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22 Incredibly Hot Ways To Hold Off Your Orgasm So She Can Cum First

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 10:00 PM PDT

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1. When you feel like you’re about to cum, slide out of her and slide down her body until your head is in between her legs. Eat her out until she orgasms–or at least until you’re able to cool down and are no longer at risk of blowing your load early.

2. Stay inside of her, but stop thrusting for a little while, so you can focus all of your energy on rubbing her clit with your hand. She’ll love the change of pace.

3. Take your cock out of her, but keep moving your hips back and forth, so you can rub it up against her clit without any actual penetration. It won’t do all that much for you, but it’ll drive her nuts.

4. Slow it down. Instead of making hard and fast movements, have slow, gentle sex with her while staring deeply into her eyes. That strong sense of intimacy should turn her on.

5. If she likes being dominated, pause to pin her hands over her head or lightly choke her. Then tell her you aren’t going to continue thrusting until you hear her beg for it.

6. Straight up tell her that she’s so sexy that you’re going to cum if you don’t stop for a few seconds to calm down. She won’t mind pausing for a miniature make-out session.

7. Switch into a position that you know she loves, but you’re ehh about. That way, you’ll be able to cool off while she heats up.

8. When you put her in a new position, tease her by telling her all of the things you’re going to do to her before you actually do them. That way, you don’t have to make any physical contact with her, but you’ll still make her wet.

9. If she likes playing with toys, try wearing a cock ring. It should make your erections harder and help you last longer.

10. Stop for a few seconds, just to look her in the eyes and whisper about how much you love her and how you can’t believe you get to fuck her for the rest of your life.

11. Most women love making out as much as they love sex, so try getting on top of her and kissing her for as long as you can take, while your boner is pressed up against her slit.

12. If you feel weird stopping mid-sex, then act like you’re doing it so you can change positions. Rearrange your bodies, but before you enter her again, kiss her everywhere, from her neck down to her breasts and then her thighs.

13. Or you could act like you’ve stopped, because you wanted to get up and get something for her. Dig through your drawers and find something she’ll enjoy using, like handcuffs or a whip.

14. Or you could always grab some lube. It’ll make sex feel better for her, but it’ll lessen the sensation for you, so you won’t cum as quickly.

15. If you still have some of your clothing on, hop off the bed and do a sexy little striptease for her. It’s hotter to have sex with your cock out and abs exposed than while your boner is poking out from the hole in your boxers.

16. Stop thrusting and let your hands explore her body. Massage her breasts, play with her nipples, and kiss her chest.

17. Grab one of her vibrators and let it take over. After she cums, you can enter her again and cum yourself.

18. Ask her exactly what she wants you to do to her. Then focus on doing that and only that.

19Instead of full thrusts, make small ones that don’t involve all that much movement. Just stroke her cheeks or play with her hair as you do this, so she’s more focused on what you’re doing with your hands than with your dick.

20. If it seems like it’s impossible to make her orgasm first, then you should foreplay for longer before you actually get down to business. Women take much longer to get warmed up than men do, so give her enough time to get turned on.

21. If you end up cumming before she has the chance to, it’s not a problem, as long as you don’t fall asleep. Once you’re finished, it’s time to take care of her. It doesn’t matter if you make her orgasm with your dick, your tongue, or your fingertips, as long as it happens.

22. Of course, even if you do make her orgasm during sex, there’s nothing stopping you from giving her a second one once it’s all over. TC mark

18 Moments That Are More Sexually Frustrating Than Blue Balls Could Ever Be

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 08:00 PM PDT, Mlenny, Mlenny

1. Your faces kept inching closer and your voices kept getting softer, but before your lips made contact, you both laughed it off and turned your heads away.

2. You were in the middle of an intense conversation where you could feel the chemistry between the two of you, but then you were interrupted by a cell phone or your cock block of a BFF and the moment was forever ruined.

3. He kept glancing down to look at your lips and then flicking his eyes back up to meet yours, but he never followed through and made a move.

4. You were watching a movie with him where a couple shares a passionate kiss, and you both looked at each other out of the corner of your eyes, but neither of you budged.

5. You were saying goodbye to him, but neither of you could figure out if you should go for a handshake, a hug, or a kiss, so you just awkwardly patted each other on the back.

6. He dropped you off at your house after an amazing date, and you were waiting for him to lean across the car to kiss you, but he just smiled and said he’d see you later.

7. You were in the middle of a heated argument, and could imagine him cutting you off mid-conversation to kiss you like the couples in romantic comedies, but he ended up storming away instead.

8. You were sitting side-by-side with him for hours during your very first date, and he had plenty of opportunities to kiss you, but he never took the risk and neither did you.

9. You actually had some super flirty conversations about kissing over text, but as soon as you saw him in person, you both chickened out and didn’t even come close to kissing.

10. You were willing him to kiss you, but whenever you tried to hold his gaze, he would get too nervous and glance away before you could make your intentions clear.

11. You were biting down on your lips and he was staring at your lips and it was obvious that you both wanted a kiss, but he made an excuse about how he had to leave before anything could happen.

12. It was clear you were both interested, so he grabbed your hand and played with your hair massaged your back–he did everything except give you a kiss.

13. When you showed him a picture on your phone, he sat extra close to you, but once you made eye contact and realized how close you actually were, you both scooted away.

14. You got completely wasted and tried to initiate a kiss yourself, but he pushed you away in time, because he didn’t want to take advantage of you.

15. He hugged you, and you kind-of-sort-of let go of each another, so there was a split second when you weren’t sure if you should lean in for a kiss or pull away completely.

16. He leaned in to give you a kiss on the cheek to say hello, but you weren’t exactly sure what he was going for, so you almost aimed for his lips.

17. You tried to initiate the kiss yourself, but chickened out at the last second and acted like you were leaning in to grab something or to pull a piece of fluff off of his shirt. 

18. You came close to kissing, and then made a joke about how weird it would be if you two kissed, even though you’re both secretly dying to get that kiss. TC mark

15 Men Confess What They’re Actually Thinking During Sex (But Don’t Want You To Know)

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 07:00 PM PDT

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“I kind of just go blank and let her do her thing until she cums and then I actually pay attention to what’s happening and finish nearly instantly.”


“Brain while waiting for her to finish: white noise, focus, I wonder what the Mediterranean Sea is like?

Brain after you’ve decided to finish yourself: holy shit my penis is in a vag-hnnngh alright I’m done!”


“How can I make this good for her. Right, so if I put all my weight on this knee and elbow I can use both of my hands and keep thrusting decently well. Alright, she hasn’t made any kind of gesture that she’s dissatisfied, so I’ll– ok, nope, that’s cramping the leg I’m leaning on. If I pull her back a bit I can put my leg on the ground for support… Much better.

Alright, thrust a bit harder for a bit, that movement will have put her off. Good, good, she’s back into it. Now grab her boob with this hand… and work the back of the ears with the other. You stopped grabbing the boob you idiot, why can’t you do 3 things at once? No! Don’t go straight for the nipple, that’s obvious, work around it for a bit. Holy crap she just got louder, I’m totally getting it right. Alright keep it up— she’s done? Wow, that was easy. Wonder how much cuddling before I can go back to— she’s asleep. I’ma marry this one.”


“I wonder if cats ever get jealous of our ability to use supermarkets.”


“Sometimes movie scenes and music I like play in my head. I try to avoid thinking about it because it feels like it taints what I like.

Just the other day The Godfather Baptism scene was playing in loop in my head, and I unwillingly came to that.”


“It depends on the person. I’m either thinking about how great it is that I’m finally fucking them, or I’m thinking about how great it would be if I were fucking someone else.”


“So Ryan Howard is hitting about .150 this year and making 25 million. He’s probably had about 200 at bats so far so that’s 30 hits. He’ll probably have 100 or 150 more at bats so he’ll have at most 50 hits this year so he’s making 500k per hit. Ridiculous, he should be ashamed of himself and oooohhh BOOM GOES THE DYNAMITE.”


“What excuse I will use to be able to go right home after.”


“The Pok√©rap and how much of it I can remember.

Charizard, Machamp, Pinsir, Koffing Dugtrio, Golbat, Staryu, Magikarp Ninetales, Ekans, Omastar Scyther, Tentacool, Dragonair, MagmOh crap…”


“I wonder what Rihanna’s face would look like if I was doing this to her.”


“Should I lick her ass or not?” This usually happens while in the doggie position.


“My Student Loan Debt.”


“Let’s try this position and speed to make her come”

“This is incredible!”

“Ok, that’s making me come, let’s try a new position to make her come.”


“Usually just paying attention to what’s happening…but if I’m trying to make myself last longer I start mentally picturing a game of Tetris and trying to keep track of the shapes adding up in my head. It’s just enough to distract me from finishing quicker than I would like to.”


“I dont enjoy sex all that much but…

If I like her alot: Mother of god please get hard enough to get sex going, Ok good lets go, I feel like Im getting close so position change to buy more time, repeat, plan the rest of my day after the sex, getting close again so I better change position, Getting tired now so maybe iv been at this a decent time, If so move to favorite position and cum straight away, Lie down and evaluate the relationship with a clear head.

If Im not too into her: Why am I doing this? Ah well, I suppose I can go as hard as I want because Im not worrying about lasting a long time. Cum. Let feelings of empty meaningless sex wash over me and feel bad the rest of the night.

Well that came out a lot darker than I thought…” TC mark

11 Crazy Tinder Convos That Prove This App Is F*cking Nuts

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 06:00 PM PDT

This Is Why We Need To Stop Encouraging The ‘Good Girl’ Image

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 05:00 PM PDT


“So wait, you’re telling me you NEVER got drunk in high school?” Kasey looks at me from across a table of bottomless mimosas like she’s just discovered I immigrated to the United States from Neptune, or wherever that crusty cutie E.T. originated.

At this boozy brunch where we let F-bombs fly with reckless abandon, we’re no strangers to rehashing stories from our pasts. She tells me about sex with the bag boy at Whole Foods during his 10 minute break. I tell her about my drunken textual mistakes, the sext I sent to the wrong person, but rolled with it anyway.

At some point, I must have said something about waiting until I was 21 to take a drink, and her jaw drops. Like this is the most shocking thing we’ve discussed today. Not that one morning after Halloween when I bought Plan B from a woman dressed as a minion. Nope, THIS was the juiciest thing I’d ever told her.

“I wasn’t interested in it. It was important to me to wait until I was legally allowed to,” I explained.

And it was true.

I’d happily be DD for my intoxicated pals, gingerly making sure everyone got safely home. I’m SUCH a good teenager, I’d tell myself. This choice to substain somehow gave me a level up on everyone. I’d revel in it. Even if only on the inside, I was a big ol’ smug bastard. Because I was a good girl. I was doing the right thing.

But you know what? My decision to not drink before it was a legal thing to do didn’t make me better than anyone. And yet, I was continuously praised for how good I was.

The Good Girl identity is a sham. It holds no real merit.

Elderly women who glare at teens in crop tops as if they are the devil incarnate might disagree, but that’s because they’ve been conditioned to believe this destructive idea. They’re part of the propagandistic movement to teach our little girls they are sugar and spice, and everything nice. But boys? Snips and snails. Whatever the fuck that even means.

The problem isn’t encouraging our girls to be good, but it’s the definition we’re using for the word. I would hope to raise a daughter full of compassion for herself and others. I would hope to raise a daughter who practices kindness and open-mindedness. I would hope to raise a daughter who listens, acknowledges when she’s wrong, but speaks her mind when she knows she isn’t. I would hope to raise a daughter who pushes herself to try new things, to broaden her horizons.

Good should not mean abstinence, be it from sex, alcohol, drugs.

We need to educate without judgement.

We have to stop expecting our girls to fit into one of two categories: The Madonna or The Whore. That’s not how we, as people, work. We aren’t all one thing or the other. It’s an oversimplification that denies an individual their layers, denies them the nuance of what it means to be human.

Why do we say, “boys will be boys” but we expect our girls to be better than that? Why do we allow our boys to mess up, to be teenagers (who sometimes do dumb things), but our girls should remain pure?

Good Boy is something you say to your dog.

Good Girl is what every woman has been compared to at some point in their lives.

That’s not okay. That’s a problem.

I don’t want to raise a “Good Girl.” I want to raise a good person, and she gets to choose what that means. She gets to determine her worth, regardless of her extracurricular activities. TC mark

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What Your Partner Wants Before They’ll Commit, Based On Their Zodiac Sign

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 04:00 PM PDT / EYEemCLOSED / EYEemCLOSED


(March 21st to April 19th)

Aries are not people who naturally love commitment. They value novelty and independence, they want every day to be a fun adventure and can view relationships as a hindrance to that. If you want a life with them, you have to show them how exciting that life can be. Plan exciting outings for you two to try new things together, introduce them to a sport they’ve never heard of, bring them to exotic restaurants — whatever you need to do to prove that you’re not going to suddenly morph into a homebody just because you’re official.


(April 20th to May 21st)

More than any other sign Taureans value independence and are skeptical of the motivations of others. They need you to show them that you are trustworthy, and never, ever break their confidence (you won’t be forgiven). This is a time investment because words aren’t enough, you have to be in it for the long haul and demonstrate that you’ll always be on their side.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

Geminis can be tricky because they usually have no problem committing to you, when they’re passionate about something they jump in with both feet. The problem is getting them to stay committed to you. In order to compete with all the other shiny objects vying for their attention, you’ve got to change. Show them new sides of you, take up new hobbies together, be excited about something new. They need to be stimulated by you in new ways.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

Cancers love to commit, but they’re very picky about who they’ll commit with. If you’re the wrong person, nothing can help you. Show them that you’re a good person, make them feel safe enough to step outside of their shell and bond with you. Give them security — don’t change what you say you want week to week, they have to know that if they’re going to take a leap you’ll be there to catch them.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

A Leo needs to know that you’ll forever fill their need to be loved, respected, and admired. When you fight, make sure not to throw in ego-blowing insults just because you’re mad. Compliment your Leo often and allow them to be the star of the show when the situation calls for it. They just want to know they’re with someone who will always be cheering them on.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

In order for a Virgo to bet on you, you’re going to have to show them that you have your shit together. They don’t want to have to be the provider of all the money and stability and planning ability in the relationship. Virgos thing paying your bills ahead of the due date is sexy. Be a grown-ass adult and show them that a relationship with you would be a partnership between two equals.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

Libras have two primary concerns when deciding whether to settle down with someone: whether you can fit in with their friends and family, and whether you are someone who can treat them fairly. You need to demonstrate to them that you’re reasonable and that you fight fair — and then you need to win over their loved ones. Be generous, be forthcoming, and embrace your inner social butterfly.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

Even though they aren’t lovey dovey, Scorpios LOVE having a partner to come home to. They’re passionate and love the intensity of physical and emotional love. Before they commit, however, they need to know you’re going to be the yin to their yang. As fiery and quick to fight as they are, they need someone who will balance them out, not egg them on. Don’t make them jealous, make them secure in your love, and be a calming force of good in their life.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

Sagittarians like to keep it light, so confronting serious issues like “what are we?” isn’t one of their strengths. They’ll want the transition from casual to serious to be conflict-free and as easy as possible. (And please never describe it to them as serious). Bring up the commitment you seek in the most casual way possible, as if the idea just occurred to you in the moment — and wouldn’t it create less stress and be more fun if you guys took the next step?


(December 22nd to January 20th)

Capricorns are very shrewd decisions makers. They’ll think about committing to you long before you think about committing to them because they are constantly weighing the pros and cons of every opportunity in their life, trying to find the best deals. To capture a Capricorn, you’re going to need to prove yourself as one-half of the power couple of their dreams. Unfortunately, there’s no way to fake this, you’re going to need to get all your ducks in a row.


(January 21st to February 18th)

You’re going to need to show them that you’re no bimbo. Aquarians are intelligent and value deep thought. They want to end up with someone who will continue to be interesting, long after you’ve become overly comfortable with each other. Keep their interest sparked and they won’t have any fear about making a commitment.


(February 19th to March 20th)

Pisces are great partners and like being in a relationship, but they need to be coaxed into it. They value their individuality and fear anyone who wants to dominate or change them. You’re going to need to be patient and not smother them. Be smart and interesting and a good partner, and they’ll commit to you. TC mark

What Kind Of Dog You’d Be, According To Your Zodiac Sign

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 03:00 PM PDT



(March 21st to April 19th)

Aries are known to initiate, they see themselves as pack leaders and therefore are courageous. You'd rather lead than follow. You'd be a boxer.


(April 20th to May 21st)

You enjoy rewards, can be stubborn, self-indulging and have a super love for food. You'd be a Dachshund.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

Gemini's love to talk, or in this case, bark. You always enjoy letting others know what's on your mind and the world knows when you're upset. You'd be a German Shepherd or a Husky.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

Cancer's are protective of their circle, but once you're in you're in for good. You take great comforts in your home and are more of a "roots" than "wings" kind of person. You'd be a Chihuahua.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

You love being the center of attention, making you nearly impossible to miss. You've got a big passion and you're loyal, but it might be hard for those who don't know you to see that. You'd be a Pomeranian.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

Virgo's are critical and picky, you like to be exact and people often make jokes about it. You have perfectionist tendencies and you can't help it. You'd be an Australian Shepherd.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

You like balance and peace in your life. You love being part of groups and you can be found anywhere with anyone. You're happy as long as everyone around you is happy. You'd be a Retriever.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

You have a powerful force associated with your sign. You are set on learning about others and once you set your mind to something you can't be stopped. You care about others and always want to help when they're upset. You'd be a Rottweiler.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

You want to know the meaning of life; you're free spirited and easy going. You're very optimistic, while keeping it honest. You'd be a Collie.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

You're all about hard work and getting things done, which makes you very disciplined. You want to be successful and you like proving yourself. You'd be a Mastiff.


(January 21st to February 18th)

You want to make the world a better place, but you're also honest and independent. You're interested in learning, but you also take pride in knowing. You'd be an Akita.


(February 19th to March 20th)

You focus on bringing other's together. You are kind and compassionate, making it easy for you to get along with everyone. You'd be a St. Bernard. TC mark

One Day You’re Gonna Meet Someone Who Feels Like Home

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 02:15 PM PDT


One day you’re gonna meet someone who you don’t just want to spend the night with but who you look forward to waking up and sharing your morning with.

This person is different because there is gonna be one person that is able to break through the bullshit you sell to the world.

They look you in the eyes and know when you’re lying.

They look you in the eyes and know what you are thinking and feeling before you even say.

There’s a connection there you’ll never understand. But you’ll just be happy you met someone who can share in that.

And they’ll let you into their world, too.

You’ll talk about dreams and ambitions like you haven’t before. You’ll talk about disappointments and fears you didn’t even know of.

You talk about insecurities and mistakes and there before you is someone who doesn’t judge you for any of it.

There’s gonna be one person who breaks through every wall you have and you’re left with these raw emotions you didn’t even know you were capable of feeling.

And you’re gonna look at them knowing well they aren’t perfect. But regardless of that your flaws compliment each other in a way that it all makes sense.

You’ll realize one day you find yourself worrying when all you ever did in the past was worry about yourself.

You find yourself angry at the people who have done them wrong.

You find yourself feeling these things through another soul and while you can never take away their pain or the past its them you want in your future. When in the past all you ever thought about was your own future.

One day you realize if anything were to ever happen to them you’d be a mess.

You realize they matter.

You realize they always have.

You realize they always will.

You find yourself remembering every little detail. From the first time you met and the first words they said.

And it surprises you because we go through motions in life seeing so many faces and having so many interactions but somehow you remember every detail of this one.

And it’s something no one will understand. But the thing is they don’t have to understand it. They don’t have to accept it or like it.

Cause you have.

Then you muster the courage to say three words and don’t hold back because for the first time you’re looking at someone with complete confidence.

One day you’re gonna meet someone who simply feels like home. TC mark

I’m Still Not Okay, But I’m Also Not Going To Let This Breakup Break Me

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 02:00 PM PDT

I said I would never go through another heartbreak again, but here I am. And it's funny how I'm trying to remind myself of how it was like before, how I was able to overcome it, because I should probably be dealing with it now in a manner that I could already be a pro at, but it's still the same process, just a different kind of pain. Maybe even worse.

These days, I wake up and go to bed knowing that it's never going to be the same again. I would be lying if I said that I'm totally okay now, and I've fully accepted what happened, because let's face it, I'm still trying to grasp the damage that has been done. Even though as each day goes by, I am getting better, I hate to admit that it still stings every now and then and I don't think it's going to go away anytime soon.

The adventures and misadventures of yesterday will just be plain memories stored on my iPhone, ready to be played whenever I'm on for a cryfest.

I remember being told how crying is like breathing for me. That is true. I am such an emotional person. But that doesn't mean I am not strong. I have always been and that's for sure.

That is why I'm sharing this with you. The past two years were clearly the most vibrant years of my life. I experienced so many wonderful things I never thought I would at this age and he had given me so much to look forward to. Even now, it still amazes me how compatible we were. We liked the same things, and we did everything together. I never thought I would find someone who would willingly go and see my favorite bands with me. Ultimately, they became our favorites, together. We were the best of friends, but just like any other kind of ship, we crashed. This time, not together, but separately.

The truth is, behind what seemingly looked perfect are hundreds of misunderstandings and arguments. I couldn't say that I didn't see this coming, because we've had some episodes in the past where we almost didn't make it. Maybe I was too confident, but maybe it wasn't entirely my fault, after all.

That's one of the things I realized – sometimes, we put all the blame on ourselves and it only makes us feel worse than we already did. But it's always comforting to know that someone out there, worthy of everything that we could offer, is willing to put up with how difficult we could be, ready to meet our shortcomings and still love us for them. And that's a hundred times more awesome.

So many questions are still running through my head, all unanswered. It's silly how after a series of long messages, I've still got A LOT to say. But the last thing on my mind would just be another argument. The sad reality is, people are not who we think they are in the first place. The only constant thing in this world is change and we may not like it, but we can't do anything about it, except to focus on ourselves and move forward to better and brighter things.

The thing is, I honestly don't know what will happen next. All I know is that there is so much out there in this world, so many stories to be told and music to be heard, places to be seen and songs to sing. And it's safe to say that I'm now 101% available for it. TC mark

This Woman Is Recreating Celebrity’s Instagram Photos, And It Will Make You Feel Way Better About Being A ‘Normal’ Person

Posted: 14 Aug 2016 01:43 PM PDT

We all know Instagram is “fake” and yet you can’t help but feel little pangs of jealousy or inadequacy when you scroll through other people’s perfect looking lives. This is especially true of celebs who have literally unlimited time and money to achieve a perfect aesthetic, something most of us put maybe a few minutes of thought into when snapping the pic and choosing a filter. A comedian, Celeste Barber, is poking fun at these overly perfect images by recreating them. Like, these celeb’s lives actually seem a little bit bleak because there’s no way they’re having as much fun as Celeste is.

Jennifer Lopez

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Kim Kardashian

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Lady Gaga

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Paris Hilton

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Khloe Kardashian

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Kylie Jenner

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Serena Williams

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Nicki Minaj

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Justin Bieber

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Ruby Rose

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Coco and Ice

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Miranda Kerr

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Miranda Kerr part 2

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Gigi Hadid

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Kim again

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Kourtney Kardashian

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Rita Ora

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Giselle again

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Selena Gomez

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Kim and Kanye

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