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16 Tips For Fingering Her Until You Make Her Feel Fireworks

Posted: 11 Aug 2016 10:00 PM PDT

Milly Cope
Milly Cope

1. First things first, make sure your nails are cut short and are soft around the edges. If they’re long and rough, then she’s going to push your hand away. Prepare those nails before you see her.

2. You should also make sure you wash your hands before touching her down there. You don’t want to end up giving her an infection instead of an orgasm.

3. Even if you want her to go straight for your crotch when she gives you a hand job, that’s not what she wants. Start by snuggling up close to her and kissing her on her lips, neck, and breasts. Get her as wet as you can before you even take her jeans off.

4. When you do take her jeans off, do it slowly to tease her. Then move your hands up and down her thighs, avoiding her pussy completely. Wait as long as you can to actually touch her between her legs. The teasing is the best part.

5. Before you stick your fingers inside of her, start by rubbing your hand against her clit. Try going back and fourth, and then try moving your fingers in minuscule circles. Pay attention to her reaction and do more of whatever makes her moan.

6. If she still needs extra lubrication, you know what to do. Take out the lube. It doesn’t mean you’ve failed at turning her on. Some women are just naturally dryer than others.

7. Don’t start by shoving as many fingers as you can fit up there. Start with one finger, and if it seems like she’s enjoying it, then you can use two fingers, and maybe even three.

8. Don’t shove those fingers in and out of her over and over again. That won’t make her orgasm. You have to bend your fingers once you’re inside, so you can find her G-spot with the tips of them. Your best bet is to use your index finger and middle finger at the same time and use a “come hither” motion until you hit the rough patch that makes her moan.

9. Despite what most men think, women have an easier time orgasming from clitoral stimulation than penetration. So if you have your heart set on fingering her, make sure you use your other hand to keep rubbing her clit.

10. If she has a vibrator, ask her to go get it for you. You’ll still have to find the right patterns to move it in, but you’ll save your fingers a lot of work.

11. If she’s a sucker for anal, then you should play with her asshole with your pinkie finger. Just make sure that you always use different fingers for different holes. Otherwise, you might end up transferring bacteria and giving her a UTI.

12. Be patient. It takes most women a while to orgasm, and if she can tell that you’re getting annoyed by how long she’s taking, then she’s going to get anxious and won’t end up orgasming at all.

13. Multitask. Instead of just sitting next to her while moving your hands, lean in and kiss her. The more places you stimulate at once, the faster she’ll cum.

14. Take your shirt off. Give her something nice to look at, so she doesn’t have to close her eyes and fantasize about fucking your brother.

15. Some women think male voices are a bigger turn-on than the male body, so talk to her. Tell her how hot she looks and how sexy her moans sound. Then ask her if she likes what you’re doing, so you don’t end up wasting time with a move she can’t stand.

16. After you make her orgasm, remove your fingers from her and stick them in your mouth to suck off the juices. That way, she’ll know how much you love her pussy. TC mark

50 Of The Funniest ‘Dead Baby Jokes’ Of All Time

Posted: 11 Aug 2016 09:31 PM PDT

Gabrielle Rogers
Gabrielle Rogers

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How do you get 100 babies into a bucket?
With a blender.

2.

How do you get them out again?
With Doritos.

3.

What is funnier than a dead baby?
A dead baby in a clown costume.

4.

How do you stop a baby from crawling around in circles?
Nail it’s other hand to the floor

5.

What is the difference between a baby and a onion?
No one cries when you chop up the baby.

6.

How many babies does it take to paint a house?
Depends how hard you throw them.

7.

How do you make a dead baby float?
A glass of soda water and 2 scoops of baby.

8.

What do you call a dead baby pinned to your wall?
Art.

9.

What bounces up and down at 100mph?

A baby tied to the back of a truck.

10.

What is red and hangs around trees?
A baby hit by a snow blower.

11.

What is green and hangs around trees?
Same baby 3 weeks later.

12.

What is brown and gurgles?
A baby in a casserole.

13.

What do vegetarian ogres eat? Cabbage patch kids.

14.

What do you call a baby on a stick?
A Kebabie.

15.

What do you call a dead baby with no arms and no legs in the middle of the ocean?
Fucked.

16.

What do you get when you have sex with a pregnant woman?
A baby with a black eye!

17.

What is red and goes round and round?
A baby in a garbage disposal.

18.

What is blue and sits in the corner?
A baby in a baggie.

19.

What’s the difference between a baby and a pizza?
A pizza doesn’t scream when you put it in the oven.

20.

What is black and sits in a corner?
A baby with it’s finger in a power socket.

21.

What is cold, blue and doesn’t move?
A baby in your freezer.

22.

What gets louder as it gets smaller?
A baby in a trash compactor.

23.

What is more disgusting than a pile of 100 dead babies?
One live one in the middle is eating its way out.

24.

What is the definition of revenge?
A baby with a dog in its mouth.

25.

What sits in the kitchen and keeps getting smaller and smaller?
A baby combing it's hair with a potato peeler!

26.

What's got four wheels, smokes and squeals?
A bus load of babies on fire.

27.

What do you call a baby on a pike?
A lollipop.

28.

What is pink, flies and squeals?
A baby fired from a catapult.
What do you call the baby when it lands?
Free pizza.

29.

What's the difference between a baby and a bagel?
You can put a bagel in the toaster. You have to put the baby in the oven.

30.

What is more fun than throwing a baby off the cliff?
Catching it with a pitchfork.

31.

What’s the difference between a soccer ball and a baby?
I’ve never kicked a soccer ball over 50 yards.

32.

What do babies and baseballs have in common?
The neighbor gets angry when you throw them through their window.

33.

What's the difference between a bucket of gravel and a bucket of baby guts?
You can't gargle gravel.

34.

What goes plop, plop, fizz, fizz?
Twins in an acid bath.

35.

What's the difference between a dead baby and a felt tip marker?
You don't get second looks when you're writing with a felt tip marker!

36.

What's the difference between a dead baby and a peanut butter cup?
The dead baby won't stick to the roof of your mouth.

37.

What is red and pink and hanging out of your dog’s mouth?
Your baby’s leg.

38.

What is grosser than ten dead babies nailed to a tree?
One dead baby nailed to ten trees.

39.

What is the worst part about killing a baby?
Getting blood on your clown suit.

40.

What’s the difference between 100 dead babies and a Ferrari?
I don’t keep a Ferrari in my garage.

41.

How many dead baby’s does it take to change a light bulb?
Depend on how good you are at stacking them.

42.

How many dead baby’s does it take to change a light bulb?
Couldn’t tell you. I have 50 in my basement, and the light is still out.

43.

How many dead baby’s does it take to change a light bulb?
Depends how high your ceiling is.

44.

What do babies and an Etch A Sketch have in common?
If you don’t like how it looks, you can shake it until it goes away.

45.

What is the difference between a deer and a baby?
I don’t have a deer head mounted above my mantle.

46.

What screams as it goes round and round?
A baby on a spit roast.

47.

What do a dead baby’s head and a bottle cap have in common?
They come off easier if you twist them.

48.

Why did the dead baby cross the road?
Cuz it was stapled to the chicken.

49.

What’s the difference between a pile of dead babies and a pile of sand?
You can’t move a pile of sand with a pitchfork.

50.

What is the difference between a dead baby and a granola bar?
About 500 calories. TC mark

26 Times Twitter Told The Truth About What Tinder Is Actually Like

Posted: 11 Aug 2016 08:33 PM PDT

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16 Sensual Ways To Wake Her Up With An Orgasm

Posted: 11 Aug 2016 08:00 PM PDT

LookCatalog.com
LookCatalog.com

1. Climb under the covers and in between her legs. Then start licking.

2. Get into cuddling position, with her as the little spoon, so you can reach your hand around to play with her clit until she’s wet enough for sex. Then you can slide her pajama pants down and thrust into her–all while staying in that intimate spooning position.

3. Find her vibrator (one with a low volume) and place it against her nipples. Then her thighs. Then her clit. Pretty soon, she should stop snoring and start moaning.

4. If you have morning wood, you might as well use it. Press it against her booty as you’re spooning her. If she’s in the mood, then she’ll let out a little moan or do a little wiggle.

5. To take things up a notch, you can remove your pants, so your hard cock can slide between her legs as you’re spooning. Slide it back and forth slowly without penetrating, so it hits her clit. It’ll feel amazing for her.

6. Run your fingers over her skin as gently as you can. Then use one hand to stroke her hair while the other plays with her clit. Keep rubbing until you make her cum with your fingers.

7. Start her morning off with a massage. You don’t have to rub her feet or her back. You can rub her breasts. Just release little moans as you do so, so she knows her body is turning you on.

8. If she likes being dominated, then get on top of her and pin her down. A rough surprise will be the perfect way to start her day.

9. Of course, if you know she’d prefer a gentler method, put on music you know she loves. Play something soft and sweet. Something perfect to wake up to. Something perfect to make love to.

10. Instead of waking her up with your body, wake her up with your words. Push a piece of her hair aside and whisper into her ear. Tell her how beautiful she looks when she sleeps and how you’re so thankful you get to start the morning off with her.

11. If you’re already spooning, with your chest pressed against her back, you should kiss her neck. Then leave a trail of kisses down to her shoulder.

12. Sneak out of bed to brush your teeth. When you return with minty fresh breath, place kisses against her forehead and chest and stomach. Kiss her all over until she’s awake and can be kissed on the lips.

13. Instead of cuddling while facing the same direction, pull her toward you so that you’re face-to-face. It’ll make it easier for you to initiate sex that way. You can kiss her lips, stroke her cheeks, and even dry hump her.

14. If you’re having trouble sliding down her pants to give her oral, you can simply lift up her shirt and put your tongue on her tits instead. That shouldn’t be hard to do.

15. If she’s resting with her head on your chest, then grab her hand and move it toward your cock so she can feel how hard you are. Depending on her reaction, it’ll be pretty obvious or if she wants to get dirty or wants to be left alone.

16. Bring her a tray filled with heart-shaped eggs, bacon, and a single rose. Breakfast in bed is the only thing that beats an orgasm. TC mark

30 ‘Seemingly Innocent’ Texts That Will Make Your Man Want You ASAP

Posted: 11 Aug 2016 07:00 PM PDT

Look Catalog
Look Catalog

1. “You inspired a very interesting dream last night.”

2. “I just had a fun idea for what we can do later tonight.”

3. “I noticed that one of my pillows still smelled like you today. You have no idea how crazy that drives me.”

4. “I’m totally craving some time with you right now.”

5. “Do you want to go to dinner tonight? Or do you think we could have more fun if we stayed in?”

6. “I wore a surprise for you to work today.”

7. “Work is stressful today. Can we blow off some steam tonight?”

8. “I want to start the night by kissing you, but I won’t tell you how I want it to end.”

9. “Don’t worry about wearing a nice outfit tonight. You won’t need it.”

10. “I had the best dream about you last night.”

11. “I’m so excited for you to sleep over tonight.”

12. “All I want you to do tonight is lie back and relax, I’ve got some stuff planned.”

13. “You make it impossible for me to focus on work.”

14. “Just thinking about you makes my whole body feel good.”

15. “Guess what I’ve been daydreaming about all day?”

16. “What are you doing to me?”

17. “I miss the way your arms feel when they’re around me.”

18. “Hope you’re well-rested for hanging out tonight.”

19. “Do you think my boobs are too big to not wear a bra?”

20. “Just hearing you say my name does crazy things to me.”

21. “All I’ve thought about all day is your mouth.”

22. “Just so you know, I’m usually much better behaved.”

23. “Have I ever told you about this weird fantasy I have?”

24. “Come home so I can show you what I just read in Cosmo.”

25. “I want to show you how much I love you.”

26. “I bought something fun for us. You’ll see.”

27. “I just realized the panties I wore today are see through. I know you won’t let them go to waste.”

28. “I love it when my roommate’s gone because I never have to wear clothes.”

29. “What should I wear when I come over tonight?”

30. “I love the way you kiss me goodbye… but it always makes me crave more.” TC mark

Why You’re Still Stuck On Someone You Shouldn’t Be Thinking About, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Posted: 11 Aug 2016 06:00 PM PDT

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Twenty20, blownawayphotography

Aries: March 21st – April 19th

You’re always interested in people who are off-limits, because you find it sexy to be naughty. Of course, all of the time you spend thinking about a certain someone doesn’t necessarily mean you actually want to be with them. You just want one crazy night with them. Or you want to harmlessly fantasize about what it would be like if you were with them. One thing is for sure, daydreaming about them doesn’t mean you’re in love. Far from it.

Taurus: April 20th – May 20th

You’re building them up in your mind. You’re acting like they were the greatest thing that ever happened to you, even though they’ve caused you a lot of pain. You need to take a step back and see them for what they really are. They aren’t some godlike creature that’s worthy of all of your love and affection. They’re just another flawed human that doesn’t realize how special you are. You can do better. You will do better.

Gemini: May 21st – June 20th

You’re still thinking about them, because you know you could get them back. You’re not sure if you should actually go for it, but if you wanted to, you just know you could do it. That’s why you’ve been struggling to decide if you should shoot them a text or if you should delete their number and officially leave them in the past. It’s a big decision, so you’ve been trying to think it through–maybe for a little too long.

Cancer: June 21st – July 22nd

You’ve spent so much time on them. You don’t want everything that happened between the two of you to be a waste. You’d rather find a way to reconcile with them. Leaving them behind when you have so much history just doesn’t feel right. Besides, you’ve reached a point in your life where you want to settle down. You’d rather make up with them and find a cozy apartment together than jump back into the dating pool and sleep with strangers for years.

Leo: July 23rd – August 22nd

You’re only thinking about them, because they aren’t with you. Why the hell not? You’re sexy. You’re smart. You’re flirty. You’re fun. You don’t mean to sound cocky, but you can’t figure out what you did wrong. You’ve become obsessed with the thought of them, because they’ve brought out insecurities you didn’t even know you had, and you hate them for it.

Virgo: August 23rd – September 22nd

You’re still thinking about them, because you thought you were in love with them. It’s as simple as that. Of course, you thought that they were in love with you, too. You don’t understand how everything fell apart when your feelings for them were so strong. That’s why, half of the time when you think of them, you end up with watery eyes. The other half of the time, you actually smile, because they truly did make you happy once upon a time.

Libra: September 23rd – October 22nd

They’re still in the back of your mind, because you haven’t been dealing with your feelings properly. Instead of sitting down and letting yourself cry over what happened, you grab a bottle of whiskey or a box of Cheetos to help you forget your problems. You’re engaging in self-destructive behaviors instead of dealing with the issue at hand. But you can’t keep avoiding your feelings forever. Eventually, you’re going to have to find closure to get them out of your mind for good.

Scorpio: October 23rd – November 21st

It’s not that the person stuck in your mind is all that great. You just haven’t met anyone else after them. It makes sense: There’s no one else to occupy your thoughts, so your mind goes back to the last person you had a good time with. It’s not a big deal. At least, that’s what you tell yourself in order to get through the day. Admitting you still have strong feelings for them isn’t something you’re ready to do, even if it is the reality of the situation.

Sagittarius: November 22nd – December 21st

Honestly, you hate dating. It takes way too long to find someone worth your time, and then you have to go through the stress of making small talk and seducing them and convincing them to sleep with you. You just want to skip past those beginning parts of a relationship. That’s why you’d rather get back together with someone you have history with. It would be easier that way. You would get to fast-forward through the awkward bits and dive straight into the real thing.

Capricorn: December 22nd – January 19th

You never open yourself up, because you know that it’s going to lead to heartbreak. But this time, you actually did let someone in, and you actually did get your heart broken. Despite all the bullshit they put you through, it’s hard for you to let them go, because you gave them pieces of yourself that you’ve never given to anyone else before. You keep thinking about them, because you wish things would’ve ended differently. Because you don’t want to open yourself up to anyone else ever again.

Aquarius: January 20th – February 18th

Unfortunately, creative minds like you have a hard time letting go of past loves. After all, you need material for your stories and songs and paintings. You’ve been using your heartbreak in order to fuel your creativity, and it’s been working like a charm. That’s why you have to relive the pain that they put you through on a daily basis. If you want to be successful with your art, then you can never let yourself forget them.

Pisces: February 19th – March 20th

To put it simply, you miss them. They weren’t just someone for you to fantasize about while you masturbated. They were your friend. They were someone you thought you could count on. Now that they’re gone, everything is different. It’s hard to get over them, because they were such a big part of your life. Without them, you don’t know what to do. Everything has changed. TC mark

The Secret Little Trick To Make You Really Horny, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Posted: 11 Aug 2016 05:00 PM PDT

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Cancer

(June 22nd to July 22nd)

Foreplay, lots of foreplay—carefully chosen words that escalate into gentle touching and eventually heavy petting. Tenderness throughout lovemaking is absolutely critical.

Scorpio

(October 23rd to November 22nd)

You can’t resist a dirty secret—when someone tells you exactly what they’re dying to do to your naked body, or describes a detailed horny thought they can’t seem to shake starring you. Whispered confessions at unexpected times turn you on like crazy by establishing a truly private sense of intimacy.

Pisces

(February 19th to March 20th)

You’re the type who likes to keep the flame of passion ablaze, so you appreciate a kindred spirit with a penchant for experimentation. In your view, whipping out a bandana or a feather and the suggestion to get weird are swoon-worthy gestures.

Aries

(March 21st to April 19th)

When someone taps on your “back door”—with their finger or a butt plug—you love it. Anal play takes courage, and you respect that.

Leo

(July 23rd to August 22nd)

Your sexual catnip is someone bending over and begging you to spank them, allowing you to assume the position of power. You feel sexiest when you get to take center stage and you excel at the high-voltage act of smacking flesh.

Sagittarius

(November 23rd to December 21st)

Your libido responds like crazy when someone asks you to perform a strip tease or a lap dance, providing you an outlet for self expression. As you contort your body to and fro, you get hotter and hotter. You might even suggest an impromptu pre-sex twerk-off.

Taurus

(April 20th to May 21st)

Oral sex requires extreme patience, but you’ve got plenty of that—especially when it leads to the promise of orgasmic pleasure. When someone dedicates time and energy to going down on you, all of that licking and sucking makes you wet (and grateful).

Virgo

(August 23rd to September 22nd)

Flattery gets you off, so when someone tells you that you look hot and follows up with a slew of heartfelt, sexy compliments, you practically rip your clothes off and invite them to bed you. Thoughtful praise is the way to get you naked and make you feel erotically appreciated.

Capricorn

(December 22nd to January 20th)

In your view, there’s nothing sexier than the suggestion of coitus interruptus (aka the pull-out method), which appeals to your sense of reason. As a captain of responsibility, you can’t help feeling insanely attracted to anyone who’s mindful enough to consider safety first.

Gemini

(May 22nd to June 21st)

As a playful creature by nature, you love it when someone incorporates toys into lovemaking. You also respond to naked games. A little tickling here and there or a challenge to kiss every inch of someone’s body makes you instantly hot.

Libra

(September 23rd to October 22nd)

Tantric sex is the perfect marriage of peace and sensuality to you. When a lover does everything in their power to prolong sex so you can achieve that peaceful orgasmic state of mind you can’t resist, you’re begging for more in no time.

Aquarius

(January 21st to February 18th)

You like it when your brain and body are stimulated simultaneously. When a lover goes out of his or her way to do some research and impress you with their sexual knowledge firsthand, you’re absolutely smitten. TC mark

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Date Someone Who Makes You Want To Be A Better Person

Posted: 11 Aug 2016 04:30 PM PDT

Thought Catalog
Thought Catalog

Find someone who makes you want to be a better person. Someone who can't help seeing the best in you, thereby forcing you to consider that you are in fact as beautiful, kind, talented, and smart as they honestly believe you to be. That you are the you they’ve fallen for, and are therefore capable of so much more than you ever thought possible.

When someone truly believes in you, you can see it in their eyes. You can smell it on their skin. You can feel it in their aura as they stand next to you, or lie by your side.

This person will look at you and smile, exuding positivity and loving warmth, even when you look back at them feeling down or bitter or resentful towards the world. Because even then, they will only see the best in you—the beauty lingering behind the disgruntled attitude, the motivation lurking behind the mopiness, the inspiration behind the temporary laziness. When your own mind decides that you're in a bad place, destined to struggle or immersed in self-doubt, this person's expression will tell you otherwise.

Their confidence in you will be contagious. You will absorb it just by being in their presence, tucking handfuls of it deep inside your soul that you can carry wherever you go.

When you sense that someone truly believes in you, it's virtually impossible not to feel inspired. Not to reach higher. No to do better. Because how could you not rise to the occasion? How could you not want to make this person's vision of you a reality through and through? How could you not want work harder, study more, or try again? How could you not want to rip yourself from the fog of self-loathing to live in the comforting light of self-love?

Seeing the best in someone else is a key component to lasting love. It is the magic pixie dust that makes long-term commitment possible, the bubblewrap every couple needs surrounding their partnership.

Because we are all destined to experience bad or bleh days, and on those occasions when we're feeling low, we need someone else to reassure us that we're wrong—that we are everything they think we are, not the disappointing version of ourselves we can't seem to untangle.

So go find the person who makes you question all those critical thoughts you have about yourself—not because you're perfect, but because you're perfectly imperfect in their view.

This person will look at you and see a human being with more potential than you ever dreamed of for yourself. They will force you to realize that the possibilities are endless—if you're willing to latch onto the portrait they've painted of you in their heart. That you are capable of so many amazing things—if you would just embrace the rendering of you imprinted on their soul.

This person will always see past your faults, piercing right through to the vast abyss of your loveliest traits. They will always be there to help you filter your less appealing qualities, purifying your core so you can live your best life.

When you find this person, don’t let go. TC mark

This Is For The Girls Who Refuse To Lower Their Standards For Anyone

Posted: 11 Aug 2016 04:00 PM PDT

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istockphoto.com / Vizerskaya

Has anyone ever told you your standards are too high? You don't live in the 'real' world? You expect far too much? Which of course means people will inevitably let you down? Because how could they not when you waltz around with your high hopes, your rosy glasses firmly on at all times, and your keg of principles?

I've been told this often, followed by much eye rolling and self-defending on my part. So much so, I now let those words of others land and roll off my shoulders, as if I would a couple of rogue rain droplets mistakenly falling from the sky. Here's what I have to say to all of you who ever find yourself in the same pair of shoes:

Good for you for having fucking standards. 

Good for you for deciding to set your bar super high.

Good for you for not settling for mediocre, okay, average, mehhh that'll do, or just fine.

Many who walk this earth cannot imagine a life through your way of thinking. They can't, and they refuse to allow themselves to imagine people surprising them. Because they've only fallen short time and time again. Realise you are what you allow to happen to you. You are the behaviour you tolerate, you are – to a great extent – the people you keep around you, and you are the only person with the power to change any situation you find yourself in. If you are keeping company with someone who makes you question your faith and humanity in the world, you have to step back and ask yourself 'what the hell am I doing?' And it is your responsibility to comfortably distance yourself from them, or eliminate them from your life completely. This is no time for gently does it. We are talking about your faith here.
People might let you down occasionally, yes. Perhaps they let you down a lot. Maybe every single person who has shown up so far has let you down spectacularly. But so fucking what? Why should you allow the actions of others to influence the way you choose to live your life; the way you view strangers? You absolutely shouldn't.

Never allow those who are jaded to try and jade you. Keep your head high and your expectations even higher.

Lower yourself for no one. If people like you, and want to be in your life, they will. It's as simple as that – don't make it complicated when it's not. Your people won't make you feel wrong for being who you fundamentally are. The people you truly want in your life are the ones who see you sitting pretty in your rose-tinted glasses and will say, 'I like how you choose to see it.' Though they may disagree with you, they would never dream of making your beliefs feel ridiculous.

You know what all of us optimists should do? Encourage the cynical ones to raise their standards.

To strive for better. To find their faith in people. To expect more. Don't mould yourself to fit in with other people and their standards, let them fit to yours.

Here's what you should say to the people who say your expectations are too high – I will never expect any less from others than I expect from myself.

And I expect the world from myself. I really hope you do too. TC mark

A Letter To Myself For Next Time I Start Falling In Love

Posted: 11 Aug 2016 03:15 PM PDT

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martinak15

Next time I start to fall in love, I will remind myself of the last time.

Remember how you loved him with such innocence, never having experienced the dark hole of a broken heart. Remember how you planned out the future.

Remember how hard it was to balance school, work, friends, and him. And how afterwards you realized that it shouldn't be that hard.

Remember what it's like to worry about someone else and how freeing it is to live your life once he's gone.

Remember how many times you decided to forgo buying yourself that necklace you've been eyeing in order to buy him that cologne he wanted.

Remember his hand behind the small of your back, barely touching you, the first time you went to a concert. Remember how he never did that again.

Remember your panic attack at 2:00am in his bedroom when he told you that you had nothing to worry about because he had met the girl of his dreams that night at your party. And remember what else he told you a little over a year later that changed everything.

Remember getting that big teddy bear for your first Valentine's Day and giving it away a year and a half later to a little girl who hoisted the bear over her shoulder and hustled to the car with excitement to show her mom.

Remember wondering how much he was willing to put up with and how you never considered how much you were willing to put up with.

Remember all the promises he made as the sun shined on his face and how he broke them by the light of the moon.

Remember the "I can't do this anymore." Remember the "My feelings just aren't the same." Remember the "I don't see a future with us anymore."

Remember your back tensing up every time someone – your mom, your granddad, your sister – came near you for a hug or a kiss after you broke up. They weren't him and you didn't want anyone's touch but his.

Remember how it didn't end there.

Remember how you lost you were when he left because he wasn't by your side. You saw a future with only him and suddenly your future was empty.

Remember how you cried for hours the day you found out he was in a relationship with someone who wasn't you. It was a day that came way too soon. Remember how it hurts to be replaced.

Remember he was your first love and your first heartbreak. He always will be.

Remember this and more. Remember not to settle for less than you deserve. Remember to be careful the next time you give your heart to someone. Remember that you have to be there for yourself. Remember that you are the only person promised to be in your future.

Remember the future is yours. TC mark