Thought Catalog


14 Ways Your Dog Is Actually The Best Friend You Could Have

Posted: 29 Nov 2016 01:00 AM PST

There's something truly unique about the bond between dog and dog owner. Whether you're relaxing on the couch scratching your dog's stomach, running together, or playing fetch in the park, a dog is loyal to the core, always his or her drooling, panting, authentic self. We've partnered with Tito's Handmade Vodka, which advocates for rescue dogs and neglected animals, to celebrate the special relationships that can only be forged between dog people and their trusty canine friends.

Happy woman walking with dog in early Sunday morning in London, Notting Hill.

1. Your dog is genuinely enthusiastic about everything you two do together. Whether it's taking long walks in the park, enjoying quick drives around town, playing fetch, or even just lounging around the house watching Netflix, your dog is always happy just spending time with you.

2. You never have to worry about canceling or negotiating plans with your dog. They're always at the ready to do anything you have in mind, whenever you're ready to do it.

3. Your dog makes mundane everyday activities that you usually do alone—like working out or running errands—something to actually look forward to. Because you get to bring them!

4. And your dog keeps you mentally and physically healthy—you may be walking your dog, but your dog is walking you too.

5. Nothing beats coming home and seeing your dog go bonkers over how excited they are to see you. And it doesn't matter how long you've been gone—you could walk out the door, remember you forgot something, and come back inside mere seconds later—your dog will still act like it's the best thing that's ever happened to them.

6. And your dog doesn't care how you look, what time of day it is, or how you're feeling—their excitement to see you and be with you is always present.

7. And that enthusiasm is a two-way street. You're just as giddy to see them, as they are to see you. And that mutual happiness never falters.

8. Your dog protects you—not just because they'll bark if anyone tries to break into your apartment—but in an emotional sense too. It's been proven that your dog can actually smell how you're feeling and accurately read your facial features, which explains why they always seem to be able to sense when you need a hug the most. No other pet or human could be so unconditionally devoted to you and make you feel so good all the time.

9. They're the best source of comfort to you during your lowest moments. From their warm, soft body curled up in your lap, to them surprising you with kisses all over your face, your dog is an infallible remedy for any bad mood or tough day.

10. And unlike any other human friend, you always know that you can trust your dog to intently listen to you vent—without worrying about feeling judged or guilty afterwards. Your dog is always prepared to absorb all your angst and stress, and then provide you with some serious cuddles afterwards.

11. While your dog is there for you during the bad times, nothing compares to how fun and fulfilling it is to have them there during the good times too. Your dog is always willing to celebrate even the smallest achievements with you.

12. Walking your dog constantly provides you with opportunities to interact with different people and experience new things. Everyone wants to meet your best friend.

13. Sleeping next to your dog is the epitome of a perfect slumber party to you. Your dog keeps the bed a perfect temperature of coziness and warmth, and nothing beats going to sleep feeling all of their faithful love for you.

14. Each dog has a personality of its own, and your dog is definitely one-of-a-kind. Which is why it's so confusing to call them just your "pet." Your dog means so much more to you than that.

This Post Was Produced In Partnership With Tito’s Handmade Vodka

14 People Reveal Exactly Why They Can’t Imagine Life Without Their Dog

Posted: 29 Nov 2016 12:00 AM PST

There's something truly unique about the bond between dog and dog owner. Whether you're relaxing on the couch scratching your dog's stomach, running together, or playing fetch in the park, a dog is loyal to the core, always his or her drooling, panting, authentic self. We've partnered with Tito's Handmade Vodka, which advocates for rescue dogs and neglected animals, to celebrate the special relationships that can only be forged between dog people and their trusty canine friends.

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Imagine living without your eyes. It's impossible to really imagine it, but you just know in your guts it'd be horrifying, right? Well, I'm blind, and I imagine it'd be horrifying if I didn't have my service dog. Before I got Lucy, I was afraid to step outside. But she's like a little magical bridge between me and the sighted world. Remember in Wizard of Oz when everything goes from black and white to color? Well, that's what happened to my life when I got this dog. Suddenly life had so many more options and opportunities. Suddenly it felt like I could fly. Suddenly I had a set of eyes that worked.
—Edwin, 37

I'm a single mom with three kids, and we all live in a neighborhood that's becoming increasingly sketchy. When I got divorced a year ago, I trotted down to the local animal shelter and adopted a 90-pound Rottweiler girl that protects me and the kids.
—Anna, 31

When I cry, he comforts me. When I put on ten pounds he doesn't say a thing. When I snore he can't hear because he's snoring even louder. Except for the snoring, what man does any of those things? In short, life without my dog would be like life with a boyfriend but no dog—miserable. I'd call her man's best friend, but that'd be sexist and plus I'm not a man, anyway.
—Jess, 26

Autumn is my favorite time of year, and there’s a beautiful stretch of country road right near my house where you can see the leaves changing color. On a crisp day like today walking along that road it's like a kaleidoscope of colors—I can see green, orange, yellow, and brown leaves under a blue sky. But the immense pleasure of walking down that road would be severely diminished if tagging along by my side wasn’t the shiny coat of my Black Labrador named Fisher. He’s the most important color of my rainbow. So life without him would lack a primary color for me.
—Jessica, 24

The first thing that sprang to mind was that if I didn't have my dog, I'd be able to eat every meal in total peace, without his little tail-wagging, hip-shimmying butt constantly nagging me for scraps. I guess that'd be nice—except I'd miss my dog so much I wouldn't be able to eat.
—Ashley, 25

Life without my dog? I can imagine coming home to a silence so noticeable, it'd be deafening. I'm an introvert who has a daytime office job, and the best part of every day is coming home to have my dog basically laminate my face with slobbery kisses. Opening my apartment door with no dog inside would be like opening a Christmas present, only to realize it's an empty box.
—Geoff, 27

I got her when she was a three-pound puppy, and I can't think of one day I've had my six-year-old female poodle mix that she hasn't done something to make me laugh. So a world without her would be like a world without laughter. No one greets you better than a dog. No one is more excited to see you. They are nature's antidepressant. There's a reason why, when you type in "why i love my d" on Google, it autofills "dog" even before "daughter" or "dad."
—Sarah, 25

Two years ago I was camping with my dog and girlfriend in the summertime out in the Jersey Pine Barrens, which is a huge desolate and almost uninhabited patch of land in the nation's most densely populated state. Suddenly, for no apparent reason, my sweet little 25-pound French Bulldog named Fifi started wheezing desperately as if she'd been stabbed in the lungs with an icepick. I was at least an hour's drive from any vet, but I motored through those barren roads at 80MPH, cursing a God I didn't believe in while praying at the same time not to kill my little dog, that dog who is, and was, and always will be my whole world. Life without my dog? I've imagined it—it would be horrible.
—Jim, 33

I guess I can imagine life without my dog—it’d be just like my regular life, only after some cruel special-effects technician CGI’d my most beloved companion out of every scene. Whether sleeping, eating, walking, or watching TV, there’d be a big vacant hole where my dog used to be. Sounds like a horror movie!
—Ted, 26

When I think of life without my dog, I think back to the lyrics of an old country song:
Imagine a world where no music was playing
Then think of a church where nobody’s praying
If you’ve ever looked up at a sky with no blue
Then you’ve seen a picture of me without you…
That's what I imagine life without my little fur ball would be. It'd be like a morning without coffee or like a bed without a pillow. Like a day without sunshine or a lake without water. It'd be life, but I can't quite say it'd be living.
—Billy, 43

Did you ever reach across the bed seeking someone to cuddle and find that there’s only a pillow there? Isn’t that the loneliest feeling in the world? I don’t care that my Great Dane weighs almost as much as I do, nor that he hogs the bed and the sheets. What I care about is that when I reach across the bed, I can feel him comfortably asleep. And as long as he’s there, I’ll never feel lonely.
—Andy, 24

Eighteen months ago I was diagnosed with liver cancer and given only a year to live. Living with cancer and the chemo and all the tests and the treatments and the not knowing and the sadness, I don't know how much of my life I have left, but I can't imagine a day of this agony without my scruffy little mutt by my side wherever I go. What I really worry about is how her life will be when I'm gone. Sometimes I like to think she’s immortal, and I remind myself that “dog” spelled backwards is “God.”
—Bess, 42

I have a fat little brown 13-year-old Chihuahua girl I named Teeny. A homeless couple sold her to me outside a Cracker Barrel restaurant if I agreed to buy them dinner there. The fact that they were willing to sell this goofy little angel in exchange for a meal says to me how horribly destitute their lives were that evening. I could tell they loved her, and part of me feels guilty that I have her. But she brings me so much joy that when I try to imagine life without her, I imagine how that poor couple feels every day and night.
—Johnny, 29

Who would wake me up in the morning? Who would greet me when I get home? Who would walk with me at the park? Who would eat the last bite of every meal I eat? Who would bark when there's a weird scratching sound on the roof? Who would catch the mice in the basement? Why did you ask me this question—are you trying to upset me?
—Kirsten, 24

This Post Was Produced In Partnership With Tito’s Handmade Vodka

11 Things You Need To Know Before Dating A Dog Owner

Posted: 28 Nov 2016 11:00 PM PST

There's something truly unique about the bond between dog and dog owner. Whether you're relaxing on the couch scratching your dog's stomach, running together, or playing fetch in the park, a dog is loyal to the core, always his or her drooling, panting, authentic self. We've partnered with Tito's Handmade Vodka, which advocates for rescue dogs and neglected animals, to celebrate the special relationships that can only be forged between dog people and their trusty canine friends.

A man and a woman walking a dog in the park.

1. We think of our dogs as our children.

We identify as dog-moms and dog-dads. We are dog parents, and our parents are dog-grandparents. Our siblings are dog-aunts and uncles, and even our friends are dog-godparents. We love our dogs, and they are as much a part of our family as any human is. Our dogs are family.

2. Our dogs tend to interrupt romantic moments.

When you're going in for a kiss, our dog will probably lick your foot, and when you sleepover, they may or may not chew a hole in any piece of clothing you happen to remove. This might be their grand scheme to scare you away because they want ALL of our love and attention, but either way they're just being dogs, and they don't always contribute to a romantic ambience.

3. They're our go-to cuddle buddies.

Not all humans are cuddlers, and even if they are, it's an occasional occurrence. Dogs are willing to cuddle whenever, wherever, which is exactly why they're our designated cuddle buddies. It's okay if this makes you jealous.

4. We try to bring them everywhere.

When you ask us to dinner, we'll ask if the restaurant allows dogs, even if it is five-stars. Who knows maybe the restaurant owner is a dog-lover like us. Wherever we go, and wherever you try to take us, we will probably try to bring our dogs too. Life is just more fun when they're around.

5. You'll hear about our dog's bowel movements at least once.

Being a dog-parent is not always glamorous. Sometimes our beloved furry friends have belly aches that make their poop the consistency of peanut butter, and we will most likely tell you about it when it happens (if you're not with us when we have to clean it up). We don't really find it disgusting, we just consider it another day of dog parenting.

6. We have TONS of photos with our dogs.

We most likely have more photos with our dogs than our significant others. Our dogs are our home screen, our lock screen, and their bark might even be our ring tone. They're just so cute and lovable, we want to be with them even when we physically can't be. Every time we check what time it is, we see their adorable, loving face light up our phones and it makes us smile immediately.

7. They are the main subject of our social media.

All of the photos we have of them you can definitely bet have made appearances on any and all of your news feeds. We don't care if it's annoying. We love our dogs.

8. We need a little advanced-notice for any spontaneous trips, vacations, or sleepovers.

Dogs are as big of a commitment as any relationship. When you want us to spend the night, we have the care of our dog to consider, and when you want us to spontaneously go sky-diving, we think about who would take care of our dog if our parachute failed to open. Everything we do, we have the responsibility and care of our dog to worry about.

9. We spend a considerable amount of money on our dogs.

We like to give them special treatment, and that treatment isn't always cheap. We spend more money on dog grooming than we do on our own trips to the salon, so don't take offense when the gift we bought for your birthday costs less than the vegan leather dog bed we ordered from Amazon. Our dogs deserve the best.

10. They're our best pal.

Significant others have broken our hearts, best friends have let us down, but our dogs have never done either. They're always there for us, and so is their love. They're our everything.

11. The love for our dog is incomparable to our love for anyone else.

We love our dogs, AND we love you too. We have multiple loves in our lives, and our dogs will always be one of them. We don't want you to compare, we just want you to accept the amount of love we have to give, because all dog owners have more than enough.

This Post Was Produced In Partnership With Tito’s Handmade Vodka

10 Life Lessons You Can Only Learn While Walking Your Dog

Posted: 28 Nov 2016 10:00 PM PST

There's something truly unique about the bond between dog and dog owner. Whether you're relaxing on the couch scratching your dog's stomach, running together, or playing fetch in the park, a dog is loyal to the core, always his or her drooling, panting, authentic self. We've partnered with Tito's Handmade Vodka, which advocates for rescue dogs and neglected animals, to celebrate the special relationships that can only be forged between dog people and their trusty canine friends.

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1. Enjoy the journey every single time you step foot out of the house. Wherever you go, your dog isn't preoccupied by what route you take or what your final destination is. Why? Because he or she is busy enjoying every single moment along the way, just as you should.

2. Don't be afraid to stop and take a whiff of nature. When we're not busy jolting from one meeting to the next, we're usually buried in our phones, searching the web for the next hilarious meme or the next moving story. But there's an entire natural world of beauty at our fingertips and if you don't pause to appreciate the majesty like your dog does, you'll miss it.

3. Why walk when you can run? You don't always need a reason to dash across the lawn or the park. Yes, running can seem like a chore you'd rather skip, especially when you're doing it on a treadmill dressed in clingy, unforgiving athletic gear. But there is so much joy to be had in an impromptu sprint. Follow your dog's lead and dart across the park on a whim and watch as your mood transforms in an instant.

4. If you're happy, show it! When a dog is happy, you know it. You can see it in their eyes, and in the wag of their tail. If you're in good spirits, there's no reason not to share that good energy with the outside world.

5. You're never too old to play. Dogs of all ages seem to understand this and they lead by example in a wonderful way. Playtime isn't just for kids. We all need to let loose and act a little wild sometimes, so build a few breaks into your workday or schedule a rendezvous with friends surrounding some kind of silly adventure, like a trip to the local amusement park.

6. Good behavior is almost always rewarded. There's a simple, beautiful formula that governs the relationship between dog and pet owner: When a dog behaves well, he gets that treat or that tummy scratch because he's earned it. It's helpful to remember that good vibes beget good vibes and that it's worth spreading the positivity whenever possible.

7. Don't be intimidated by how loud someone can "bark." The typical dog doesn't back down when another dog barks, no matter how big or small their opponent is. The takeaway from this canine bravery is that you shouldn't be frightened by a person's size, or the volume of their shouts. Rather, focus on the content of their character and the validity of the argument they're trying to make. Never let bullying tactics overwhelm you.

8. If you trust someone, loosen the leash. When an owner lets their dog run free, the dog abides by the terms of an unspoken but well understood agreement not to run away. Trust may be difficult to build, but it's important to recognize that it's there. Once you've established that precious sense of trust with a partner or colleague, loosen the reins a little.

9. Be grateful whenever someone takes the time to pet you (or pat you on the back). A good dog acts supremely grateful when a stranger stops to show him appreciation. So should every good human. Each compliment you receive should be welcomed with grace and treasured as the nugget of kindness that it is.

10. If you're having a blast, don't rush home. A dog rarely ever wants to leave the park, and we humans could benefit from their carefree attitude. If you're having a great time, don't hesitate to extend your stay. Figure out a way to finesse your schedule and seize the moment, especially when you're in the company of a creature (or people) you adore.

This Post Was Produced In Partnership With Tito’s Handmade Vodka

Trusting Someone Is Difficult (But Not Impossible) When You’ve Been Cheated On

Posted: 28 Nov 2016 06:30 PM PST

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The truth of the matter is, darling, there was a break in us before we even began—a dark seed of distrust in our hearts, planted there by ex-partners too cowardly and cold to treat us with the honesty and devotion we deserved.

That is the true consequence of unfaithfulness – not the pain and harm it inflicts in the moment, but the scar it leaves lingering on the hearts of its victims long after the relationship is over. It is the feeling that we are not enough. That every time we turn, our partners will look somewhere else. It is searching for the residue of lipstick on his neck, or the scent of another man's cologne in the fabric of her dress.

It is to examine every moment of unusual behaviour—stringing even the smallest, most trivial "clues" together into ludicrous tales of deceit and betrayal that begin to feel so real in your head, you actually start to believe them. It is that cruel, harrowing voice in your heart, whispering: It is not a matter of if, but when.

The fact is, we entered this love with knives in our backs, so we can forgive each other for being distrustful and guarded, but if we allow it, suspicion will rot away at the root of our love until it can no longer support its own weight and collapses. We can't let that happen.

We can't allow their mistakes to unmake us. We can't allow their poison to sicken and drain the life from our love. It is ours, not theirs. And it is brilliant, not broken. We cannot grant them the satisfaction of dismantling our lives a second time. They don't belong here.

Faith is a tricky thing. We can never really know with absolute certainty whether we have placed it in the right or wrong hands until it's too late. But we take the leap anyway. We choose to trust because that is what we deserve — a fresh start — a love that is designed by our actions in the present, not the pain in our pasts. TC mark

Your Long Distance Relationship Will Be Worth It, If You’re Willing To Work At It

Posted: 28 Nov 2016 05:30 PM PST

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I have had a few long distance relationships in my time, and I can tell you that some of them were worth it, and have met some great men. I will be the first to tell you that long distance is hard work, but anything in life that is good does not come easy.

My good friend E and I were talking about this recently, and he said that long distance relationships are very sensitive and difficult. They take an enormous amount of effort. He said there has to be a happy medium and you lose out on the “real-time” companionship. On that note, I feel that technology makes long distance a little easier. With Skype and Face Time, it allows for face-to-face communication. You get to know the person by talking to them and getting to really know them to know if they are worth it.

It becomes more than physical. You always get mixed reviews from people. You will always have the friends who are positive and would be happy for you if you were in love with an antelope, and there will always be the Debbie Downers “wah-waah”, who will be negative and discourage you.

As you know, everyone has an opinion and it is up to you not to let those opinions affect your relationship.

If you are in a relationship where you are a few hours away or a few time zones away, you are in a long distance relationship. If you both care enough for each other, you can make anything work. It’s your relationship…enjoy.

Chemistry plays an enormous role, and I always say the heart wants what the heart wants, and some of the time you do not pick the person who lives next door. I have always loved to travel and have met the most amazing people in my traveling adventures, and when the person you love is your destination then that makes traveling to see them even better. Traveling to see them or traveling to new places together, you will find out if you still like them after a few days together. I know I have had the most memorable vacations with that someone special.

Long distance makes the heart grow fonder and you have something to look forward to.

You will value messages from your partner and have things to catch up on…no small talk. If you are like me and have always loved “me” time, you will never feel guilty. It has given me time to get to know and love me by finding out who I am by having my own life. It is easy to lose yourself in a relationship. In any relationship, it is important to remember you are your own person. I know you are thinking that if you don’t see that person every day you can develop trust issues. Well, the truth is, you can have trust issues when you see that person every day. It is the experiences you have that build your relationship together and become better people.

No matter what situation you are in, if you put your heart and soul into your relationship, it can work, and having a long distance relationship should not change that.

My advice, in a world where there are options and not enough time to do everything, be efficient with learning who you are. Find the person that is right for you no matter where they are. Find what works for you and what you are and are not compatible with. Everyone that comes into your life can enrich your life. Be honest, communicate and open about what you want and need, and distance should not change that. Life is short and there are thousands of cities…happy and safe long distance dating. TC mark

36 Ways To Accidentally Ruin Your Entire Relationship

Posted: 28 Nov 2016 04:00 PM PST

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1. Shutting him out when your anxiety or depression flares up, instead of letting him help you through it.

2. Withholding sex in order to feel more powerful or in control of the relationship.

3. Going through his texts or emails without permission.

4. Keeping track of everything you do for him (like how much money you spend on gifts and how often you wash the dishes) and making sure he returns every single favor.

5. Giving him ultimatums that tell him when he should move in with you and when he should propose.

6. Accusing him of cheating on you, even though he’s given you absolutely no reason to think that.

7. Putting your wants in front of his needs.

8. Failing to put in effort to plan dates and spend quality time together.

9. Threatening to break up with him, kill him, or kill yourself whenever you’re upset.

10. Bringing up things that he did wrong years ago, even though it should be in the past and you should be focusing on the present.

11. Texting him when you’re pissed instead of having a face-to-face conversation with him to solve the issue.

12. Wasting your money on pointless shit, and expecting him to pay the rent and buy groceries.

13. Making major decisions on your own, without even asking him for his opinion beforehand.

14. Needing to be right in every single situation.

15. Posting constant updates (good or bad) about your relationship on social media.

16. Refusing to apologize, even when it’s clear that you screwed up and hurt his feelings.

17. Cheating. Or “harmlessly” flirting with someone so much that you might as well be cheating.

18. Keeping all of your emotions bottled up inside instead of letting him know what you wish would change about the relationship.

19. Comparing him to your friends’ boyfriends.

20. Getting wasted (or contacting your ex) whenever you have a small argument with him.

21. Pretending you’re asleep whenever he wants to have sex and then faking your orgasms during sex.

22. Acting like the victim in any given situation.

23. Spending every waking second together and having no social life outside of your relationship with him.

24. Blaming him for problems with your career or family that have absolutely nothing to do with him.

25. Making sex all about you, even though you should be putting in equal effort to please each other.

26. Leaving the room whenever you cry, because you never want him to see you acting emotional.

27. Purposely starting arguments for the “fun” of it or to get more attention.

28. Expecting him to know exactly what you’re thinking and then getting mad when he can’t read your mind.

29. Criticizing him over ridiculous things, like the way he folds your t-shirts after doing the laundry or the way that he puts the toilet paper back in the holder.

30. Comparing yourself to every woman he talks to and every actress you see on the television.

31. Trying to control everything he does, from the friends he hangs out with to the job offers he accepts.

32. Cutting him off in the middle of a sentence when he’s trying to talk to you.

33. Wearing pajamas every single time you see him, because you don’t care about your appearance anymore.

34. Trying to change him, even though he likes himself just the way he is.

35. Complaining to your friends about him during every girls night out.

36. Taking him for granted instead of appreciating all of the sweet things he does for you. TC mark

Why It’s Harder To Fall Back In Love With Someone Who Has Hurt You

Posted: 28 Nov 2016 03:00 PM PST

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The problem with heartbreak is that it never really goes away, it doesn’t really get out of your system and you can't erase it from your memory. Even if you forgive, you'll never forget and even if you decide to start over, you will always remember how things ended or how they used to be before you were hurt.

You don't feel it at first, you're still enamored by the thrill of second chances and the universe bringing the person you loved back into your life, you're still infatuated and trying to figure out how much has changed and excited about getting to know the person all over again.

It works for a while until that person does something that triggers the past heartbreak, something that they did before when you started to realize that this is the beginning of the end and it all comes back to you, it haunts you at night, it makes you more guarded and less trusting, your ego begins to brainwash you and your mind begins to warn you that this person will break you again and you will just be the fool who got heartbroken twice by the same person.

When these feelings get to you, you realize that your reawakened love will never be pure, it will be tainted with the blood of the old wounds and it will bring the scars back.

You will realize that you can't really love this person with your whole heart anymore, you can't really give them your whole heart because the last time you did, they broke it.

The problem with going back to the person who hurt you is that they're very capable of doing it again because they know how.

The problem with pain is that it is multiplied when it comes from the same person who caused it.

We fall in love to ease our pain and find joy in the mundane moments, but sometimes when we give certain people another shot at love, we become cautious instead of letting ourselves go. We become stubborn instead of vulnerable, we test them more, we question them more and it just takes away the beauty of falling in love.

When you realize that things will never be the same again with someone because they broke your heart before, maybe you should forgive them without loving them again and give someone else a chance.

Maybe we make love harder because we're always letting the wrong people back into our lives instead of inviting new ones in.

Maybe we just need to learn how to love again and we need someone to teach us how and sometimes this will never come from someone who taught us more about pain and heartbreak than love. Maybe we just need to give first chances before we give second chances.  TC mark

I Know You’re Not Coming Back But I’m Still Working On Accepting That

Posted: 28 Nov 2016 02:00 PM PST

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I try to think of anything else to occupy my mind, but no matter what you're there. You're in every newspaper I read, every sip of alcohol I drink, every phone call I make and every song I sing.

I miss you so much it hurts. It physically hurts like I’m constantly getting the wind knocked out of my chest.

I don't understand how we are just supposed to be okay going our separate ways. I don't understand how I can walk away from you and not long for you back. You were the best part of my life and it's killing me inside that I haven't seen you in months.

I'm not over you and to be honest I don't know when I will be.

Your memory still brings me to tears, it still brings out a part of who I was when I was with you and I miss that part terribly.

I want to pretend I still know who you are. I want to live in a world where I still know what you're doing every day and where I can comfort you when things are hard, but I know we don't live in that world – at least not anymore.

We had our shot, but we blew it.

You went from my best friend, the person who I trusted more than anyone in this life to a stranger. You went from someone I could no longer turn to when I needed someone to help comfort me and the person I used to share all my secrets with to someone I can't even send a Snapchat to anymore.

You were such a big part of my life, maybe even the biggest, but now you're gone. You're not there anymore when I call, you're not there anymore when I wake up in the middle of the night and you're not there anymore when I have good news to share.

You're simply living your life one-way and I'm living mine another.

We are now two hearts beating in our own directions in life; where we once walked together, we now walk alone.

Just like my body no longer feels you, I'm trying to sync my mind to no longer think of you.

But your memory is still there, it still comforts me when I need it, but I'm slowly letting the thoughts pass through without clinging to every moment and memory like I used to. I like to think I'm getting stronger without you, but even on my strongest days your memory still sneaks in and gets the best of me.

Part of you will always live in me and for that I'm thankful, but now I need to move on from you for good. I need to let your memory fade away and move on with my life.

I need to live my life for me and stop romanticizing the idea you might come back.

Because you’re not coming back.

You're gone and it's time for me to let your memory go, too.

Just know I miss you. TC mark

16 People Share The Worst Relationship Advice They’ve Ever Been Given

Posted: 28 Nov 2016 01:00 PM PST

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1.

"Have a baby. It’ll save your relationship."

— Ellen, 23

2.

"'If you love him, change everything about yourself for him.”

— Rose, 26

3.

"The worst advice I've gotten is to immediately jump into bed with a person I was interested in developing a long-term relationship with. I think more times than not, it ruins the spark, intrigue, and chase of a new crush, and it creates a distance and lack of intimacy that's pretty hard to recover from."

— Leia, 22

4.

"'You just need to get out there more' – this is so unhelpful and where is ‘there’? I would love to know."

— Laura, 23

5.

"'Your standards are too high' – thanks, let me just settle for some shitty dude to spend a ton of time with. That sounds enjoyable."

— Samantha, 23

6.

"Stick it out, it will get better."

— Sara, 22

7.

"That if you love each other, that is enough. From my experience there's a lot more that goes into a relationship than love, and most of the time love actually isn't enough."

— Rob, 27

8.

"'If you care about the other person, you have to make sacrifices.' – It's one of those things that sounds correct on a surface level, but being in a healthy, caring, relationship involves mutual sacrifice, and I think people fall into the trap of giving too much of themselves without recognizing how lopsided that dynamic really is. It should be a two-way street."

— Michael, 23

9.

"'Make her do all the work. Never reach out, and never compliment her.' – which I didn't follow because I'm not a sociopath."

— Mark, 23

10.

"That sex on the first date leads to love."

— Jess, 23

11.

"'Never tell him your number; always let him think your number is three.' – if he is slut shaming me, he is not the one for me."

— Mabel, 23

12.

"'Wait till marriage before you have sex or live together.' – how am I supposed to know if I can spend the rest of my life with someone before I do either of these things?"

— John, 24

13.

"'Play hard to get.' – it's complete bullshit. I shouldn't have to 'play' anything and I don't want to date anyone who's only interested in me because they think I'm hard to get."

— Jordan, 26

14.

"'Wait until the (insert number here) date to have sex' – you should have sex whenever you feel comfortable, whether it's the first date or the seventeenth."

— Liz, 21

15.

"'If you aren't going to marry him you're wasting your time.' – I was 19 or 20 at the time… I'd argue your early 20s (also mid & even possibly late 20s) is when you want to date around and figure out what you want."

— Nathalie, 23

16.

"The worst dating advice I’ve ever received was to use dating apps. I think there are very few things more attractive than a person who is present in the moment, living their best life, carving out time with people they love and for activities they enjoy. We spend so much time glued to our devices that I think we forget to appreciate the beauty in the people around us."

— Anees, 25 TC mark