Thought Catalog


Get Him Rock Hard With These 16 Risqué Lingerie Tips

Posted: 05 Dec 2016 08:00 PM PST

Twenty20, NickBulanovv
Twenty20, NickBulanovv

1. Buy it cheap. Your boyfriend is going to rip it right off of you, so it’s not like you need anything elaborate. Skip expensive stores like Victoria’s Secret and go to a site like Yandy or Spencer’s, where you can save some cash (and get a free thong).

2. Don’t even tell him you bought lingerie. Just change into it and sprawl out on the bed, so his jaw drops when he walks in.

3. If you’re self-conscious about your stomach, you can get babydoll lingerie that covers the area. The point of wearing lingerie is to look sexy, but you won’t look sexy if you’re uncomfortable.

4. Wear heels. If you’re going to go through the trouble of wearing lingerie, you might as well slip into some sexy shoes to complete the look.

5. You don’t have to start off by wearing garter belts and nipple tassels. You can wear a lacy nightgown and it’ll make your man equally as horny.

6. Take pictures in your lingerie to feel like you got your money’s worth. Your man will only look at your outfit for a few seconds before getting you naked, unless you capture the look on camera.

7. You know what color you look best in, but you can never go wrong with black or red.

8. If you think the outfit is missing a little something, add a necklace (or a collar).

9. Don’t throw out the box. If there’s a million strings, you’re going to have to look at the picture to figure out how the hell you’re supposed to put the thing on.

10. Put your lingerie underneath your clothes and then wait until you’re out in public to let your partner know it’s hidden there. Finding out will be an instant turn-on, especially when you’re surrounded by other people.

11. Or, if you don’t want to wear an entire outfit under your regular outfit, wear crotchless panties with a skirt instead. It’ll have the same effect on him.

12. Model it for him. If you walk up to him and sit right on his lap, he won’t have the chance to see how good your butt looks. So don’t be afraid to strut your stuff. You want him to see every inch of the outfit, don’t you?

13. You could always take your boyfriend shopping with you. Or just give him the computer and tell him to order whatever he wants to see you wearing.

14. If you’re brave, you can steal an idea from the movies and wear a trench coat over your lingerie. Show up at your partner’s house wearing it, and then drop it as soon as you get inside.

15. Don’t forget the props! If you buy a leather corset, you might want a whip to go with it. If you buy a maid’s outfit, you might want a feather duster to complete the look.

16. Stop trying to find lingerie you think your boyfriend would like or lingerie you’ve seen porn stars wear before. Wear what you think is sexy. I’m sure your boyfriend will agree. TC mark

39 Men And Women Confess The Juiciest And Most Horrifying Personal Secrets That Could Destroy Their Lives

Posted: 05 Dec 2016 07:00 PM PST

via Flickr - catherine
via Flickr – catherine

1. Still Secretly Lives In The House He Sold

Two and a half years ago I was in dire financial straights, so I sold my home to keep my struggling business afloat. I neglected to tell the owners that they have an 800 sq. ft. bunker on the property that I built about seven years ago. The bunker that I’ve called home since I sold it. The entrance to it is well-hidden, but I still come and go very early/very late in the day.

I’m a single man who keeps to himself. I’m now in a situation where I could move somewhere else, but I love this hidden paradise so much.

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2. Mother Raised Him As A Girl

[Background, I’m a guy in my late 20s who was taken into care aged 7.] Everyone around me already knows that I was brought up by foster families because I had a shit early childhood. I deliberately keep it vague and say stuff like “I’d rather not go into it” so that people will just assume I was abused in some way and they’ll stop asking about it.

The truth is that for the first 7 years of my life, I was brought up as a girl by my psycho birth mother who really really really wanted a daughter and didn’t let the snag of giving birth to a boy stop her from trying to raise one.

She was a pretty successful professional in a legal field (not entirely sure what) and had me via anonymous sperm donor from a fertility clinic. She found out i was a boy at a late ultrasound and then moved across the country. Gave birth to me at home and continued to move about until I was 5 or so. It was just the two of us all my life, we had contact with other people, of course, but they rarely got very close. I had lots of friends, but was always supervised.

I found out way way after that my mother’s strong puritanical christianity was a lie she used to explain why she was so strict about me being ‘private’ and never letting anyone see me get changed or anything. i just accepted all of this as fact, having never been told anything different.

I was sent to a religious school for girls and had a really great childhood. i was a bit of a tomboy, and played with lego and toy animals, rather than dolls and stuff, but that’s not unusual and no one ever questioned i was a girl – even me. I knew about men and women, but had never really seen much of naked people. my mother never ever spoke to me about it, but i kinda had the impression that when i grew up and got boobs and stuff, my dick would kinda fall off or something and i would be a woman, and other kids would keep their dicks and they’d be men. I dunno, to be honest, i never really thought about it

Anyway, I carried on with my happy girlhood, and had a bunch of friends and everything was great until I was 7 and a teacher accidentally spilled a cup of hot coffee over me at school. The liquid soaked through my clothes and was scalding me so the staff immediately stripped me out of my dress and underwear to get the hot coffee away from my skin. And then they found out.

The cops were called and I got taken to speak with who I guess would be Social Services. they asked me a bunch of questions about life at home and stuff. meanwhile, my mother was taken in for questioning too. she refused to acknowledge me as male and insisted i was her daughter. because she was, y’know, delusional and stuff, I wasn’t allowed to go back home but got put with a foster family and went through loads of therapy and stuff.

The worst part was that literally overnight, I lost EVERYTHING. my mother, my home, all my toys, all my clothes, I moved school so lost all my friends, they cut all my hair off and told me I wasn’t a girl any more. it was really really traumatic.

The first foster home wasn’t that great. They had three boys already and going from a sheltered ‘religious’ only-child upbringing to a rough-and-tumble testosterone-filled environment was really difficult. they tried to force me to e masculine and I was just too confused about what they wanted. anything ‘girly’ was reprimanded and I felt so lost and alone because nothing I did was right.

I tried to commit suicide when I was 11 and again at 13 because I didn’t feel I fit in anywhere. After the second attempt, they moved me to a different foster family who were awesome. I consider them to be my parents. They actually stood up for me, the first thing was that they let me grow my hair. From when I got taken into care, they buzzed my hair short, and I hated it. they always had to hold me down and do it forcibly while I was crying and fighting. My new parents flatly refused to do it and said that loads of boys had long hair. They also let me quit karate and football and take up swimming and jazz dance. Since I’d been in care, no one had ever stood up for my right to choose what activities to do, or how to dress before. It was amazing.

In the end, I came out of it with a pretty healthy gender identity (I’m a guy, but not the most butch guy ever, but I’m fine with that), I went through school and got my degree and have a pretty good job and an amazing, supportive wife. Everything looks great.

But i can never speak about my early childhood, and how i grew up as a little girl.

ABCH

3. Faked Their Own Death

I cut off all contact with everyone I know and moved to Kenya, I tell people a fake name and a fake background and have made it appear to my family that I died on boat trip in the Pacific. No I am not joking. I am dead in the United States.

Tomgoldaccount

4. Run’s A Wedding Cake Business Using Store Bought Mix

I run a cake business. I charge people hundreds for wedding cakes… Every last one is made using Pillsbury cake mix I buy for $1 a box at Walmart. I suck at baking. Every time I’ve ever tried to make a cake from scratch it sucked. But baking is like…my whole deal.

My friends all call me the cake girl. It’s like my whole life is a lie. People compliment my cakes all the time. Telling me how delicious they are. Telling me it’s so much better than box mix cake. Telling me they could never bake a cake so delicious. Well guess what? For $1, they too can make a cake just as delicious. Just add oil, eggs and water. In my defense, I love cake decorating. I make all of the frostings and fondant from scratch. I just hate baking fucking cakes!! I base my prices mostly on the decoration of the cakes and not of the cake itself of that makes sense. Still… No one knows about this except my husband. Even my best friends think I fucking slave over the oven mixing and baking these damn cakes. I have been doing this for YEARS. If anyone knew my business and reputation would be in the toilet for sure. I keep telling myself I have to learn how to make the damn cakes without the box mixes, but I never do it. I feel like such a sham sometimes.

iGotYouThisCake

5. Gay, Child Hooker

Ok, so this is a secret I’ve kept for nearly 20 years.

During the summers when I was growing up, my parents would often leave my brother and I (I’m male) with our aunt and uncle who lived out in the country. It was great as they had 4 sons of ages close to ours so we had a lot of fun doing kids stuff.

One summer when I was 8, the oldest cousin was maybe 16. We somehow got talking and he asked me if I wanted to sleep in his room that night. He has the nicest room and bed so I was all for it. Got into bed and he asked if he could touch my penis. I was 8 and just thought it was ok so I let him. He rubs it for a bit and then asks me to do the same to him. So I do. This progresses and eventually I’m sucking his cock. I think I knew this was wrong so I said I didn’t want to carry on. We stop and I goto sleep quite confused.

I wake up and he hands me some money and tells me never to tell anyone about what happened. Next night he tries to do the same thing.. But now all I care about is the money. So I do it. This carried on for 2 summers.

Eventually I got old enough to realize it was quite wrong regardless of the money and stopped.

I’ve not told anyone this. He’s now married with 2 kids. I’m also married and we see them sometimes at family events. I don’t have the balls to even try and talk to him about it.. Hell I’m not even sure what I’d say.

Tl;dr I was a gay child hooker.

aawwaayy

6. Tricking Her Into Marriage

I once helped out my a female friend’s family by taking care of their cat for a week. Every day for a week, I would go over there and snoop around their house. I found my friend’s diary, and proceeded to read the entire thing. I used this information to get her to like me, and she is currently my wife.

ThrownAway2389

7. Sick Girlfriend, Dead Relationships

I don’t want to be with my girlfriend anymore, but she might have cancer and I feel like I need to stay in the relationship.

morningandamazing

8. Faked A College Degree

I faked the last two years of college education. My parents put so much pressure on me I couldn’t handle it (I was suffering from severe depression and anxiety) so I faked it all. Lied to everyone. Made up fake transcripts. I just got my foot in the door in my desired field thanks to a friend as they hired me as a subordinate. This place only hires college grads but no one double checked my credentials since I was recommended. My hopes is that if I need to find another job I’ll have been at this place long enough to get it by experience alone (I work for a very prestigious company). I’m not bad at my job. I’m actually quite good. But my fear is eventually I’ll hit a wall and the lie will come to light. No one has known this for the better part of a decade.

It’s a relief to finally say it “out loud.” I can’t even tell those I love. My silence is my prison.

HalfEducated

9. Last Words

When I was 17 I had a argument with my father and told him to fuck off, later that evening he hung himself. Our argument was the last time he spoke to anyone in our family and for that I feel a terrible amount of guilt for. Instead of him saying good bye and I love you to my mom and brothers he got told to fuck off before he went and killed himself. My punishment is to live the rest of my days in shame and guilt. He never left a note either.

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10. The Illusion Of Success

Everyone thinks I have a good job and roommates but I’ve been homeless and a prostitute for over year.

Throngsong

11. The Keeper Of Everyone Else’s Secrets

IT guy here, it’s amazing what people will do on their computers and say in their emails despite having to sign a waiver that all computer activity at work is monitored and recorded.

I have half the company’s banking, social media and personal email account info and passwords. I know who is secretly banging who at the office behind their spouse’s backs. I know who is cybering at work and jerking it in the bathroom almost daily. At least they tell their sex chat partner they’re running off to the bathroom to jerk it, haven’t felt the need to check the validity of that one. I know when people are having martial problems, financial problems, I even know one person here had their children taken away because a social worker found cocaine in their house. I know who is embezzling money, I know when people get fired for completely bullshit reasons (like they just want to replace them with someone younger and nicer on the eyes), and I know who my boss is buying xanax and vicodins from.

Basically I have a treasure trove of my coworker’s secrets. I won’t actively do anything with this info, but it’s nice knowing I have the ammunition there if something were to ever happen.

yesthisisthrowaway23

12. An Anonymous Email

There was a girl who I had a crush on the moment I saw her on my college campus. She ended up dating a douchebag dude a few weeks later. I happened to end up sitting in a study room with him and a few mutual friends. He talked about how he didn’t think she was that attractive and how he liked other girls. I wrote the girl an anonymous email using one of those websites telling her about the things I heard and how the guy was a dick. She ended up breaking up with him after she found out he was cheating.

The girl is now my girlfriend of 6 months. She has no idea (and is sitting across from me in the library). I’ve never told anyone this before.

iamfromcanada

13. Incest Abortion

When I was 15 my parent’s were going through a divorce, my mom worked night shifts and my dad was living with a friend of his. One night my sister who was 19 at the time came home pretty drunk from a party. She was acting goofy and fell on the couch next to me. She started grabbing my leg and laughing and we started fondling. We ended up having sex right there. When we woke up the next day she had no recollection of the night before so i just kept my mouth shut.

Fast forward to when I’m 18. Sister is home from college and dad is over for a visit. they get into an argument and in a fit of rage my dad announces how he has never forgiven her for the abortion she got when she was 19 and subsequently killing His grand child. (he’s very religious)

I then realize the baby she aborted was in fact mine…..and as far as I know, I am the only one who knows since she has never mentioned that night.

throwaway3708

14. Accidental Half Incest

My daughter turns 5 next week. If anyone knew the truth behind her parentage, I could probably lose her forever.

I grew up in foster care, never knew my parents or siblings. In my senior year, I met an older guy and we dated for almost a year… getting pregnant about 7 months in. One night while we were watching tv, the subject somehow came around to our real parents (he had been adopted as a young child). Turns out the man I was seeing, the father of my daughter… is my half-brother… we have the same mother. Our relationship didn’t last, and he is not in her life, per his own choices.

My daughter is extremely smart, beautiful, and well-rounded. She’ll never know the truth… her father and I made a pact to never tell her. I just hope she never needs a kidney or something.

erisavarria

15. A Jealous Sister

I have a blind brother. When we were young, I used to get so frustrated at all the extra attention he received and how I had to be more responsible with my sibling than my peers. So, when my brother and I would go play, go to the store, or just generally go anywhere without adults, I would abandon him somewhere unfamiliar to him. Then, I would stand off quietly and watch the anxiety set in as he tried to figure out where he was and what was going on.

Also, I was really intelligent as a child and knew that was my ticket to attention. When I would “help” my brother with his homework, I would teach him all the wrong answers, so that I could continue being the smarter sibling. Today, my brother is my best friend. He goes to college and lives by himself. He’s become one of the most intelligent men I’ve ever met. I’m trying to make it up to him now by being the best big sister ever, but I still feel so guilty at how I found him to be a burden when I was a kid.

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16. One Simple Mistake

I accidentally killed seven people.

I put a rag into a new water heater exhaust to keep debris out and installed it in a rental.

I get a call a week later, there’s been an accident. I show up and there’s a ton of EMS and police. They ask me where the gas shutoff is, and I go down to shut the gas off and see the end of the rag I forgot sticking out of the top of the heater.

Ripped the rag out, shut the gas off and head upstairs only to be told all the tenants were DEAD.

I drink all day now and sleep. It’s killing me from the inside every single day, but if I say anything my family is ruined; we have a bunch of rental properties and we’d be shut down.

Amgpu

17. Scared To Be Alone

I hate all of my friends. Literally. I don’t have anything in common with any of them, and don’t care. But I’m too scared to be alone and have no one else to go to so I keep hanging around with them.

british

18. School Shooting

I came very, very close to committing a school shooting

I was picked on A LOT in high school. I think it was because I tried so hard to be cool and everyone saw right through it. There were these 4 cowboy jock types that gave it to me the worst. After being publicly humiliated and beaten in front of a girl I liked (as she laughed/cheered), I decided that none of it was worth it anymore. I had no support at home being an only child and having parents that worked constantly, and cutting and burning myself didn’t make me feel better anymore. So I got my dad’s handgun out of the gun-safe (he uses the same combo for everything, the idiot) and brought it to school with me the next day.

I can’t adequately describe to you how ready I was to kill these four. I had absolutely no fear or doubt in my mind. I wanted nothing more than to show everyone what happens when you push someone over the edge like they did. I had the gun tucked in my waistline. I was wearing this baggy pair of cargo shorts that I wore a couple times a week that day. I remember walking towards the cowboy’s table, so goddamn ready for it to be over, when the gun fell out of my waistline, down my left short leg and made the loudest fucking sound as it hit the cafeteria floor. I tried my best to grab the gun real quick, but people saw what it was and screamed, and one of the instructors tackled me to the ground.

They eventually concluded that I had brought the gun to school to impress people with badassery, and had no intention of using it. I was expelled and sent to live at a youth ranch in Idaho until I was 18. I did have the intention of using it though. I was going to kill all of them. I’m 24 now, and I still think about it all the time. I have not recovered from high school. I’m still terrified of people in general, and avoid having relationships because of what I fear I’m capable of.

I’m not looking for pity. I know that what I did was wrong, it just feels good to tell the story.

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28 Signs He’s Actually Going To Stick Around After Sex, Because His Feelings For You Are Real

Posted: 05 Dec 2016 06:00 PM PST

Twenty20, Lilburd
Twenty20, Lilburd

1. He actually makes you orgasm, because he views you as more than just a toy to play with for the night.

2. He doesn’t pressure you into anything, because he knows you two will try anal and shower sex and bondage when the time is right.

3. He has serious conversations with you about birth control, so he knows if he should stock up on condoms or if you want to rely on the pill.

4. After sex is over, he asks you if you preferred one position over another, so he can tailor his performance to fit your needs in the future.

5. He brings an overnight bag, because he isn’t planning on running out the door as soon as sex is over.

6. When sex is over, he reaches for you, because he’s ready for a long cuddle session.

7. He doesn’t mind if foreplay lasts for an entire hour, because he actually enjoys making out with you and doesn’t feel the need to rush to the good part. With you, everything is the good part.

8. He brings you back to his (clean) apartment to have sex, instead of dragging you into a bar bathroom or a sketchy hotel room.

9. He kisses you on the lips, forehead, and cheeks just as often as he kisses you on the neck, stomach, and boobs.

10. He looks you in the eyes while he’s thrusting, because he loves you and your personality as much as he loves your body.

11. He makes sure he gets consent before you have sex, even if you’ve had sex before, because he knows you don’t owe him anything.

12. He does little things to set the mood, like lights a candle with your favorite scent or plays your favorite song.

13. Instead of calling you something generic like babe, he uses your name.

14. If you tell him you’re in pain, he’ll stop immediately.

15. In fact, if it even looks like you’re the slightest bit uncomfortable, he’ll ask you if you’re okay and if you want him to stop.

16. He doesn’t throw a fit when you turn down sex, because he genuinly enjoys your company.

17. He goes down on you and then goes on with his day, without expecting you to return the favor.

18. He makes the bed as comfortable as he can for you. If you complain about the pillows or sheets, he’ll buy new ones, just for you.

19. After sex is over with, he lets you walk around in his tee-shirts and boxers. He even lets you take them home with you.

20. He makes a point to kiss you on the moles and birthmarks that you’ve always hated.

21. He prefers positions where he’s able to look you in the eyes and lean down to kiss you on the lips.

22. When he sees you naked, he alternates between calling you sexy and beautiful.

23. He takes his time undressing you, because he wants to admire every piece of your body.

24. He doesn’t get disgusted when you try to kiss him right after a blowjob.

25. He doesn’t booty call you at the last second. He schedules dates with you in advance.

26. He pays attention to your moans, so he can figure out how you like to be touched.

27. He doesn’t feel like you owe him anything. When you wear lingerie or go down on him, he is genuinely appreciative.

28. He tells you that he loves you during sex, and again after sex to prove that he means it. TC mark

When You Fear No One Will Ever Make You Feel The Love He Did

Posted: 05 Dec 2016 05:00 PM PST

Luke Porter
Luke Porter

You probably never expected this. You probably feel like there is no one else that is going to make you feel the way they did. You probably feel so sad, so heartbroken, you can feel it in every part of your body. You probably feel like you will be able to accomplish nothing without them. You are allowed to feel this way. You are allowed to feel the grief and anguish associated with the dissolve of your relationship. Nevertheless, you should not allow it to guide your life.

You probably feel so angry with your now ex-partner
, that you want nothing but the same pain you are currently experiencing. You every right to feel this way. However, it is much harder to carry the burden of a negative emotion. You will have times of absolute anger and times of absolute loneliness. Do not forget this feeling because eventually, whether it takes one day or one month, this feeling will begin to dull and you yourself, will feel lighter. Hearing their name will not anger you the way it once did. And eventually you will be able to compare yourself now to yourself some time ago, and feel good about how far you have come.

You probably feel incredibly lonely.
You probably think back to the time you sang your favourite songs in the car and when you laughed so hard you couldn’t breathe. You probably think back to the way it felt to have your lips against theirs and the way you could hear their heartbeat when you had your head in just the right spot. You probably even think about all the wonderful things they did for you. Keep these memories close. Do not lose them. The brain works in a way where it is much easier to remember the bad memories instead of the wonderful ones.

Remember what made you want to be with this person.
Remember that first time you knew that the feeling you had for them, was mutual. Remember and mourn the friendship you were able to build. Remember how you absolutely crazy felt about them and what that led you to do. But also remember why despite all the good things shared between you, the relationship had to end. Remember how you felt leading up to that moment. Remember that this is a good thing. That this is a move towards greater things. Remember that you are not alone in this.

Remember that you are not the only person who can feel this confused about a person. Remember that there are others who you can lean on for advice and a listening ear. You can spend your evenings in a bathtub thinking about what went wrong, what you could have done to prevent this.

The truth is, there is nothing you could have done. You made choices that you felt were best for the situation, for the entirety of the relationship. You made choices that you felt were best for you because despite everything you feel – how alone you may feel – you still have you. You still have your family, friends and others in your life that want you to succeed. You still have the ability to create yourself, mould yourself into a better version. A version that can bring yourself happiness through your own trials and triumphs instead of someone else’s. A version that knows what is best for you and your future. A version that is truly happy without compromise.

Society says that you are only supposed to be sad for a short amount of time. That you should move on with your life just as your now ex partner has presumably done. Maybe they have moved on a bit too fast in your opinion. Maybe they’re with the person they swore they no longer had feelings for. Maybe it is a combination of the two. But maybe you are allowed to feel sad for as long as you need to. Maybe you don’t have to stay angry forever.

You can be happy for them. You can be happy for you and your life.
You can want what’s best for them even though you are no longer together and they hurt you. You can spend your whole life wondering “What if?”, or you can hope they find someone who can make them truly happy the same way you will one day. You can hope they find someone that is better for them in a relationship than you were.

Statistically, you will fall in love two to seven times before you finally find someone who you want to spend your life with. Whether this was your first heartbreak or your sixth, there will be someone who will make you feel the way they did. In fact they will make you feel better without modifying you and your values. They will be your best friend and your biggest supporter. They will help you reach your goals instead of inhibiting your ability to reach them. They will help you strive to do your best. They will make you feel unstoppable. TC mark

Since I Can’t Love You, I’ll Love What I Remember About You

Posted: 05 Dec 2016 04:00 PM PST

Nathan Walker
Nathan Walker

How do I say I want you back?

I mean, I left you. I broke your heart. I watched you suffer and I walked away. Really, I just wanted you to feel my pain. I wanted you to understand what it felt like for someone to choose something else instead of you. It's not that I wanted to hurt you, I just wanted you to be able to see my point of view.

How do I get you back? The thing is, for the first time, you don't want me back. I'd like to say I'm happy for you and all that other stuff that people say just to be nice, but what I really feel is regret. Now that I don't have you around I feel empty. Not empty like I can't go on, but empty like when I smile it never reaches my heart. When I laugh, there's still that sting. When I cry, I cry a lot more than I should.

You are always in my mind and I can't get you out. Everything reminds me of you and the worst part is that it's the stupid little things. Brownie brittle, a soccer ball, the mountains, my Hawaiian Islands birthmark. I remember being afraid the other day that I was on the verge of forgetting you so I closed my eyes and took a deep breath and conjured up your memory.

Wide fingers, hands dry from the winter wind, freckles lining your arms. I remembered touching the stubble on your cheek and how it would poke me when I kissed you. I could almost feel the way your hair felt under my hands; soft, a little dry, and a slight amount of oil that would linger on my fingertips. Then there were your eyes. Small and simple with wrinkles around your eyelids from squinting. They were green and when the light hit them it was like starring into green meadows.

I was so scared I was beginning to forget you that I traced every inch of you to brand it into my brain. Then the tears came, but they weren't the normal kind. They were the tears of reliving a beautiful glimpse in time.

I'm sure everyone gets tired of hearing about you. They give reasons for your actions and I always say "No, he's not like that." I refuse to believe you are like any other typical guy. I know you aren't. You love deeply and you mean what you say. When you care about someone you always will.

So every day I wonder if you've forgotten about me or if you don't love me anymore. But then I remember you, and I know that can't be true. Sure, you've moved on and lived your life, but I know you haven't forgotten me because I haven't lived a day without remembering you.

We both see other people and distract our minds by friends and responsibilities, but there's always that moment when I wonder where you are, what you're doing, how you feel. I know you do it too.

So how do I say I want you back? I don't have to. I'll always want you and deep down you already know that.

I hate accepting that we don't always get what we want. I hate knowing we may not ever be together again.

So tonight I'll love your memory since I can't love you. TC mark

Please Stop Chasing The Boy Who Can’t See Your Worth

Posted: 05 Dec 2016 03:01 PM PST

Ryann Flippo
Ryann Flippo

To the girl who won't move on, because she's afraid that there would be no one else, I beg of you, let go.

Stop chasing after a boy who can't see your worth
. He may have said all these beautiful things to you and maybe, at some point, there was a little truth in what he told you. But it's over now, and you can't keep clinging onto something that isn't there anymore. No, you can't keep asking him where it all went wrong, or what you did that sent him away. You have to understand that it isn't always your fault.

It's not that you're not beautiful or good enough for him.
It's not that he likes someone else. Maybe he was right when he told you that he was bound to disappoint you, he would end up hurting you more, because he wasn't ready to break down his own walls and let someone in. And you can't keep trying to trespass and save him, because you will only end up breaking yourself. And you did break yourself, and now you're struggling to put your pieces back together.

You can't keep on trading your happiness for his.
You deserve to be happy yourself. Stop listening to Ted Mosby say that love is when you care about someone beyond all rationality, no matter how much it destroys you. Giving up doesn't make it some other disposable thing. But you have know if it's still worth fighting for. And waiting for a boy can't even figure out what he really wants, who's afraid of letting someone see through him, who can't even say if he really did love you–maybe it's not worth fighting for anymore.

Maybe this is not love; this is self-torture. You shouldn't put all the blame on yourself. Maybe the only wrong thing you did was that you you waited far too long. You let yourself suffer far too much. Kill the fantasy of him that he would find his way back to your house with a blue french horn. Someone else is out there, and you will find him. Or he will find you. However it turns out, I'm sure that there will be someone else.

And let me tell you that this will not be your last heartbreak.
This will not be the last time you'll doubt your worth and cry every night because someone made you fall in love and then left you out in the cold. This probably won't even be the worst you'll have to deal with. But you're stronger than you think; you have to know that. You're better than the girl who chose a boy over herself. You may never forget, but you will get over this.

There is so much more to this life than this boy who broke your heart for the very first time.
You deserve someone certain of what he feels and is not afraid to let you know. You deserve someone who will make you realize that there is a right kind of love, the kind that won't have to to be too complicated, that kind that just makes you feel safe and complete. So please, for yourself, take the world's advice and move on.

Because giving up doesn't mean that what you felt wasn't real; it just means that you finally learned to choose yourself first, and is never a wrong thing. Someday, you'll find someone with a yellow umbrella, and in that moment you'll know, that moving on from your first heartache was one of the best decisions you've ever made. TC mark

Want To Travel The World? How To Become THAT Friend Who Understands Loyalty Programs

Posted: 05 Dec 2016 02:15 PM PST

When it comes to scratching the itch to travel, the choices—between destinations, airlines, and hotels—can be as overwhelming as the cost of your wanderlust. But the savviest travelers are in on a secret: There's a big advantage to being loyal. And it is super simple from the moment you join. We've partnered with Hilton HHonors to bring you insider tips on how to plan the trip of your dreams by booking directly and unlocking some truly amazing benefits. Below are seven smart ways to become that friend who just gets the upside to loyalty programs.

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1. Be smart from the start and book direct.

Where do you go in search of the best deals? Here's a tip: book directly. Third-party websites aren't always the money-saving answer you'd like them to be. More often than not, you'll get a better deal and a better experience if you book directly with the company whose services you seek. For example, when you book your stay directly with a hotel, you often open the doors to discounts you won't find anywhere else. Hotels chains like Hilton offer exclusive discounted rates of up to ten percent just for booking direct as a Hilton HHonors member. That means you'll have more money to spend on things like meals and entertainment once you arrive at your destination.

2. Do your pre-arrival research.

Nowadays, you can enjoy some truly cool perks that kick in before you even step foot on a plane. At certain rental car companies, loyalty members can have their pick of vehicle inventory using the app before they arrive. At hotels, loyalty members often get access to tons of helpful tools, like the Hilton HHonors app's digital floor plans, which let you start exploring the hotel where you'll be staying instantly—and even select your ideal room in advance. The more due diligence you do before landing, the more excited you'll get for your upcoming trip, and the better your stay will ultimately be.

3. Make your journey a destination in itself.

The perks of loyalty programs can make you feel like a king when you're on your way to your destination. For example, airline loyalty programs often provide their elite loyalty program members with access to a special airport lounge with comfortable chairs, charging stations, food, and drink where you can relax before boarding. VIP car rental programs typically make upgrading to a fancier vehicle way easier. If you're the type who loves an oceanside view, a balcony, or a cocktail waiting for you right on arrival – being a loyalty member can make it easier to turn your vision into reality. Want to pre-order a bottle of champagne and strawberries for your room to enjoy some bubbly and a fresh treat to kick-start your trip? Use the hotel's loyalty app.

4. Take advantage of technology only available to loyalty members.

Wi-Fi and GPS are the avid traveler's two best friends. Many loyalty members can get access to both, free of cost! For example, loyalty members on cruise ships are usually awarded free internet minutes so they can sign online to learn about exclusive offers and on-board get-togethers, and loyalty members at various hotel chains, like Hilton, receive free Wi-Fi for their stay. Hilton HHonors members also get access to the Hilton HHonors app for functions like Digital Key, which lets your smartphone serve as your keycard, or new features like Fun Finder, which invites you to find out what's happening at the hotel through real-time push notifications, whether you're really into surfing or you need to unwind with a massage.

Check out this video of travel experts and YouTube stars Simon + Martina testing Fun Finder at Hilton Hawaiian Village.

5. Savor experiences that will make your friends jealous.

It's easier for loyalty program members to make each trip their own, as many such programs offer members easy access to one-of-a-kind experiences. Want to take a hot-air balloon ride over the Spanish Pyrenees or have dinner with the Barenaked Ladies during your next trip? Redeem the Points you earn for premium merchandise, free nights, and unique experiences you can't find elsewhere.

6. Touch base with local experts during your stay.

Don't worry about flipping through a directory to find the right number, or swinging by the front desk to request extra towels or pillows. Loyalty program members often get instant access to helpful employees who can quickly answer their questions. On cruises, for example, a special hostess with knowledge of every locale you visit is often available to help make loyalty members' trips that much more enjoyable. If you're more of the hotel vacation type, you can use the Hilton HHonors app's real-time chat feature to ask questions about everything from pool hours to the nearest ATM, or use the app's Uber Local Scene feature for recommendations of the best restaurants and nightlife venues, chosen based on their frequency with Uber riders. There's a host of employees right at your fingertips with all the answers you're seeking. TC mark

This Post Is Brought To You By Hilton.

10 Things Only A Girl Who’s Still Healing Will Understand

Posted: 05 Dec 2016 02:00 PM PST

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1. You like to spend time alone.

You like to be by yourself most of the time because you're still trying to figure a lot things out; you, your life, your friends, your emotions, your purpose and sometimes distractions or being around a large group of people can really confuse you and give you anxiety.

2. You're scared of attachment.

You settled for the comfort of being by yourself, you don't approach people unless they do and you're always very careful and guarded because you think people will eventually leave.

3. You crave love but you won't go searching for it.

You miss having a companion, you miss having a partner but you also know that you can't give your heart to someone else when it's broken and you're still working on mending it.

4. The smallest thing can provoke you.

It's like you're looking for an excuse to get mad or find a reason to vent, one little thing can erupt the volcano inside you because you've probably been carrying it around for a while waiting for a reason to let it all out.

5. You're afraid of giving love.

You have a lot of love stored in your heart but you're afraid of giving it to the wrong person again, you're afraid of taking a chance because if one more person takes your love for granted, you might just give up on it.

6. You feel that you need to run away.

When you're hurting, you're easily overwhelmed or stressed out and you don't always know how to deal with more than you can handle, which is why you always feel the urge to just run away and unwind somewhere far without any duties or responsibilities.

7. You cry for no reason.

It could hit you in the middle of a meeting or when you're out with your friends, you just can't control it but you understand where it's coming from.

8. You can’t remember the last time you were truly happy.

Happiness is now foreign to you, it feels like it’s been so long since you’ve felt truly happy or really smiled from your heart. All you can remember is your pain.

9. You stopped making an effort with people.

Sometimes when you’re still healing, you really forget that there’s a world that exists outside because you’re so focused on what’s happening inside. You can go weeks without talking to your friends or family and forget important occasions.

10. You know that it's a tough journey but it will end.

You know that it's going to be a bumpy ride, you'll struggle to enjoy the simple things in life but you know that it's all part of the equation because healing takes time and soon you will find the strength to heal and overcome the pain you’re going through.  TC mark

Rania Naim is a poet and the author of the book All The Words I Should Have Said.

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All The Words I Should Have Said is available as a physical and electronic book. You can buy it here

The Internet Is Freaking Out Over This Mom’s HILARIOUS Snapchat Rant About Retail

Posted: 05 Dec 2016 01:33 PM PST

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Flickr / Mike Kalasnik

Some things in the world are just a little too relatable.

During the holidays we all should expect to wait in long lines for shopping, but sometimes when the line is going unnecessarily slow we begin to lose it.

This mom recorded a snapchat story about how she was forced to wait for a customer to ask every single f*cking question under the sun before she could check out.

No matter what store it is, people seem determined to be as slow as possible. TC mark

10 Essential Dog Products You Didn’t Even Know Existed

Posted: 05 Dec 2016 01:15 PM PST

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Looking for an excuse to spoil your dog rotten this holiday season? Show your furry friend how much you love them and check out these ten amazing accessories you never knew you had to have.

1. Get the games started with a tennis ball launcher.

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Dogs love only two things more than they love you: playing fetch and food. With this tennis ball launcher, you can keep your dog occupied for hours…well, at least until dinnertime!

2. Keep your best friend cozy with adorable pajamas.

 
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With the holidays coming up and winter fast approaching, your cute canine deserves to be spoiled with cozy attire that they can relax in. Trust me, your dog will be forever grateful.

3. 'It's been a hard day’s night'.

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Treat your furry friend to the best sleep of their lives with a teepee tent. Not only will your dog adore it, it'll look fabulous in your home too.

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