Thought Catalog

25 Signs He Loves Fucking You (Because You’re The Best Sex He’s Ever Had)

Posted: 17 Oct 2016 08:00 PM PDT

1. He always has his hands on you. When you’re walking around, he’ll hold your waist and when you’re watching a movie, he’ll rub your thigh.

2. He’s happiest when you have your shirt off, even if it’s while you’re just relaxing on the couch with him.

3. It never takes him long to get hard. You could do something as simple as kiss him and he’ll be ready to rip your clothes off.

4. Even though he’s seen you naked a hundred times before, he still loves watching you get dressed–or even better, watching you undress.

5. The only time he ever compares you to another woman is to compliment you. You’ve heard him say how your ass is ten times hotter than Kim K’s.

6. You have sex a lot. If it was up to him, you’d be having it at least three times per day.

7. Whenever you initiate sex, he’s ready to go. It’s rare for him to turn you down.

8. He’s always filled with awe. Whenever you lift your top off or unzip your jeans, he acts like your body is the single greatest thing he’s ever seen.

9. He’s saved all of the nudes you’ve ever sent him.

10. He doesn’t have to give you instructions in order for you to make him moan. Whatever you’ve been doing with your tongue, it works.

11. Even though he wants to last long, you already know you have the ability to make him cum ASAP.

12. When he finishes too quickly, he’s disappointed, because he loves the way that your pussy feels.

13. Whenever he enters you, he tells you how much he loves the way your pussy feels.

14. Instead of watching porn when he’s horny, he either sexts you or has sex with you.

15. He’s complimented pretty much every area of your body. Your ass, your boobs, your stomach, your legs… The list never ends.

16. He’s willing to have sex anywhere. No matter where you initiate it in public, he’s game.

17. Not only is he happy to stick it in you, but he’s also happy to go down on you, because he likes your body that much.

18. He never crosses boundaries by doing things you’re uncomfortable with, because the last thing he wants is for you to stop fucking him completely.

19. Even when he knows he’s not getting any, because you’re sick or are on your period, he still tells you how sexy you are, because he truly believes it.

20. He’s admitted that he has sex dreams about you.

21. He tells you you’re sexy in lingerie. Your bra. Your little black dress. And your sweatpants.

22. He doesn’t care how long it takes you to get off. The longer he’s inside you, the better.

23. He looks like he’s in heaven when he cums. It’s not just an ordinary O-face. You can tell he enjoyed himself extra, because of how much he likes you.

24. He straight up tells you that you’re the best sex he’s ever had.

25. You’re the only one he’s been fucking. And he doesn’t plan on that changing anytime soon. TC mark

If He Puts Up With These 8 Things, He Is Your Forever Person

Posted: 17 Oct 2016 07:00 PM PDT


Sometimes, I can be quite a handful. I’m extremely sensitive, and anything can set me off. I wake up each day looking like I got hit by a bus, and I can curse like a sailor for no reason at all. If I can find a guy who can put up with these things on top of a long list of other things that make me, me, he’s a keeper.

1. Your bluntness.

If you find a guy who can accept the fact that you can be incredibly blunt and honest, even if that truth is painful, you’ve found yourself a great guy. No matter how blunt you are in front of his friends or family, if he can appreciate your liveliness and honesty, he’s not going anywhere.

2. Your sensitivity.

If you find a boyfriend who doesn’t walk away when you start crying over that incredibly sad animal commercial, or when you start yelling at him over something that has nothing to do with him at all, you’ve found someone who truly loves you.

3. Your rants.

When you find a man who can appreciate your rants over dinner about your co-workers, or about a guy who did you wrong, you’ve found your forever person.

4. Your quirks.

When you date someone who adores every little weird thing about you, you can’t possibly complain. No matter how loudly you chew, or how much you love Taylor Swift, if he finds it adorable, never let him go.

5. Your best friends.

If you find a man who will hang out with your best friends for wine nights or a day touring a new city, he’s the one for you. Even if your best friends sometimes drive him insane, if he thoroughly enjoys their presence because it makes you happy then that’s a definite good sign.

6. Your family.

Let’s face it. Every family has its flaws and bad habits. Every family has it’s unique set of quirks that could drive anyone up a wall. But, if your guy wants to truly get to know them and can set aside their rude tendencies or blunt remarks, he’s a keeper.

7. Your pessimistic views.

Sometimes the world can be a little too much for you, and giving up seems a lot easier than moving forward. If you find someone who will lift you up and won’t ever let you give up on your dreams, don’t say goodbye to him.

8. He doesn’t view being with you as ‘putting up’ with you.

To be honest, if he only does these things and it causes him a lot of annoyance or pain, he’s not the right guy for you. But, if he does these last 7 things for you out of love and of pure intentions, he is most definitely for you. When you find your forever person, he won’t see these things as just putting up with you. He will see it as loving you and adoring you, even if you are a giant pain in the ass sometimes.  TC mark

Why An Almost Relationship Can Actually Be Good For You

Posted: 17 Oct 2016 06:00 PM PDT

James Bates
James Bates

He usually texts at around 2am. Sometimes I'll receive a sober phone call in the afternoon to "say hi," and other times it's a 4am, "Hey, what's up?" text.

Never consistent, never expected, never sought after.

I don't wait by the phone for a message to pop up. His name seems to be slightly larger than others on the list of others who have viewed my Snapchat story, but so does everyone other guy I've hooked up with in the past.

I'm not attached, I've never seen him as anything more than what we are.

Which is… nothing (I guess?).

There was a point I considered him as something more, perhaps it was because he was one of the first guys to show me attention in a new city. Naive to the dating scene in a foreign place, it was easy to become attached to someone who felt like a constant.

But, he was never a constant. Coming in and out of my life when he felt like it, deciding when and where it was appropriate to consider me as someone more than just a girl who would comply with his inconsistent tendencies.

I have always been an option, despite his claims to want to date me (drunk). Being an option was offensive at first, as expected, as people always tell you to "~always be a priority~" or whatever. But the truth is, you're not always going to be a priority.

I can't be angry for being an option, because to me, so is he. Just an option.

A "date" with him required minimal effort. I wouldn't spend that extra 30 minutes on my hair simply because I didn't feel like it. Late-night sleepovers were never an excuse for me to touch up my make up prior to his arrival for the ~pajama chic~ look, because to be honest, I didn't care. Although at one point we were "sort-of dating," I knew that was all we'd ever be, and I knew the status of "dating" would be short-lived.

To him, I was always, and always will be, just a "sort of" girl.

"You're so cool," he'd always say.

Translation: “You never call me out for treating you like shit, so I'll keep you around."

At times I would feel "less of a woman" for allowing him to consistently be a dick, but, if not giving a shit classifies "dick" behavior, I guess I'm a dick too.

I called him out once via text one too many vodka sodas deep. It was harsh, and the texts were embarrassingly long. I allowed myself to get emotionally invested for a hot second, but shortly after it made me realize I never really gave a shit either. It's like I always wanted him to want me, but I'm not entirely sure I ever really wanted him in return.

Like I said, desires for attention often masks how we really feel.

People judged the f*ck out of me for keeping him around as long as I did and most people hardly even knew the extent of our relationship simply because I felt the need to hide it. I was too good for him, which I knew all along.

The assumption that a woman is insecure about herself for settling messing around with a f*ckboy is understandable, but that doesn't mean that we all are.

I knew know I was am too good for him. Did I have some underlying that maybe someday he'd see me as someone more than just a "sort-of?" Of course. We never want to feel like we're a "sort of." It's natural to desire validation, even from people who you don't particularly want in return.

The sex was average, conversation decent. Is he a bad person? No. Not in the slightest. I don't f*ck with bad people (literally or figuratively). He's nice…ish? Has a good heart, just doesn't know what to do with it, I suppose.

I guess the question that always came up was, "Does he respect me?" Part of me says no, the other says maybe. I know he sees me as a genuinely "cool girl" and I've always been slightly more than just a hook up to him. I don't know what the label is when you're in the in-between phase of being slightly more than a hook up but significantly less than a "girlfriend," but it's where I fall.

If a guy keeps you in his life for an extended period of time, even if it's not consistent, he enjoys your company.

He likes you. He might be too immature to admit it sober, but you are most likely more to him than just a hook up. But, don't wait for him to tell you otherwise because at this point, he probably won't. I won't tell you to cut him out completely or to send the middle finger emoji when he texts you at 2am, because I would be the world's largest hypocrite. Just don't let him get in the way of someone who sees you more than just a "sort-of."

It's possible to have men in your life who you don't take seriously, but still don't totally hate their presence. It's like cold french fries. They're not particularly horrible and you wouldn't choose them over a "fresh" (can french fries be considered fresh? lmk) batch, but if they're there and your drunk…well…meh.

Anyways, just know that you are more than a "sort of," even if someone treats you as such. The moment you let someone define you as a less of a person than you are is the moment you RUN, SPRINT FAR AWAY from this particular human. Please. It's one of the worst things you can do to yourself mentally, I've been there.

But, if you know you are cooler than your non-serious counterpart, than all is good. In my opinion, at least.

I'm not encouraging to allow guys to treat you like shit, because that sucks. There's a difference between knowing your worth and allowing people in your life who are less than worthy versus not knowing your worth and allowing people in your life who are less than worthy while simultaneously waiting for them to make you feel worthy. Wordy sentence, but it made sense in my head. Just re-read it a few times and it'll hopefully make sense to you too.

I see the best in people, even if they don't see the best in me. It's gotten me in trouble, but I probably won't stop doing it anytime soon. And that's ok. I don't know the next time he'll hit me up and I don't know how I'll respond if he does. But, I guess that's the nature of our relationship-not knowing and not really caring to.

I know I'm more than a "sort of," even if you don't see me as such. And maybe you do, but if we're being honest, you've always been just a "sort of" to me, too. TC mark

33 Girls Describe The Exact Moment They Realized The Guy They Were Dating Was An Idiot

Posted: 17 Oct 2016 05:00 PM PDT

 Elena Montemurro / Instagram
Elena Montemurro / Instagram
Found on AskReddit.

1. He started sucking on my tit, expecting milk.

"I was 19, he was 22, going to college for 'astronomy.' He started sucking on my tit too hard. I stopped him and asked him what the hell was he doing, and he responded with 'Where’s the milk?'"


2. He joined the Klan while dating me. I’m not white…

"When he joined the Klan while dating me. I’m not white…"


3. He thought birds’ bones were filled with helium.

"When he asked if birds' bones were hollow because they were filled with helium."


4. He thought cheese was a vegetable.

"First time cooking together. I handed him a block of cheese to grate and he turned to me and said, 'I've never grated cheese before, how do you use this thing?' then about a half hour later he apologized for being vegan and said 'sorry about my dietary restrictions, vegan recipes can be hard to find.' never did he say he was vegan then I told him if he was vegan we’d have to make a different dish because of the cheese. He replied with, 'why would you think I couldn’t have cheese? I’m vegan, I can have vegetables.' he actually thought cheese was a vegetable….and he was 'vegan.' Nope, never again."


5. He thought daffodils were animals.

"I told him I liked daffodils and after a pause he said, 'that’s an animal, right?'"


6. He thought Catholics were Jewish because the pope wears a funny hat.

"My boyfriend told me that Catholics aren’t Christian, they are Jewish. I argued that he was incorrect and he said 'Well the pope is a Jew, that’s why he wears that funny hat.' I decided to keep him even though he’s a bit dim at times."


7. He thought that breasts held ‘memory glands.’

"My ex-husband thought that breasts held 'memory glands' and felt bad after he accidentally hit me in the tit because he thought that he made me lose some memories by hitting me."


8. He wanted to take me to the ‘Leaning Tower of Pizza.’

"He wrote me a romantic letter saying he wanted to travel the world with me—one of the places he mentioned was the Leaning Tower of Pizza."


9. He thought being an organ donor meant they could take your organs while you were alive.

"He was getting his license renewed and they asked him if he wanted to be an organ donor. He said no. When I asked why he told me it was because he didn’t want the government to come knocking for any of his organs when he still needed them. He really thought that becoming an organ donor meant that, at any time, his organs could be taken."


10. He thought girls could get pregnant from swallowing during a BJ.

"I gave my ex a bj and the next day I woke up to him in a panic.

'What’s wrong?'

'We have to go get a Plan B.'

'What? Why?'

'You swallowed. I’m not ready to be a father.'"


11. He thought the sky was a big black blanket and stars were stuck to it.

"We were laying out under the stars and he asked why some were brighter and others dimmer. I told him that there were different sizes, brightnesses and distances away. Confused silence.

'You mean, they’re not stuck up there?'

I’m lying there thinking this can’t be true. But oh yes, it was. Upon further questioning I found that he believed the night sky was a big dark blanket like thing with stars stuck on it. The fact that our sun was a star also blew his mind and that just like our sun, other stars could have planets? Too much."


12. He thought the Nation of Islam was a place.

"He thought the Nation of Islam was a place. When I explained to him this was not the case, he responded with, 'agree to disagree.'"


13. He said the color orange didn’t exist.

"When he said the color orange didn’t exist, because it was really just pink and red mixed together."


14. He thought baby humans took time to open their eyes like kittens.

"We went to visit his sister a week after she had her first child. The baby was asleep when we arrived but they let him hold her. He whispers, 'Has she opened her eyes yet?' He thought all baby mammals took time to open their eyes like kittens."


15. He thought the sun turns into the moon at night.

"When he berated me for not knowing that the sun turns in to the moon at night. Guess I missed that particular lesson in science."


16. He thought 9/11 led to World War I.

"Asked him what event resulted in WWI. His response was 9/11. He was serious."


17. He shot himself in the leg twice while cleaning it.

"He shot himself in the leg twice while cleaning it. The same gun. 2 weeks apart. Edit: sorry, yes, cleaning the gun. 9 mm. Shot himself in the calf the first time, then took out his kneecap the second time, same leg. Took months of surgeries to fix it."


18. He called me a child molester for breast-feeding my son.

"I dated a guy for about a month until I found out that he didn’t realize that women’s breasts made actual milk to feed their babies. He thought 'breast feeding' was just a way to hold a baby while giving it a bottle.

I told him he was an idiot and he said, with a disgusted sneer, ‘I didn’t know that because I have never known any woman, who had or would, breast feed their child.’

I told him that I had breast fed my son and he called me a child molester."


19. He said Halloween was on Friday the 13th.

"'Oh wow, Halloween is on Friday the 13th this year!' no, no it's not."


20. He said you could regrow your virginity after six months.

"He truly believed that you regrow your virginity after six months of no sex….His belief had nothing to do with the hymen or religious constructs. He just thought six months of no sex = poof virginity!"


21. He thought that rabbits walked like cats.

"We were out to dinner and he was reading the menu and he said 'What’s a green bean?.' Excuse me? You don’t know what a green bean is? He said 'No, like I know what a green bean is but what is it?'

Same guy, I have rabbits and one of them hopped by him in the living room and he said, 'Oh my god what’s wrong with him?' I said 'Uhh nothing, what do you mean?' He said 'Why is he jumping like that? Did he hurt his legs?' He had never seen a rabbit hop. He thought they walked like cats."


22. He thought Boston and Massachusetts were in two different places.

"We were watching a movie together when he asks, 'Where is this movie filmed?' to which I answer 'Massachusetts.' He says 'Oh.' Later in the movie a cop car that says 'Boston Police Department' appears onscreen. He turned and looked at me with a GOTCHA kinda look in his eyes and said 'HA! Massachusetts? It’s in BOSTONNNN!'….I still love him."


23. He thought fixing a dog meant removing its penis.

"We were playing with my dog when my boyfriend remarked 'I thought he was fixed.' I said, yes, of course he’s fixed. 'But he still has a penis.' He thought fixing a dog meant removing its penis."


24. He called lingerie ‘linguine,’ as in the pasta.

"He called lingerie 'linguine.' As in the pasta."


25. He said that there are two 12s on every clock, one on the top and one at the bottom.

"When he tried to make me feel like an idiot for contradicting his statement that there are two 12s on a clock. Did the whole annoyed, 'Have you even ever looked at a clock? There is a 12 at the top and a 12 at the bottom!' I just stared at him an let it slowly sink in. This was last week and I’ve been married to this idiot for 3 years."


26. He didn’t know how to eat an apple.

"When I asked him if he wanted an apple. He said yes, so I pulled one out of the fridge and handed it to him. He looked confused and asked me to slice it for him because he’d never eaten an apple whole before and wasn’t sure how. He was 27."


27. He didn’t know the difference between an olive and a grape.

"When he didn’t know the difference between an olive and a grape."


28. He thought women peed out of their vaginas.

"When I had to explain to him, despite the fact that he was 5 years older than me and had been sexually active for years, that no, women don’t pee out of our vaginas. And that even if we did, that is not a valid excuse not to perform oral in his case, because he still expected to receive oral, and definitely peed out of his penis."


29. He thought girls pee out of their butts.

"When he told me he thought girls pee out of their butts."


30. He thought the earth was a thousand years old.

"He told me the earth was MAYBE a thousand years old, humans and dinosaurs existed at the same time, dinosaur bones were planted in the ground, and that carbon dating was extremely flawed and couldn’t actually prove anything. He was in grad school when we dated."


31. He told me his dream in life was to freeze fire.

"He told me his dream in life was to freeze fire. He wasn’t joking. He wanted to 'do the impossible.'"


32. His grammar was so horrible that his Facebook statuses often had a translate link even though he was supposedly typing English.

"He graduated high school, yet his grammar was so horrible that his Facebook statuses often had a translate link even though he was supposedly typing English."


33. He INSISTED that the moon’s gravitational pull caused my periods.

"When he INSISTED that the moon's gravitational pull caused my periods. That it would actually help pull the blood and lining from uterus. I burst out laughing and he started slamming stuff in anger because he said I was making him feel stupid. I replied, 'Well I’m sorry you feel stupid for saying something stupid' I was NOT a nice partner."

—elizapornberry TC mark

The Real Reason Emotional Intimacy Is The One Thing That Will Keep Your Relationship Alive

Posted: 17 Oct 2016 04:30 PM PDT

Wilson Sánchez
Wilson Sánchez

Experiencing emotional intimacy with others is one of the most satisfying experiences of life. Emotional intimacy, or a sense of deep connection with another person or a group of people, occurs when each person is completely open hearted and devoted to taking 100% responsibility for their own feelings and needs. It occurs when each person is deeply connected with his or her own true Self, and connected with a personal source of spiritual guidance. When people are connected with themselves and with a source of love, truth, and wisdom, they become filled with love to share with others.

There is a huge difference between people wanting to get love, intimacy and connection, and wanting to share love, which can happen only when they are each filled with the love from Spirit that comes from taking full responsibility for themselves and doing their inner work.

Out of their inner connection and their ability to share love with others comes the fun, the learning, the growth, and the creativity.

Emotional intimacy can also occur when people are open and vulnerable enough to share their fears, pain, and challenges. However, sometimes people get addicted to experiencing emotional intimacy through the sharing of their woundedness, rather than the sharing of their passions, fun, creativity, learning, and joy. While sharing pain can be an important part of a relationship, when it is the only way people experience intimacy, the relationship becomes codependent and dysfunctional.

True intimacy in a relationship comes from a deep commitment with oneself and one’s partner to kindness, compassion, presence, integrity, the intent to learn, responsibility for self, and faith in one’s own and the other’s essential goodness. It is the sweet, comfortable, light, safe feeling that comes from knowing that neither of us is making the other responsible for us in any way – that both of us are fully present with ourselves, with each other, and with Spirit. Emotional intimacy is the natural outgrowth of developing intimacy with ourselves and our Higher Power.

The more inner work we do to heal our fears and beliefs that limit us and learn to be open and honest with ourselves, the more open and authentic we will be with others.

Practicing the Inner Bonding process is a powerful way of developing this intimacy with ourselves and with our partner. Through the daily practice of learning to take full responsibility for our own feelings and needs, we gradually heal our fears and the limiting beliefs that cause our fears of being open, honest and transparent with others. Emotional intimacy is the outgrowth of your devotion to your own inner work.

Emotional intimacy is what takes away loneliness. We may feel lonely when we are alone, and equally lonely when with another or others who are focused in their heads instead of in their hearts. Our western civilization has stressed intellect much more than heart-centered feelings, which is why we are such a lonely society. Our loneliness goes away only when we are able to share our laughter, fun, joy, creativity, honesty, insights, and love with each other. When we are with people who are in their heads rather than their hearts, we may get stuck sharing our woundedness and our complaints, instead of being in the loving creative flow with each other that signifies true emotional intimacy.

Emotional intimacy feeds the heart and soul. Without it in our lives, we will always feel that something is missing. We can learn to connect deeply with ourselves and with our spiritual guidance, but we are social beings, and the sharing of love is the highest, most satisfying experience in life.TC mark

What Kind Of Girlfriend You Are, Based On Your Favorite Type Of Chocolate

Posted: 17 Oct 2016 04:00 PM PDT


Milk chocolate

You're a flexible girlfriend and you thrive in long-term relationships. You don't get fussed over too much because you definitely enjoy just going with the flow and relaxing. You pick the basic chocolate because it's safe and it's never failed you, so why switch it up now? You like something and you stick with it.

Dark chocolate

You are more sophisticated than milk chocolate lovers, enhancing your opinions about everything from love to politics. You are very energetic and a lover of people; you have strong relationships in all aspects of your life because of this love. There's also a chance you're a health nut and you probably like gym dates.

White chocolate

If white chocolate is your favorite you're more reserved as a girlfriend and can tend to be more introverted. You have a creative mindset and you are most comfortable with yourself or your partner and not with big groups of people.

Mint chocolate

You are a sensitive and caring girlfriend, even if most don't see that side of you. You are very goal oriented and achieving your goals makes you very happy. You like to go after what you want, even if it isn't the norm and you have a wild side.

Caramel filled chocolate

You're a very happy girlfriend. You're fun and energetic and down for almost anything. You like to treat yourself to something extra sweet from time to time. You have a high self-esteem and that carries over to make you a great lover. You have an impulsive side that makes you courageous that makes your partner (or future partner) love you.

Chocolate with nuts

You're a bit of an old fashioned lover. You like to reminisce and go on older dates to places like parks or drive in movie theaters. You like to keep your circle of friends small and you can be known to have a bitch face, especially when you're judging people around you. You're a straight shooter, you just like to get to the point.

Fruit-filled chocolate

You are a very open person and lover. You don't believe in secrets because you want to talk about everything. You have lots of feelings and you make them known, making others easily drawn to you. You are a great girlfriend and you're very reliable.


You are typically a funny girlfriend and have a great sense of humor. If you're hanging with the guys you can take what they're giving you and give it right back. You are witty and kind hearted. You may have even said “truffle shuffle” while eating a truffle before.

Chocolate with peanut butter

You're a kick ass person and an even better girlfriend. You're the person who likes adventure dates or sitting on the couch. You know life is all about balance and you love living on the edge. The only thing you're really worried about in life is being surrounded by good people and having a good time. TC mark

This Is The Truth About Being 24 In 2016

Posted: 17 Oct 2016 03:00 PM PDT

Gonzalo Arnaiz
Gonzalo Arnaiz

I am 24-years-old.
I currently rent a somewhat shitty, but not totally terrible, apartment where maintenance never fixes anything they say they will, but it is in a safe area so I can't complain too much. I have a roommate, whom I love, and a steady, full-time job at a digital agency where I'm gaining tons of ~real world~ experience.

I barely have a credit history, but I pay my student loans every single month and am never late on any of my other bills. I am single and can barely get a guy to text me back in a reasonable time (or at all). And don't ask me about kids. My uterus is barren AF and frankly I am quite happy about that.

All in all, I'm just your average 24-year-old in 2016, simultaneously happy with my life and totally disappointed in myself all at once.
I'm happy because I know I'm not the only one in my current predicament, and knowing this makes me feel a little less behind and a lot less alone.

But at the same time, I feel like a total waste of space because all the fancy magazines and real adults are saying my generation are just a bunch of entitled, lazy big kids with adult paychecks, running amuck and not having a clue what reality is. We're millennials, blessed by default and lazy by choice.

And maybe they're right. I don't know. What I do know, however, is that there's this sense of comradery among us 24-year-olds in 2016 which I love, this feeling of being all in together on our collective fuckedupedness. We joke about the lack of commitment that is otherwise scoffed at. We laugh at our inability to cook a decent meal. We shrug off the lack of control we feel over everything, and figure that it will all work itself out in the years to come.

We have each other's backs.

And this, I think is what makes our generation wonderfully unique. We don't think about each other as competition, we don't see one another as roadblocks to get what we want. We know that we're all intricately connected, and our decisions impact one another. And I'm proud of this.

I'm proud of us.

We're the generation that asks not "What's next?" but instead "What else?" We don't think about things in a step-by-step mentality like the generations before us, with deadlines and benchmarks. We don't hear the ticking clock hurrying us along. We don't see marriage at 27, kids by 30, and a house in the suburbs by 33.

Instead, we're thinking about how our friends can be our family. How maybe getting married later (or not at all) isn't that bad. Maybe we start coming to the realization that we aren't cut out to be parents, or that we never want to climb the corporate ladders. Maybe an apartment rather than a big fancy house will become our palace. Perhaps the love of our life is actually the art we create.

Whatever our ideas of happiness and success are, it departs from conventional expectations. We're doing things differently, and I feel like that's still okay. I still feel like we're okay. We see all aspects of what we could be, what we could do. We're the thinkers, the movers. We may not be where we thought we'd be, or where society thinks we should be, but we're making big changes.

We're still goddamn adults even if we don't have a mortgage or won't be CEO's of a major company by the time we're 28. We work hard, despite what the older adults think. And this is the truth about being 24 in 2016. We're always told we're not doing enough, that we aren't enough, but the reality is we are more than enough.

We're all just fine. TC mark

26 Completely Ridiculous Things You Stress About When You Suffer From Anxiety

Posted: 17 Oct 2016 02:00 PM PDT

Twenty20, punkcake__
Twenty20, punkcake__

1. Hanging out with one of your close friends that you should be completely comfortable around. But for some reason, you’re still worried you’ll run out of things to talk about and bore them to death.

2. Walking up to a register to pay. And then struggling to shove your change in your wallet before the people in line behind you get fed up.

3. Being too quiet during a group conversation. You don’t want everyone to think you’re a snob, but you just can’t think of anything to say.

4. Showing up too early. If you’re the first person there, you’ll start to worry if you showed up at the wrong place or on the wrong day.

5. Waiting for someone to text you back. If it takes them a little too long to answer, then you’ll worry that you’ve been annoying them.

6. Standing in line. The entire time, you’re practicing what you’re going to say once you reach the end of that line.

7. Finding a seat on a crowded bus or train. And being forced to sit next to a complete stranger on a crowded bus or train.

8. Hearing a notification on your phone after you sent out a semi-risky email.

9. Driving by a cop or walking through a metal detector, even though you didn’t do anything wrong at all.

10. Sitting in the middle of a row at the movie theater, where you’ll have to scoot past strangers to get to the bathroom.

11. Trying to figure out if the single stalled bathroom already has someone in it. You’d die of embarrassment if you accidentally walked in on someone else.

12. Telling a joke that bombs. Sometimes, you won’t even test out your jokes, because you’re too worried about looking silly.

13. Forgetting something important. Before you leave for a concert, you’ll check your bag twenty times to make sure you remembered the tickets.

14. Picking clothes for a party. You don’t want to be the fanciest person in the room. But you don’t want to be the only one in jeans, either.

15. Entering a packed classroom after everyone else has already sat down.

16. Making a turn onto a super busy highway. You’re terrified of cutting someone off or crashing.

17. Asking a complete stranger for directions. You hate initiating conversations.

18. Getting your credit card declined. You know you always pay your bills on time, but still. You hate paying with a card.

19. Eating in front of other people. You don’t want to finish faster than them and look like a slob. But you don’t want to hold them up by taking too long to eat. And you don’t want to get sauce all over your face.

20. Calling up your dentist or gyno to make an appointment. Or, really, calling anyone.

21. Ordering at Chipotle. There are just too many questions to answer.

22. Posting on Facebook or Instagram and not getting any “likes.” Honestly, when that happens, you go back and delete the post entirely.

23. Going on first dates. What do you wear? How do you act? What do you say? You’re swarmed by questions.

24. Being called into your boss’ office. You’re praying you didn’t do anything to get yourself fired.

25. Leaving the house. It doesn’t matter where you’re going. You feel the safest in your own room.

26. Thinking about all of the ways that you could make a complete and utter fool of yourself throughout the day. TC mark

11 Ways To Tell If He’s Actually The Nice Guy He Appears To Be

Posted: 17 Oct 2016 01:00 PM PDT

Taylor L. Spurgeon
Taylor L. Spurgeon

1. He's true to his word.

When he says he'll be there at 7:30, he's there at 7:30, not texting you at 7:25 to say he's out with the guys and running late, or worse, texting you at 7:45 to say he's on his way (aka just left the house).

2. He remembers little things you say.

Maybe you told him off-hand about how much you hate ketchup, so when you're at In-N-Out he can make your order without even asking. Or maybe you said you like iced chai lattes, so he brings you one to work in the morning. It's the little things that shows he's genuinely interested and paying attention to what you say that make him a truly nice guy.

3. He shows genuine interest in your family and friends.

If he's going to be a part of your life, that means all that comes with it—crazy extended family, over-protective friends, and crazy younger brothers. If he asks you about your family or BFFs, like how they're doing, when you've last talked to them, or if you've mentioned him to them, he's a genuinely good dude with intentions to stay in your life for a while.

4. He treats everyone he meets with respect.

He's the type of guy that opens doors for people, who smiles at strangers, and who engages in conversation with everyone from the waiter to the lady handing out the tickets at the movie theatre. He is not just nice to you, but to random people, which shows that he's not putting on an act—he's real.

5. He follows through on his promises.

If he said he'd take you out on a date next Friday, he'll be true to his word. He won't cancel last minute with obligatory bros night at the bar or random sh*t he supposedly 'forgot.' In fact, he'll not only remember, but he'll remind you, just because you're that important to him.

6. He's comfortable letting you in.

He might not be the type of guy to pour out his heart to you, but when it comes to getting to know you, and you getting to know him, he peels back his layers and tells you things about who he is and what makes him, him.

7. He doesn't dominate the conversation.

A nice guy knows that there must be a balance in communication. He knows when to stop and let you speak, when to listen, and when to ask questions. Though he might get fired up about certain topics, he always lets you put in your two cents, too, and he'll never make you feel as if what you have to say is less important. He values both your opinion, and you.

8. He won't play games with your head.

If he's a genuinely nice guy, he won't care for games. If he's into you, he'll tell you. And if things aren't working out, he'll be upfront about that as well. He's not going to be the guy that texts you non-stop one day and then ghosts on your next date—when he's in it, he's in it for real.

9. He does things for you without expectations or strings attached.

When a person genuinely cares for someone, (this goes for males or females), they will shower that person with gifts. These don't have to be extravagant—it can be anything from kisses to a new pair of Nikes—but a genuinely nice guy will definitely want to show you that he cares for you in more ways than one. And he does these things out of the kindness of his own heart, without asking for anything in return.

10. He lets you know how he's feeling.

A guy that's uninterested will be guarded and removed. A nice guy will let you know that he's enjoying his time with you, that he's enjoying you, and that you mean something to him.

11. He can talk to you about the future without balking.

Whether you just started dating or you're in it for a good amount of time, a genuinely nice guy won't freak out at any mention of the future. He's okay with discussing the terms of a potential long-distance relationship when you're studying abroad in India for the upcoming summer, or making plans for New Years' when it's only October. Though it doesn't necessarily mean he's totally comfortable planning out your relationship that far in advance, he is open to the idea because he's serious, and genuinely interested in you. TC mark

15 Things You Absolutely Must Do In Order To Maintain A Healthy Relationship

Posted: 17 Oct 2016 12:00 PM PDT


1. Be honest.
You have to be honest with each other, if money is tight talk about it. If you didn't get the promotion or job you were talking about for weeks just admit it. Honesty is something you need in order to keep the relationship afloat. You can't have tons of lies floating around getting all mixed up in each other.

2. Have trust.
You have to establish a healthy balance of trust, which starts from not lying to each other or doing sketchy things behind each other's backs. You have to earn trust and once you have it don't do anything to jeopardize it because it only takes one second to break it and forever to gain.

3. Be open to communication. You have to be able to talk openly and freely about everything from hating dinner your partner to what you want in the bedroom. Everything has to be open and fair game to talk about in order to make the relationship work.

4. Have fun. You have to continue to laugh and have fun in your relationship. Once it becomes purely serious it only builds tension and underlying feelings of negativity, something you definitely don't need. Laugh, do stupid things together and don't take everything so seriously.

5. Keep flirting. You still have to flirt and like each other in order to stay in love with each other. Don't get lazy and comfortable in your relationship, keep doing thoughtful things and flirt with each other like you used to when you first started dating.

6. Keep dating. Set aside a night a week and make sure you do something with just the two of you. Whether it's going to a new restaurant every week or a bike ride or swimming in the ocean. Do something you both enjoy and spend quality time with each other while also checking in to see how you're both doing.

7. Grow together. You should have new goals as your relationship progresses from when first started dating until the point you're at now. Whether you're at the buying a house stage, maybe even moving in together or having children or sending the kids off the college. You will undoubtedly grow and change throughout your lives together, but make sure you do it together. Talk about your goals and dreams, and as they change make sure you're both on board.

8. Admit when you're wrong. Don't let your pride get in the way of your relationship; the best thing to do is pick your battles because some just aren't worth arguing over.

9. Celebrate each other. One of you gets a promotion? Celebrate! You only got a warning when you should have got a ticket? Yeeww! You found a great bargain for a painting for the house? Cheers! Always celebrate each other, no matter how irrelevant it seems.

10. Talk about sex. You have to be able to talk about sex with your partner. It shouldn't be awkward or uncomfortable and it shouldn't only be a conversation while you're in the bedroom. It's important to your relationship so treat it like it is.

11. Compliment each other. Don't notice her spending a half hour on her hair and not tell her it looks pretty and do not ever say anything negative when she comes back from the hair salon, even if she doesn't like it. Give each other compliments it will make you both happier.

12. Be your own person. Don't become completely reliant on your partner because that just feels like extra weight on top of what they're already carrying. Be self-sufficient, but let them know you do need them every now and then.

13. Be respectful. Don't completely disregard what your partner wishes because you want something different. Keep in mind both parties when you're making a decision that you both will be involved in. Don't sign up for sky diving if you know that's a fear of your partners.

14. Take interest in each other's passions. It doesn't have to be your passion, but you should at least show interest every now and then. I'm sure your partner doesn't like every one of your hobbies, but they'll still come along because it's what makes you happy.

15. Encourage and support each other. Nothing feels better than when you know you have the person you love backing you up in your corner. It just makes things feel better, so always encourage each other to be the best you can. TC mark