Thought Catalog


27 People Reveal Why They’re Not Having Sex Right Now

Posted: 31 Jul 2016 08:00 PM PDT

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1. "Because I’m at work. Sheesh."— Jordan, 28

2. "Because my prefered partner is too busy playing Rust."— Sean, 29

3. "Because I’m single and going to sleep."— Bailey, 22

4. "I do not leave my parents house."— Sophia, 24

5. "I’m stuck in the hospital…and that's definitely the only reason."— Miles, 30

6. "Because even if I wasn’t at work and neither was my wife, she probably wouldn’t be in the mood for it anyway. And that’s the way that shit goes."— Leo, 32

7. "I have no need to."— Andrew, 28

8. "Because ugly."— Gia, 21

9. "Who says I’m not?"— Violet, 23

10. "I just ate and don’t want to vomit up my food from the agitation."— Dominic, 29

11. "I don’t think the librarian would look on that kind of thing favourably."— Howie, 24

12. "I am at work and my wife is at home caring for a sick toddler. Also, I am tired physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Sex isn’t appealing with that much exhaustion."— Ian, 34

13. "Fat. Lost 130 pounds still got like 70 to go. Soooooo slow."— Wyatt, 27

14. "Because I’m anti social and went 2 years in a chaste relationship and I after we broke up I just dont care anymore too much adult shit to do to survive"— Solomon, 30

15. "My standards are higher than my looks, wallet, and personality allow."— Leah, 26

16. "Deployed away from my SO."— Josh, 25

17. "Because I have an ugly face and confidence issues."— Reese, 20

18. "Apparently, you need another person for that."— Zach, 22

19. "I’m at work. But I’m still on grindr and scruff arranging it for the first practical moment – friday night."— Brayden, 27

20. "Girlfriend is living 1500 kilometers away in a different country."— Bella, 25

21. "Because LDR. Whelp"— Priya, 23

22. "Because my wife is 8 and a half months pregnant with twins…." — Isaac, 32

23. "Because sex is on hour cycling, twenty minutes walking and one hour train ride away. Edit: could this be the best triathlon ever?"— Reagan, 26

24. "Because I don’t care about it."— Ruby, 22

25. "I’m roughly six months from formally beginning the process of becoming a monk."— Will, 24

26. “Two-year-old won’t just lay down and take a goddamn nap already.”— Bristol, 35

27. “I’m at the office and Helen from HR said it’s not okay since the incident.” — Brendan, 30 TC mark

Where You’d Want Someone To Take You On Vacation, Based On Their Zodiac Sign

Posted: 31 Jul 2016 07:00 PM PDT

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Aries

(March 21st to April 19th)

An Aries will always enjoy going somewhere they have never been. However, they are so competitive, they often want to vacation somewhere under the radar. If you want to take an Aries on vacation, take them to an obscure island — somewhere you can barely find on a map. Make sure this place boasts a lot of things to physically challenge the Aries, like mountains, cliffs, etc.

Taurus

(April 20th to May 21st)

An ideal vacation for a Taurus involves comfort. They need to be pampered, taken care of, and they also need to experience delicious food and beautiful surroundings. Taking your Taurus to wine country and booking out a swanky hotel room, complete with spa and room service, would be an amazing vacation idea because it compliments every aspect of a Taurean personality.

Gemini

(May 22nd to June 21st)

Geminis love to roam freely, and they need a lot of stimulation from the places they decide to explore. Big cities appeal to them, and a place like London is an amazing fit for a Gemini because they would have an array of options to choose from. They can drink all they want, explore museums, look at incredible landmarks, order room service from a swanky hotel, or simply just take in the city's beautifully vibrant nature.

Cancer

(June 22nd to July 22nd)

Cancers are homebodies, so their ideal vacation often includes something comforting. This doesn't mean that a Cancer can't travel, however. A Cancer will always feel energized and safe around water, and a bed and breakfast (versus a large hotel) would make their vacation feel just like home.

Leo

(July 23rd to August 22nd)

Leo's always need to be in the center of the action. They want to be stimulated with good parties, and prospective adventures. They will thrive somewhere that is hip, and that has bars, and thrill seeking activities. Being able to drink and dance all night, and zip line during the day, will make a Leo feel like they aren't compromising any facet of their personality or missing out on anything while traveling.

Virgo

(August 23rd to September 22nd)

A Virgo will always choose an educational trip over a trip where they simply just lay down on a beach. They will want to visit a place that is rich in history like Germany or Paris, and they will absolutely adore getting taken around by tour guides while they learn everything they need to know about the cultures they are exploring.

Libra

(September 23rd to October 22nd)

A Libra will pick a vacation based on their mood. It is a great idea for Libras to focus on places that offer access to other, aesthetically different destinations. For example, the Greek Islands would stimulate a Libras many personalities and moods, with islands that are known for partying, and islands that are known for extreme relaxation, and islands that are known for culinary experiences.

Scorpio

(October 23rd to November 22nd)

Scorpios love to travel, but they don't ever want to go fully off the grid — they like their luxurious comforts. Therefore, a beautiful island that still houses stunning resorts would blow a Scorpio's mind, and appeal to their need for pampering.

Sagittarius

(November 23rd to December 21st)

A Sagittarius is known to be one of the most adventurous signs in the Zodiac. They will completely immerse themselves in the culture of another country. They will blend in with locals, learn new languages, and so on. They often choose airbnbs and camping over hotels, and need a place that offers them a lot of stimulation. A place like South Africa would be an amazing fit for a Sag, because it offers a one of a kind outdoor experience.

Capricorn

(December 22nd to January 20th)

Capricorns don't like to travel alone, and they often like utilizing their vacations as opportunities to reconnect with friends. Though they like to kick back and relax, a Cappy needs stimulation in small doses just in case they start to get bored of sitting around. A boat cruise would be an amazing vacation for a Capricorn, because they can soak up the sun during the day, and explore different cities and harbors when the boat anchors.

Aquarius

(January 21st to February 18th)

Aquarians are most likely to repeat vacation destinations. If they experienced great insights or creative inspiration in a certain place, you can bet that they will be back at that exact same spot the next time they get on a plane. They are known to do annual trips, and like to keep things simple, so anything that is familiar to them would be an ideal getaway.

Pisces

(February 19th to March 20th)

A Pisces is quite easily pleased when it comes to vacations. All they need is a beach, a comfy place to rest, and an amazing view. An island is always a good idea, because Pisces are known to be water babies. They love being surrounded by the Ocean's depths. TC mark

Here’s What Kind Of Job You Should Get, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Posted: 31 Jul 2016 06:01 PM PDT

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Aries

(March 21st to April 19th)

An Aries is extremely competitive and strong willed. Their vibrant nature and enthusiasm allows for them to excel in commission based jobs. Their impulsive tendencies often cause them to be fearless and brave, setting them up to be police officers, firefighters, and other everyday heroes. An Aries would also make an amazing entrepreneur, soldier, or politician.

Taurus

(April 20th to May 21st)

A Taurus is a very steadfast and stable human being. They work extremely hard when it comes to guaranteed payoffs like vacations, benefits, and great job security and salaries. They are determined, honest, and patient when they need to be, and they have a great approach to solving problems. Dependable and great leaders, Taureans would make amazing educators, lawyers, and designers. Because they are creative and love material things, they are often known to be very successful working with food, jewelry and other luxury items.

Gemini

(May 22nd to June 21st)

A Gemini loves intellectual, stimulating work. They work best in fast paced, high pressured environments where they will be required to work on many different things. A job that requires a Gemini to travel or network will be perfect for the constantly adventuring and social twin. They would make great stockbrokers, architects and teachers.

Cancer

(June 22nd to July 22nd)

As a nurturer, a Cancer would work best in an area of employment that caters to their sensitivity and compassion. They give amazing advice, and are very protective while still being responsible problem solvers. A Cancer would make an amazing social worker, a brilliant teacher and a very compassionate CEO.

Leo

(July 23rd to August 22nd)

A Leo is a natural born leader. They are fearless and independent and work best when they are in the spotlight. They admire jobs that bring them status and power, as they cannot work when they are boxed in and required to follow someone else's lead. Due to their spontaneity, and their sheer charm, Leo's would make amazing CEOs. They would also excel in real estate, design and politics.

Virgo

(August 23rd to September 22nd)

Known for their perfectionism, Virgos are very detail oriented employees. They are very good with their memory, and they are great problem solvers and abstract thinkers. They also tend to be very tidy and neat. Service jobs are the best for Virgos, because they go above and beyond and often do really well for themselves if tips are involved. Research, statistics, and other jobs that require meticulous thinking will actually be enjoyable for a Virgo.

Libra

(September 23rd to October 22nd)

Libras are the full package when it comes to employees. They are charming, attractive, generous and entertaining. They are cooperative, and they make amazing team leaders because of that. Libras would make amazing customer service employees, because they are patient and fair. Working with people is their strong suit, so any job that cater to that personality would be a great fit for a Libra. Jobs in politics, sales, negotiations or travel would benefit from having a Libra on board.

Scorpio

(October 23rd to November 22nd)

Scorpios are intense and meticulous. They have an amazing capacity to block out distractions, concentrate, and focus on a task at hand. This would make them amazing surgeons. They are curious and intrigued by knowledge, which makes them amazing investigators and interrogators. Scorpios are independent, however, so they need a job with a lot of freedom and room to roam. They would make amazing detectives, and kickass lawyers.

Sagittarius

(November 23rd to December 21st)

Ethical, full of energy, and extremely insightful, Sagittarians are amazing decision makers and make very easy going bosses. Due to their spiritual tendencies, and their connection to nature, a Sagittarius is often well equipped for a career that deals with the environment, or animals. A job that puts them outside, or one that allows for them to travel the world, is a big bonus for a Sagittarius. They would make amazing coaches and tour guides, because they would not be tied down by those careers — they could do them anywhere in the world, manifesting their need for freedom and flightiness.

Capricorn

(December 22nd to January 20th)

Capricorns love to be challenged, and they are always ambitious and up for a lot of work. They are determined, persistent and they will do whatever it takes to meet their potential. Responsible, serious and very aware of their surroundings, they are the most power hungry sign in the Zodiac. They enforce rules very well, and they keep schedules tight. They would make brilliant managers, bankers and they would excel in science based research projects.

Aquarius

(January 21st to February 18th)

Aquarians are natural born humanitarians. They are always up for entertaining odd or abnormal ideas, and they have an extremely curious mind. They are bound to end up in an unconventional job, and are often pursuing positions that they have created for themselves. Aquarians absolutely hate corporate environments, and they need freedom in their job in order to bring a fresh perspective to the table each week. An Aquarius would make an amazing inventor, and a kickass musician.

Pisces

(February 19th to March 20th)

Pisces are old souls. They are creative passionate and they excel at traditional jobs in the arts. They make amazing musicians, dancers and photographers. Pisceans are very intuitive, and when that is added into a creative, service oriented job, the results are incredible. People really feel understood and listened to when it comes to being served by a Pisces. Other than that, Pisceans would make incredible philanthropists, veterinarians and psychologists, because they foster a lot of compassion within their big hearts. TC mark

11 Men Talk About What Made Them Say ‘I Love You’ To Their Partner For The Very First Time

Posted: 31 Jul 2016 05:00 PM PDT

Liat Aharoni
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1. “I was so nervous to say it. I thought it was way too early, and that she’d think I was crazy or obsessed, but I knew the way I felt about her. It got to the point where I basically couldn’t hold it in any longer so I just said it. We weren’t doing anything important, it wasn’t on a holiday, or a monthly anniversary, or her birthday, the only thing that made that night memorable was the fact that it was the first time I told her I loved her.” —Jeremy, 25

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2. “We were at her sister’s wedding. She was a bridesmaid so I was in the crowd with all the other guests and when they were saying their vows and talking about love and what love means, I just looked at her standing up there and thought about how I feel all of those things every time I’m with her. So I said it that night, and it was perfect.” —Chris, 25

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3. “She was going away for a couple of weeks on vacation with her family, and I kept thinking about how much I was going to miss her, and as morbid as this sounds, I just kept thinking, shit if anything happens to her on the plane and I never get to say it, I’m going to live the rest of my life wishing I would’ve, so I did.” —Tim, 24

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4. “We were watching a movie together, not embarrassed to admit it was Pitch Perfect. She said something about wishing she had Anna Kendrick’s skinny legs, and I told her that I loved her the way she is. And then she looked at me like ‘did you just say the L word?!’ so I just came out and said it full-on, ‘I love you.’ So yes, the first time I said, ‘I love you’ to my girlfriend was when we were watching some chick flick about an all girls a cappella group.” —Greg, 25

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5. “It’s one of those we have been on and off for 3 years but never actually dated, and it was right after we made it official so I was worried it was too soon. The first time I told her was when I woke up before her after a night together and whispered it to her while she was sleeping next to me. She still doesn’t know I said it. I said it because just looking at her while she slept was the most beautiful thing to me and I knew that I loved her. I did before we were dating.” —JJ, 24

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6. “We had been dating for about 6 months and we were sitting in a dog park (with her dog) and she said ‘I love this dog so much,’ and I just kinda stupidly blurted it out because I had been feeling it and wanting to say it for so long, but never knew how. So when I heard the word ‘love’ even though she was talking about her dog, I just said it. She thought she misheard me at first and I said it again to reassure her I actually said it, and meant it.” —Martin, 25

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7. “We were laying in bed after a night of cooking dinner together, and even though we both knew we had to wake up early for work the next morning we couldn’t stop talking. At first we were just talking about stupid stuff, but then we started talking about the day we first met, and how happy we were that that day happened. And then I told her how much I cared about her, and I said it. And she said it back.” —Daniel, 28

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8. “It was the weekend before her birthday, and we were celebrating with all of her friends the night before so naturally there was lots of drinking. I know she loves to have donuts for breakfast when she’s hungover, so that morning I got up to get them before she woke up. I left her a note telling her where I went, and I decided to sign it with ‘I love you.’ So I guess technically I wrote it first, but when I got home she was awake and she clearly read the note, and she told me she loved me too. It was a great morning, one of the best ones I’ve ever had.” —Nate, 26

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9. “I first told him when he took me to meet his family. My parents don’t agree with my sexuality, so it was extremely emotional for me to be accepted by his, and I just felt it. I knew I loved him, and I knew it was the right moment to say it.” —Tyler, 25

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10. “She brought me along on her family vacation, and the entire week we had so much fun together, all of us, not just me and her. And I had known I loved her for a little while, but I just never knew when to say it. It was a perfect time, we were happy, we were relaxed, and she was with her family, so I told her, and I didn’t have to think about how to say it or what exactly to say, I just said it. It was simple and it just felt right.” —Ray, 27

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11. “It got to the point where she basically meant the world to me, and I thought I should let her know. And that’s exactly what I said, that she meant the world to me and that I loved her, because it was true, and it was how I felt.” —Mark, 26 TC mark

Be Patient, And Trust That You Will Love Again

Posted: 31 Jul 2016 04:00 PM PDT

Ieva Urenceva
Ieva Urenceva

Fear. That's what it all comes down to.

We seem to live in fear of never finding love again, scared of being alone, frightened of feeling unwanted, and terrified of never meeting anyone who makes us feel the way that specific person once did.

This fear is crippling, unconsciously controlling and driving us back into the arms of toxic people. It causes us to get back together with our ex's, while forcing us to get stuck in on-off relationships. Our fear is compelling us to cling on to people who we know must be let go of.

We're all rightfully scared we will never find someone else to love, causing us to remain in unhealthy relationships. Also causing us to grip on to toxic people.

Our fear is justifiable. Truth is we will never meet anyone who gives us the same type of love a certain person once did. This shouldn't be viewed as a negative notion though.

No two people are the same. Therefore, no two loves will ever be the exactly the same either.

Every person we meet in our lives is to serve us a particular purpose. They teach us what type of things we want, and more importantly, don't want out of our relationships. Some people might bring out the best in us, helping developing our strengths. Others might bring out the worst in us, exposing our weaknesses.

No one will ever be able to replicate the experiences and memories once shared. This person might have made us feel in a way no other ever has before, creating this dreaded terror.

Yes, we may never find that same kind of emotion again, but it doesn’t mean we will never feel love itself again.

A person might come and show us the type of love we deserve, yet not be the one who can completely give it to us. Every person is brought into our lives for different reasons and certain lengths of time. We must accept people as they come, and respectfully release them as they leave.

As much as we like to hope, sometimes love is not enough. Sometimes life wins instead. We end up in situations we didn't dream of, waking up to realize people we never wanted to lose are gone. Only then do we start understanding our relationship was possibly not as great as we once believed. We find ourselves hurt, jaded, and bitter, all dear friends of fear.

If a person leaves us, extensionally or circumstantially, we must let them go. It is important to keep reminding ourselves there is a greater purpose to their departure, a bigger unseen picture. We must not cling to things that are gone. We must not let fear triumph.

It is important to remember not to compare our lovers to one another. Each relationship must stand on its own. First we need to appreciate each person for what they were able to give us, and then forgive him or her for anything they were not able to.

We can live in this daunting fear of never feeling loved again, letting it control us until our ultimate demise. Or we can be open to the possibly of a new love, a better and more healthy type of love. It may come from a person we have yet to meet, or a person whom we haven't yet to give a chance too.

We will love again, so let's stop living in the fear we never will.

Let's triumph and rise above this distress, and let go everything triggering us to hold on to this particular person or feeling. We should understand we might not ever feel that certain way again, which only allows the possibility of a greater type of passion.

Love is most beautiful emotions that exists. Fear is one of the worse. We mustn't live in the constant fear of never loving again.

Love is supposed to conquer all, right? TC mark

A Goodbye Letter To My Eating Disorder

Posted: 31 Jul 2016 03:15 PM PDT

Lauren McKinnon
Lauren McKinnon

I am thankful that today I am able to tell people about your death rather than mine. I am glad that I am here to tell people about the abusive relationship we had rather than my parents telling my friends and family that the eating disorder won.

Today, I will write your goodbye letter, not mine. I am still alive and fighting. I am stronger than you and I have won.

I regret that I allowed you to control me for so long, and that I wasted three years of my life listening to your every command. I am embarrassed that I needed to have staff check my toilet before I flushed because I could not be trusted to go to the bathroom on my own. I am not proud of the fact that I had to have interns that are the same age as me weigh me everyday and sit with me while I struggle to eat half a cup of applesauce and listen to them tell me about their freshman year of college, while I spent my spring semester in and out of hospitals and treatment centers.

I don't tell people that I needed to have nurses watch my take my medications and check my mouth every night to make sure that I wasn't hiding pills. I am shameful about the fact that I had to spend a week sleeping in a room with only a mattress because with anything else, I might have hurt myself.

When I lost the five pounds I thought would make me happy, you told me to strive for ten. When I ran 10 miles, you told me to go to the two-hour Zumba class afterwards. When I was eating 500 calories a day and surviving off of diet pills and water, you told me that wasn't good enough. When I looked in the mirror and was able to count every single rib and see my hipbones jut out and told myself that this didn't look normal, you convinced me that I was obese.

No matter what I did, you were never happy. There was always room for improvement. You told me that I needed to be perfect, and it wasn't until I starved myself to near death that I realized that the only way I could be perfect is if I was dead.

I could say thank you for bringing me to the place that I am in today; I had to fight like hell and had no option but to be strong, but I don't think that was because of you. You didn't help me through the endless flashbacks or the anxiety attacks over one extra crouton on my salad or the fact that someone might have put three tablespoons of peanut butter on my PB&J instead of two so I just shouldn't eat it because it might be too many calories.

I survived all these things in spite of you.

You are the reason that these situations were so difficult, but you are not the reason that I am stronger today because of them. That is because of me. I chose to not let my entire life be consumed by calculations of calories. I chose to eat the damn chicken even if it looked bigger than the piece a week ago. I keep choosing recovery everyday, 6 times a day, without you.

None of this has been easy. Every time I pick up a fork and nourish my body, I am terrified. I have to fight back against the voices telling me that rice is going to make me fat. I have to try my hardest to not listen to the thoughts that tell me I should go for a run in the middle of the night when nobody would notice. Life in recovery is far from easy, but each day I know that I have more strength and more courage to loosen the ties that I have with you.

I have thrown out my scale and my diet pills. I am nourishing my body with foods that will allow me to think and grow and heal. I have attended family therapy sessions that were harder than I could have ever imagined. I have processed the trauma I went through and have come to learn that it was not my fault that I was raped, because it is NEVER the victim's fault and I follow that rule along with everyone else.

I made it to the other side of meals that made me want to die because death sounded a lot more appealing than eating a candy bar or a slice of pizza.

It wouldn't be right to say that I am fully recovered now, because this is something that I will struggle with for the rest of my life. Full recovery seems so unrealistic, just like I have come to realize that being "perfect" is unrealistic. You were never satisfied with me. I will always have some sort of struggle with food and exercise, but I am sure as hell determined to create a life that involves more than me being your puppet.

I am saying goodbye to you because I have a life to life; a life that doesn't include you. TC mark

43 Real ‘Before And After’ Stories That Will Actually Make You Want To Work Out

Posted: 31 Jul 2016 03:00 PM PDT

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You Can’t Hold On To Someone Who Doesn’t Want To Stay

Posted: 31 Jul 2016 02:15 PM PDT

 Seth Doyle
Seth Doyle

Sometimes it's hard to give up on someone, especially when you love them. Sometimes you feel like you have no say on who should be in your life because they don't want to be there. Sometimes you can't just tell them to stay, even though you really want them to, and here's why.

You feel like the universe is asking you to be a little more patient and wait a little longer. You're secretly hoping that maybe they'll change their mind. You crossed borders and swam across seas to give them what they want in the hopes of them gravitating back towards your life. And you really hope that's the case, but sadly it's not. Maybe you got attached, maybe you thought you were meant for each other, maybe your paths crossed and were meant to continue side by side. But then maybe you were wrong. Maybe it just wasn't meant to be.

Being uncertain of our own fate is nerve-racking. As humans, we initially believe in the positive outcomes that come as a result of enduring these predicaments. We think that life will reward us with something great whenever times get rough. In this case we believe that holding on to them a little bit longer will make them stay.

But once they have their minds set that they don't want you anymore, you have to let them go.

You can't ask them to stay if they don't want to. Neither can you force yourself into their life if they don't want you to be in it. If they truly wanted to be in your life, they wouldn't have considered leaving in the first place. Don't sit there and wait for them to change their mind, because it's the most heart-rending punishment you can ever do to yourself.

Sometimes the universe can be cruel, but there is a reason for everything. We may never know what that reason is, but it certainly leads us to where we should be and who we're supposed to be with. Their chapter in your life is over and it's time to move on to the next.

Of course sometimes you can't help but reminisce on the past and wonder what went wrong, what happened, what did I do? We're human and yes, it's normal to feel this way. You are not a weak person for loving someone. But do yourself a favor and let go. It can get hard sometimes and the desire of starting over with them will always be there.

But you have to be strong enough to let go of someone who doesn't want to be held, for your sake. A few months of sadness is better than a lifetime of pain.  TC mark

I Don’t Just Want To Text, I Want To See You Too

Posted: 31 Jul 2016 02:00 PM PDT

floralporn
floralporn

I don't want to constantly be on my phone, waiting for the black box to appear at the top of my screen with your name on it as I scroll through Twitter for the hundredth time today. I don't want to try to think of witty things to say to respond to your message. I don't want to just constantly talk about all the things you want to do.

I want to actually DO them.

I don't want to be in a relationship with my phone.

If I could use my phone as little as possible that would be great, that would make me ecstatic to not have to carry it around all the time and wait for your messages.

I'm not interested in my phone; I'm interested in you.

I want to actually put the phones down and have conversation face to face. I want to actually go do one of the things we're constantly talking about.

Texting is fun and all, but nowhere near as fun as seeing you in person.

I don't know how many more hints I can drop; I don't know how many more Snapchats I can send or texts saying 'I'm bored.'

I don't want a relationship with my phone; I want human contact and interaction, correction, I need human contact and interaction.

I want someone to smile at and joke with. I want someone's arm to touch when I'm laughing. I want someone to hug when I'm sad. I want to listen to someone I care about talk about their day, not just read a message over a phone screen saying it was good.

I can't put my arms around my phone in bed at night and find comfort in it. Holding on to my phone doesn't give me peace of mind and make me feel happy. Holding on to my phone does nothing for me other than cause me a little bit of anxiety.

I could stay up hours later than I wanted to staring at my phone to “talk” to you, but I'd rather make that mistake with you in person.

I could tell you how much I wanted to feel you body close to mine, I could tell you everything I wish we we're doing right now, but I'd rather just show you.

I don't want to just text you because frankly that bores me. It makes me lose interest fast. I can't do the whole messaging without actually seeing each other. It's not something I'm interested in. It’s not the way I work.

I like initiative, I like making plans and following through with them. I don't want a relationship with my phone, that isn't what I'm going for. I want you. I want to see you and touch you and laugh with you. That's what I want, not weeks of meaningless text messages with no really personal connection behind them.

I don’t want a relationship with my phone because my phone bores me, it doesn’t have a personality, it can’t make me laugh, but you can. You don’t bore me, so let’s put the phones down and make some real memories out in the world. Texting is fun, but not as fun as you. TC mark

11 Things Every Girl Who’s Been Used By Someone Wishes She Could Say

Posted: 31 Jul 2016 01:00 PM PDT

Bianca des Jardins
Bianca des Jardins

1. It wasn't just you, it was me too. My inability to love myself paired nicely with the lack of care you were able to give. I didn't love myself so I took what I could get. When I think of you the words, "We accept the love we think we deserve," ring truer now than they ever did.

2. I am not a 7/11. I'm not a pitstop, or an all hours hotel that you, or anyone else, can drop into whenever you please.

3. There is nothing romantic about pining for someone who can't love you. I thought there was…I'd repost & repost quotes about star-crossed lovers who could never seem to get it right. I fantasized about the day you'd grow up & the day I'd have more respect for myself. The day we'd finally meet again at the right time because, surely, a few years would fix all that was wrong in the twisted almost relationship we had.

4. Comfortable is not always good. You were easy. Like an old seater laying around the house, I could pull you on & know what I was going to get. Not the softest but cozy enough. You worked for me at the time….or so I thought. As it turns out, there are much better sweaters out there. Sweaters that actually want to hold me too.

5. Being good sometimes doesn't make up for the overwhelming majority of bad. You weren't all bad. That was the thing. We had a lot of fun together. You knew what I liked, I knew what you liked. We loved all the same TV shows, fast cars, & working out….I just didn't share your love of sleeping with as many people as I could. And that's okay….who knows, maybe you'll find someone who does someday….

6. Just because someone keeps coming back into your life does not, by any means, make them your soulmate. You know what else keeps coming back? Herpes. Think about that.

7. The saying, "Love when you're ready, not when you're lonely," is also true for the person loving you. I cannot count the times you'd text me after a breakup. Nor can I count the times you'd call when I'd finally moved on. You didn't love me, you just didn't want to be lonely.

8. Just because someone doesn't want anyone else to have you doesn't mean they love you. You didn't want me, you never wanted me, you just didn't want anyone else to either.

9. I'm not a possession you can pick back up whenever you want, I'm a person. Even though you know just how I feel the way you do that old little league glove on the top shelf, doesn't mean you can slip back into me whenever you want.

10. A relationship can never be one sided. I never made your eyes light up the way you did mine, the way my husband's do now when I enter a room. You were my everything & I was your maybe. Which brings me to my next point….

11. If someone isn't head over heels in love with you, all of you, let them go. The day I finally did it, let you go, is by far one of the most empowering days of my life. I'll never forget it. TC mark