Thought Catalog

18 Men Reveal How Important Being Able To Cum Inside A Girl Without A Condom Is To Them

Posted: 14 Dec 2016 08:00 PM PST


Condoms suck, monogamous relationships with birth control are great. I hope I never have to go back.

— POGtastic


Well it’s undoubtedly the best feeling that can happen as a result from sex (every goddamn cell in your body is happy with what just went down), and most of the time we’re denied that feeling, so yeah it’s pretty significant.

— SeeEmmDee


It’s absolutely fantastic. Sex without a condom is so much better than sex with a condom. And finishing inside the woman feels great for both of you.

— molten_dragon


Well, there are a number of things you need to consider.

  1. The male erotic nerves are located on the top of the penis. Being inside a vagina, all of those nerves are in physical contact with something. Outside of the body, there is a lot less contact, and subsequently a lot less physical stimulation. This means a lesser quality orgasm.
  2. Condoms reduce the sensation of physical contact. This means a lower quality orgasm.
  3. How the condom is applied at the top of the penis makes a difference. When a man ejaculates, that has to go somewhere. Condoms on too tight on the top will give distracting sensations during the orgasm. Condoms too lose, will rub during intercourse, which will potentially have a negative impact.

These are just the ones I’m thinking of now. I’m very happy that I’m married, and my wife has her tubes tied. Wearing condoms sucks.

— PleasureOrgan


There’s a pretty big difference in sensation during sex and the psychological whatever of cumming inside a woman is pretty, uh, important.

It’s a strong preference for me. I tend to only have sex with people I know fairly well, enough that diseases aren’t a worry for me. If contraception is otherwise taken care of, condoms are verboten.

— starsgoround


I got a vasectomy years ago and it’s been a solid investment. No worries about pregnancy takes a lot of stress out of it! And bareback sex just rocks.

As for where I finish up, usually it’s best to not have to break rhythm and just cum inside her, yep. However I’ve been asked on occasion to pull out and put it elsewhere, and I haven’t been hating.

— PaleBlueHammer


It’s about a 5/10. Raw sex feels really good, but protected sex feels better than no sex at all.

A condom is also more affordable than child support.

— thefilthyhermit


Getting a woman pregnant is something I have a strong fear of, so not that important.

— mashonem


I don’t know about other people but my favorite part of having an orgasm is giving in to the climax completely, to completely maximize the pleasure that leads up to the climax. Pulling out means that you have to actually stay in a state of mind where you are still fully in control of yourself, where you can’t give in to much to the pleasure and have to actively prevent yourself from feeling all of it. It also means that you have to stop what feels good at the point where it feels best.

As for condoms… well they are fucking great for preventing STDs and pregnancies, but aside from that they fucking suck. To me at least there is a world of difference between sex with a condom and sex without.

— TheLittleGoodWolf


Last relationship, she had an IUD. It had to be some of the most satisfying and intimate sex I’ve had in my life. Condoms dull the feeling and break the spontaneity of sex.

Condoms are the one thing that completely kills any interest in casual sex for me. I just don’t wanna settle for desensitized condom sex, when I could wait a little while and have condomless sex with someone I trust.

— vincentninja68


Very significant, to the point where it’s one of the things that make or break sex for me.

It’s not the constant condom use that does it; in two decades in this relationship we’ve only had to resort to condoms for a month, somewhen about the middle of it. It’s still super important to me (us both) that I finish inside her.

— middaysun


It’s pretty much one of, if not the, greatest things ever.

While dating it sucks because you have to use condoms for the most part, even if she’s on the pill or whatever. Once you’re settled down and it becomes a regular thing (for instance I’ve had the snip and am married for many years) it’s still fucking awesome every time.

There’s something about thrusting all the way into her as deep as you can go and throbbing a hot load all up into her. It’s glorious.

— hereticjones


I have a friend who has a long term girlfriend and he: 1) wears a condom 2) pulls out 3) she’s on the pill.

I have no idea how he lives life like that.

— louisde4


Your instinct is to procreate. Actually finishing the job on the inside fulfill’s your body sense of “destiny” and completing what it’s supposed to do, and man does it feel fuckin’ great.

— Ranman87


It’s the difference between watching a great and exciting film at the cinema, and watching it in an empty cinema. All of a sudden you don’t need to hold yourself back, you can whoop and holler and cheer the good bits as much as you like. It feels natural and raw and unrestrained, in all the good ways.

— Werrf


Condoms are the worst thing besides pregnancy and STDs. In a long-term relationship, I’d like to be able to trust my partner enough to not need them. Of course, that also depends on them being willing/able to take BC or some other solution.

— volkl47


I’m thirty now so it’s basically a given.

— Armored_Fetus


I always use condoms unless I’m in an exclusive relationship and we’ve both been tested.

But otherwise I really like finishing inside without a condom, its the best by far.

— smpl-jax TC mark

23 Men Share Exactly How They Feel When A Woman Openly Says She *Needs* A Big Penis

Posted: 14 Dec 2016 07:00 PM PST

via Lookcatalog
via Lookcatalog


Free country. I’m allowed to say “no fat chicks”.


It’s no different from a guy saying he only wants a woman with big tits. People have a right to be picky.

If anything it is commendable. Have you seen what most dildos look like? Women like them long and thick. Nothing wrong with just being upfront about it.


Same as a guy who wants a skinny girl with a big rack. We all don’t get the same genetic hands, but if you’re that picky with nothing to offer you might end up with nothing.


I’m not swinging some big ol meat hammer but if that’s what a girl wants, I’m not the guy for her and that’s just what it is. I wouldn’t hold me not being what they want against them.


Good. Wish more women were more open about what they want sexually.


She can want whatever she wants, you can judge her for it, but you can’t shame her or make her change what she wants.


I don’t care, we all have a right to choose partners based on whatever criteria are important to us. It’s good to know we’re not compatible before I’m emotionally or financially invested in her.


They probably deserve one in their life.


They only want a big dick? That’s fine. Belittling men who don’t meet their standards? Well that’s just scummy. It’s like a guy making fun of a woman for having small tits. Basically it’s not cool to criticize people for parts of their bodies they have no control over.


I don’t care. If she prefers bigger dicks than mine go find a bigger dick.


Just like penises, vaginas come in different sizes* and she’s allowed to like whatever she wants. If her preferred size is too far out of the standard deviation, then well… I hope she likes toys and fisting.

Most women I know prefer average to slightly larger than average, so “big dick” is usually a relative term.

*No, this isn’t an admonishment of “loose” women. That’s not how vaginas work.


I think that if that’s their only parameter, they’re likely to end up with a bigger dick than they were looking for.


Not bothered. Everyone’s allowed their preferences, and when you want that hugely fully feeling nothing is going to fake that. Some people are into that, some aren’t. That’s why we aren’t all carbon copies of each other.

Does that limit her dating pool? Sure. Does that knock me out of her dating pool? Sure, since I’m purely average. Not my circus, not my monkeys – there are enough people whose preferences I do fit.


I’m an Asian dude with a stereotypically smaller package (wow aint that self degrading etc) and I used to be upset at people who would make these statements.

I don’t think it bothers me anymore because people just have preferences and as long as they’re not extending those preferences to demean you as a person in other aspects then it’s totally okay. I have preferences too, so it’s unfortunate that there are women who I would not date or have sexual relations with over things they can’t do anything about, but that’s just how it is.


It’s their right, doesn’t affect me in any way.


It’s her life, and her choice. I’m happy she’s clear and honest. Easy as pie.


Honestly I don’t think there’s anything wrong with people having preferences. I’ve got plenty so I can hardly complain about anyone else’s. No one has any obligation to be attracted to anyone else.


I tend to look at those women the same way I look at men who want big boobs. It’s a preference for some folks.


Respect. A no bullshit response. I like that.


“How you doin’?”


The Kamasutra says a good bit about genital size. Since there different sizes for both male and female they have to be compatible.

Genital Sizes – Mix and Match

The Kama Sutra, by Vatsyayana classifies the lingam and yoni according to size.

Male – Lingam: Hare (small) – Bull (medium) – Horse (large)

Female – Yoni: Deer (small) – Mare (medium) – Elephant (large)

According to Vatsyayana (and common sense) matches of equal size are ideal, but lovers can manage the other combinations quite nicely. Certain positions are helpful when there is a mismatch of genital sizes.

Tldr; tiny girl + horse cock = bad sex. Tiny penis + elephant vagina = bad sex.

People should fuck who/what they think is best for them.


Honest, just like any man that openly says he only wants a tight vagina.


It’s just a preference. Men get so bent out of shape about this yet we have no problem talking about liking certain size tits or shapes of asses.

I got an average dick. My wife enjoys the hell out of it, and I’m pretty fond of it, too. If a chick likes big dicks, so what? More power to her.

Here’s Why People Are Intimidated By You, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Posted: 14 Dec 2016 06:00 PM PST


(March 21st to April 19th)

People very quickly pick up on the fact that you’ve already seen and experienced so much in your lifetime, and they often get into their heads and start worrying that they’re going to bore you or that whatever they have to say won’t be interesting to you.


(April 20th to May 21st)

You have an ability to quickly connect with almost anyone, so people feel like if you’re not immediately warm and comfortable with them, that it must mean something is wrong with them.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

People are used to seeing you happy, lively, and enthusiastic. So if they catch you on a day when you’re stressed or anxious about something (because you’re human and it happens), they start worrying that it’s because of something they did.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

People get uncomfortable around you because you’re the kind of person who makes people feel like you can read every thought going through their brain, regardless of what they’re actually saying to you out loud.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

Your enthusiasm is contagious, but it can also be difficult for people who disagree with you on something. You’re so passionate about what you believe in that people are often afraid to say something if it’s not directly in line with what you think or feel.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

As analytical of a person as you can be, your face and your mood are both incredibly hard to read. People think of you as a very intellectual and interesting person, but the thing that makes them nervous is that they can never tell how you particularly feel about them.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

You get along with everyone, which at most times can be great, but it can also mean that some people worry that they’re not measuring up to your standards and feel pressured when they’re hanging out with you.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

Your energy (around everything that you do) is seriously magnetic but also seriously intense. You’re a hard worker and you put your whole heart into everything that you do, so people also hesitate around you out of fear that they’re somehow getting in your way.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

Your straightforwardness at once impresses and terrifies people. They know you’re the person to go to when they need honest and candid advice, but they also know that you don’t sugarcoat anything and aren’t afraid to be truthful, which can be scary to one’s self esteem.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

You don’t do the fake-nice thing, which makes people both like you and feel nervous around you. You’re very clearly focused and ambitious, and what intimates that about people is they don’t know how to fully relax around you.


(January 21st to February 18th)

You can be very hot and cold with people. Sometimes you’re incredibly friendly and other times you’re very aloof and uncommunicative. People never know what side they’re going to get and they don’t know how to handle you when they’re used to the friendly side and then they experience the detached side out of nowhere.


(February 19th to March 20th)

You’re a very warm and kind person, but you’re also a bit of a flip flopper with your opinions, so what intimidates people about you is never knowing if what you’re saying is what you honestly think or if you’re going to change your mind next time they talk to you – it makes people uncomfortable to feel like they can’t get a good grip on how you think and make your decisions. TC mark

10 Very Specific Feelings Only True Avocado Fans Can Relate To

Posted: 14 Dec 2016 05:30 PM PST

I'm sure you all know by now how much I love avocados! I put them on almost everything — it's a bit of an obsession. I'm certainly not alone either! There are plenty of BBG girls who can't get enough! For all my fellow huge avo fans, you will probably identify with these feelings!

1. When the server tells you guacamole costs extra.


2. When no one understands how crucial it is, that you pick the right one.


3. Then the joy of finding the perfect one.


4. Trying to estimate an avocado's readiness.

Abi Jones
Abi Jones

5. When you realize your friends picked the only cafe without smashed avo on the menu.


6. Your bookmarks and Pinterest boards are full of avocado recipes, but that doesn't stop you from searching for more.


7. You're proud that you've found a way to put avo on everything.


8. The words 'avocado shortage' genuinely cause you to panic.


9.  The long-awaited avocado emoji will save you so much time.


10. Avocado puns always make you laugh. Always. 

Lou Endicott
Lou Endicott

* Results may vary. Strict adherence to the nutrition and exercise guide are required for best results. TC mark

15 Signs He Has All The Control In The Relationship (And You’re Completely Powerless)

Posted: 14 Dec 2016 05:00 PM PST

Twenty20, katiekhromova
Twenty20, katiekhromova

1. You always let him get his way. Even though you’ve made it clear you don’t like him hanging around with his ex, he does it anyway, and you put up with it. You’ll put up with anything, because you don’t want to lose him. 

2. You’re afraid to express your feelings. What if he breaks up with you when you mention how upset you are? You don’t want to take that risk. You’d rather keep your emotions bottled up inside. 

3. You never turn down sex. It’s not that you have a high libido. You just don’t want to upset him. You want to be the cool girl that’s always ready to undress for him. You want to keep him from cheating and you think constant sex will do the trick. 

4. You do everything for him. You cook. You clean. You wash dishes. You bring home money. You give him oral. Meanwhile, he doesn’t do anything a good boyfriend is meant to do. The relationship is clearly one-sided. 

5. You’re the one that always ends up apologizing. It doesn’t matter if he came home late with whiskey on his breath and didn’t even send you a text to let you know where he was. When you have an argument about it all, you’ll end up apologizing to him

6. You need permission to leave the house. If your friends ask you to hang out, you can’t just accept the invitation. You have to check with him first. If he doesn’t want you leaving, then you won’t be leaving.

7. He threatens to break up with you. Whenever you get upset with him, he reminds you that there are other girls that are interested in him. He threatens to leave you, so you keep doing exactly what he wants. 

8. You keep secrets from him. If you drink a little too much or get a text from a male friend, you don’t want him to know about it, because you don’t want him to get angry. To put it bluntly, you’re afraid of him. Of what he can do. Of how he can make you feel. 

9. He keeps secrets from you. If you ask him where he was last night or if he’s been cheating, and he dodges the question, you feel like there’s nothing you can do about it. You let him get away with pretty much anything.

10. He repeatedly cancels plans. If he bails on your date at the last second, you’ll just set up another date. For whatever reason, you always excuse his behavior, even though he never lets you get away with neglecting him

11. You let him say nasty things. He can, and does, push your limits. He’ll call you fat. Ugly. Worthless. And you’ll still stick around. 

12. You wear what he wants. You would never wear a low-cut shirt out to dinner, because he’s told you how much he hates other men looking at your body. You dress to please him, even if that means you don’t get to wear what you want. 

13. You always give in to him. Your compromises aren’t really compromises. You just end up giving him what he wants. And he never returns the favor.

14. You’re forced to ask him for money. It’s like you’re a kid again, begging your parents for cash when you want to go to the movies with your friends. He’s in complete control of the finances. All of the money you earn goes straight to him.

15. He’s clearly the one that cares less. In a healthy relationship, the love should be equal. If he doesn’t give a damn whether you two stay together, then he won’t be putting in nearly enough effort to make you happy. You deserve better than that — better than him. TC mark

The Truth Is, If You Asked For Me Back I Would Say ‘Yes’

Posted: 14 Dec 2016 04:00 PM PST / wundervisuals / wundervisuals

I wish I didn’t feel this way. And I wish I could pretend it’s not true and make the choice to not even write about it. But, I need to get this off my chest.

 Deep down in my gut, I know for sure that if you asked for me back, I would say yes.

And the sad part is that, this will never happen. So, why do I even day dream about this in the first place? I know, in five years, you’ll probably be married to the girl you’re with now, and you’ll have the life you always wanted. You’ll have your city apartment and you’ll have a favorite cafe spot to take her too. You’ll have a little dog by your side. You’ll have everything you need. And everything you want. And you won’t ever think of me.

Because I’m just your past. And your future looks a lot brighter than me.

I’m scared that five years from now, I’ll still be writing articles about you. I’ll still be staying up till 2 am. writing poems about you in my head. I’ll still be here, writing you songs with my acoustic guitar. Still madly in love at the thought of us. Still dreaming of me walking down the aisle right to you. Still madly in love with you. Still madly in love with the words you used to say to me.

Maybe I’m just in love with the person you used to be. The one who bought me a ring that said I love you on it three times. The one who made me forget my worries whenever you grabbed my hand. The one who mapped out our future together. And the one who always promised me for another tomorrow.

But sometimes, life isn’t pretty. Life doesn’t go as planned. And life gets in the way.

You aren’t that person anymore.

You aren’t the person I remember. I don’t know what you’re doing right now, I don’t know what song you’re practicing on your guitar, or what song you are recording next. I don’t know the person you write your songs for now. And I sure as hell don’t know the guy that said goodbye to me.

Because, to me, you are still not the guy who said goodbye.

You aren’t the guy who broke my heart. You’re still mine. The one who said forever and always. The one who always promised me the world.

So, if that guy ever decides to come back. I’d say yes a thousand times. Because that guy, the you who loved me, would never turn your back on me. The you who loved me never lied. The you who loved me wouldn’t break a promise. So, just know wherever you are, and whatever you’re doing, I’ll always say yes. And I won’t ever regret it. TC mark

You’re Not Ready To Move In Together Until You’ve Answered These 5 Questions

Posted: 14 Dec 2016 03:00 PM PST


You love them. They love you. But will you still love each other after you've moved in together? Don't be so quick to assume. You might think you know your partner inside and out – but moving in together opens up a whole new can of worms. So before you split that rent check…here are the questions to ask before moving in together.

How are you going to split things financially?

Does one of you make more money than the other? Is this a touchy subject? Are you expected to split everything 50-50, including groceries and entertainment? Or should it be a percentage system – where one of you pays more because one of you makes consistently more?

These are things to discuss before you even THINK about LOOKING at places to live.

Money is awkward. It's a hot-button issue for a lot of us and can bring up icky insecurities we didn't have to face when things were separate. Beforehand it really didn't matter how much money we made because as long as we paid our own rent and our own bills, everything was fine and nothing needed to be discussed. But now that you are going to be combining your living quarters, it's going to be a lot trickier to keep finances completely separate.

Who pays for cable? One of you *loves* watching sports every Saturday while the other can barely keep up with the Kardashians. Who pays for groceries? One of you works from home and eats practically every meal there, while the other has a lot of lunch meetings across town. And who pays for the furniture? The kitchen appliances? The wall decor? The new mattress? The new bedding? The bathroom air freshener because somebodyyyyy won't stop eating gluten?

Whew. That's a lot of things to consider. And one of you could feel super taken advantage of if you weren't expecting all of these costs, or worse – are left to pay for all of it yourself.

Your relationship has gone through a lot to get to this point. Don't set yourself up for failure now. Talk about these things. Make sure you guys have a set game plan about what is supposed to be split evenly down the middle, what has a percentage breakdown, and what is left to the individuals to purchase.

How are you going to run the household?

Are you guys going to be dividing up chores? Are you going to be outsourcing household help? (And who is going to pay for it? – see above.) Who has to clean the bathroom (also see above) and who has kitchen duty? Is somebody going to be solely in charge of cooking, or are you going to be ordering in every night?

I understand, you don't have to have a set calendar that dictates your cooking/cleaning/maintenance schedule, but you should have a pretty certain idea about what your general day looks like before jumping into a lease together. Here's a guarantee – if one of you DOES NOT view cooking, cleaning, laundry, or DIY as a hobby – you both have a lot of work ahead of you. Two people under one roof equals twice as much work. Period. Dot. The. End.

The best thing you can do is talk *honestly* about how you live your "private life" at home right now. I know you might not want to admit that you probably cook about once a week (usually whenever they come over after work you little show off) and that you actually haven't washed your sheets in four weeks (you're gross) but you have to come clean about it now (OMG I LOVE PUNS). This is the time to discuss the realities of your impending decision and not skirt around the issue.

If you hear something you don't like – that's ok – it doesn't mean the deal is off. It just means you need to discuss expectations, boundaries, and deal breakers clearly before moving forward.

How will you handle fights?

Everybody fights. I don't care how perfect your relationship is – you have had a fight before. And if you haven't – OMG GET READY GIRLFRIEND BECAUSE LIVING TOGETHER WILL DEF CAUSE ONE.

So how are you guys going to handle getting in a huge blow out when you live in the same space? Beforehand you could go back to your apartment and let off some steam. You probably had a little routine, too. Bitch and moan to your roommate, stomp around your room, listen to some angry music, switch over to Netflix, calm the hell down, wait a handful of minutes, and then reach out. It worked for you guys!

But now you guys have the SAME space. So what's the protocol?

Is leaving the apartment ok, or is that a trigger? Do you guys have a zoned "safe space" you can resort to if things get heated and you need a timeout? If one of you leaves, does the other need to leave to?

Yes, this is uncomfortable to discuss. But by talking about this before it actually happens, you are a zillion steps ahead. Fighting sucks, yes. But fighting sucks way more under the same roof. And it can make you question why you ever did this crazy thing in the first place! But living together is so awesome, so try to make it as easy as possible for you by having these tough talks before taking the plunge.

What does quality time look like?

A lot of times when couples move in together, the concept of "quality time" gets a little blurred. When you live together, you are going to see each other more often. Le duh. But what constitutes quality time, and what constitutes just being under the same roof together?

It's an odd question but it's an important one. Just because you are increasing the amount of time you see each other does not mean you are increasing intimacy. Make sure to talk about expectations for quality time so that your relationship doesn't evolve into being glorified roommates. Being together so much actually increases the need for more romantic effort. Yes, it seems counterintuitive, but it's crucial to be aware of this risk and to be proactive for your relationship.

Who gets to keep what?

Unless you guys are fabulously wealthy, you probably don't have enough room for all of your stuff combined. And even if you did have enough money to put up that much square footage, do you really want to bring all that clutter into one space?

Please don't.

So…who's bed are you bringing to the new crib? Who's artwork gets to hang in the living room? Who's comfy couch are we going to be lounging on? What about kitchen supplies? Electronics?

And more importantly…if one of you is NOT the chosen supplier, where does the money go when you sell the unwanted belongings? Is it split up evenly, or does one of you get to have a fun shopping spree while the other has to supply all of their furniture to the cause?

Lots of questions. Lots of potential land mines waiting to explode in your face. It's best to talk about this stuff thoroughly – people have odd attachments to objects. Let's just say you definitely don't want to assume the ratty bed comforter your significant other has been rocking since college is going in the dumpster when it's been betrothed to your new bed.

Have fun with that one. TC mark

Here’s A One-Sentence Description Of Your Personality, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Posted: 14 Dec 2016 02:00 PM PST



Midnight bond fires on a cold night, sloppy kisses, mindlessly dragging your finger across someones arm, the liberation of finishing HW, being alone in the city.


Silence in the desert, reading your favorite book on a rainy day, big sweaters/top knots/long socks, playing acoustic guitar, walking into antique bookstores.


Not being able to stop laughing with your best friend(s), bright umbrellas in heavy rain, splashing around in puddles, jumping into a giant pile of leaves, holding eye contact with someone.


The panic and excitement of a first kiss, Christmas parties, falling asleep on FaceTime but not ending the call, spontaneously making cookies at 2 am, wearing someone else's oversized sweater.


Looking in a mirror and going "damn I look nice", winning a race/competition, sitting in comfortable silence and playing with your significant other’s hair, being in a room full of people but only caring about one person in there, receiving surprise gifts.


Finishing a good book, buying new school supplies, singing at the top of your lungs when no one else is around, taking a selfie and being satisfied with it, making new friends.


Holding your s/o’s hand when nervous, performing with the spotlight solely on you, someone kissing you a million times at once and telling you they love you, binge watching Disney movies, winter's breath.


Learning a new language, tender neck kisses, photoshoots with friends, the view of the city from up top, sipping hot apple cider in winter.


Playing with glow in the dark sticks, wearing red, rave parties, running into the ocean, a late night hook up.


Leather bound books, finding small quaint towns, holding in laughter at a serious moment, someone holding you while you sob loudly, movie and popcorn.


Wearing heels, grocery store runs, last minute Christmas shopping, going cherry picking, creating something you're proud of.


Ice skating in an empty rink, tight hugs, traveling to a foreign country, forehead kisses, picking a loved one up from the airport. TC mark

And here’s How You’ll Do Everything Based On Your Personality Type


26 Things You Absolutely Need To Learn About Life By 26

Posted: 14 Dec 2016 01:00 PM PST

Grace Chung
Grace Chung

1. It’s okay to be wrong. Sometimes, you cannot avoid making mistakes, having bad choices. Those are what spice your life up, and make it feel so much more amazing to be alive. Learn how to accept defeat.

2. Learn from mistakes. If you end up doing the same thing, learn from it the second time around, until it becomes ingrained in you. Learn from them, and be a better person because of them.

3. Do what you love to do. If you’re still stuck with the day job you loathe, this is the time you quit it and do whatever makes you happy. Find something that makes your heart burn with passion, and makes you want to get up in the morning, ready to seize the day.

4. Stop giving fucks. Give yourself a break. If you’ve always lived your life according to how society tells you to live it, now is the time to stop caring about what other people think. What YOU think is what matters the most.

5. Be in the present. Stop taking selfies, for crying out loud. Enjoy the sunset, savor your food, try to enjoy the moment as it is right now.

6. Stop rushing. Don’t just keep stuffing your face with food, chew it. You agreed on a day with the family, but you’re on your phone 90% of the time. Put that thing down, and learn how to enjoy the moment. Laugh at people’s jokes, listen to people’s stories. You can never bring time back, just relax and take it easy.

7. You can’t stay mad forever. At this point, you have to learn how to forgive. The person you had a fight with years ago probably already forgot all about it, and you have to learn how to do that as well. You cannot live with a heavy heart for the rest of your life. Forgive people, forgive yourself.

8. Learn to say no. You never have to prove anything to anyone. You’re done with trying to be cool and going with the cool kids just so you’re one with the crowd. If you want to stay home in your pj’s and binge-watch new Netflix series, then learn how to say no to the crazy kids inviting you out for beer pong. You deserve it.

9. Learn to say yes. You don’t have to deprive yourself of all the fun for the rest of your life just because you’re 4 years away from being 30. Learn how to say yes to friends whenever you know you deserve a break from all the stress. This, you also deserve.

10. Change is a good thing. You have to learn to stop fearing change. Change is everywhere, and that’s a good thing. You don’t have to panic about everything that is changing in your life. Just go with it.

11. Be honest to yourself. The only person who knows who you really are and what you can be is yourself. Learn how to accept who you are, and know that you are wonderful, no matter what your flaws are.

12. You cannot control other people. You have to learn how to stop telling people how they should live their lives. You can suggest or just tell them how you feel, but you cannot ever ask them to stop doing what they want to do.

13. Always put yourself first. It’s okay to think about the people you love sometimes, but remember to always put yourself first. Your family is important, your work, your friends, they are all very important, but it is you who will live your life until the very end, and not anybody else. Find it in your heart to put yourself above anything else, because you are important too.

14. Use your words wisely. Maybe you’re simply just not aware of it yet, but your words are very powerful. They can either make or break people. You’ll never know whose feelings you’d be hurting if you choose the wrong words.  So remember to think before you speak (or write).

15. Waiting is okay. Some things don’t just happen instantly. Sometimes, you have to be patient, and things will fall into place at the perfect time.

16. You cannot please everybody. This is something you might have learned years ago, but you have to keep it in mind. Not everyone will think you’re as amazing as you truly are. Some people will want to bring you down, simply because they are not blown away by your thoughts and ideas. Some people will want to be out of your life in a jiffy, because they feel that you are not worthy of their time. And they are never worth your time either.

17. Be open to growth. The moment you learn that your flaws make you who you are today, is the moment you learn that you are still growing, every single day. Learn how to embrace your insecurities.

18. Make the most of life now. Stop being scared of failing in whatever it is you want to accomplish. The point of doing things now is not how it ends up, but what you learn in the process.

19. It’s never too late. You can still do what you’ve always wanted to do in life. It’s not too late to be as adventurous as you’ve always wished you could be. Travel far and wide, go see the places you’ve only seen in your dreams, leave your comfort zone and live your life to the fullest.

20. Smile. No matter what you’re going through, smile at people, smile every single day and life will smile back at you.

21. Be kind. You don’t know what everyone else is going through. It wouldn’t hurt if you learn to be kind to everyone you meet and see every day.

22. Believe in miracles. They are everywhere.

23. You will lose people along the way. These people are not meant to be in your life forever. Some were there just to give you a certain lesson that you can keep with you for the rest of your life, some will just make you realize that you deserve so much better and that you need to let them go if they are not meant to stay in your life.

24. It’s going to hurt. And it’s going to hurt a lot. You will have to accept and face this hurt, because this will make you even stronger than you are. Sometimes, things will hurt as you get better, and that’s what makes it so much worth it in the end.

25. But you’re going to be okay. Because you have gone through twenty-five years of your life without ever giving up. You’ll do great things. You’ll meet wonderful people along the way. You’ll see beautiful places and make new mistakes. You’ll be okay.

26. Nobody has life figured out. So what if you’re stuck with a job you hate, or you recently just quit your job and you don’t know what to do next? So what if you feel like you’re alone and you don’t know what your purpose in life is anymore? Nobody has life figured out. Everybody is scared. Everybody feels alone. Everybody doesn’t know what to do next or what their purpose in life is. You have to stop worrying and just go with it. Life is beautiful and so are you. TC mark

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The One-Sentence Answer To Why They Ghosted On You, Based On Their Zodiac Sign

Posted: 14 Dec 2016 12:00 PM PST


You called them "crazy".


You proved your aren't loyal.


They didn’t ghost on you.


They feel you don't need them.


You didn't do what they want you to.


They didn’t ghost on you.


You put to much pressure on them.


You made them feel misunderstood.


You probably crossed them one to many times.


You act out too much.


You didn't obsess over them enough.


You don't have it together and you won't listen. TC mark

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