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This Girl Pranked Her Mom By Texting Her That She Hit Someone, And The Mom’s Response Was Surprising

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 08:15 PM PST

Matthew Henry
Matthew Henry

Sometimes it’s really funny to mess with our parents, right? But maybe this prank went a little too far…

@IamVinnieF was bragging on Twitter about how his sister pranked his mom. Apparently she texted her mom, frantically, telling her about how she accidentally ran over a guy with her car. How the mom reacted, is well, certainly interesting…

But just look at the text convo yourself:

via Twitter
via Twitter

The mom immediately wanted to help her daughter cover-up the crime, desperate to make sure she didn’t go to jail at any cost. She planned on switching cars and everything!

This prank seems to have inspired other people on Twitter to try to do the same thing to their mothers.

Some of which didn’t turn out nearly as funny as the original attempt:

Maybe don’t try this one at home? TC mark

11 Shitty Things Men Do When They Want To Sleep With You, But Don’t Want To Date You

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 08:00 PM PST

Twenty20, LariStreule
Twenty20, LariStreule

1. They’ll try to convince you that you’re being unreasonable with your emotions. That you’re clingy for wanting attention after sex. That you’re desperate for wanting more than a one-night stand. That you’re crazy for assuming he was your boyfriend when he was obviously just a hookup.

2. They’ll have a bizarre set of rules they expect you to follow. You can make-out with them in front of their friends, but not in front of strangers. You can cuddle after sex, but you can’t hold hands. They’re trying to avoid getting too intimate in the weirdest way possible.

3. They won’t come right out and say that they want to date you, because then they’d be trapped with you, but they’ll lead you to believe that you’re the only girl for them. They’ll convince you they’re interested by the way they look at you and snuggle up to you.

4. They’ll exaggerate when they tell the story of how they got screwed over by an ex in the past. They’ll use their baggage as an excuse to treat you like crap.

5. They’ll constantly ask you if you’re okay with your casual relationship. They know you secretly aren’t, but they want you to lie and say that you are, so that they can claim ignorance when you complain about them breaking your heart. So that they can feel like they’ve done nothing wrong. 

6. They’ll tell you that they don’t believe in labels. That they just got out of a bad relationship. That they’re not in the right frame of mind to date. They’ll try to convince you that you deserve better in a boyfriend.

7. They’ll treat you like a princess in person (or when it’s late at night and they’re begging you to stop by), but at any other time, they’ll ignore your texts and claim they’re too busy to chat. They’ll only see you on their terms.

8. They’ll make every conversation about how attractive you are and how they’re dying to rip your clothes off. If you start to talk about anything real with them, then they’ll freak out and change the subject.

9. They’ll talk about other girls — or actually flirt with other girls — right in front of you. They want you to see it. They want you to know all of the moments you’ve been replaying before you fell asleep meant absolutely nothing to them.

10. After you have a truly intimate moment, one that has nothing to do with sex, they’ll blink and then act like nothing happened. And they’ll never bring it up again.

11. They’ll make you believe that you stand a real chance with them, that they’re the person you’ve been searching for, and once they get you out of your dress, they’ll leave you behind without an ounce of guilt. They won’t even realize how badly they’ve broken your heart. They’ll assume what they’ve done was harmless. TC mark

Ranking The Women On This Season Of ‘The Bachelor’ By How Depressing They Seem

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 07:20 PM PST

Astrid

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Astrid has a feather tattoo AND an infinity symbol on her wrist. She’s also most afraid of “getting old and wrinkly.” (Note to Astrid: this is the kind of fear you can avoid by developing what’s called ‘a personality’).

Elizabeth

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Elizabeth’s dream is for her kids to go to the same high school she did, which is officially the saddest dream I have ever heard.

Sarah

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Sarah is a grade school teacher from Newport Beach. I haven’t heard her speak yet but you just know she’s going to have a teeny tiny baby voice. She’s this season’s Amanda.

Jaimi

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Jaimi is a chef who doesn’t eat meat, which immediately ruins all the cool things about dating a chef. She has a very cringey “heart-shaped grenade” tattoo on her lower back. She also dumped someone because he sang her a song at a restaurant, so I’m not really sure what show she thinks she signed up for, but she probably isn’t going to like this one.

Alexis

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Alexis’ occupation is ‘aspiring dolphin trainer’ which, me too obviously, but she’s 23 so… I don’t know if aspirational counts at this point. She moved to Miami alone, which is cool, but of 5 things she “can’t live without” two are whitening strips and fake eyelashes which is so, so, so depressing.

Angela

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Angela is a model from the south who loves her mom and wants to be married with at least one kid in the next 5 years. She is a cardboard cutout of a girl who is a contestant on The Bachelor.

Josephine

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Josephine is an unemployed nurse, which seems… extremely hard?

Kristina

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Kristina wants to know if her bio mom’s ‘decision’ to ‘choose’ alcohol over her was worth it. Which is just… a lot for a Bachelor contestant profile.

Dominique

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Dominique is a 25-year-old restaurant server living in Los Angeles, like every single other woman living in Los Angeles. She really wants to get Chipotle with Leo DiCaprio and Jesus.

Briana

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Briana is a surgical nurse who moved to Utah on purpose. She doesn’t seem quite as bland as the other girls, but the fact that this bar is breathtakingly low is what keeps her on the bleak side of the spectrum.

Susannah

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Susannah is an account manager living in San Diego. She idolizes Chrissy Tiegan and Ariel (the little mermaid). Seems legit.

Brittany

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Brittany is a travel nurse who wants to get married in the next five years and work in a hospital. She hates when men are rude to servers at a restaurant, so that’s a good sign?

Liz

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Liz is a doula, so hopefully she gets in interesting fights with people about bored rich women having home births in an era when you can actually just go to a hospital and have a medically trained doctor do that for you.

Danielle L

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Danielle has two butterfly tattoos.

Danielle M

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Danielle is destined to get air time this season because her fiance passed away, which is Chris Harrison’s plotline wet dream. Remember how much he fawned over Emily? Please do this in a remotely tasteful way ABC…

Jasmine B

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

I was really torn on where to place Jasmine. I immediately liked her because she’s very beautiful and seems interesting, but at the end she starts talking about her past relationships and the responses make her seem really immature. She was engaged once but “he ended up proving he doesn’t deserve my greatness.”

Vanessa

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Vanessa is Andi Dorfman’s doppleganger.

Olivia

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Olivia works in sales and lives in Nashville. She was the kicker on her high school football team, which is really cool.

Rachel

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Rachel is an attorney from the south, which we know is something Nick is definitely into (Andi). She loves Michelle Obama and Justin Bieber which, me too bb. Me too.

Hailey

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

I’m placing Hailey down here because she’s not a cookie-cutter contestant. She doesn’t consider herself to be romantic, traveled to China to build schools, and her favorite musician is Sheryl Crow. Maybe this unconventional contestant is right for an unconventional bachelor?

Ida Marie

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Ida Marie thinks strawberries are ‘sexual’ and loves eating Cheetohs and pickles (together). She might actually be dumb, or she might just be really quirky and fun to watch.

Taylor

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

I love Taylor sfm because for ‘favorite designer’ she put ‘Forever 21’.

Raven

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Raven owns a fashion boutique in Arkansas and seems legitimately cool and down to earth.

Lauren

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Lauren seems cool enough, she has a law degree and good values, but she self-describes as a “country person” which I don’t think Nick sees himself as.

Whitney

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Whitney is a leggy pilates instructor from Minnesota. I feel like Nick is going to fall over himself to get to know her.

Lacey

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Lacey is a marketing manager who lives in NYC and speak arabic. It doesn’t seem like Lacey will go far on this show, which is a compliment to her.

Christen

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Christen looks like an Andi/Kaitlyn hybrid, so it seems like she’d have a really good chance with Nick??? She loves Katniss Everdeen and Jesus (which, I think Nick is kind of opposed to because he thinks it’s not a smart person thing). In any case, she will be exciting to watch.

Jasmine G

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

I laughed at Jasmine’s profile because she describes herself as the female Guy Fieri, which is just… super bold to identify with someone so universally hated. But he does have a sweet gig, and she’s right that the show would be much more endearing and watchable with a spunky female host.

Corrine

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Corrine has Smiling Bitchface Syndrome which, honestly, I’ve never encountered before. She owns her own online business which allows her to travel (this is a subtweet to Nick). It seems like she will be fun to watch if she makes it far.

Michelle

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Michelle owns a food truck which is cool as hell. TC mark

8 Signs You Should Probably Break Up With Him Already

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 07:00 PM PST

@willduncan
@willduncan

1. He plays victim.

When he tries to make you feel bad for calling out his wrong-doings, he’s manipulating you into thinking his wrong-doings aren’t wrong. Everyone has different limitations and everyone expects different things from a relationship, but he should know your limits and your expectations, and he should never make you feel badly for attempting to communicate when he doesn’t meet them. Whether you’re over-reacting or not, communicating your feelings is healthy, no one should feel or play the victim.

2. You feel judgement more than you feel comfort.

Your partner should be the one person you feel won’t judge you, and even when they do, it’s the type of judgement that looks out for your well-being, the type of judgement that says, ‘Hey, you’re doing something stupid, but I’m trying to help you because I love you.’ Healthy judgement is the kind that attempts to build you up, not break you down. Your boyfriend should never judge you in a way that makes you feel small. You should feel the comfort that allows you to be yourself when he’s around.

3. You filter or attempt to change yourself.

Whether you try to change your physical appearance or your personality, you shouldn’t be doing it to please him. He should love you for who you are, don’t try to become the person you think he wants you to be, because not even that would be good enough for him. If he doesn’t love the person you are, whether it’s your hair color, or the thoughts that live inside that beautiful mind of yours, find someone who does, because they’re out there.

4. You feel like you’ve compromised your life significantly more than he has for this relationship.

You shouldn’t be thinking of your relationship in terms of everything you’ve given up just so you can be with him, because any sacrifices or compromises you do make should automatically feel and be worth it. When you’re comparing the things each of you has given up to be with one another, you’re seeing your relationship more as an obligation than something you enjoy taking part in. You have every right to enjoy the person you share significant amounts of your life with, why waste it with someone you don’t?

5. You’re only with him because you’re scared to be alone.

Don’t fear a life without him, fear the unhappiness you’ll experience when you continue to stay with someone you know you shouldn’t. You deserve happiness, and you might find it more easily on your own.

6. You attempt to make your relationship seem or sound happier than it actually is.

When your friends ask about your relationship and you only tell them the ‘good’ parts, you’re not only trying to justify your unhappiness, but your avoiding the truth you know they’re going to tell you, which is to end the relationship. Your friends are there to help, they’re not going to judge the imperfections of your relationship or judge the fact that you’re allowing an unhealthy relationship to continue. They want you to be happy, and you need to accept their help, even if it hurts.

7. You’ve forgotten about your happiness in efforts to maintain his.

Relationships certainly aren’t effortless, but you shouldn’t have to move mountains to make your partner happy. Happiness is something you two should maintain together. Your happiness should make them happy, and vice versa. When your partner exhausts you, they’re also exhausting your ability to recognize you’re not happy.

8. You feel diminished, not supported.

Your partner shouldn’t hold you back, they should push you forward. They shouldn’t be the reason you feel stuck or your growth stunted. Everyone is going to tell you that you deserve more, that you deserve to be with someone who allows you to grow, but the truth is, you’re never going to grow if you’re scared of moving forward, even if you do deserve it. Don’t be afraid to end the cause of your unhappiness. Don’t be afraid to end the one thing that’s keeping you from being your best-self, even if it is your relationship. Don’t let a relationship diminish who you are. Break up with him already. TC mark

You’re Not A Real College Student Until You Do These 35 Naughty Things

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 06:00 PM PST

Twenty20, hellokristine
Twenty20, hellokristine

1. Flirt with your hottest professor (or at least with his teaching assistant).

2. Become friends with someone that makes you question your sexuality.

3. Send super hot sexts to keep yourself entertained while you’re sitting in a boring class.

4. Dye your hair purple, get a nipple piercing, or make another change that will make you feel insanely sexy.

5. Hook up with a foreign exchange student. Or really, anyone with an accent.

6. Go on a walk of shame that makes you feel shameless.

7. Make the first move on that hot guy that you’ve been staring at all semester.

8. Buy a sex toy you can use to relax when the stress of schoolwork gets too heavy.

9. Take sexy Snapchats of yourself and send them out to any boys you deem worthy.

10. Do a body shot off of someone.

11. Let someone do a body shot off of you.

12. Go skinny dipping in a pool or the nearest lake.

13. Have a one-night stand with someone, even though they’re in one of your classes, and you’ll have to deal with the awkwardness all semester long.

14. Have sex inside of an empty classroom.

15. Dress in  the sluttiest costume you can find on Halloween.

16. Sleep with the type of person that you never would’ve looked at twice in high school.

17. Skip one of your classes to make out with the guy that’s been sitting next to you all year.

18. Have sex in a stranger’s dorm room during a party.

19. Kiss another girl.

20. Hook up with someone way out of your league.

21. Attend a paint party, a toga party, or any other type of party where you get to show up half-naked.

22. Find a friend with benefits, even if your relationship only lasts for a few weeks.

23. Convince a hot guy to buy you a drink, so you don’t end up wasting all of your own money.

24. Have a threesome with two people that you’re never going to see again.

25. Flash someone.

26. Make out with someone in the library, while being as quiet as you can.

27. Hang a sock on the door while you’re having sex, so everyone knows that you’re getting laid.

28. Have sex with someone while you’re actually sober.

29. Netflix and chill.

30. Have sex that’s so loud your roommate complains.

31. Make out with a complete stranger at a party.

32. Act as your roommate’s wingman and help get them laid.

33. Go out with someone you met on Tinder.

34. Have sex in the middle of the football field (or at least underneath the bleachers).

35. Have sex with someone you actually want to cuddle with in the morning. TC mark

Here’s The Bitter Truth About Unrequited Love

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 05:00 PM PST

Look Catalog
Look Catalog

It’s not real love.

And I know, I know! Some of you are shaking your fists and telling me I don’t understand. The way you feel is SO real. Absolutely. 100%. You can feel it in every fiber of your being. How dare anyone tell you this isn’t real love? You just know it.

I get it.

I’ve said the same damn thing.

I’ve done everything short of preparing a PowerPoint presentation to prove, YES, this is love. Obviously, I’m in love.

Real love, though? I’m talking unconditional, safe, wonderful, ever growing love? That’s a two-way street. There’s no way it can blossom into its full potential if only one person shows up to tend to it.

When someone doesn’t return affection, the chance at love stops right there. It wilts into something else. Something that can feel just as powerful as love. And that, my friends, is infatuation.

At the height of both my greatest love and maddest infatuation, I found many similarities. So much so, I finally understood why it’s so easy to mix these two up. They’re related.

Infatuation springs up when love is shot down.

Infatuation is what happens when your ego and heart enter a bar fight. Shame hides out in the corner, waiting for it to all be over soon. Unrequited love sits idly by, snickering.

I’m not downplaying how difficult and painful loving someone who doesn’t love you back can be. It’s torturous. I wouldn’t wish it upon my worst enemy – if I had any.

The unrequited know how horribly gutting an experience it can be. It will break one day, expose every insecurity, every veiny vulnerability.

But you need to remember, this is not love.

Not to say you don’t care. Not to say what you feel is somehow less important or valid. Not to say you aren’t allowed to grieve and hurt and mourn for what you hoped would be.

When love is real, it will kiss you back. It won’t leave you questioning your own worth.

When love is real, you won’t have to beg it to stay. It just will. It’ll stay.

So no, unrequited love isn’t real love. It’s dirty, unreliable infatuation. We’ve all been there. Maybe it’s a rite of passage. Who knows?

But eventually, love will bloom. And you’ll finally see what I mean.

Unrequited is not the same thing. TC mark

Ari Eastman is a poet and the author of the book Bloodline.

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Fuck Your Fear Of Love, Go For It

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 04:00 PM PST

@tarkoffn
Alex O’Brien

Don’t fear tomorrow when it comes to love. Whatever your fears are founded on, wherever they’re coming from, realize that love is something you’re lucky to have, no matter how long it lasts.

Understand that so many people search endlessly for it, so many people literally live their lives with the intention of finding it, and the ones who never do are sometimes too distracted to see that they already have it, that their life is so full of love they’re practically swimming in it.

But for those who do have it, for those who know they’ve found love, for those who feel it, please don’t let the fear of tomorrow blind you to the beauty of today.

Don’t let it diminish the happiness you’ve found, the happiness you’ve been so willing to share with one special person. Don’t let it sneak up in the moments you look at him and smile simply because he’s there. Don’t let it steal one second of belly laughs that his weird jokes provoke. Don’t let it hinder the way you’re excited each morning because you know your day will be spent with him. Don’t let it interrupt the way he makes you feel a little less alone.

Don’t let the fear of tomorrow intervene with love.

Because what you have is special and rare, and this is why you’re so afraid of losing it. You’re scared that the love you have won’t last, because how could something that feels so good continue to do so? But it can, and it will, if only you stop becoming victim to your own unease.

Your fears only thrive from the thoughts you continue to feed them, so cut them off, break all ties, stop the supply.

Because your fears are little insignificant whispers amongst a crowded room of noise, and they’ll trick you into thinking they’re much louder than they actually are, but know that you have the capability to quiet them, and you always will.

You can’t control how long this love will last, but you can control your fear of losing it. You can fight the fear of losing it.

Love is scary, but usually the things in life that don’t scare you don’t change you. They don’t allow you to grow, or learn. They don’t allow you to mess up. And you will mess up, especially in love, but the mess ups lead you to where you are today, and they mysteriously guide you long after they’ve already happened. And that’s a good thing, a very good thing, because messing up means you did the one thing that every one else was too scared to do, you tried

There is a love that is meant to change you, and fear only prevents it from happening. Fuck the fear of love. Feel every feeling, follow every intuition, every passion and interest, every curiosity. Live in love with all senses present, ready, and open. Live in love without fear. TC mark

Please Remember: When They Go Low, We Go High

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 03:30 PM PST

Zara Walker
Zara Walker

My Grandma’s words rang true when she said to me: “Trump has unleashed a wave of hate which needs to be overcome with as much goodwill as we can muster. Now we can only hope that Trump will understand the heavy burden placed on his shoulders of being president, and bring healing to this country.”

Right now many people are bitter and many people are fearful. Many people are weary about what to expect in the upcoming four years. Many of my sister's 2nd grade students in Phoenix are children of mothers and fathers who are not citizens. These little children are terrified of where they are going to go, or if their parents will leave them. Trump has instilled fear and worry into the minds of 8 year olds, of innocent young children.

He, and half of the nation, have made these children feel as though they don't belong, as though they are not welcome here.

We need to support these children, and all of the children and people who feel as though they are no longer accepted. We need to lean on each other, and heal together. This election has led to so much heart break and disappointment. It has hurt millions of people, leaving many feeling isolated and scared. We have suffered a loss of what could've been. A loss of what should've been.

Although it feels easy to slide into feelings of hatred and accusations, we must rise above hatred, and focus instead on healing. If we hate too, we are only further igniting the fire. We must overcome hate by spreading as much kindness and as much love as our broken hearts can muster up. We must rise higher, and be bigger and better people, to defy the hate that has temporarily cast a shadow over our country.

We must show these 2nd graders that they are welcome here, that we are not tolerant of discrimination. We need to teach all of our children that they deserve love and respect. We need to tell them that the country is against them because the country is scared – nothing more.

We need them to know that bigotry is not something that we can accept.

Fight back for what you believe in, but fight with dignity and compassion – fight with kind words and meaningful actions. We will not get through this without people speaking up – without people sharing their thoughts and beliefs. We are a democracy first – and this means that we all have voices. Though right now we may feel as though our voices were not heard, we should not sit back for the next 4 years in defeat. We should stand up for what we believe in, and come together with other peace-spreaders and kindhearted people.

We must encourage people to speak up and to stand up for themselves and for each other, against any harmful or hurtful words. We have to remember that silence is not enough. We need to speak up, such that we can show our new president that we are much stronger than the hatred he has unleashed, and much stronger than the divisions he has created.

For the sake of humanity, we must replace fear with love. Love can outweigh everything.

We must teach our new President what love is, through our everyday actions. We cannot sit on the sidelines and hope for the best. Instead, we must be the best. We have to actively accept all people as who they are, and respect them for this. We have to act against discrimination, and speak up when discrimination is present. If we can show what love is, what love feels like, then love has to win.

Love is much lighter than hate. Love is much easier than hate. Love is what this country is built on – and it is our responsibility to show both our leader, and the world, that we are still a country of love.

America is a beautiful melting pot. This America, the America we know and love, is built on diversity.

It is built on acceptance, and on the celebration of difference. This America cannot be lost overnight. It cannot be overthrown. This America is still within all of us, and cannot be taken away, no matter who is president. Because we are greater than this. We are better than this. We are people who love, cherish, and respect one another. Our America is an America worth fighting for.

Stand up for each other and love each other. Let's come together and overpower the hate.

In the words of Michelle Obama, “When they go low, we go high.” TC mark

18 Perpetually Single Guys Reveal Why They Refuse To Settle Down

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 03:01 PM PST

daphneemarie
daphneemarie

1. "Timing honestly is a real factor. I don't care what quote you read or movie line you hear, it actually matters. I once really liked this girl, but she already had plans to move away after college so I decided it wasn't worth it because the timing wasn't right." –Blake, 22

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2. "I haven't met anyone who makes me think, wow I can finally see a future with her." –Dillon, 33

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3. "I'm not ready for the responsibility of sharing a life with someone just yet. I have to figure out my own shit before I go trying to deal with someone else's too. I want to be stable first." –Jonathan, 24

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4. "I have trust issues. I just don't think I can settle down with just anyone, it's easier to not get feelings involved and be honest up front that this isn't going to go anywhere." –Chris, 27

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5. "I like my freedom way to much to settle down. I want to go out with my friends and get drunk. If I don't make it home then I don't make it home. I don't want someone calling me asking where I am and what I'm doing. I'm not ready for that." –Dom, 23

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6. "I’m scared to get hurt." –Brad, 25

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7. "I'm honestly just not ready. I haven't found someone who makes being in a relationship better than being single, so for now I'm just doing my own thing." –Jimmy, 29

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8. "There is no chance I'm ready to settle down yet because I can still go out and come home with a hot girl, as frequently or infrequently as I want and that's awesome to me." –Robbie, 23

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9. "Most girls are too needy that I've tried to have something serious with, I have a lot invested into my career right now and I just don't think I can give a girl the kind of attention she needs." –Zach, 28

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10. "I'm ready to settle down, but I have yet to find someone to settle down with." –Mark, 31

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11. "I'm really just not ready for a relationship. I might want a girl, but that doesn't mean I'm ready to give up the option of having three other potential girls, too. It's just not where I'm at yet in the romance world." –Eden, 24

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12. "There is a girl I'm really into right now that I would commit too, but she's got too many of her own issues to work on before I'd commit to her. So right now I'm just slowly waiting, but that's not to say someone else won't come along." –Keegan, 22

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13. "A lot of girls don't actually need you to commit. Sometimes she will threaten me with an ultimatum, but it doesn't work because I know she wont leave. I don't want the title, but I do like hanging out with her. I'm just not ready for a relationship." –Justin, 29

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14. “I found someone, but she wanted to travel and didn’t want to be tied down. I miss her, but because of her I’m living my best life full of freedom and adventures, and I wouldn’t change a thing.” –David, 26

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15. "I'm actually completely happy with my life right now and I'm not ready to add someone to my life and potentially ruin what I've got going." –Brandon, 26

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16. "OK, well I could give you a long list of reasons or excuses as to why I won't commit, but the reality is no matter what excuse I give you it's the I just don't want to commit. I don't want a relationship and I don't think that will change until I meet someone who I can actually see a future with." –Tim, 27

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17. “I found the girl I wanted to spend forever with already, but she had different plans. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to love anyone the way I love her.” –Kevin, 28

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14. "I actually had a really bad experience with my last relationship and I'm not sure I'm ready for that again, but time will tell." –Marco, 32 TC mark

14 Guys On The Brutally Honest Reason Why They Never Tried To Win Back Their Ex

Posted: 07 Dec 2016 02:00 PM PST

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1. “I was just so emotionally exhausted from the relationship and the constant fighting that I couldn’t even figure out if I missed her. The peacefulness felt so good that I just left it alone.”

–Darin, 25


2. “We have all the same friends and even though the breakup was ‘mutual’ it still felt like it was more so instigated on her part. My pride and self-esteem has taken a serious beating and I honestly don’t know if I could muster getting rejected by her a second time, especially when I already feel like half my friends can no longer look at me without pity on their faces.”

–Wes, 27


3. “She is not an emotionally sympathetic or supportive person, she made me miserable, and I didn’t realize it (even though my friends did) until I had had a month away from her. Not going back.”

–Marc, 24


4. “We both said we weren’t looking for anything serious, but eventually I was the one to really ‘fall’ first and then bare my feelings to him and then tell him I wanted to be with him. So even though he eventually said he wanted to be with me too, he was also the one to break things off a few weeks ago and I got tired of feeling like I was begging him to be with me.”

–Jared, 31


5. “I’m stubborn. And I haven’t figured out a way to fix myself yet.”

–Vinny, 29


6. “I did try. We were on-again-off-again God knows how many times, and every time, I was always the one to suck up my pride and tell her I wanted her back. But this final time was enough for me so I haven’t spoken to her for three months. I’m still feeling shitty and missing her a lot, but at least I have some of my self respect back.”

–Wade, 26


7. “She broke my heart and even if I wanted her back, I’m not sure I could think of her without feeling pain and a shit ton of anxiety.”

–Jon, 23


8. “To be frank, I had been looking for a way out of the relationship for a long time but was too scared to cut it off and be responsible for causing her pain. I should have just manned up, but she eventually broke it off with me and I think she expected me to chase after her, but I just let it be and never return her calls when she reached out again a few days later. It was a coward move but I’m so happy to not be with her anymore that I don’t care.”

–Daniel, 28


9. “I’m tired. I’m just really, really tired from it.”

–Jerome, 27


10. “Because I cheated on her and I feel like I don’t have a right to beg her to take me back, even if I wanted to. (I do want to.)”

–Evan, 25


11. “I’m having a lot more fun on my own again than I thought I would. Not just the stereotypical ‘going out with the bros’ thing. But I’m really enjoying having my weekends free, going on dates, having a whole bed to myself. She wasn’t even high-maintenance, she was chill. But I kind of got more dependent on her than I realized.”

–Nathan, 26


12. “I’m too angry and blindsided to try to win her back. One day I thought we were happy, I was getting ready to buy a ring, and she dumped me, over the phone, out of left field, and couldn’t give a reason other than that she was just not feeling the same anymore.”

–Arch, 30


13. “She told me not to. And the look in her eye told me she was 100% serious.”

–Jake, 22


14. “I didn’t think I’d make it through the breakup the first time around. If I tried to win her back and she turned me down, I don’t think I could deal with it all over again.”

–Mikey, 26 TC mark