Thought Catalog


22 Subtle Signs He’s An Abusive Boyfriend, Even If He Acts Like A ‘Nice Guy’

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 08:00 PM PST

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1. He never apologizes when he does something to upset you. In fact, he finds a way to turn the situation around so that you’re the one apologizing.

2. He makes you feel guilty whenever you go out with your friends.

3. He chokes you or slaps you during sex, even though you’ve told him it makes you uncomfortable.

4. He doesn’t want you to wear revealing clothing in front of other men.

5. He claims that he would kill himself if you ever cheated on him or broke up with him.

6. He calls you a bitch or a slut. Even if he’s acting like he’s saying it jokingly, you can tell he’s not joking at all.

7. He insults your appearance by calling you chunky or asking you to lose weight.

8. He purposely embarrasses you when you’re out in public together by telling stories that he promised he would keep a secret.

9. He can’t control his anger. Whenever he’s the slightest bit upset, he throws his phone or punches the wall.

10. He doesn’t let you touch the money in your joint bank account or your shared credit card.

11. He gets louder and angrier when he drinks. And he drinks a lot.

12. He gets jealous easily. He’s made you delete every other man’s number from your phone, even if you only had a platonic relationship with them.

13. He accuses you of cheating–constantly. He installed a GPS tracker on your phone and has called up your boss to see if you’re actually working.

14. The questions never end. Where were you? Who were you with? What time did you leave? Which streets did you take home? He’s not curious about your day. He’s trying to catch you in a lie.

15He has sex with you, even when you tell him that you’re not in the mood.

16. He gets angry at the drop of a hat. To him, every little thing you do is wrong, from the way you fold the towels to the way you drive your car.

17. He wants to be the only person you spend time with. If you go out for dinner with your parents, he’ll get mad. And if you give the dog more attention than him, he’ll get mad at that, too.

18. He makes subtle comments about how you’re lucky to have him and how you’d never be able to find another man to put up with you if you left him.

19. He gets physical during fights. He might grab your arm or trap you against a wall.

20. He gets insulted easily. If you casually ask him to wash the dishes, he’ll act like you accused him of never taking care of the chores or helping you around the house.

21. Whenever you’re happy, he tears you down. If you get a raise, he’ll point out how he still makes more money than you. And if you get a big promotion, he’ll tell you that you probably slept your way to the top.

22. He hits you. I don’t care if it happened once and he apologized profusely. If he did it once, he’ll do it again. TC mark

17 Beard Photos That Will Make You Want To Change Your Panties

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 07:00 PM PST

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17 Women Reveal The Little Things Their Boyfriend Does That They Think Are So Damn Sexy

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 06:00 PM PST

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1. “When he looks at himself in the mirror he does this little scowl to make sure he looks good…he does.” —Danielle, 24

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2. “When he washes his car, he gets really into it, like wants to make it really clean, and there’s just something about his concentration that kinda turns me on.” —Aubree, 24

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3. “He’s got these one pair of jeans that make his butt look so cute. Whenever he wears them I just want to squeeze his tush.” —Lauren, 25

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4. “One weekend we had to repaint the walls in our bedroom, and strangely enough I thought he looked so sexy with a paint roller.” —Valentina, 26

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5. “He does this thing with his lips whenever he thinks he’s right about something (even though I know he’s wrong), and as mad and heated as I get in the argument, his little lip snarl is just so friggen cute.” —Katie, 25

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6. “I practically die when he rubs his beard. I’m definitely a beard lover.” —Sarah, 25

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7. “Him in a black cotton V neck, fuck me now.” —Lacey, 24

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8. “Sometimes after he kisses me he just smiles, like kissing me makes him happy or something. It’s sexy and cute at the same time.” —Cecily, 26

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9. “I love it when he pushes his hair behind both ears. He always does it when he’s about to say something important. Every time I’m anticipating what he’s going to say.” —Sophie, 25

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10. “There’s something sexy about him in an apron. Even if he’s grilling and still trying to be ‘manly’ he has the apron on and it just humanizes him. I like it.” —Lisa, 27

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11. “When he’s talking about something that really matters to him, he’s sexy. It’s sexy to be passionate about something, anything.” —Carrie, 26

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12. “Personally I think my boyfriend is sexy all the time, but he’s super sexy when he holds a baby. He held my nephew when he was first born and my heart exploded.” —Dana, 27

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13. “He just started learning guitar, and when he practices, damn. Even though he’s not good yet, it’s just sexy to see him learn something new, and care about it.” —Veronica, 25

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14. “I love seeing him come out of the shower in a towel. I think most girls would say that’s sexy.” —Karen, 26

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15. “When he plays with my dog, he’s as sexy as can be.” —Ally, 26

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16. “When we brush our teeth together it’s almost like some weird type of foreplay. It’s like okay, getting ready for bed, where we’ll most likely cuddle and feel each other and then probably have sex. Plus he’s just cute when he brushes his teeth.” —Sierra, 25

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17. “I love it when he wears fedoras. I know that sounds so weird, but he’s probably one of the only guys I will ever think looks sexy in a hat that looks like it came from my grandfather’s closet.” —Morgan, 26 TC mark

27 Signs You’re So Far Out Of His League It Isn’t Even Funny

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 05:00 PM PST

Sophia Sinclair
Sophia Sinclair

1. Whenever you go out in a group, you find yourself apologizing for his behavior.

2. He doesn’t have a job or even the tiniest desire to look for a job.

3. He could be sexy if he tried, but he doesn’t. You spend hundreds of dollars on razors, makeup, and hair products, but he won’t even wear a clean shirt.

4. He bails on you to hang out with his douchebag buddies, even though you always make time for him.

5. Even when you catch him in a lie, he turns the situation around to make you feel like you were the one who did something wrong.

6. Every single one of your friends has implied that you could do better. Either that or they’ve straight up told you to upgrade.

7. Even though you’re working hard to make money, he’s still letting his parents pay for every dinner he eats and every vacation he takes.

8. He can’t go out to the bar and have one or two beers like a responsible adult. He always ends up getting completely wasted and vomiting all over the car.

9. He throws a fit whenever you make the tiniest mistake, even though you put up with all of his bullshit, which is always ten times worse.

10. Honestly, you’re embarrassed to leave the house with him. You never even hold his hand in public, because you don’t want to be seen together.

11. He refuses to call you his girlfriend, even though you’re a total catch and everyone knows it.

12. You don’t find him attractive. It’s not like you need to date a drop-dead gorgeous model, but you deserve to be with someone you have chemistry with.

13. He’s the type of guy that calls all of his exes crazy and gets offended when women are more successful than he is.

14. The only time he makes you happy is in the bedroom. Basically, you’re using him for sex.

15. Even though you’re willing to go to his baseball games and listen to his band perform, he’s not willing to put in the same effort when it comes to your hobbies.

16. He’s so immature that he actually blames your period when you’re upset and makes sexist jokes about sandwiches.

17. In bed, he refuses to go down on you, because he doesn’t like the taste. 

18. He expects you to pay the rent, his phone bill, and every dinner check. There are days when you wonder if he’s only with you for your money.

19. Other boys have been blowing up your phone, and honestly, they’ve been treating you better than your boyfriend has been treating you.

20. When you try to talk about your future, or really anything that involves responsibility, he checks out.

21. He can’t even keep a plant alive, let alone a pet or a baby.

22. He never makes plans. You’re always the one stuck making decisions.

23. You can’t hold a conversation with him. Your intelligence is too high and his maturity level is too low.

24. He’s nasty to his parents, waiters, and pretty much everyone else he runs into.

25. He doesn’t care about your success or your happiness. He only cares about himself.

26. He’s cheated on you.

27. You constantly fantasize about what it would be like to date a guy who actually has his life together and treats you the way you deserve to be treated. TC mark

50 Questions To Ask A Girl If You Want To Know Who She Really Is

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 04:00 PM PST

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1. What’s one thing that’s happened to you that has made you a stronger person?

2. What’s one thing that’s happened to you in your life that made you feel weak?

3. Where is one place you feel most like yourself?

4. Where is your favorite place to escape to?

5. Who do you think has had the largest influence on the person you are today?

6. If you could change one thing about yourself what would it be?

7. If you had one day left to live, what would you do first?

8. What decade do you feel you most belong in?

9. Who are you closest to in your family? Why?

10. Who is the one person in this world that knows you best?

11. What is your favorite quality about your best friend?

12. When you were younger what did you think you were going to be when you grew up?

13. If you could identify with one fictional character (from a book, show, or movie) who would it be?

14. Do you easily accept compliments? Or do you hate compliments?

15. Is your favorite attribute about yourself physical or non-physical?

16. What is your favorite physical attribute about yourself?

17. What is your favorite non-physical attribute about yourself?

18. Do you believe in love at first sight?

19. Do you believe in soul mates?

20. How seriously do you take horoscopes?

21. Have you ever been in love? How many times?

22. What makes you fall in love with someone?

23. What does vulnerability mean to you? What has the ability to make you vulnerable?

24. What’s one thing you’re scared to ask a man, but really want to?

25. If you were a man for a day, what would be the first thing you do?

26. What do you find most attractive about each sex?

27. What’s one thing you’d love to learn more about?

28. What is something you’ve never done that you’ve always wanted to do?

29. Why haven’t you done it yet?

30. If money didn’t matter, what would your dream job be?

31. If you had off from work today, what would you do?

32. What was the last thing that made you cry?

33. What was the last thing that made you laugh?

34. What is your favorite memory?

35. What’s the last thing that REALLY embarrassed you?

36. What is your biggest fear?

37. Do you have any regrets? What’s your biggest one?

38. Have you ever broken a law? If you haven’t what is one law you’d love to break?

39. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done?

40. Would you have a conversation with a stranger?

41. Would you tell a stranger they have toilet paper hanging from their shoe? Or their dress tucked into their underwear? (Or anything else that is embarrassing to be seen in public)?

42. What’s your favorite joke?

43. Are you a dog person or a cat person?

44. If you could be any animal, what animal would you be?

45. What’s one show, movie, or book, you’re embarrassed to admit you enjoy?

46. How do you think your parents would describe you as a child?

47. If you could go back to any age or time of your life, what age or time would it be?

48. What’s something you believe in that not everyone else does?

49. What’s one thing you would say that makes you unique from other people?

50. What is one thing you feel your life is missing? TC mark

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The Unedited Truth About Why You’re Single

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 03:00 PM PST

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Thought.is

I know so many attractive, fun, and intelligent young people (there's one right here, typing this) that are single. Why is that? Why are there so many eligible and available women and men alone? Why don't we find our partners in crime, better halves, soul mates, lovers, buddies for life – you name it?

Have we become too picky? Or too ignorant? Or are we just blind? Have we become people that only pretend to be longing for a relationship but secretly prefer to be on their own? Because it's easier and effortless, it doesn't require any compromises, and it's safe? Or is it because we don't need to shave our pubic hair that often? Convenience. Comfortableness. Security. Laziness.

I travel a lot and rarely stay in one place for longer than a couple of months, so my family and friends always blame my lifestyle for not having been in a stable, long-term relationship for quite some time. I thought about it but when I took into account those friends of mine that have been living in the same place for years yet are still alone, I realized there's more to this.

So what is it? Why are we single?

One of the reasons must be the past. Many of us had nasty and painful experiences, and fixing a broken heart isn't a walk in the park and takes a long time, so we've become more cautious and reluctant to get into anything that could potentially hurt us. And for those, who only had these dreadful experiences and no positive ones, it's not as easy to change the
I'll-never-find-love-and-die-alone mentality to an I'm-an-open-book-let's-make-babies attitude.

I consider myself lucky because even though I haven't had a proper boyfriend in years, I was fortunate enough to have had a couple of healthy and loving relationships in the past, so I know what it feels like to be in one and what I'm looking for. (Don't worry that they happened more than a decade ago, they burned into my memory forever.)

I'm an unconventional person in many aspects of life, but when it comes to relationships and love, I'm probably more traditional than anyone from the same age range and background. I believe in love, and I think that no one ever should settle for anything less and be in a relationship just for the sake of not being alone.

To me, being together with someone I'm not in love with is a burden and it feels suffocating.

I want spark and passion and laughters that shake my whole body, butterflies and fireworks, long gazes in the eyes, hugs so tight I can't breathe, all-night long talks, and rose-colored glasses. And as an eternal optimist, I'm convinced that we all find true love sooner or later, but I'm not surprised that it's difficult to find someone that sweeps you off your feet.

Although there are a lot of free "catches" out there, we don't always bump into each other. And not everyone suits everyone and the chance to encounter a right fit is getting slimmer and slimmer as we age. Meeting new people used to be easy when we were in college. Not only because we had an infinite pool to choose from but also because we had the opportunity to meet on a regular basis and were forced to talk to each other, at the very least in class. So we had the time and "setting" to get to know one another and pick accordingly.

As life got more complicated growing up, so did meeting somebody – I can't deny that. But we can either whine about it or do something. In case you don't belong to that lucky one percent that meets "The One" on a subway ride, you won't fall in love if you don't go out there to see people, and loneliness will become the norm. So my advice: move that sexy ass of yours and increase your odds.

And don't ask me where and how to find him or her because I don't know! Go jogging in the park, volunteer, join the local community theater or attend yoga classes, go to Meetup events, stalk people in that new juice bar around the corner, put aside your prejudices and give a chance to online dating, pick up a new hobby, get funny-drunk in bars and dance the night away, send a smiley face emoji to that hot colleague of yours, or accept invitations to friends' friends' birthday parties where you don't know anybody. And show up. Experiment. And stay receptive.

Being single is a choice.

It's a way better alternative than getting stuck in an unfulfilling relationship or being with someone just because you can or don't have anything better to do. So if you're single because you're not willing to settle for less than you deserve, give yourself a pat on the back and be proud. And if you don't like being alone anymore, do something about it.

Start looking. Initiate. Talk. Dare.
Maybe that girl from your local grocery store is thinking about the same thing whenever you two cross paths with each other.
Or maybe it's your neighbor's cousin who visits every Sunday.
The bartender of your favorite club, the guy you see on the subway every morning.
The last listed name in the book you borrowed from the library.
The stranger that glanced at you at the entrance.
The person you've known since you were a child but never looked at "that" way.
Anybody.
Everybody.

Go and find them. TC mark

This Is What Triggers Your Insecurity, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 02:00 PM PST

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Aries

(March 21st to April 19th)

Convincing yourself that if you ever give up your adventurous, nonstop, always-on-the-move lifestyle, that you will lose all sense of identity. You’ve always been known as the exciting and spontaneous one, so you start to feel really insecure when you slow down for a little while, because you worry that no one will find you interesting anymore or that you’ll no longer have a strong sense of self.

How to help yourself: Stop thinking of adventure as such a black and white thing. Traveling the world and taking on daring activities is great, but you can be just as adventurous when you stay in one place, as long as you’re always trying new things and saying ‘yes’ to stuff that intimidates you.

Taurus

(April 20th to May 21st)

Believing that if you pause for a moment and take care of yourself for once, instead of putting everyone else first, that your loved ones will be angry with you or will lose their trust in you. You take pride in the fact that you’re warm and dependable to everyone around you, so ‘choosing yourself’ every once in a while makes you feel nervous and self-conscious.

How to help yourself: Remember that love is two-sided. Go easy on yourself! It’s wonderful (and rare) to be such a kindhearted and tender person, but taking care of yourself doesn’t mean you’re deserting the people you care about. They want you to be happy and healthy as much as you want that for them.

Gemini

(May 22nd to June 21st)

Letting someone see you outside of your typical carefree, lighthearted, composed manner. You feel most confident when you’re light and happy and making other people laugh. But because you’re human, you have your anxious and uncertain moments too, and nothing makes you feel more insecure than someone seeing you being vulnerable.

How to help yourself: Stop convincing yourself that people need you to be ‘on’ all the time. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be a fun, bright spot for the people around you, but no one can be 100% joyful and high-spirited all the time. Give yourself some slack and make yourself remember that your friends and family will still love you in the dark moments.

Cancer

(June 22nd to July 22nd)

Feeling like your sympathetic and emotional nature gets on the nerves of others. Because you’re an intuitive person and are used to reading people, you can sometimes lean to far into your own perceptions and assume people are more irritated with you than they actually are.

How to help yourself: Don’t let your thoughts get away from you. Because you’re a empathetic person, it’s easy to get overly worried about the thoughts and opinions of others, but you just have to work on coming to terms with the fact that the best you can do is be a good partner, family member, and friend – and that the rest is out of your control.

Leo

(July 23rd to August 22nd)

You tend to derive a lot (or sometimes, all) of your self-worth from your achievements and successes. Your motivation, work ethic, and creativity are some of the most positive things about you, but the insecurity comes when you place all of your weight on succeeding and being the best and you end up failing – because you often unintentionally trick yourself into believing that failure means you are unloveable.

How to help yourself: Continue working hard and striving to be the best and don’t feel bad about it. But also remind yourself on a constant basis that you are human, you aren’t perfect, and it’s more important that you are trying than it is that you are always succeeding. Your worth comes from working hard and putting yourself out there, not from being flawless.

Virgo

(August 23rd to September 22nd)

Order and purpose give you a sense of calm and control, so you feel self-conscious when you feel like you’re not being of use in some way. When you’re at a party, you need to be the one refilling the chips basket and asking people if they need refills, even if it’s not your house. When you’re out to dinner catching up with an old friend, you love to ask them questions about their life but feel instantly anxious when they ask you what’s new with you, convinced that you’re boring them. You’re always uncertain about hanging out with people and only bringing ‘you.’

How to help yourself: It’s going to take some time, but you need to start getting in the mindset of ‘people like me for me.‘ There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be supportive, helpful, and considerate, but friendship is about enjoying one another’s company, not what you can get out of the relationship. Start only hanging out with people who make you feel loved for you, not for what you can do for them.

Libra

(September 23rd to October 22nd)

Nothing makes you feel more insecure or out of place than someone who doesn’t immediately like you or warm up to you. You’re used to being the peace maker, the bring-together person, the one everybody looks to when it comes to deciding plans. And no matter how many people like you, when there’s someone who’s a little bit cold to you, you just can’t let it go.

How to help yourself: You have to come to terms with the fact that not everyone is going to like you. You don’t have to like this fact, but you have to acknowledge it. Sometimes, people just aren’t going to click, and instead of obsessing over your relationship with this person, focus on how lucky you are that’s it’s actually noticeable to you when one person doesn’t absolutely adore you.

Scorpio

(October 23rd to November 22nd)

Knowledge and information is what makes you feel confident, certain, and sure of yourself. So when you feel like you’re out of the loop, or you don’t know where to go from here, or you’re uncertain of where your career or relationship or anything else in your life is headed, you feel totally lost and uncomfortable in your own skin.

How to help yourself: Start having a little more faith in yourself! There’s no way you’re ever going to know absolutely everything, no way you’re ever going to know with 100% certainty what the next best step is for you at this moment in time. But when you can take solace in is the fact that you are a smart individual, you have good instincts, and you’re too tough to be easily discouraged.

Sagittarius

(November 23rd to December 21st)

You feel immense pressure to be the happy, optimistic, encouraging person for everyone, all of the time. You constantly worry that if you’re not upbeat, clever, and full of good advice for anyone at any moment, that you’ll be rejected or unwanted or simply unnecessary.

How to help yourself: Be human. Surround yourself with people who love you enough to let you be human. If you allow yourself to become blindly optimistic, you’re only going to hurt yourself (and others) in the long run. So don’t apologize for wanting to be a helpful and encouraging presence to those around you, but remember that sometimes it’s okay to be down, or to be wrong, or to be uncertain.

Capricorn

(December 22nd to January 20th)

You have a wonderfully silly side to you, but you only feel confident when you’re completely put-together, calm, and reserved. The ‘not a hair out of place’ type of presence is what you’re convinced you have to give off if you want to feel confident and comfortable around others. You feel most insecure when you let loose, play around, or let someone see you being something other than poised and control.

How to help yourself: Seriously, let your hair down. Wanting to make a good impression and to be put-together is not a bad thing to aim for, but you have to stop treating yourself like a two-dimensional character in a bad television show. Laugh, have some fun, throw back a few beers if you’re in the mood. No one is going to think any less of you for being less-than-serious for a minute.

Aquarius

(January 21st to February 18th)

You feel uncomfortable and embarrassed when you care about things. You’re highly afraid of admitting that you badly want something, in case you end up failing or not achieving it, so you feel more confident by just pretending to be fairly detached about most things in your life – your career, your hobbies, your relationships, whatever. It scares you to admit that there’s something out there that you greatly desire.

How to help yourself: Force yourself to acknowledge that you’re never going to get anything you really want if you pretend not to want it, because you’re just going to get in your own way. Stop apologizing or feeling insecure for trying, for wanting something more – and just go for it. Let the naysayers complain and judge from their pedestals, and be the one to actually try something for once. You’ll feel so much more joy and life inside of you, even if you fail.

Pisces

(February 19th to March 20th)

You have a really hard time with criticism. Even if it’s constructive, it takes you a long time to get over it and a lot of effort to not beat yourself up. Your sensitivity can be a huge asset, but it can also make you feel incredibly fragile and susceptible to judgment or gossip.

How to help yourself: Continue to be compassionate to others, even when you don’t receive it in return. Compassion is in your nature and behaving that way, no matter what, will make you feel the most like yourself. Be okay with your sensitivity, by understanding that even though it often feels like a weakness, it can often be one of the best qualities about you too. TC mark

14 Tips Perfect For Any 20 Something Who Finds It Impossible To Save Money

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 01:00 PM PST

Atikh Bana
Atikh Bana

Life can be a real financial struggle sometimes, especially when you're in your 20s. Ever since I moved out of home at 18, I've worried about money every single day. As a millennial, we shouldn't be spending all our time being worried about our finances, but instead living life to the fullest. It's important to develop good financial habits from an early age, especially if you've just moved out of home and have started living the millennial lifestyle. So, I've compiled a list of tips and ideas for us – the Millennials, so we can eventually say we no longer need to worry about money.

1. Put away 10% of your paycheck

As soon as that paycheck comes through to you, immediately calculate your 10% and put it away in another account. Did I mention you're not allowed to touch this stash of cash? If you don't have a dedicated account for this, it's time to visit your bank!

2. Learn to cook your own food

I love eating out as much as the next person, but it takes a serious toll on my bank account. So, I've learned to master the art of meal prep! I know, it's very tempting to not miss out on sushi dates, pie outings or donuts, but I bet you'll look at your account at the end of the week and feel guiltier for the money you spent than eating that donut. Try to limit yourself to one outing per week and see how much you can save!

3. Brew your own cup of coffee

Allow me to put something into perspective for you. Say you buy a cup of coffee every day of the week for $4.50. That's $31.50 per week…that's $1638. That's a flight overseas. Enough said. So people, start to brew your own coffee at home or take full advantage of the free coffee at your workplace.

4. Invest

Investing is a way you can make your money work harder for you. Just be sure you educate yourself first before entering into any transactions. Knowledge is power in this industry.

5. Limit your visits to the Bank of the Parents

Yes, your parents love you dearly and they want to give you money. But it's time to start being a bit more independent and taking control of your own finances. You'll also probably find you're a bit more conscious when it's your own money you're spending.

6. Think before you buy

Are you an impulsive shopper? Try this little tactic out next time you have a burning desire to splurge. Just take 30 seconds to actually THINK about your purchase and ask yourself, "do I really need this?' or, walk out and think about it overnight. If it's something you don't really need, you probably won't come back to buy that item.

7. Turn off your wall power

A little can go a long way! Turning off your wall power is a great habit to get into and in the long run can save you money on your electricity bill.

8. Buy bulk on sale

This one does not include junk food when it's on sale people. We are trying to fatten up our wallets, not our bodies. See something on sale? Why not buy in bulk so you save your future self some moola.

9. Identify your goals

Have a real good think about this one and write them down! Make sure you always refer back to them and keep them in a place that is visible to you.

10. Have an emergency fund

The future is so unpredictable so it's important you have some money stashed away that will help you get through at least 3 months without having to work.

11. Track your savings

I'm a big fan of spreadsheets and I use a weekly budget tracker to record all my expenses. I can also see how much I'm saving on a weekly basis, which gives me more motivation to save even more money the next week.

12. Have an interest in interest

How much interest does your bank account give you? Not sure? You may want to find out! Choose a bank that will enable you to maximize the interest you earn and do your research.

13. Monetize your talents

Are you really good at something? There's probably a way to turn that talent into income. Start getting creative if you want to set up a side hustle.

14. Buy a car that is within your price tag

Your young, you want a fancy, cool car…I get it. But, taking out a massive loan for a car whose repayments are way above your pay grade is just not the way to go. So, unless you can actually afford it, be practical when looking to buy a car and buy one with an affordable price tag on it. TC mark

35 Fashion DONT’S For Girls (According To 35 Guys)

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 12:00 PM PST

Illustration by Daniella Urdinlaiz / lookcatalog
Illustration by Daniella Urdinlaiz / lookcatalog
Found on AskReddit.

1. DON'T get a fake tan.

"Fake tan. I’d rather see a girl whiter than the milky bar kid than wearing fake tan. It just looks so obvious and it’s usually horribly done. Changing your skin tone to match a bag of Cheetos is the furthest thing from attractive."

SonofBronson


2. DON'T try to look like a Kardashian.

"Trying to look like a Kardashian."

crateguy


3. DON'T wear dark lip liner, because it makes your lips look like an anus.

"Dark lip liner. It makes your puckered lips look like an anus."

Sygma6


4. DON'T wear nose rings, because you look like a cow.

"Nose rings. Moo."

roguetroll


5. DON'T starve yourself to where I can see all your ribs.

"Skinny ass girls, like I can see all your ribs. I want some meat to grab. Eat a fucking sandwich."

Lo-lo-fo-sho


6. DON'T wear shorts that go up into your vagina with your ass cheeks hanging out.

"The shorts that are up into the vagina with ass cheeks hanging out. Not even attractive on the hottest woman ever."

atheistforchrist


7. DON'T wear raccoon eye makeup.

"Fucking raccoon eye makeup. Jesus, that shit went away with Culottes…"

trevisan_fundador


8. DON'T wear so much perfume that I feel like I'm being gassed.

"Please for the love of god, gassing me with perfume does not make me think your attractive."

SwiftyNiftyShifty360


9. DON'T excessively accessorize.

"Excessive accessorizing, nothing hot about a girl who looks like she's wearing an entire pawnshop or jewelry store."

Morotstomten


10. DON'T do duck face.

"Duck Faces."

Lozza101


11. DON'T lean forward while trying to push out your booty.

"Leaning forward while trying to push out their booty. It’s not natural, you look like you just fucked up your spine in a car accident."

MikeKM


12. DON'T wear uncomfortable shoes.

"Wearing uncomfortable shoes. Idk I just feel bad that their feet hurt when they could just wear regular shoes and look just as good. Guys are never like damn did you see those girls heels???"

Ajblank


13. DON'T get collagen injections in your lips.

"I will never understand collagen-injected, freakishly big upper lips. It’s never an improvement. It throws off the whole face."

eggre


14. DON'T get tattooed eyebrows.

"Tattoo eyebrows when the original brows were fine to begin with."

Gunslinger_11


15. DON'T get plastic surgery.

"Plastic surgery. Most of the time they don’t need it to begin with."

jsb93


16. DON'T wear so much lipstick that it ends up on your teeth.

"Massive lipstick that ends up on your teeth. Good makeup creates an illusion of perfection. Bad makeup reminds us it’s there."

Thesaxony


17. DON'T vajazzle your vajayjay.

"Vajazzling their vajayjays."

Katzenfriedel


18. DON'T add blonde streaks to your hair.

"Adding blonde streaks to their hair. Looks fine if it’s subtle. But good lord, sometimes it’s like the have racing stripes painted on!"

crackacrack


19. DON'T wear long, fake fingernails.

"Long/fake fingernails, even worse with all sorts of crap on them. Makes me want to vomit looking at them."

Jjhillmann


20. DON'T shave the sides of your head.

"Shaving the sides of their heads."

Five_deadly_venoms


21. DON'T wear high-top jeans.

"Wear high-top jeans."

thatFUCKINGitalian


22. DON'T wear lip gloss.

"Maybe it’s just me, but fucking lip gloss! No, I’m not staring at your lips because I’m attracted to them when you have it on. I’m staring at them because they always reflect some source of light and it’s freaking distracting! Eyes are distracting too, but in a 'wow' kind of way."

Europianist


23. DON'T wear those giant glasses.

"I hate those giant glasses girls wear. To me, obstructing half your face isn’t attractive, it’s annoying."

wandrngfool


24. DON'T get breast implants.

"Breast implants/super padded bras/stuffing their bras personally I don’t like big tits I like em kinda small but in the end they’re basically just the figurative cherry on top they don’t really matter compared to her personality."

Name Withheld


25. DON'T wear fake eyelashes.

"Fake eyelashes. They look creepy as fuck."

CatataBear


26. DON'T cake your face with too much makeup.

"Putting on waaaayyy too much makeup, a bit is fine but when a cake face comes along it’s an absolute no."

HOIYA


27. DON'T wear wacky lipstick colors.

"Black and yellow and blue lipsticks. Wtf."

akeytoasafe


28. DON'T shave off your eyebrows and draw in fake ones.

"Shave off your eyebrows and draw on new ones. That’s some serial killer shit."

hamrmech


29. DON'T wear high heels.

"High heels. I’ll take a graceful girl in flats over a stumbling obscenity any day. I’m sure runway models would walk like humans in ballet shoes. I just…don’t get it. They’re ugly, they look uncomfortable, and they make you walk like you’re recovering from surgery."

fullOnCheetah


30. DON'T get tattoos.

"Get tattoos."

Zeruvi


31. DON'T get boob jobs.

"Boob jobs and plastic surgery in general. Sorry but you’re not enhancing anything, you’re ruining it."

sneakywill


32. DON'T wear bangs.

"Short hair. Or bangs."

happy_K


33. DON'T buzzcut your hair.

"Buzzcuts and pixie cuts."

TypicalBlaqMan


34. DON'T cover yourself in piercings.

"Body piercings. And any other excessive piercings on the ears, nose piercings and lip piercings. Tattoos. Dyed hair that goes way off of their natural hair color. Excessive eye shadow, eye liner or mascara. Excessive facial powdering. Dark or sharp toned lipstick."

sackofmangoes


35. DON'T dye your hair outrageous colors

"Dying your hair outrageous colors like bubblegum pink, turquoise blue."

asiandaredevil TC mark

17 Tiny Pieces Of Advice For 2017

Posted: 04 Dec 2016 10:00 AM PST

Kyson Dana
Kyson Dana

1.

Own up to your mistakes instead of trying to lie your way out of them, it’s easier for everyone that way.

2.

If you really want something don’t give up on it.

3.

Don’t make excuses for people who treat you less than you deserve because you know *deep down* they’re capable of being a good person.

4.

Don’t hang on to someone who’s only good to you 20 percent of the time because that other 80 percent isn’t worth the torture.

5.

Let go of all the people who drain you and turn you into someone you’re not proud of.

6.

Take care of your body and your health because without it you’ve got nothing.

7.

If it won’t matter in a year then there is no point in wasting time getting upset over it.

8.

All your emotions are relevant, but don’t purposely complain and make a scene for attention.

9.

Give however much you can, no gesture is too small to make a difference in someones life.

10.

Hug your parents and tell them you love them – they won’t always be around for you to do so.

11.

You could be the most beautiful sunset in the world, but some people will still find a reason to hate sunsets.

12.

People aren’t worried about your life because they’re too busy worrying about what you’re thinking about their life.

13.

Only bite off as much as you can chew.

14.

If something doesn’t make you happy – quit. There’s no point in doing anything that doesn’t make you happy.

15.

Always have a goal and always keep working towards something.

16.

Most things are not as bad as they seem.

17.

Always listen to the the full story before you assume and always listen to other peoples opinions completely, especially when they differ from your own. TC mark