw all those years and memories away and make it look so easy.”

— Joseph, 19

33. “I really miss how you’d let me play with your hair a lot and how it almost always smells like cinnamon. Weird.”

— Tin, 17

34. “I knew you were cheating the entire time. And no, I don’t hate you. Not one bit.”

— Karen, 20

35. “I’ve been thinking about it since the day you left me and I don’t know, it’s been what, 2 years? I wish I knew or at least I wish you told me what I did wrong or where it all went wrong. It’s hard playing mind games with myself and thinking it was all my fault.”

— Harvey, 21

36. “I wish you never told me you loved when you knew in your heart that it was still her.”

— Kate, 20

37. “I’m sorry I never had the courage to tell you I was really into you.”

— Jonathan, 24

38. “I wish I met you when we were older and more err, I don’t know, mature, settled and decided? We were too young and innocent and we rushed things.”

— Josh, 18

39. “I wish you told me early on that you hate being attached and that you were incapable of committing and loving anyone.”

— Jao, 19

40. “I’m sorry I couldn’t be the person you’ve always wanted me to be. Sorry.”

— Elise, 19

41. “I have nothing against gays but fuck you, just fuck you for trying to win my friendship and affection just so you could get close to my brother.”

— Cara, 17

42. “I bought us floor tickets to Ed Sheeran’s concert but we never got to watch cause you broke up with me. It was almost a year’s worth of allowance but oh well, glad I watched it with my little sister instead. We both say konnichiwa. P.S. Saw that the guy you dated a week after we broke up bought you Lower Box tickets to Ed, cool cool.”

— AJ, 20

43. “When I started working here in Hong Kong I see your face almost everywhere. A lot of girls look like you. A lot.”

— Pen, 22

44. “I wish you were easier to forget than remember.”

— Amara, 20

45. “I hope you’ll be a million times happier than you were with me. I just really want you to be happy.”

— Say, 18

46. “I still love you even though you’re trying to convince everyone that you are now straighter than ever. Best of luck, dude, bro, man.”

— Jaime, 21

47. “I really thought I could find someone better. This has got to be the biggest mistake I’ll have to live with for the rest of my life.”

— Ally, 27

48. “As much as I hated you for leaving me, I’m thankful that you did because I never would’ve been able to. And if I didn’t? I wouldn’t have met her.”

— Jason, 19

49. “I just don’t want to say anything to her anymore.”

— William, 18

50. “Always remember to wake up at 7 am daily, to eat and never skip meals, to drink about 8 glasses of water a day and to sleep a full 8 hours, alright? I won’t be there to remind and take care of you everyday anymore.”

— Keira, 23

51. “I wish we didn’t start as friends with benefits.”

— Alec, 26

52. “I’m sorry for falling out of love with you when you never did anything wrong. I wish I knew how to reverse it when it was happening. I was so scared I didn’t know what to do and I feel so guilty until today.”

— Percy, 30

53. “We had 2 chances, love. We used to believe that we were destined for each other. But I guess this isn’t what the world wants for us. While the two of us were being happy, many people were also getting hurt. Thank you for giving us up for their happiness instead of ours. Thank you for minding their business instead of ours. Thank you for leaving me just because I can’t leave you, again. Do I love you? Yes. Can I still trust you? No. Hope you grow a dick to fight for what you want next time. Fuck you for leaving me empty.”

— Nico, 18

54. “I can’t stand the thought of someone else being with you and knowing you the way I do, and so much more. I can’t stand the thought of someone else holding your hands, tracing your back up and down like mine did. I can’t stand the thought of you loving someone else. I just can’t.”

— Jane, 29

55. “I know you faked all your orgasms. For the record, I did too. “

— Kev, 22

56. “You were once my home. I hope I was yours too.”

— Louise, 18

57. “The last thing you told me was “I love you, trust me I really do. I just need time to find myself. Please forgive me.” I was holding on to the possibility of you coming back but now I hope you just take it back and tell me you no longer love me. Please help me forget you cause I really want to. Please.”

— Stella, 24

58. “I should’ve told you what you meant to me.”

— Ethan, 19

59. “Did you ever really love me?”

— Renee, 22

60. “If you ever come back this instant, or 4 minutes from now, 3 months, 2 years later, I’d leave everything and everyone behind and just run away with you if you wanted me to. I won’t ever let you get away from me ever again. And oh, I still really love you.”

— Christopher, 19

61. “I love you. Thank you for coming back.”

— Karenina, 28

So, if you had one chance, what would you say to the one that got away? TC mark

22 Women Share Exactly What Made Losing Their V-Card So Exceptionally Shitty

Posted: 20 Jul 2016 06:00 PM PDT

Bianca des Jardins -  www.instagram.com/biancadjardins/
Bianca des Jardins –
www.instagram.com/biancadjardins/

1. He’d Learned About Sex From Porn…

My first time was with a fellow virgin. This was a guy who’s sexual knowledge began and ended with pornography. There was some foreplay, but when it came time to actually begin, the guy tried to insert his entire member, all at once…like they do in porn. Instant anguish. I pushed him off me and curled up in a ball. The poor guy had no idea what went wrong.

2. This Is SOOOOO Common, Guys. Stop It!

I wish I hadn’t been guilt tripped into doing it.

3. Allergies Plus Giant Dong

If I had known I was allergic to condom lube (and most lube in general, actually) and if my boyfriend had realized his penis was giant.

4. Romance

If he wasn’t watching football throughout. Sadly, I’m not joking.

5. “Friends” Judging You Afterward

I lost my virginity in college with a guy I trusted and who was very nice. The whole experience itself was good, but after when I told my best friend she was really judgmental.

No matter how much I told myself losing my virginity isn’t that big of a deal and this is the 21st century I’ll be fine it was still an emotional thing that dredged up a lot of cultural baggage and I could use if not the support of my best friend then at least not her outright condemnation. She made me feel like crap and our friendship wasn’t really the same after that.

6. A Family Setting

If it wasn’t in a minivan, that would have been a step up.

7. Just Trying To Get It Over With

If I actually loved him and wasn’t just suddenly impatient to lose my virginity at 21. It was ultimately “meh.”

8. Trophy Collectors Should Be Banned By Law

It probably shouldn’t have been with a pathetic asshole. It should have been with someone who cared about me as much as I cared about them, and not just some guy who wanted another “cherry trophy.”

9. In A PT Cruiser

If it wasn’t in the front seat of a PT Cruiser…and if the car hadn’t died promptly after, forcing us to go look for help in the rain.

10. Would Have Like To Know It Might Hurt

I wish I had been better prepared. I knew about my hymen but I never had someone to tell me how it was going to be. It hurt and there was blood. I felt really awkward and hurt for a few days. I was looking at the movies where it was so blissful and got a horrible experience. They should tell you these things in sex education.

11. The Man In The Sky

Coulda done without the crushing mormon guilt. At first, my bf at the time couldn’t get hard, lots of nerves, and I actually thought ‘God’ was giving me one last chance to save my virginity.

12. Would Have Waited Until It Felt Important

Not drunk for the first time. Not with a boy I had gone to high school with, but had just met at the party. Not on my friend’s family’s basement chaise lounge. Not with other people sleeping in the room. Not without protection

In short, I should have waited until it was someone important to me. Nothing about the sex was terrible, but the situation was embarrassing, and although he asked me several times (knowing that I was young and drunk) if I was SURE I wanted to do this, I should have said no. I was naive enough to think that if I did it, he would be enamored with my sexual maturity and we could go out. Nope, his friends all silently judged me when I ran his shoes upstairs to him as they were trying to sneak out the next morning.

13. Classic Disappearing Asshole

He told me he loved me, but that was a lie. Then he left almost immediately afterwards so he could go set off fireworks from China in the woods with his cousin. He even borrowed $20 bucks from me for gas money and told me he would call me later. Never even saw him again after that.

14. Definitely Not Brittany

Not being called Brittany…. my name is definitely not Brittany. Also, not him getting me pregnant after he SWORE that gel was spermicide and then dipping off to Florida to never be seen again. Yeah, being loved and not feeling like a used up whore in his eyes would have made the experience better. Oh, and warn her if you’re not circumcised…. Okay, I don’t want to talk about this anymore…

15. The Dane Cook Of Sex

I wish that I had told him that it was my first time. Maybe he would have made it a bit more special. Like we wouldn’t have been watching Dane Cook the entire time.

16. Using Sex To Try To Keep A Man

It wasn’t terrible, and I loved the guy (ended up being with him for close to 7 years), but I should have waited a little longer. I did it to keep him around because I thought he was losing interest and we ended up splitting two weeks later and beginning a destructive cycle of being together / breaking up / friends with benefits / jealous rage / back together + random amounts of cheating and lies on both parts. The entire relationship gave me a fucked up sense of how a healthy relationship goes and it took me a long time to straighten myself out.

17. The Chafing

If he didn’t “go in dry.” Ahhh, 17-year-old me was heaps smart.

18. Checking Every Terrible Box

*if he had loved me.

*if he had turned off the TV

*if he had taken off his socks

*if he had gone down on me first

*if he had done ANYTHING to make me feel sexy, loved and wanted

*if he didn’t cheat on me a month later by asking his ex for nsa sex.

*if I hadn’t stormed out immediately after

*if he didn’t run and tell my friend as soon as possible

Christ, regrets.

19. *Cringe*

…I thought it would be a good idea to have John Mayer playing in the background. Then when it started to hurt like a bitch, it felt John was just mocking me with “Your Body Is A Wonderland,” and all of a sudden I felt like a cliche.

20. The Orgasm Riddle

I just remember being super pissed that it was never really explained to me that penis in vagina doesn’t automatically mean fireworks and orgasms.

21. Always Pee Afterward

If I hadn’t immediately contracted a urinary tract infection and assumed I had a deadly STD.

22. Identity Issues

It would have been less traumatic if either of us had known he was gay. TC mark

The Sexiest Thing About You, According To Your ‘Love Language’

Posted: 20 Jul 2016 05:31 PM PDT

Drew Wilson
Drew Wilson

1. Physical Touch

People crave you because you're so damn good at using your body to make yourself and others feel good. Physicality is your specialty. You know how to move—how to maneuver your limbs, swing your hips, tilt your head, and embrace people. The way you own your physical form and the space you inhabit transforms regular moments into something more. You're unafraid to sidle up to the object of your affection and place a hand on them somewhere—to connect, flesh to flesh—and that's impossibly tantalizing. You also feel comfortable in almost all situations, as if you were just meant to be there—sitting or standing or lying on the couch spread eagle—and you have a way of inviting others to feel equally at ease alongside you.

2. Quality Time

People are attracted to your ability to make them feel heard and appreciated. Especially when you're hanging out with someone you're actively pursuing, you tend to exude a deliciously calm, collected confidence and your aura is wonderfully contagious. Unlike most, you give those you love your undivided attention without exception, and that doesn’t go unnoticed. Your presence is better than catnip, a bundle of burning sage, or any self-help book. Spending time with you is an enchanting experience, and that's what makes you so impossible to resist.

3. Words of Affirmation

Who doesn't love reassurance? No one! That's why you're so appealing to others. You provide the loving vote of confidence everyone secretly covets. You elevate the moods of those you’re close to just by walking into the room or picking up the phone because they associate you with such bewitching affirmations. People subconsciously rely on you to transform their "meh" state of mind into one of utter elation because you actually can—just by saying something honest and touching. Your heartfelt, flattering words are powerful, and you know how to wield them to make the people you adore feel better about themselves and the world overall.

4. Acts of Service

Niceness is not to be underestimated, and you fully respect and appreciate that. You are Captain Kind and it's sexy as hell. You will go out of your way to make someone else's day go smoother, particularly if you’re trying to woo them. It's a beautiful quality, especially when you're in the courting stage of a relationship and you're doing nice things in overdrive for the person you want to boyfriend or girlfriend.

5. Receiving Gifts

Some people might say they don't care for gifts—as if they're above materialism or something—but they would be lying. We're all responsive to the right present (not something expensive, necessarily, but well thought). The right gift might cost zero cents or a thousand dollars. Whatever the case, in the moment it's given it will make the recipient feel as if the entire universe is smiling down upon them. You are the arbiter of that kind of happiness. You understand how to orchestrate the most meaningful gestures and turn regular objects into gifts dripping with significance—and when you do, it's incredibly seductive. TC mark

I Wanted You But I Don’t Need You (So Don’t Expect Me To Chase You)

Posted: 20 Jul 2016 05:30 PM PDT

laurfant24
laurfant24

I wanted you, in a deep and almost desperate way. I wanted to find out where every scar and scab on your body came from. I wanted to know every story behind your tattoos. I wanted to know what was behind those blue of yours. I wanted to learn of your previous loves and what gets you out bed in the morning. I wanted to know what the future could hold for us, but there is no us, not anymore.

Now there is only you and there is only me. We are separate, again. We fell apart nearly as fast as we fell together.

I don't need you. I only wanted you. I won't run to you. I won't question why you just left. I won't blow up your phone or come running after you. That's not me, not anymore at least. If you don't want me anymore, that's your choice and I'll let you go. There is nothing I can say that will make you stay. There is nothing I want to say to change your mind.

You simply made the choice that I wasn't what you wanted, so you're free to go now, but you already knew that. I won't try to stop you.

I do miss you though, I didn't think it would sting like this, but it does. It still stings and it still burns. I thought maybe it would be painless, after all it feels like we barely knew each other now.

I've never woken up by your side, but every time I hear that stupid song you love so much on the radio I think of you. I've never cut your hair, but every time I see someone with curly brown hair coming my direction I secretly hope it's you. I've never seen you cry, but I still have to see that annoying heart next to your name to remind me of you every time I get on Snapchat.

There was so much more I wanted to learn from you and about you, so much more I wanted to give you. But there's no need now, because you decided it was over. It was just enough for you and you walked away.

I wouldn't give much, but I'd give a little something in order to run my fingers through your curly hair and kiss you on the mouth. I'd give a little something to hear your accent roll off your tongue and to help you plan your future trips that I secretly hoped I could become part of. I'd give a little something to roll on the floor with your dog and eat cheese pizza with you while you laugh telling me how plain that is.

But all those little something I'd give it still wouldn't be enough because I can't make you stay and I don't want to try if I'm not what you want. I'll never try to make you stay and I'll never chase after you because I don't think the right person will have to be chased after.

I may want you, but I sure as hell don't need you.

I won't run after you to prove that I'm worth it because to you I wasn't and that's all right. So, I'll let you go, freely and peacefully, and if you come back I can't promise I'll be here. TC mark

The Hidden Blessings In Rejection

Posted: 20 Jul 2016 05:00 PM PDT

www.Thought.is
www.Thought.is

We are programmed to associate the word rejection with failure and we are wired to believe that rejection is a direct reflection of our own shortcomings or our inability to get what we want.

Because when people pray for us, they don't pray that we get rejected and when we get rejected, people try to comfort us because we are taught to believe that rejection is painful.

And I'm not saying rejection isn't painful but it's not necessarily bad for us, if anything, it's actually better for us.

I look back at the times I was rejected from something and how I eventually found something better and wondered why I can't learn to embrace rejection and take it as an opportunity to grow.

Why do we have to feel guilty for getting rejected? Isn't rejection another word for trying?

You might not get the job you want, but you will get the job you need.

You might not be with the person you love, but you will end up with the person you adore. 

You might think that rejection means you're not good enough, but rejection means you're better than whatever or whoever rejected you.

Why can't we see the blessings in rejection? Why are we only looking for the instant gratification of the word ‘yes?’ Given that many times 'yes' broke our hearts too and left us with nothing.

We contradict ourselves because we keep saying that if something is meant for us, it will find us, yet we can't seem to shake rejection off, we can't stop it from crippling us when it comes to taking risks and loving ourselves.

Rejection is also fate telling us that some things are not meant for us and if they were, we wouldn't have been rejected.

And ironically, rejection can teach us how to accept ourselves.

It teaches us that life won't always go our way but we will still survive, it teaches us that no matter how hard we want something, it still might not be ours and it teaches us that it can sometimes save us from something we were not prepared to handle.

Rejection is another word for redirection.

Because it's not rejection that puts you down, it's the way you handle it. You can either get discouraged or think that something is wrong with you or you can believe that it's a blessing in disguise preparing you for something bigger than what you wanted for yourself.

Rejection teaches you that the only approval you really need is yours — once you have that, nothing else matters. TC mark

This Is What You’re Like When You’re Mad, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Posted: 20 Jul 2016 04:00 PM PDT

Damian Borja
Damian Borja

Aries

(March 21st to April 19th)

Aries are babies, to put it bluntly. They will explode and never think about how their words and actions affect the people around them. They will never sugar coat their feelings, and will often verbally hurt people they care about in order to protect their pride. If an Aries is angry with you, simply staying quiet and not reacting to their reactive state is the best possible way to cool them down. They will calm down quickly, and they will often feel extremely guilty for getting out of hand.

Taurus

(April 20th to May 21st)

A Taurus will never blow up on you right away. When mad, they will often give you subtle, passive aggressive hints. They will become silent and cold, keeping everything in until it boils over and causes them to explode with emotions. Physical creatures, they often use their body a lot, pacing and waving their hands, exhausting themselves in an angry fit. However, it is very hard to upset a Taurus, as they tend to be rational and just don't want to disturb any harmony.

Gemini

(May 22nd to June 21st)

A Gemini is the most talkative sign in the Zodiac, so it comes as no surprise that they tend to get mad and dish out their anger in the form of screaming, shouting, and cursing. They know how to break someone down using words, and they will not hesitate to do so. When you get the other side of an angry Gemini, they can be levelheaded and calm, using extremely mean and cutting language to almost passively hurt you deeply. They always go right for the jugular. If you judge a Gemini, or if you tell them what to do, expect to get verbally assaulted.

Cancer

(June 22nd to July 22nd)

When mad, a Cancer will start sulking loudly. If no one catches on to that, they will move on to passive manners, before turning to isolation. However, instead of leaving them alone when they go into isolation, in those moments a Cancer needs to know that they are noticed and cared for. If a friend does not express to them that they are appreciated, or if someone is mean to them during this period of time, they will start hysterically crying. They build their emotions up inside of them until they bubble over, causing every pent up feeling and sensitivity to result in waterworks.

Leo

(July 23rd to August 22nd)

When mad, the Lion goes beyond anger and often fills with red hot rage. Their roar is louder than any other sign in the Zodiac, and they can often be found intensely shouting to feel better. They a crude, often resorting to using offensive language and blowing up on people who do not deserve it. However, they will never apologize when they are in the wrong, because their pride and their ego will never allow for them to do so.

Virgo

(August 23rd to September 22nd)

A Virgo cannot express their feelings very easily, so they often bottle up their emotions until they blow up at very small things. They will slam doors and cry, scream and throw temper tantrums. Virgos keep so much inside, and when they do boil over it can be quite awkward for the people they are around, for no one will know what to do about the uncharacteristic outburst.

Libra

(September 23rd to October 22nd)

Libras absolutely hate conflict and confrontation. They despise it, and therefore it takes a lot for them to show their anger when they are mad. Since aggression is considered to be a very unpopular emotion, Libras have learned to keep it to themselves as not to disturb their likeable, charming image. When they do fly off the handle, Libras often justify their meltdowns, and believe that they expressed themselves in the best possible way.

Scorpio

(October 23rd to November 22nd)

It is rare to see an angry Scorpio, as they are so good at keeping their feelings locked away within themselves. However, when they are angry, and when you are in their line of fire, you better watch out. They will stare you down, and that eye contact will feel like cold knives. They can be very, very hurtful with their words, and their sarcasm can cause a lot of harm to those who have to deal with it. Scorpios also don't forget those who scorn them, and they will often hold grudges. They are emotionally destructive creatures.

Sagittarius

(November 23rd to December 21st)

When mad, Sagittarians get angry flare ups, and use hurtful words to really burn people. If you upset a Sagittarius, they will unfriend you from all social media immediately. They will also do so in real life, often ignoring people who have slighted them and pretending like they don't even know them at all.

Capricorn

(December 22nd to January 20th)

Though Capricorns are very easily angered, they will never show it. It is only when they are pushed to their limits that they will finally express their aggression. They will smash things, and they will criticise until their opponent is left with emotional wounds. A Capricorn is the type of person who will say something like "I'm not mad, I'm disappointed" in order to cut someone deeper than they need to. They strive to make people feel terrible about themselves when they are mad.

Aquarius

(January 21st to February 18th)

When mad, an Aquarius will often just stop talking to the person who angered them. They will get into their car, or lock themselves away in their room with their favourite music, in order to cool off and feel better. They will purposely try to ignore the source of their anger for as long as possible, in hopes that it will help them calm down. If they can't relax, an Aquarius will enter a mode of extreme infuriation, and they will lose their temper. They will unload all of their negative feelings, and it will take a while for them to start talking to that person again after they have blown up.

Pisces

(February 19th to March 20th)

Due to constantly feeling their feelings so deeply, it is difficult for a Pisces to get mad. They often have worked through everything time and time again, and have been able to experience and feel through whatever it was that angering them. When they do lash out, it is never on others. Rather, a Pisces is known for being very self destructive, and they will get aggressive with themselves. After an episode, a Pisces will need a lot of time to reenergize their heart, and to feel dreamy again. TC mark

I Regret Letting You Touch My Body

Posted: 20 Jul 2016 03:00 PM PDT

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The first time he touched me,
I felt a stampede of wild horses
and I thought,
maybe,
Mufasa had it wrong,
maybe,
being trampled to death
isn’t so bad.

The first time he touched me,
I held my breath
as he moved his hands to my neck
and I learned what it means
to not breathe.

Maybe it’s okay.
I cry on the car ride home.
Maybe this is what they do
now.

I am awake at 7 am on a Sunday
and this isn’t routine.
My mother calls and says,
“Pumpkin, you are so strong!”
And I want to come undone.
I want to tell her I have
left my roots
and I don’t remember how it feels
to be held with care,
to be held with caution.

It is a year later before I tell a friend
and she describes it as
abuse.

I don’t tell anyone else.
I want to be in charge
of how this story goes.
I want to be in charge
of the words used.

Sometimes, when I’m asleep,
he still touches me.
Until I wake up
and I am far away,
and I know
he can’t touch me.

I fall asleep on the porch listening to
cicadas sing
and tell me
it will be okay.

One day, it will be okay.

Tonight, the song is soft
and the trauma is hard.

But it won’t always be that way.

Right?

It won’t always be that way. TC mark