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21 Women Who Got Pregnant From Casual Sex Reveal What It Was Like To Keep The Baby And Why They Did It

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 08:00 PM PDT

via Flickr - Jamie Campbell
via Flickr – Jamie Campbell

1. The Perfect Co-Parents

I got pregnant in college with a guy I had slept with only a few times. I told him and after deciding to keep the baby let him know that he could choose to be involved but if he was he would not be in and out of the child’s life. I also told him if he did not want to be involved I would not seek any type of child support or money because I didn’t want that to be his deciding factor. We spoke maybe three times while I was pregnant and one of those times was meeting each other’s parents and our parents meeting each other which was pretty fucking awkward. I wouldn’t even let him in the room during delivery.

BUT he fell in love with our son the second he saw him. We never tried to date and we’re better coparents because of that. There’s no animosity or anger towards each other. No jealousy over new partners. And he’s an amazing dad. We’re able to coparent as friends and he’s a better parent than a lot of people I know that had kids with boyfriends/girlfriends!

kcrisada

2. “We Have Two Choices”

I was 21 and had been casually seeing a guy (who was soon to move overseas) for ~4 months when I found out I was pregnant. He suggested termination, I slept on it, and then I told him that I was going to go ahead with it.

I very strongly felt that it was my decision and my responsibility and I had no intention of forcing him to be a parent, so I suggested that given his feelings he should continue with his plans and that I would simply put unknown on the birth certificate when the time came. I did not push him at all and made it clear I would seek no money or anything from him.

He slept on it. The next day he came to me and said “look, we can’t do that. One way or another, I want to be involved. So, maybe I go away and you parent and in 20 years that child will have had a single mum and a dad who loves him but doesn’t see him enough OR, we can have a go at it. The worst that could happen is that it doesn’t work and we break up, and in 20 years that child will have had a single mum and a dad who loves him but doesn’t see him enough. We literally have nothing to lose!”

10 years on we are still together and now married.

ohimjustagirl

3. Sixteen And Pregnant

My mom got pregnant from a one-night-stand at 16. This was even more of a scandal in a small town in the 70s than it would have been today, but she decided to keep the baby. Her mother supported her and helped raise my sister for the first couple of years. People were really judgy and gave my mom and sister a hard time. When my sister was four my mom met my dad and he helped raise my sister from then on and they moved to a big city where the precise circumstances of my sister’s birth didn’t interest anyone. The bio-dad paid child-support but my sister only met him when she was 16 and didn’t like him. They never formed a relationship. When my dad officially adopted my sister 10 years ago (mom’s dying wish) we couldn’t even find the bio-dad.

Our mother never regretted it. My sister has some issues, which I think might partially stem from our grandma’s attempts at raising her (gran’s a bit of a narcissist) and from the town being so judgy. But she certainly found a good dad. Our relationship can be a bit weird due to a 22-year age gap, but most of the time we get along fine.

ApocaLiz

4. An Alaska Fisherwoman’s Dilemma

I have a friend of an old roommate who got pregnant from a one night stand. He was back up in Alaska doing commercial fishing when she realized she was pregnant. She got his number from some mutual friends (smallish town) and told him.

She is pro-life so she told him she was keeping it but he didn’t have to be involved but she wanted him to have the choice. They are married with 3 kids and are one of the happiest couples I know.

He immediately took leave from his job and came back to town. They moved into a house together and he got a job in town so he could be there for her.

Great kids too, and I don’t even like most kids.

FTbatscientists

5. Going It Alone

My friend was seeing this guy for a while off and on. It was mostly a booty call for both of them. But she ended up moving across the country for a job. She came home to visit the family around the holidays, hooked up with him one night and got pregnant.

He wanted nothing to do with the whole thing. He basically told her he was not into being a parent. Which was fine with her. She did consult with a lawyer about putting him on the birth certificate if she ever needed child support or health care for the kiddo. Basically the down side of that is if she ever passes away this child has to go to a person that wanted nothing to do with her. She’s fortunate enough to have a career that can support her and the baby without needing a second income.

My friend opted to not have him on the birth certificate and just raise the baby herself. She’s got a great support group of friends and family that help out all the time. I don’t think it’s easy by any means, but I know she is happy with her decision.

The father has never seen the child, nor does he want to.

Loveswine

6. Twins From A Casual Relationship

I have twins from a casual relationship. I am very pro-choice and I chose to keep them. It was a high risk pregnancy and he was around when it suited his schedule. I allowed him to be there when I was laboring, but when it was time to push and I could only have one person, I chose my mom. After they were born, again he saw them when it suited his schedule. He had an order for very minimal child support and never paid it (this was before automatic-withdrawal, or he worked under the table.)

I met my now-husband online, and we got married. I petitioned the court to be allowed to leave the state and still get child support. It was granted. I told my ex where we were moving, gave him my number, and didn’t hear from him or get child support ever. Eventually I petitioned the court to terminate my ex’s rights so my husband could adopt them. My ex fought it, saying our children were too young to understand, but he wanted a relationship when they got older. The judge absolutely tore him a new one, saying you don’t get to CHOOSE when you’re a parent.

My twins are teenagers. They just met their birth dad over the summer. He now has a drug problem and no gainful employment. My twins were not impressed. My husband is a very involved dad and they love him.

I’m glad it worked out well for all of us, but I think the key was moving far away from the ex. Also, my ex’s mom, my twins grandma, was a lovely kind involved grandma until her death (which is where my twins met their birth dad, at her funeral). She never made it awkward and I’m grateful for all her help and support over the years.

jetsetbox

7. Casual Partner Becomes Awesome Husband And Father

My baby is eight weeks old and he was conceived with a casual partner. We had been dating exclusively but casually for five months when we got pregnant. We were also long distance and two weeks after I got pregnant (unaware that I was) we decided to end things because of the distance (six hours drive). I found out I was pregnant three weeks later. I called him and told him. We’ve been together again ever since that phone call. We moved in together. He helped me through pregnancy and he was there when our gorgeous son was born. We are saving to buy a house together. He’s helping me set up my own company. But most importantly, he is an amazing father. He loves our boy so much, and he helps out with nappies and feeding (I combination feed as he’s just a really really hungry baby). He’s teaching me how to drive, he gets up during the night with me if there’s a problem with feeding. We still have an incredible sex life, it was amazing during pregnancy and afterwards too…. It seems to have really worked out for us. I hope it lasts.

throw_meaway_love

8. Casual Thing Ends With Pregnancy

I found out I was pregnant after we’d ended our casual thing and I decided to keep the baby. I told the father and gave him the choice of being involved or relinquishing all rights (including being named on the birth certificate, so I wouldn’t pursue child support). He chose to be involved and he was a great support while I was pregnant, really taking an active role as a birth partner and parent.

I was always really clear that I’d be open to exploring a relationship, but I didn’t want to force anything. I think it’s disingenuous and harmful to get married or stay together for the kids, because that just means they’re going to live with miserable adults who can’t adequately demonstrate love. So while we explored things during the pregnancy and a little after, we realized that it just wasn’t going to work out and we were better off friends.

We did have a rough patch when we were dating partners who didn’t respect the role and boundaries of the other parent (his ex just wanted to play house and push me out of the picture; after they broke up, she met a guy and got pregnant within 3 months by a guy who already had 2 kids and was married before she gave birth, just to give you an idea of what she had in mind). During that time, we ended up switching to parallel parenting, but after our breakups, it was like we came out of a fog and realized that being on the same page was going to be paramount for our son’s growth and happiness.

We’ve now developed a really strong coparenting relationships and he’s honestly a very dear friend now. Our partners are respectful of where they stand in our and our child’s lives, and I’m pretty proud that we’ve managed to create a strong village for our boy.

itsnotgoingtohappen

9. Woman In Her Thirties Gets Pregnant, Finds Love

My mum was knocked up on the third date while camping. She was 32 and decided to keep the baby, even though her partner wasn’t interested in a relationship and just wanted to party. They stayed in contact and became friends, and when I was one, he moved in with us, and they fell in love.

They’re still together 30 years later, and adore each other. My dad started writing poetry to her when she was traveling for 6 weeks. You never know!

DamnTheStars

10. Pregnant And In Jail

At 19 years old, I was pregnant for the first time and didn’t know who the father was because I spent several months of my life living like a vagrant and constantly on drugs. I woke up many times in strange places, with no idea how I got there. Usually, it was the after party, after the after party. I traveled between several cities and didn’t really know anyone that I was with. I spent my first trimester in jail for theft, where they accused me of lying about even being pregnant because their pregnancy tests were a stream of false negatives. I had std’s, got my shots, was released to my mothers care. I cleaned hotel rooms, drove an ice cream truck, had a permanent garage sale on my mothers front lawn and an endless stream of failed interviews to try to get on my feet.

My brothers and my mother helped me raise my baby, I had some government assistance for the doctor and birth. When he was 3, I joined the military and left him with my mom. When he was 4, I met my soulmate and we moved in with him, then married about a month after my sons 5th birthday. My son is now 13, and his father is my husband. He asks questions, and I answer the best I can. I have always been honest with him and let him know that I am sorry I didn’t know his biological father well enough to have kept in contact with him. He is a well adjusted young man with a heart of gold. We had did a little DNA test for ancestry.com and he is definitely more ethnic than I am and he has loads of cousins matched to him through there. If he ever contacts any of them, I would be curious to see what he learns.

GrimesGirl420

11. Third Time Was The Charm

I hooked up with my son’s dad 3 times and got pregnant on the last time. Only knew him one month. That was 7.5 years ago and I made the best decision by not having an abortion.

His dad fucked off about 6 weeks in and I didn’t get any support from him until my son was about 6 months old. His mom was amazing and still is! She has been my rock and would walk through fire for her grandson. He absolutely adores her. To this day I can count on one hand how many times he’s seen his dad.

He pays so he does the very basic necessities a dad should do. His reason for not being there for our son was that he didn’t choose it. That’s fine. I got to see every single milestone and make all the decisions. He knows one day he will have to answer his sons questions.

Oh and for what it’s worth, I was 28 and his dad was 27 when I got pregnant. Definitely old enough to know better on both our parts.

100_kitties_pls

12. All Her Friends Disappeared Once She Had The Baby

I became pregnant with my daughter with my boyfriend of a month. I was dating him casually, although we were exclusive. I thought he was just going to be a “fun” relationship and not be anything serious. I took a pregnancy test not because I thought I was pregnant, but because I just happened to find one and had that natural thought of “Well, I don’t think I’m pregnant but you can never be too sure.” To say it was a shock would be an understatement. I never wanted children and my first thought was having an abortion. I told my boyfriend and he was fine with the abortion idea but then I wavered a bit and decided not to. He was on board since he had always wanted children and apparently would have preferred I keep it.

Our relationship was shit after that. I was living with him and he moved out to the couch because all we would do is fight. I wanted him to grow up and stop being a lazy do nothing and he wanted to go out and drink all the time. Basically we were maturing at different paces. I feel so bad for our old roommates looking back but at the time I just didn’t care because we were going through some shit. It didn’t help that I had an extreme case of hyperemesis gravidarum so I was vomiting a bare minimum of 10 times a day and kept ending up in the hospital with dehydration. My mood didn’t improve with this.

We moved into our own place when I was about 7 months pregnant, I found out he had kissed some other girl and shit hit the fan. We finally worked out things, relationship-wise after our baby shower. One thing I have to say is that he never didn’t care about our daughter. He would read anything I sent him, we would read the weekly updates together regardless of how we were doing personally, he worked to buy things for her, he was great in regards to her.

I told my friends and family right after we found out. Three of our other friends were also pregnant so there was a little preggy tribe of us. They were all still going to the bar every night though and partying. Most didn’t stop drinking or doing other things while pregnant and that just wasn’t my scene so we lost touch. No one judged us for getting pregnant, until we stopped hanging out at the bar and hosting parties.

People weren’t too judgy. I’m from New England and we live in Florida so I think I was more judging of myself than anyone was of me. It seems more the norm down here.

Overall it all worked out. I wouldn’t trade my daughter for the world. She’s a smart and beautiful little 2 year old now. My then boyfriend is now my husband. He got his shit together and is almost done with his degree in Homeland Security at a fantastic university and has great job prospects lined up. I was able to be a stay at home mom with our daughter and take care of my pre-existing medical issues. It all worked out. I love my husband more than anyone and we are amazing at communication now, which we really struggled with during my pregnancy.

THEP00PQUEEN

13. Dating Three Months

My old roommate got pregnant by a guy she had only known and been pretty casually dating for 3 months. He was actually really awesome about it and was great to have around the house that semester. They got married shortly after she found out, and 3 years later they’re still together. Old roommate also recently finished her degree too!!

Everyone was really surprised and worried for them when we found out she’d be keeping it, but honestly I think it’s been a really really good thing for both of them. She had been going from school to school with no real direction and he was a stoner who was just doing random odd jobs, now they’re working hard and they seem to be really great parents. We’re all very happy for them!!

WestCoastBestCoast01

14. “Beautiful” Guy Becomes Horrible Father

I got knocked up by a one night stand who was a casual friend. He was beautiful but I was going through a divorce and not looking for anything serious.

He didn’t want a child but I chose to keep the baby.

He was an asshole and threaten to take the baby from me and give it up for adoption so he didn’t have to pay child support.

He payed sporadically and I raised the baby on my own.

When my son was 5 my now husband adopted him and the bio dad (who lived 15 minutes away the whole time) couldn’t sign the paperwork fast enough.

But it all worked out in the end. Yes it was hard for many years, but I have a wonderful son and now he has an amazing father and a little sister to dote on.

I was on birth control when I got pregnant.

ClaimedBeauty

15. Pro-Choice But Couldn’t Choose To Abort

Currently pregnant from a person I met on OKCupid. We were seeing each other as a brief thing before they left the country.

Things have been…tense. We have a lot of different ideas about child-rearing, muddled by our political views (which are similar, surprisingly, or at least were until they went full patriarchal on me) and racial backgrounds (brown people, but he really wants me to move to a safer country because our child will be black and Middle Eastern, and he thinks that’s a bad combo for living in a Trump America.) But we Skype once a week to get to know each other better and we’re figuring it out.

It’s hard, but I’ve had a physically easy pregnancy so far and though don’t have close family I have good friends. Work is super awkward – most of my co-workers are very religious, but never ask me about my pregnancy as I’m unmarried. And it’s actually kinda hurtful because another co-worker is a week further along than me and she gets asked about her health and the baby all the time but nope. Ignore ignore ignore.

I decided to keep the baby because, ultimately, I’m pro-choice but couldn’t choose abortion for myself. And though it’s a scary time to be a brown person in America I didn’t want fear to stop me from imagining a better future for my child and others.

birdielegarde

16. Came Close To Not Telling The Father

I got pregnant from the guy I dated in high school. We hooked up on a VERY casual basis when we were 20, after breaking up at 18. I came very close to not telling him about the pregnancy and wish I had stuck to that decision- the custody situation has been very difficult (due to his parents insistence he be involved). My son is almost ten and I still think about what would have happened had I not told him/said he wasn’t his. He’s not a bad dad, I just never planned for him to be involved. And sometimes I feel like he wishes he wasn’t either.

hotel_girl985

17. Baby Daddy Met Son Twice

I got pregnant from a casual FWB. He also got his girlfriend pregnant in the same week. Their baby died at 9 days old. I kept my son and he is 14 years old now. Baby Daddy has met my son twice, once for the DNA test and one time shortly after. My son was 6 months old at that time.

We talked 4 years ago when my son was 10. He said he wasn’t ready to meet my son. I told him if he wasn’t ready after a decade he never would be. Haven’t heard from him since. My son has 2 living sisters by him though and I’d like for him to know them but my son wants nothing to do with his bio dad, my ex husband is his real dad he says. My ex has been in his life since he was 9 months old.

AmandaTwisted

18. Kept The Baby Because She Might Not Have The Chance Again

I had a child from an impetuous one night stand with a stranger when I was 21. I kept the baby because I had wanted a child, although not necessarily under those circumstances; also, I had a diagnosis of compromised fertility so it wasn’t a sure bet I’d get pregnant again down the track. I also was opposed to abortion for myself, although I still supported legal abortion.

I had recently broken an engagement and both my ex and I had flings afterwards… But because I was visibly pregnant, I was the one whose fling was visible. So it was assumed I broke my ex’s heart. The truth is we were both at fault and he was a pretty shitty partner. Most of the time, we kept the breakup civil, and we both maintained a dignified silence about blame to outsiders, but people made up their own minds anyway.

Anyway, I had the baby, and my ex committed suicide (not really because of me – he was facing a completely separate, and far bigger life crisis by then – although he did throw one barb my way in the suicide note). So that intensified the blame and killed most of my remaining friendships – I couldn’t get anyone to be with me when I had the baby. So we started out with very few social supports. I was on my last subject of my degree and my institution was completely inflexible about it, so I had to do an equivalent subject at another institution instead. It sucked. Once my degree was done I basically severed all ties with everyone I knew before I had the baby and started from scratch.

But I finished my degree, we got by, I worked at home in the dot com boom. I managed to restart my career. Married a good man, a divorced parent at my son’s school, when my son was eleven. He adopted my son, and I helped raise his. I advanced to a senior management career and did two more degrees. My kids are young adults now, good ones with good futures, and we have a good life.

deejay1974

19. Had A Decent Job And Kept The Baby

I got pregnant in my mid 20s by a guy I would occasionally go get drinks/sleep with. I decided to keep the baby because even though I’m pro choice, I wanted kids and had a decent job and it didn’t bother me to be a single parent because my mom raised my brother and I mostly alone after booting my alcoholic dad out of the house.

A couple of close friends knew who the father was but I didn’t tell my family until later. Also I had the positive pregnancy test around 5 weeks, went to my first ultrasound and discovered I was actually having twins at almost ten weeks and I was like “ahhhhhhhhh!” So baby turned to babies, but it’s been the best thing and most challenging thing I’ve done with my life. My boys are 6 and I can’t imagine not having them.

Their father has seen them probably less than a dozen times in their life. I tried. I would take them to visit when he was home. But he got more into drugs and partying and being a shitty person and he’s currently on year two of a five year prison sentence for meth manufacturing. My kids are at the age where they notice they don’t have a dad. I told them he’s…traveling. I wrote him my first letter last week and put in some pictures they drew for him. Haven’t heard back yet.

Are people judgy? Sometimes. I feel like my family is especially hard on me because I made this choice. I work and spend 98% of my time off with my kids, my mom will rarely keep them for anything besides when I have a doctor’s appointment. I live in a small area and haven’t really been able to find any reliable sitters aside from their after school care so I don’t date or do anything for myself. I get a haircut like once a year, usually at the Wal-Mart while I grocery shop, and I used to spend half a day in the salon getting foil highlights every few months haha.

But all in all, definitely worth it. Would do it all over again, even those first few months with two babies when I went back to work at 6 weeks and was insane from sleep deprivation. They are my mini best friends.

likeasoupsandwich

20. Didn’t Even Know For Four Months

I was 19 and casually dating this guy. Partying, hanging out etc. One drunken night at a party, we had unprotected sex and I got pregnant. I know the exact day because it was the one time no protection was used. However, I didn’t know I was pregnant until I was 4 months along. I had no symptoms. Missing periods was normal for me (eating disorder had disrupted it). When I found out, I was originally going to have a family friend adopt it. They were never able to get pregnant and said they would take the baby. But, I changed my mind. I blame the hormones for my change of heart. The dad moved back to my hometown with me (where my mom is and rent is much cheaper) and we have been co parenting for the last 10 years. Definitely had our ups and downs, but he has been a good dad to her and even though we aren’t together, we do well with parenting. No one has been “judgy” and it’s been fairly easy. I didn’t have friends to tell about the pregnancy and just told my mom. She said she knew I would get pregnant because she did about the same age and so did her mom, lol.

Meowpewpewpew

21. Happily Ever After

I had what was supposed to be a very casual relationship with a guy (I was 31, he was 27). We had a fair amount of interest in one another, but weren’t really wanting a full-fledged relationship because he was my roommate’s ex-bf. They were still “best” friends though, and so he was always around. Reality was he was still hung up on trying “one more time” at their relationship (they had dated on and off for 7 years in a very immature, toxic co-dependent way)… and she was stringing him along using him for favors now while having a secret FWB with one of his friends in their group.

Given that I could see that, and I didn’t want to be involved in that drama, I put him off for a long time. I took his interest in me as someone seeking validation from others given the current state of his rejection from her and possible rebounding. Not to mention, it’s in bad taste to screw your roommate’s ex, lol.

In any case, we had a drunken night of hanging out and bad decisions were made driven by our obvious attraction to each other. We talked the next day and decided we’d just be “casual” and expect nothing… and we didn’t need to advertise the fact we had anything going on. I fully expected it to fizzle out in 3 months and just be a fun time. I’m not the type to typically sleep around outside of committed relationships, but being single for awhile I figured I needed some fun at this time in my life and to stop being up-tight about it.

Well, we slept together one more time after that (intentionally this time, not drunk I mean). Nothing much happened for a while, then I found out I was pregnant a few weeks later.

I’m very much pro-choice, but I could never have an abortion myself. I’m also 30-something with a house and a very good salary, so more than able to care for a kid. I’ve always wanted kids anyway, so I decided to keep it. I told him as much, and that he was free to be involved or not, but I didn’t need his money.

After discussion, we decided to give a go at dating and see if it really worked and we could do this together. I think it helped we have a lot of the same values when it comes to family. Now, there was a LOT of drama at first with the roommate and his other friends who felt the need to get involved. His parents never met me but declared I was “too old” for him. Crazy accusations I was trying to “trap” him with a baby that wasn’t his – which made no sense given anyone who really knows me, or given the fact I’m a successful career woman with a house and he was still in grad school and penniless at the time. If I had any desire to trap anyone (which I did not) why would I “trap” that? lol. It made no sense. I told his parents I’d take a DNA test but they had to pay for it, otherwise they could stop with that slanderous talk that didn’t help anything. They declined, but kept on with the crazy.

It took a few months, and the “drama” settled (really we just cut off my ex-roommate and his parents and focused on us). I’m happy to say over the last 1.5 years we have actually fallen very much in love and overcome a lot of relationship hurdles very quickly. Our son was born last November, he is adorable in every way and we both love him more than I can have ever imagined.

This summer he proposed to me, and now we plan to get married next year. Whatever attraction pulled us together in the first place really grew into more than I ever expected. We couldn’t be happier right now :)

Joker352 TC mark

17 Thirsty Men Talk About The Sexiest Nudes They Were Ever Sent

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 07:00 PM PDT

Twenty20, _eatandlove_
Twenty20, _eatandlove_

1. “She had on this lacy red lingerie and she sent five photos, all from different angles, so I got a view of her ass and tits and everything in between. I still masturbate to those pics.” — Ray, 25


2. “She was wearing a thin shirt that I could see her nipples through. She told me she wanted me to come over and suck on them.” — Keith, 23


3. “She took a picture in the bathtub. Nothing inappropriate was in it. Just her legs. But imagining the rest of her body made me hard as a motherfucker.” — Vick, 20


4. “I don’t know if this counts, because all of her clothes were on, but she Snapchatted me with a shitton of cleavage and a caption that said how horny she was. Instant hard-on.” — Zachary, 24 


5. “She sent me a photo of her standing, completely naked, in front of a full-length mirror in a changing room at the mall. It was sexy, because she was kind’ve sort’ve in public, but was still thinking of me. I liked that.” — Nate, 22


6. “She took a picture of herself with her legs wide open. Her underwear was still on, but she had one hand over her clit, like she was touching herself. And, according to the text she sent, she was.” — Derek, 28


7. “She sent a picture, from the waist down, while she was wearing a tiny black thong and matching heels. Her ass looked un-fucking-believable.” — Dustin, 26


8. “The photograph was only of her legs, but it showed this tiny tattoo on her thigh that I’ve never seen before. It was sexy to get a look at it. Felt like a naughty little secret.” — Charlie, 19


9. “We’d been dating for a few months and I’d left an extra shirt at her house. A button-down. So she took a picture of herself wearing it with almost all of those buttons undone. Still my favorite picture of her.” — Jared, 22


10. “She was on her bed. On her hands and knees. And the camera gave me the perfect view of her cleavage. Got to see right down her nightgown.” — Patrick, 24


11. “She sent me a picture while wearing a ballgag.” — Tyler, 29


12. “I never got any nudes, but we were Skyping once when she took her shirt off. And then started touching herself. So I started touching myself. Best orgasm ever.” — Robbie, 25


13. “She came to my mom’s house for Thanksgiving. During dinner, she excused herself to go to the bathroom. Few minutes go by and my phone dings. She sent a picture of her naked in front of the bathroom mirror. I had to sneak away to fuck the shit out of her.” — Joshua, 27


14. “She just got out of the shower. Had a towel wrapped around her. Except the towel was tied at the waist, so I got to see her boobs, all slick and sexy.” — Ryan, 22


15. “Honestly, I can’t remember what she was wearing. Something leather. But she was holding a whip. The whip is what I remember… We had fun using that thing.” — Dave, 30


16. “She sent me a picture from her bedroom. She was on her side so her boobs were pressed up together and looked crazy hot.” — Kyle, 21


17. “She did like one of those tasteful photos you see in magazines. Where her boobs are showing, except for the nipples. She was covering them with her arm. Looked gorgeous. Better than any model I’ve ever seen.” — Ronnie, 26 TC mark

23 Words For Emotions Everyone Feels But Can’t Explain

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 06:00 PM PDT

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@criene / www.twenty20.com/

1. Sonder

The realization that each passerby has a life as vivid and complex as your own.

2. Opia

The ambiguous intensity of looking someone in the eye which can feel simultaneously invasive and vulnerable.

3. Monachopsis

The subtle but persistent feeling of being out of place.

4. Enouement

The bittersweetness of having arrived in the future, seeing how things turn out, but not being able to tell your past self.

5. Vellichor

The strange wistfulness of used bookshops.

6. Rubatosis

The unsettling awareness of your own heartbeat.

7. Kenopsia

The eerie, forlorn atmosphere of a place that is usually bustling with people but is now abandoned and quiet.

8. Mauerbauertraurigkeit

The inexplicable urge to push people away, even close friends who you really like.

9. Jouska

A hypothetical conversation that you compulsively play out in your head.

10. Chrysalism

The amniotic tranquility of being indoors during a thunderstorm.

11. Vemodalen

The frustration of photographing something amazing when thousands of identical photos already exist.

12. Anecdoche

A conversation in which everyone is talking, but nobody is listening.

13. Ellipsism

A sadness that you’ll never be able to know how history will turn out.

14. Kuebiko

A state of exhaustion inspired by acts of senseless violence.

15. Lachesism

The desire to be struck by disaster – to survive a plane crash, or to lose everything in a fire.

16. Exulansis

The tendency to give up trying to talk about an experience because people are unable to relate to it.

17. Adronitis

Frustration with how long it takes to get to know someone.

18. Ruckkehrunruhe

The feeling of returning home after an immersive trip only to find it fading rapidly from your awareness.

19. Nodus Tollens

The realization that the plot of your life doesn’t make sense to you anymore.

20. Onism

The frustration of being stuck in just one body that inhabits only one place at a time.

21. Liberosis

The desire to care less about things.

22. Altschmerz

Weariness with the same old issues that you’ve always had – the same boring flaws and anxieties that you’ve been gnawing on for years.

23. Occhiolism

The awareness of the smallness of your perspective. TC mark

7 Things Women Should Not Have To Tolerate In Today’s Dating Culture, But Often Do

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 05:00 PM PDT

Jens Johnsson
Jens Johnsson

As an actively dating millennial, I have to say that I've been a victim of some of these intolerable acts. Some women brush it off as lack of maturity, but I can't seem to bring myself to think that way. There's no reason for men to act like this and there's no reason women should accept it. Dating is hard these days and if you like someone, you may feel compelled to accept certain attitudes. The truth is if someone really likes you back, they will be willing to treat you how you want and should be treated and will have no problem with you saying no to any of these things.

1. Unsolicited D*ck Pics

If you didn't ask for them and they're being sent to you, that's unacceptable. You have the right to not just ask someone, but demand that they refrain from sending you pictures that you did not ask for. Sexting is popular and people do it all the time, but if you do not feel comfortable engaging in this type of exchange, let it be known.

2. Being Called bitch, hoe, slut, easy, prude, needy, stupid, etc.

Sometimes words like these can be used as friendly banter and depending on the word and the way it's said, it may even sound cute. If name-calling makes you feel bad about yourself, no matter how much you like the guy, tell him to stop. Words are powerful and no one who claims to like you will ever want to make you feel bad using words.

3. Physical abuse

None of it is ok. No hitting, kicking, grabbing, punching, pinching, biting, etc. People like to play rough sometimes and that's ok, but only if YOU ARE ok with it. Safe words should always be used and never should they be ignored.

4. Verbal Abuse

If he insults the way you look, your religion, your job, or anything that makes you you, be bold and express your feelings. Again, words are powerful and more so if they're coming from someone you like. After hanging out with a guy, you should never feel bad about yourself because of something he said about you.

5. Objectification

If a guy says he can't be with you because you have stretch marks, because your butt is too small, because you're not curvy enough or your teeth aren't straight, but wants to sleep with you anyway, he’s using you. If he’s shallow, but still willing to do the deed, do yourself a favor and peace out . You’re not a piece of meat to satiate his hunger for sex. You are a work of art that he should be proud to show off.

6. Unwanted Touching

Kisses, hugs, caresses, etc. If you didn’t want to or it made you uncomfortable, you don’t have to tolerate it.

7. Technological Stalking

If he’s constantly hitting you up and you’re not into him, kindly tell him to stop. If he won’t desist, block him. If he messages you asking who they guy in your new IG post is politely, but firmly, inform him that it’s none of his business. Getting text after text or FB message after FB message is harassment. You can answer if you want to and if you don’t want to you don’t have to. TC mark

Keep Your Head High When The Earth Feels Like It’s Crumbling Beneath Your Feet

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 04:30 PM PDT

@polina.chydes
@polina.chydes

Right now it feels like everything is going wrong, like the world is completely against you and there's nothing you can do to change it. You feel like there is a volcano erupting right in front of you and you can’t out run the lava.

This time is hard and it's challenging you, but let it challenge you for the best.

It doesn't seem fair and it feels like everything that could go wrong is going wrong, but I assure you that things will get better. You might not believe it because you can't see that far in the future, but things will get better.

Things will always get better and things will always work out in one way or another.

All you can do when the earth seems like it's against you is keep moving forward, do what you can to fix your situation and maintain a positive outlook. Keep smiling and keep looking for the lessons to learn because in every heart ache there is a lesson that will guide you on a better path in the future.

You are so bright and you are so strong, you are capable of so much. Don't let these moments of weakness steal away who you are. It's a tough time, but things will get better and you will be okay all you have to do is believe in yourself.

You need to be there for yourself most importantly because if you're not there when the earth is shattering beneath your feet then no one is going to be there for you. You need to be your own person, your own number one support system, when you look in the mirror I want you to see you've got the best support team and that team is mainly comprised of you.

I'm not saying don't rely on others because you should, but you should still put yourself first and make yourself your own number one priority.

Things feel like they're hard now, you feel like you just want to give up and you can't find the strength inside you because maybe you don't have the best relationship with yourself, but I believe in you. I believe you can do it and I know this is just a bump in the road.

This is part of the ride; it isn't the final destination, you still have so many more good things ahead of you.

You have the world at your fingertips and you can do what you wish with that opportunity.

Make the most of it, don't let life control you, but instead control your life. Be the one who is making the shots and writing the chapters of your own book. Don't sit back and let someone else take control. Do what makes you happy and don't ever give up on yourself when everything feels wrong because I assure you soon everything will also feel right.

Life is all about balance. Where there is good there is also bad, you just have to accept the low lows sometimes in order to celebrate the high highs and everything else in between that – that's life.

That is your average everyday life. Embrace it, you only get one shot.

Keep your head held high when everything feels like it's going wrong because you're the only one who can change your attitude and help everything feel right again. TC mark

You’re Not A Bitch For Having These 15 Dating Requirements

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 04:00 PM PDT

Twenty20, criene
Twenty20, criene

1. Someone that spoils you. You can’t expect him to light candles and sprinkle rose petals on the bed every night. But you should expect him to put in constant effort, even if that just means listening to you talk about your day.

2. Someone that thinks you’re amazing. You don’t want him to worship you like you’re his queen. But if he’s dating you, he should be impressed by you. He should feel like he’s lucky to have you.

3. Someone that texts you first. You can’t be on his mind all the time, but if you don’t cross his mind all day, something’s seriously wrong. You shouldn’t have to text him first in order to hear from him.

4. Someone you’re physically attracted to. He doesn’t have to look like he stepped right off the cover of GQ. But you should at least like what you see. If there’s no sexual attraction, there’s no hope for the relationship.

5. Someone that has a bright future ahead of him. He doesn’t have to be employed by a high paying company. But if he doesn’t have a decent job or any desire to look for a job, he’s probably not going to make much of himself.

6. Someone that isn’t looking around. Wanting him to want you and only you doesn’t mean you’re greedy. If you want a monogamous relationship, then you need to find someone that’s on the same page.

7. Someone that makes you feel sexy. He should look at you like you’re the hottest woman in the world. He should make you feel drop dead gorgeous and make you forget about all of your insecurities.

8. Someone that spends money on you. He doesn’t have to spend his entire paycheck on diamonds and daisies. But he should pick up the check once in a while. It’s the least he could do.

9. Someone that’s ready to commit. If you’re done playing games, up your standards. Stop settling for men that are happy to string you along without giving your relationship a legit label.

10. Someone that makes you their first priority. You’re not the only woman in his life, but you should be the most important. If you’re second best, then you might as well pack your bags now.

11. Someone that’s intelligent. If you can’t have an intellectual conversation with him, then you’re out of his league. You should be able to talk about everything, from Miley Cyrus to the economic state of the country.

12. Someone that takes care of his body. You shouldn’t turn down men, just because they have a little flab. But if you live an active lifestyle, it’s only natural for you to want someone that hikes and bikes, as well.

13. Someone that takes care of himself. You shouldn’t be the one stuck doing all the laundry and lawn care. If he isn’t smart enough to fold a towel or wash a dish, you don’t need him.

14. Someone that your friends like. It doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks of your boyfriend, as long as you like him, but if you’re a big partier, life will be easier if everybody gets along. So if hating your bestie is a deal-breaker, that’s A-OK.

15. Someone that respects you. If he curses you out or slaps you around, leave his ass. You need someone that respects your body, your opinions, and women as a whole. TC mark

21 Hilarious Things That Happen In The Comments Section Of Every Political Facebook Status

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 03:30 PM PDT

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Bruce Almighty

1. Somebody posts an article that ~*finally*~ confirms whether they personally are voting for Trump or Hillary, because the entire Facebook universe has been waiting to hear their decision with bated breath.

2. Someone comments within eleven seconds and completely disagrees with the poster.

3. A third person jumps in and calls the first commenter ignorant, uneducated, and “not even aware of what you’re talking about.”

4. The original status poster aggressively likes the third person’s comment within two milliseconds.

5. Multiple other people comment within the next five minutes, either calling Trump a ‘monster’ or calling Hillary a ‘criminal.’

6. Several other mini comment wars begin under each of the individual comments.

7. Someone creatively posts a gif of a person eating popcorn and four billion people like it.

8. Someone comments that they love the original status poster but that they respectfully disagree with their political opinions, and everyone ignores this person because kindness is boring.

9. Someone named Dan, who hasn’t talked to any of these people in years, sits in a coffee shop on the other side of the country, consistently refreshing this conversation because it’s just too fascinating to look away.

10. Somebody says that this status will “probably go viral.”

11. Someone uses the word “sweetie” so patronizingly that you can feel the condescension oozing through the screen.

12. Someone makes a joke about Ken Bone that they pretend they thought of themselves but that everyone else has already seen on the internet.

13. Someone talks about how the media is corrupt and “you don’t even know the half of it.”

14. One guy responds to EVERY SINGLE COMMENT even though it’s not his status. Initially people support him with likes, but said likes eventually wear thin when everyone starts getting sick of him.

15. Somebody comments that they are having a hard time relating to “all of this,” in order to remind everyone that they are currently living abroad.

16. Someone says Obama was the worst president we ever had and then disappears into the abyss when someone asks them to elaborate.

17. Many people post comments with links to articles that specifically back up their opinions. Several people like these links but do not read them.

18. Some guy mentions Gary Johnson and everyone ignores him, except for one person who responds, “You’re wasting your time.”

19. Someone sees this shitshow pop up in their newsfeed, and starts texting screenshots to all of their mutual friends.

20. These friends and approximately five hundred other people watch this entire conversation war unfold in real time, secretly reading every comment without ever once liking or commenting on anything, because why.

21. After two days, the status dies down. Names have been called, no opinions have been changed, and the only thing anyone walks away with is a new rivalry with the girl from their sophomore year gym class that they had completely forgotten about until this moment. TC mark

This Is Why I’m Guarded

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 03:00 PM PDT

Michael Hull
Michael Hull

I was once that person who constantly needed some protecting from the world beyond me, I was that person who always needed to depend my own self and happiness to other people, I was also that person who was too afraid of being alone and I always needed someone to look out for me. I know I've been so emotionally weak all throughout my life that I just got tired of it.

I’ve had my heart shredded and torn into pieces; I almost lost myself while slowly picking up the tiny bits and not even knowing how to make it whole again. Now that I'm quite certain that it’s finally intact and healed, I just can’t risk it being shattered again, I know I just can’t go back there!

I've worked so damn hard to build up these thick walls around me to protect my fragile heart. I've learned that being emotional means being weak, once you let people in, once you get attached, you give that person the power to hurt you, even if it’s not his/her intention.

What I've learned is that, people do come and go, even years of cultivated friendship doesn’t guarantee you permanence, no matter how close you both are or how well you know a certain person yet sometimes Life has its own twisted way of letting you guys drift apart.

I know for a fact that loving doesn’t mean that it always has to be a bed of roses, of course there will always be good times and bad times, loving means that you don't really care if your heart gets ripped out of you because it doesn't really matter, you are willing to take the risk, you are willing to push through that relationship, work things out even if you end up getting hurt.

Loving also means that you wholeheartedly accept that person no matter how fucked up he/she is or was. Love can make you feel like you can move mountains, I know how being loved and in love can be the best feeling in the world but at the same time it can also be the most excruciating, earth shattering, sickening feeling. Like all the air has been knocked out of you in just one snap and you can’t seem to know how to breathe again, it's like you're witnessing your own slow painful death while you're still living.

But this is not me being broken; this is not me having a stone cold heart, this is not me who got tired of always loving the wrong person.
This is me being wiser, this is me knowing what I do and do not deserve. This is me who has learned a lot from the past.

I know in time I’ll muster the courage to open up my heart again, but for now, I’m content with what I’m and what I have, I’m happy and at peace. I know, somehow, somewhere in God’s perfect time love will come and find me again, but for now there’s no need to rush. I know someone out there will eventually be able to break down these walls and I’ll finally be able to set my precious heart free again. TC mark

All The Things I Could Have Never Known Before Falling For You

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 02:00 PM PDT

Evan Batky
Evan Batky

I guess life never prepared me for all its paradoxes. It takes experience to discover that you can be held and feel lonely, be full and feel empty, be excited and afraid all at the same time.

I wasn't prepared to learn that sometimes it is a person who becomes our home, rather than an actual place – and that when they leave, we can be truly homeless, no matter where we go.

I didn't know.

I didn't realize that people would lie the way they sometimes do, or that sometimes someone can mean something when they say it, but when things change, their minds can change. And although it wasn't a lie to begin with, it becomes an expired truth – for them, it no longer holds true. To me, truth was immutable. There could be fluidity within truth?

I would never have known.

I thought time would always be on my side. But I've discovered that while it sometimes takes things and people away from you, it doesn't take their memories with it. So time goes on unbothered, leaving you with the rubble of all the collapsed structures from your past. And oh, how the rubble will build up – and no matter how far through time you go, it will follow. It's up to you to sweep it up before it buries you.

This, I did not know.

I didn't realize that sometimes, goodbye is forever – not in terms of death, but in terms of change. Sometimes you don't get to say goodbye to a best friend or an old flame, because the change occurring in both of you is so gradual but so sudden that the people you once were disappear before you knew an ending was imminent.

I didn't realize that every moment would be like a wave, sweeping things away, and washing new things onto shore. And the things it would sweep with it, well, would be lost forever in the vastness of time. And if you stand staring into the horizon, waiting for something to be washed back onto shore, you risk sacrificing forever, waiting.

The impermanence of life, I always knew – but the way an unsaid goodbye would twist into my core, I could never have known. TC mark

8 Ways To Stay Grounded In Your Faith In A Non-Christian Sorority

Posted: 04 Nov 2016 01:30 PM PDT

Alexis Brown
Alexis Brown

If you are a Christian in a non-Christian sorority, I am so glad. If you are a Christian in a largely secular college, I am so so glad. Because we need you. College is hard, and life is hard, and we need more people who are there to love, and listen, and care, and serve.

You are important, you are needed, and if you let Him, God is going to do amazing things in and through you in this time.

Here are 8 ways to be a light in your sorority house:

1. Don't over-complicate it.

I think when it comes to "Being a light" someplace, we tend to get all weird about it. We're worried about having the right conversation or saying the right thing, or how much or little we're supposed to be evangelizing.

But really, it doesn't have to be complicated or unnatural at all. One of my favorite pieces of scripture is when Jesus gives the two greatest commandments. He says love God with everything you have, and love your neighbor as yourself. That's all we have to do.

When we make it complicated or formulaic instead of just a relationship, it makes it harder on you and more confusing and hard to receive on the end of your sweet sorority sisters. Just be yourself, love God with everything you have, and love them really well.

Focus on being a good friend to them — that goes such a long way in showing them what Jesus is like.

2. Remember: Actions speak louder than words.

When I was in college, and before I became a Christian, the last thing I needed was someone telling me what to do. Or maybe that's the first thing I needed, but feeling so wonderfully rebellious in my newfound college independence, the last thing I would have listened to was a long list of rules.

What I really needed was someone a bit older than me living her life as a Christian in a way I could see.

I needed someone who walked around with the glowing confidence of knowing how much God loved her. I needed to meet her boyfriend — a really great Christian guy to show me that those actually existed. And I needed to see how different and wonderful a relationship could be when it was founded on what God says love should look like.

I needed to see how she treated her friends, and how she treated me — how she'd listen and be there for people, how she'd love them, and take really good care of them. I needed to see that she didn't talk about her friends behind their backs, but that she was loyal to them, and true.

I needed to see that there was something different about her life, something full, more beautiful, overflowing with joy in a way that life only a life with Jesus can.

But the point is, I needed to see those things. I didn't need to hear about them. I didn't need someone telling me what to do.

I needed someone not only showing me what to do by doing it with their lives, but I needed to see an example of what God could do in a life that was surrendered to Him.

So as you're trying to be a light in your sorority, remember that your life is like a walking-infomercial about Jesus. Your actions will speak so much louder than your words, so live in a way that shows them the wonderful, loving God we serve.

3. Be honest about your struggles.

One of people's chief complaints about Christians is hypocrisy. The world hears us say something and then sees us do the opposite. And we all know how gross and seedy this feels.

So as you're trying to make your actions speak louder than your words, also be really up front about the fact that you screw up sometimes.

It's scary to allow people to see us in the depths of our mess, especially when we're trying to be a good example. But you know what people will think if they see that you're human? They'll be relieved because they are too.

So when you mess up (because we all do) don't try to hide it or cover it up. Do what you know to do, repent, apologize, make amends, make a different decision, and accept the grace, mercy, and freedom God has for us through Jesus.

You will show your sweet friends more about Christ by how you screw up and how you accept God's grace and forgiveness than you ever could by pretending to be perfect.

4. Have fun!

When I was thinking about becoming a Christian, I was studying abroad with my two best friends, who also happened to be Christians. And I had more fun with them that semester than I'd ever had in my life up to that point.

We ate great food, and explored new parts of town, we went dancing at clubs at night sometimes, and had a few glasses of wine together over dinner. I've never laughed so hard in my life as I did that semester.

And while some people could think, "Oh my gosh, they were Christians, they compromised their witness! They shouldn't have been drinking with you!" I am SO glad they did.

So many of the fears and doubts I had about becoming a Christian were broken down by the fact that I could play, and laugh, and have so much fun with these friends of mine.

We weren't wild, or crazy, or irresponsible, but we were having fun, and that made all the difference for me.

If they would have condemned going to bars, or decided that they were going to set a good example for me by not having a single glass of wine, they would have confirmed everything I'd always thought to be true about Christians. They were no fun, out of touch, and I for sure didn't want to become one.

So join in the fun. Laugh, play, show your sorority sisters your faith through your joy and your love — not through your strict adherence to a set of rules.

Quick note on this: Do whatever you need to do to be safe, and to keep your heart in a good place. If you don't think you can handle going to parties without going nuts, then maybe don't go. But if you can, go! Be with your sisters. Have fun with them!

5. Be open to conversations whenever and wherever they happen.

As one of your sorority's resident Christians, girls are probably going to approach you with questions from time to time. They might crop up in the middle of a political discussion around the dinner table, when someone puts you on the spot and says, "Suzy, you're a Christian, you love Donald Trump right?" (Those moments of being the resident Christian were never my favorite, but they do happen occasionally.)

They also may happen in quieter moments when someone's having a hard time and feels safe coming to you for advice.

This is the best part about being a Christian in your sorority house.

While some girls may have negative opinions about Christians, there's also this feeling that if you go to a Christian with your problems, they're probably going to be nice to you, probably going to listen to you, and probably going to have some pretty good advice.

So be open to those conversations. Meet girls in those places when they come to you. Talk to them, love them, listen to them, give them your best advice.

And also, don't be surprised if some of those conversations happen in unexpected ways.

I've had more conversations about Jesus with drunk girls than I can even count. Drinking brings down our inhibitions, which makes people much more open about their thoughts, fears, insecurities, and questions. So be open to these conversations whenever and however that happen!

6. For goodness sakes, do not judge them!

Another fear people have about Christians is that Christians are judging them, and we have to be honest about the fact that sometimes we can be pretty judgmental.

But in your sorority house, there is no place in the entire world where it's more important that you don't judge.

Nothing will make girls shut down faster, push you away, and keep things from you than if they feel like you're going to judge them.

So don't. Please don't judge them.

If you find out about something bad they did, or if they tell you, listen, ask questions, don't act shocked (even if you are), and let them tell you what they need from you.

Don't give unsolicited advice, don't tell people what to do, and do not give them a "I can't believe you did that!" look. It's just not what they need.

It is more important than ever that you remember that ALL have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. It will take you right off your high horse, and remind you that every single one of us is imperfect and in need of grace and forgiveness.

If you can approach your sweet sisters from a, "We're in this together!" kind of place, you will be such a better friend, and a brighter light to them.

7. Use "I" statements when you talk about your faith.

This is a trick my parents taught me when it comes to conflict resolution.

When you're in an argument with someone and you start to tell them, "You did this!" or "You did that!" it makes people feel defensive and makes them shut down. Saying, "I feel hurt," or "I feel rejected" is so much less combative, and really allows you to get to the heart of the issue.

I think it's them same when it comes to talking about our faith.

Another big stereotype people have about Christians is that they're going to shove their beliefs down your throat. I think this is why so many of us shut down when it comes to conversations about faith. We assume Christians are going to tell us what to do, tell us why we're wrong, and try to convert us to their beliefs no matter what we may want.

So… this is why I love (and use!) "I" statements when it comes to talking about my faith.

Say for example that the topic of sex comes up around your dinner table, and someone asks you if you're sleeping with your boyfriend. That's a perfect time to say, "Nope, I'm not." And tell them why you've made the decision you have for yourself.

You don't need to make the conversion of "I did this, and you should too!" for your friends.

You're just sharing your story. And when you do, the thoughts, advice, and wisdom are out there on the table. Your friends have seen them, they've heard them, and now it's up to them if they want to pick them up and use them as their own.

When you're talking about your faith, try using "I" statements. They'll allow you to talk about your faith without your friends feeling pressured, pushed, or defensive.

8. As you plant seeds, remember the outcome is not your responsibility.

I know for me, once I became a Christian, I all of a sudden felt like I needed to be the savior of everyone I knew that wasn't. And I don't want to dismiss this feeling of pressure at all. It's a real thing!

It's like when people start using essential oils and all of a sudden they're not sick anymore, have kicked their insomnia completely, and have dropped 10 pounds.

They'd want the whole world to know about this thing that changed their lives.

But the problem comes when we try to engineer the outcome.

If your essential oil enthusiast friend decides that she's only succeeded as your friend if you buy and start using essential oils, she's going to pressure you, and push you, and its going to feel like she's constantly trying to sell you something until you either cave, or stop answering her phone calls. And that's what we can do as Christians.

We tell someone about Jesus, and then we invite them to church, and then we invite them again, and push them to come with us until they finally do, and then we do that every Sunday forever. Then we buy them a Bible and ask if they've read it yet every time we see them.

This is enough to make even the closest friend need some serious space from you. And this is what we can so often do as Christians.

As you're being a light in your sorority house, remember that our job is not the outcome, that's just not what God put us here to do.

Our job is to plant seeds — to be us, to share with people what God has done in our lives, to show them how awesome life with God really is, to love them, take care of them, and be a good friend. And that's it!

And from there, we get to let God be God and take care of the rest.

Final thoughts:

Shortly after becoming a Christian, I was at lunch with a mentor of mine when I was complaining about how lonely it was to be the only Christian in my house. I probably wasn't the only Christian in my sorority as a whole, but it certainly felt like it.

But instead of letting me off the hook somehow, my friend said something I've never forgotten. He said, "Stephanie, you may be the only Christian these girls ever know."

And that stuck with me.

As a Christian in your non-Christian sorority, or as a Christian anywhere, you may be the only believer people ever know. That's a big deal!

I don't say that to scare you, or to put extra pressure on you, but to remind you how much you matter. You really may be the only example people have of what being a Christian is like. Your role in their lives is so important, and I can't wait to see how God uses you. TC mark