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He’ll Cum Like Crazy When You Do These 26 Subtly Sexy Things In Bed

Posted: 05 Oct 2016 10:00 PM PDT

Twenty20, nikalitvinova1
Twenty20, nikalitvinova1

1. Suck on an ice cube before kissing him down his chest and licking up his shaft.

2. Instead of getting on your hands and knees during doggy style, get flat on your stomach, but place a pillow under your hips to create the perfect angle of penetration.

3. Leave your bra on, but occasionally take your tits out of the cup so he can suck on them.

4. While you’re riding him, move your hips in a half-circle as you’re going up and down.

5. Fondle your breasts. If you’re too embarrassed to really play with them, just hold them in your hands. He’ll still find it hot.

6. Place a full-length mirror on the opposite side of your bed (you can get one at Walmart for less than ten bucks), so you can watch yourselves fuck.

7. Do your hair differently. If it’s normally down during sex, put it in braids or in a ponytail or in pigtails. It’s a tiny difference that’ll make him feel like he’s fucking someone new.

8. Slap his ass. He’s always doing it to you. It’s time to reverse the roles.

9. Initiate sex by grabbing his hand, placing it on your pussy, and saying, “Feel how wet I am.”

10. When you’re the one on top, grab his wrists and pin them down. You can even try placing your hands around his neck. You never know what he might like.

11. Go down on him. But before he cums, switch to riding him.

12. Compliment his dick in whatever way you can. Tell him how good it feels when his boner presses against your ass or how much you love the taste of his cum.

13. Push him up against a wall and make-out with him. Then have sex while you’re up against the wall instead of relocating to a flat surface.

14. Instead of leaning on your knees while you ride him, try leaning on your feet, or vice versa.

15. Rub your clit when you’re in missionary. He’ll get off when he sees you getting yourself off.

16. Instead of giving him oral while sitting in between his knees, position your ass toward him (almost like you’re 69ing) so he can play with it while you work.

17. Wear crotchless underwear, but don’t tell him about it. Let him find out on his own when he slips a hand under your skirt. 

18. Lift off his shirt and unbutton his jeans. Make it clear that you want to see every inch of his body.

19. Do Kegels while he’s inside of you.

20. Get a good grip on his hair, so you can control which way his head moves while you kiss.

21. Grab his head and pull it toward your tits, so he can suck on them.

22. Curse. When he hears you say fuck or holy shit, he’ll know you approve of what he’s doing.

23. Kiss his neck. While he’s doing all the work in missionary, the least you can do is plant kisses on his neck and collarbone.

24. Compliment him on the body parts you usually ignore, like his arms and his calf muscles.

25. If you’re terrified of talking dirty, at least use a new phrase every once in a while. Try something simple like, that feels so good or you look gorgeous instead of just making your usual moans.

26. Instead of trying to subtly initiate sex with kisses, just turn to him and tell him to stick his cock in you. TC mark

16 Unforgivable Blowjob Mistakes That Could Cost Him An Orgasm

Posted: 05 Oct 2016 08:00 PM PDT

Joel Sossa
Joel Sossa

1. Focusing all of your energy on sucking. You don’t have to turn into a vacuum cleaner to make him cum. Focus less on how hard you’re sucking and more on all the different ways you can move your tongue around.

2. Wiping your mouth off every five seconds. It’s okay if saliva drips from your lips. In fact, all that wetness will make the blowjob much easier. So embrace it.

3. Closing your eyes or blankly staring at his cock. Look him in the eyes while you work. He wants to see your pretty face.

4. Stopping before he finishes. I know blowjobs can be tiring, but that’s why you have to pace yourself. You don’t want to give him head for five minutes and then give up. If you are going to stop, then get on top and ride him instead. At least, that way, he’ll still get the opportunity to orgasm.

5. Starting off too strong. Don’t suck hard from the get-go. Start by licking and kissing his shaft. Then gradually get rougher.

6. Acting like it’s a chore. Your enthusiasm will get you a long way. If you make it obvious sucking his dick is the last thing you want to do, then he isn’t going to enjoy it. Believe it or not, he wants you to be happy, too.

7. Using your teeth. The fastest way to make him go from hard to soft is by scraping your teeth up against him. That shit hurts.

8. Gagging. As much as men love deep throating, you don’t have to touch your tongue against the base of his penis if it activates your gag reflex. The last thing he wants you to do is vomit on his lap.

9. Getting embarrassed. Yes, your mouth is going to make bizarre sounds. Yes, cum is going to drip out of your lips. Don’t worry about it. It’s all part of the experience.

10. Holding onto him too tightly. You don’t want a soft, flimsy grip. But you don’t want to rip his dick off either. Find a happy medium.

11. Putting yourself into an uncomfortable position. If you’re at a weird angle, then you won’t be able to get his dick far enough down your throat.

12. Asking him if he’s close to an orgasm, because you want to get it over with. Making him feel rushed won’t help. It’ll only take him longer to orgasm.

13. Glancing at the clock. Don’t think he’s so distracted that he doesn’t notice what you’re doing. He does.

14. Ignoring the rest of his body. Kiss his thighs. Caress his balls. Run your nails down his legs. Move around a bit.

15. Being too repetitive. If you want to make him cum, you can’t stick to the same method the entire time. Use your hand. Then use your mouth. Then use your hand and mouth at the same time.

16. Spitting. He wants to see you swallow his load, like you’re thrilled to have it in your mouth. If you have to spit, then don’t run to the sink like your life depends on it. Casually stroll over to get a napkin and don’t make a big deal about it. TC mark

33 Shitty Types Of Sex Every Woman Suffers Through At Least Once

Posted: 05 Oct 2016 07:00 PM PDT

Unsplash, Sweet Ice Cream Photography
Unsplash, Sweet Ice Cream Photography

1. Sex where you’re so close to cumming, but he stops before it actually happens.

2. Sex where he doesn’t even try to make you cum.

3. Sex where he tries to sneak a finger in your ass, even though you aren’t interested in anal.

4. Painful sex where you’re not nearly as wet as you should be.

5. Sex where you’re the one on top the entire time and are struggling to hide how worn out you are.

6. Sex that ends with an injured back or sore pussy.

7. Sex that ends before you even realize it started.

8. Sex that lasts so long that you start to wonder if he’s still attracted to you.

9. Sex with an ex (that you know you shouldn’t be hooking up with).

10. Sex with a complete stranger (that may or may not have an STD).

11. Oral sex that involves him thrusting his dick way too far down your throat.

12. Oral sex with a guy who has never heard of manscaping.

13. Sex with a man who has no idea where your clit or your G-spot is.

14. Sex where you end up staring at the clock the whole time.

15. Sex that you’re struggling to stay awake throughout.

16. Drunk sex you know you won’t even remember in the morning.

17. Sex he initiates at the worst possible time, like when you’re trying to watch a show.

18. Sex you only have, because you feel obligated.

19. Period sex that feels good, but makes a complete mess of your sheets.

20. Sex in complicated lingerie that you have trouble removing.

21. Sex that ends as soon you get walked in on by your roommate or parents.

22. Revenge sex with someone you don’t even like, but know will make your ex jealous.

23. Sex where you end up staring at the television the entire time.

24. Sex you have with some random guy you found at the bar, just to feel better about yourself (and it doesn’t work).

25. Sex that gets interrupted every time the damn cat jumps back onto the bed.

26. Sex with someone you have zero chemistry with.

27. Sex in a freezing cold room that makes your nipples rock hard.

28. Sex in a cramped car where you keep banging your head.

29. Sex in a grimy bed with sheets you’re praying have been changed recently.

30. Sex where you can’t find a condom, but risk it anyway.

31. Sex where you’re the one who’s clueless about what to do.

32. Sex with someone who hasn’t showered, shaved, or brushed their teeth in a little too long.

33. Sex that you just know you’re going to regret in the morning. TC mark

It’s Time To Figure Out Who You Are Without Them

Posted: 05 Oct 2016 06:00 PM PDT

Sarah Loven
Sarah Loven

"How do you remember?" she asked me, sipping her coffee and narrowing her eyes.

"Remember what?"

"I guess, how do you remember who you were before they crashed into you? How do you remember what you wanted, and what your hopes were? I feel like everything changed when I fell in love. I think about the things I crave, the places I desire to go, and I always imagine the person I loved right there with me — they are tethered to my wants, they are twisted into my daydreams. How do you remember who you were before someone else became a part of you, before someone else made themselves at home within your ribcage?"

"Well, it takes time. It's a process, an unlearning. It takes time — my god does it ever take time. When you love someone deeply, when you truly, and unapologetically love someone, they grow into the roots of you. You have to pull them out like weeds.

You have to shower them out of your hair. Slowly but surely, you need to scrub away their memory, peel them off of yourself like old skin. When they leave, you have to wash them from your sheets, dust their fingerprints from your favourite coffee mug, shake their scent out of your sweaters. Leave no trace of them behind.

You have to come to terms with the fact that you let them leave with so many pieces of you. You have to forgive yourself for loving yourself thin, for forgetting about the things you wanted to do because you were so busy trying to save someone who didn't want to be saved.

And then — then you have to build yourself up again. You have to take whatever you have left within yourself, and you have to work with it, you have to rise from it.

Pay more attention to what stirs your heart. Pay attention to the music that makes you want to cry, or dance, or jump right out of your skin. Pay attention to the way your mouth reacts to different foods, how your eyes react to the possibility of new far off places. Pay attention to the things that make you laugh, the things that make you smile. Really focus on figuring out what compels you, really focus on discovering the aspects of the world that interest you and challenge you and make you want to learn and grow.

You have to pay attention. You spent so much of your time simply focusing on what someone else wanted from you. You spent so much of your energy being exactly who they needed, and now it is time to figure out exactly what you need, exactly what you want. It’s time to pay attention the the call of your own heart, it’s time to nurture yourself. To say yes to yourself, to give yourself permission to be happy, to give yourself permission to dream out loud.

It’s time — time to realize the potential you always silenced in their presence. Time to survive without them. Time to fall back in love with yourself." TC mark

Read more writing like this in Bianca Sparacino’s book Seeds Planted In Concrete here.

For All The Students Who Are Struggling Right Now

Posted: 05 Oct 2016 05:01 PM PDT


You deserve all those sleepless nights and that second cup of coffee. You deserve to be having a hard time, to be struggling your way through every single day, because there's no other way to make you realize how much you want your dreams to come true.

There are moments where you question yourself, ask why you didn't just go the easier path. Sometimes you even blame other people for the hardships that you are encountering, pointing fingers, forgetting that you wouldn't be where you are without them.

Sometimes it gets to a point where you just want to give everything up.

Our greatest fear is if our dream isn't for us. It is hard. But you also have to realize that it is okay to complain from time to time, to cry and breakdown.

You have to remember to be human.

Although it is easier to let your emotions eat you up, always remember that you have to do it; you have to get up and finish that case to understand the law so you can defend those who need it, or to continue to study that last page of your anatomy book so you can correctly diagnose patients and save lives, or maybe, you have to stay up not only for yourself, but for everyone else so that the future will be brighter.

You have to keep in mind that you are where you are not only because of a dream or the desire to change the world, but also because of the struggle of other people to help you reach your goal.

Remember that you are struggling because you have to, that nothing good comes easy, and as cliché as it may be, remember that the fire that melts butter is the same fire that hardens steel. TC mark

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18 Signs You’re Experiencing What’s Known As A ‘Twin Flame’ Relationship

Posted: 05 Oct 2016 04:00 PM PDT


There tends to be a lot of confusion about what a “twin flame” relationship really is. Unlike “soul mates,” which are our perfect matches (or our spiritual family) twin flames are our perfect mirrors. Relationships with twin flames tend to be on-again-off-again, intensely passionate, and sometimes intensely painful. Twin flames help us awaken like nobody else, and they ultimately serve to show us who we really are. Here, a few of the main signs that you’ve run into one:

1. You are convinced you’re “meant to be” though your relationship keeps not working out. A soul mate is someone you spend your life with. A twin flame is someone who gets you ready for your soul mate. What makes a twin flame tricky, however, is that you confuse your intense love and passion for meaning it’s “meant to be.” You’re trying to make your twin flame, who is a teacher, into a soul mate, who is your forever love.

2. They have opened you up to a completely new way of thinking. With them, you exchange ideas, beliefs, religion, and so on. You’ve “awakened” because of their love.

3. They come in and out of your life. You’re together, and then you’re not, and then you are again. Despite the fact that you love each other more than anything, one of you (the “runner”) seems to not be able to handle it, and dissolve the relationship. It’s almost as though your connection is too intense for you to be consistently together.

4. They feel like home. Upon meeting them, you immediately sense that you’ve known this person before. Your connection is too intense for you to have just been strangers – there is a deep feeling of familiarity when you’re with them.

5. You are the epitome of yin and yang. They seem just like your other half, the parts of you that were missing all along. (What you’ve yet to realize is that they are the parts of you you’ve yet to know.)

6. Looking back, you see that the period of time right after you’re with them is always defined by change. They bring about a lot of intense transformation in your life, sometimes painfully so.

7. You will find yourself becoming almost irrationally emotional when you’re with them. (These are the feelings and energies that have been in suppression, which they are there in part to help you recognize and heal.)

8. Your bond is instantaneous, and your relationship moves very quickly. Right off the bat, you “click” as though you’ve known one another forever. This only grows over time, and the more you get to know about them, the more absolutely in love you are.

9. Though you experience incredible passion for this person, there is an equal amount of worry and uncertainty. You may find yourself questioning a lot, asking yourself whether or not this is really love, or really what you want for your life.

10. It seems like you have this profound connection that must be destined, but you come into one another’s life at the wrong time, or something else stands in the way of you being together. This is not a product of ill fate, rather, it is a sign that you’re not meant to be together in the way you think you should. (The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing.)

11. You are more than just lovers. You are one another’s teachers, best friends, therapists, and so on. You have such a deep and layered connection that you do a lot more for one another than just be romantic.

12. It seems like you’re always pulled back to them in one way or another.

13. Your relationship can be tumultuous at times. This is because your twin flame serves to show you everything that needs to be healed within you. This is not to be confused with “love” being painful. Love is not painful. Everything that stands in the way can be, though.

14. One of you is more “spiritual” than the other. One is more soulful, the other more practical. You teach one another the virtues of how you think and behave – that is part of your purpose.

15. You feel very attuned to them, almost telepathically. You can feel what they’re feeling, or know what they’re thinking. It’s as though you are one.

16. When you look into their eyes, you feel like you see family, or your own child. This is your soul recognizing someone it’s known before, or someone it’s very close to.

17. For as different as you are, you have many fundamental things in common. Maybe you were born on their favorite brother’s birthday, or you met on a very significant weekend. Maybe you both went to the same type of elementary and high school, or you had the same college major. One or two of these things could just be coincidence, but with a twin flame, you’ll probably have many overlapping similarities.

18. They show you what you most desire as well as what you most fear. Their purpose is not (and has never been) to make you feel “settled” or comfortable, but to help introduce you to yourself. TC mark

23 Little Reminders That You’re Doing Just Fine Without Him

Posted: 05 Oct 2016 03:00 PM PDT

Lea Dubedout
Lea Dubedout

1. You woke up and he wasn't the first thought on your mind. In fact, you haven't thought about him in a while.

2. You made your favorite breakfast and didn't have to think twice about satisfying anyone but yourself.

3. You love your job.

4. You have a good group of friends that you can call up and make plans with almost any night of the week.

5. You've started to feel good again, good in your own skin, good when you look in the mirror, good when you go out on the weekends.

6. Your days are filled with selfish, wonderful things, like binge-shopping, reading a book on the patio chair, or calling your sister and talking for hours.

7. Nothing holds you back anymore. When you want something, you go get it.

8. You lay in the middle of your bed now, and hog all the covers.

9. There's no longer a hole in your chest. In fact, you feel perfectly fine.

10. You enjoy sunrises and sunsets.

11. You don't feel obligated to be anyone else but yourself.

12. You bought a new outfit just for you.

13. You're starting to get attention from the opposite sex, and you know what? It doesn't feel so bad.

14. You no longer mourn the old pictures of him that you took down from your walls.

15. You feel stronger. And you are, just so you know.

16. You can do so much on your own. You're capable and resilient.

17. You don't feel pain anymore. When you wake up in the morning, you feel refreshed and new.

18. You don't really care what he's doing. In fact, you genuinely wish happiness for him, wherever he is.

19. You've started to find comfort in your solitude. And it feels good.

20. You're surrounded by new opportunities, friendships, and memories-in-the-making.

21. You're confident.

22. You've become much closer with your family.

23. You've let go of all bitterness. And you feel free. TC mark

You Said You Loved Me But You Destroyed Me

Posted: 05 Oct 2016 02:00 PM PDT

Just hearing your name makes my heart ache from missing you. I've always wished you the best, because even though you're a million miles away, you'll always be a part of me. I didn't choose you out of loneliness, I chose you because to me, you are everything; every bone in my body, every beat in my heart beats for you. It has been over a year now and I'm still waiting for another chance, for luck to bring us back together.

But let me tell you something, nothing hurts as bad as waiting for someone you know is not coming back. I saw it coming though, but at the same time I never thought the world could possibly be so cruel as to push us that far.

They say if two people are meant to be together, eventually they'll find their way back; but it has been too long and my heart just can't bear it anymore. It's my entire fault anyway; I let you go so easily, I destroyed the only thing I have ever loved.

However, no one in the world deserves to be that miserable, no matter what they may have done. It's not fair to live this way, everything moves in slow motion, it's like the world is standing still and I'm lost in the stillness. Losing you screwed me up, it messed with my head, I couldn't think straight. I lost my way trying to find yours. Ever since then, I've done a lot of things that I'm not proud of, but I wasn't thinking at the time; all I wanted was to kill the pain, to be numb; even though I knew they were mistakes, I couldn't help but do it.

What hurts more is that you left in complete silence, without leaving me the slightest hint. My mind has gone crazy trying to figure out the true reason why you left. Maybe if I knew, I'd feel better, I would finally get my closure.

I smelled your perfume yesterday, and it's crazy just how a smell could bring back so much memories. Just the smell killed me inside. I bet no one has ever experienced that heart crushing feeling; but let me tell you, it hurts like hell. I don't think anything or anyone could ever fill the void that you left. No one compares to you, you were my first love, and I wish with all my heart for you to come back and be my last.

It will never make sense to me though, how can someone just stop loving you, how is that even possible.

One day you mean the world to them, the next day BAM! They're gone. My mind still can't grasp that.

It terrifies me as fuck how I have this feeling that I could never let you go, you hold a special place in my heart and I don't think I could ever let that go. However, I'm sure it was love; it was definitely true love, because no one is that cruel to play you for 6 damn years.

I sincerely hope that one day you look back and remember us, and I hope on that day you feel every emotion that I felt ever since you left. I hope your heart aches like mine did, and I hope you feel that heart crushing feeling I have everyday, but most of all, I hope you regret ever letting me go just like that; because that was definitely not love, and because you do not destroy the people that you love. TC mark

I Don’t Want To Do What Everyone Else Is Doing

Posted: 05 Oct 2016 01:00 PM PDT

 Zechariah Lee
Zechariah Lee

I don't want to wake up every day, drive to a job I don't like, sit in traffic and force a smile to get through another day at work, pretending that I like my colleagues, pretending that my boss is the smartest person in the room and pretending that this job is not slowly killing me.

I don't want to be guarded, I don't want to wait a few days before I text someone I like, or wait a certain amount of time to tell them how I feel and I don't want to play a part in the modern dating drama, I don't want a character that doesn't represent me.

I don't want to act like I'm happy when I'm sad and I don't want to associate sadness or tears with weakness, I don't want the world to tell me it's wrong to feel or it’s wrong to hurt.

I want to be free to be myself. I want to accept myself for who I am and I want the world to let me do so without making me feel guilty or judging me.

I want the world to have more room for people like me.

The ones who don't always get it right but they never give up.

The ones who don't always say the right thing but they say the real thing.

The ones who don't always know where they belong because they don't want to settle.

The ones who do not always win but they still play.

The ones who make more mistakes than wise decisions.

The ones who have a hard time figuring themselves out but they're still searching.

The ones who still believe in fairytales, in dreams coming true, in miracles happening and the ones who still believe that they can change the world — at least their world.

Because the one good thing about those who don't want to be like everyone else is that they know how to make a difference. 

They change lives, they do unconventional things, they dream, they try and fail and try again. They believe, they fight, they run and they fly.

I want to be the one who dares, the one who makes things happen and the one who still knows how to love someone unconditionally.

And I want to be someone you'll always remember, someone you randomly met but couldn't forget, someone who touched your life in some way.

I want to be remembered long after I'm gone as someone who didn't want to be like everyone else so she became boldly herself. TC mark

I Don’t Want You To Go, But I Won’t Ask You To Stay

Posted: 05 Oct 2016 12:00 PM PDT


I'm not going to ask you to stay.

I'm not going to show up at the airport like heart-wrecked girls do in the movies, yelling for your name, frantic to tell you everything I never said.

It's in the sad songs, too, that play on about love that crushes and hearts they miss, change and distance, and all they'd do for one more chance, one more kiss, one more moment. But I won't admit any of those things, either.
I am devastated.

But you will never know that. Because I will never tell you. I say I'm proud of you, excited for all you'll see. That is not a lie. I am. I just wish, a little bit, or really a lot, that it hadn't ended like this, at all.
And all I can do is watch you go. All I can do is swallow the break in my soul, take it like resilient girls do, and pretend that my world isn't sinking.

I could write a letter to you, maybe? It was always easier that way, hiding in my script, not letting the ocean of your eyes choke me. I could tell you to read it after you've gone and I'm not there. It would be like surrendering. And as you take it and it's yours, maybe then I can be free again.

But I have no words for you. I've exhausted them. And no matter what I say or do not say, I will never be free from you.

But don't worry at all about that. I will not turn this around on you. I won't invade you, or make a mess of this. I will not try to change your mind or make you feel guilty. I've just gotten really great at standing still.
But you have to fight for what you want, everyone says to me. But so much time has gone by. I don't really know what to do anymore. I've just gotten really great at pretending like I do, these days.

I still dread the day you go, though, with everything I am, I dread it. But like "friends" do, I will wish for you all the greatest things. That is not a lie. I do wish them. I just wish it was me, somewhere in there, a cause in your life, a reason to stay.

But that's just life and how it goes. You'll go and this chapter will finish and we'll just become words to each other, of what was and what will never be. And please, don't worry about saying anything. You really don't have to. Promise me you won't.

I'd rather have our last words be the silence of that night that we're not supposed to talk about. The night I shouldn't have stayed. The night I undressed in your dark, trying to be polite, hidden in the shadows. The night I turned around anyway and caught you looking at me like no one has ever looked at me—even you, back then.

I will never get over that. Ever. If I was haunted before, I am haunted now. And I wish so badly you could know.

Maybe I'll never understand it. Or maybe I do already. Either way, I just wish it was enough. Do you know what I mean?

But I will never ask. I will never know. TC mark