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Here’s All The Pissed Trump Voters Who Are Shocked That He Might Take Away Their Healthcare

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 09:36 PM PST

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In the last election there was a ton of confusion over President-elect Donald Trump’s actual policies. We were told to take him “seriously” but not “literally” (LOL) which is apparently leading to some pretty messed up outcomes.

In addition, this confusion was not helped by the presence of “fake news” that invented and proliferated the craziest conspiracy theories about Hillary Clinton, and the Russian government who aided Wikileaks in acquiring emails stolen from the DNC and Clinton surrogates.

As a result, many people — even those who supported Donald Trump — were completely unaware that he wanted to repeal the Affordable Care Act. Indeed, many didn’t even realize that “Obamacare” and the Affordable Care Act were exactly the same thing.

Here are some of those people who voted for Trump, but now feel betrayed that he is going to repeal Obamacare:

It’s sincerely very unfortunate that these people who supported Donald Trump are now surprised that they may be losing their health insurance.

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HOWEVER, we all should’ve known better. This is something that Donald Trump promised to do, and here at least, he seems to intend on keeping his promise. TC mark

Update: One tweet was removed as it appeared to come from a user who did not truly support Donald Trump.

10 Ways To Make Him Hard With Your Words (Without Sending A Single Nude)

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 08:00 PM PST

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1. If you’ve never sexted with him before, you should ease into it. Don’t start by telling him how badly you want him inside of you. Start with subtle comments about how you’re just stepping out of the shower or how you’re taking your clothes off and getting into bed. Make him imagine your naked body.

2. After that, if he isn’t the one to take the conversation in a sexual direction (which he probably will), then push things a little further by telling him you wish he was with you. In bed with you. In the shower with you. Wherever. Make it clear that you miss him.

3. If he comments on how he also wishes he was there or asks why you want him there, be blunt. Tell him you’re horny. It gets the point across. It gets the two of you on the same page. You won’t have to beat around the bush anymore.

4. If he changes the subject after you admit you’re turned on, he’s not interested in you and you can kiss your chances with him goodbye. But if he asks questions about what exactly you want to be doing with him, it’s a green flag. Prepare to get super sexual, because he wants your body as badly as you want his.

5. Sexting isn’t as hard as you think. Just type what’s on your mind. Do you want him to kiss your neck? Take your shirt off? Give you a back massage? Whatever you’re fantasizing about, let him know.

6. After you mention one or two things, he’s probably going to say something like, “And then what?” You can start to weave a story, but whatever you do, don’t finish it.

7. Ask him to participate. Sex shouldn’t be one-sided and neither should sexting. After you message him about how you want to touch him, ask him how he wants to touch you. Or get specific and ask him what position he wants you in or what he wants you to be wearing.

8. If you’re not great at the whole story-telling thing, then you don’t have to make up a sexual scenario. You can remind him of the last time you two hooked up and list out the things you liked about it.

9. Or, if you’ve never hooked up before, you can let him know that you’re touching yourself — and be specific about where you’re touching and what movements you’re making. This helps in two ways. One, it’ll make him rock hard. Two, when you do sleep with him, he’ll already know where you like to be touched, which means there’s a good chance you’ll get an orgasm.

10. If you really want to throw some inappropriate photos into the conversation, go ahead. If you fully trust him, you might as well flaunt your body. But you don’t have to. You can paint a picture with your words. You can make him hard without showing any skin. TC mark

22 Non-Sexual Skills That Predict How Good In Bed You Are

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 07:00 PM PST

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These insights brought to you by the sex experts on R/AskReddit

1. Good at massage

2. Knot tying

3. Magic tricks

4. Empathy

5. Knowing how to pet a cat. Cats, like people, are pretty picky about how they like to be touched!

6. Dancing

7. Power cleans

8. Piano playing

9. Ability to eat a banana in one mouthful

10. The ability to listen and to actually pay attention

11. Being able to cook well or to dance well

12. Being able to do something that requires fine motor skills, like sculpting

13. Hula hooping

14. Musicians. They have rhythm and are generally are quite skilled in fine motor skills involving either their tongue or hands

15. Tying a knot in the stem of a cherry with one’s tongue

16. Welding

17. Being a hard worker and determined

18. Know how to arch their lower back

19. Being considerate

20. Someone who plays a stringed instrument or brass instrument is usually good

21. They are a drummer. The rhythm!

22. They’re always smiling TC mark

Here’s The Real Reason You Suck At Love, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 06:00 PM PST

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Aries

(March 21st to April 19th)

You’re an extreme person in both positive and negative ways. You’re a passionate lover, but are prone to some selfish and stubborn behavior. Your energy can be a little off-putting to people who first meet you. It’ll take someone special who can keep up.

Taurus

(April 20th to May 21st)

You’re terrible at communicating. It’s like trying to talk to a rock. If you ever want a chance at real love, you’re going to have to start opening up.

Gemini

(May 22nd to June 21st)

You cannot decide who the hell you are and that’s very off-putting in a relationship, not to mention unsettling. The sooner you figure yourself out, the sooner you’ll have romantic success.

Cancer

(June 22nd to July 22nd)

Someone probably met a Cancer and that’s how the word sensitive was invented. Not to say that’s always bad, but you overreact to things that are honestly not a big deal. You spend more time crying over someone not texting you back quickly enough than you do actually going out on dates. Probably not super productive.

Leo

(July 23rd to August 22nd)

People get tired of fluffing up your ego. It’s cute in the beginning, but needing so much praise from the person you’re dating will get old very quickly. You need to learn the difference between wanting to be appreciated and wanting to be complimented.

Virgo

(August 23rd to September 22nd)

Because you’re so hard on yourself, you’ve learned to be hard on everyone else too. Being a perfectionist is not going to serve you well in love. Even when you meet someone you do like, you can’t seem to stop yourself from searching for their flaws. Having standards is a good thing. Having impossible standards is not.

Libra

(September 23rd to October 22nd)

You’re so busy trying to make logical decisions all the time and it’s a total drag. Spice it up a little! Try some impulsivity every now and then. Love isn’t rational.

Scorpio

(October 23rd to November 22nd)

It’s probably because you tend to bite the heads off any potential mate. Figuratively or literally, take your pick.

Sagittarius

(November 23rd to December 21st)

You have some serious commitment issues. People fall for you quite easily, actually, but you’re not looking to be tied down anytime soon.

Capricorn

(December 22nd to January 20th)

You are so, so, so boring. I almost forgot to include you.

Aquarius

(January 21st to February 18th)

It takes you so long to figure out what you’re feeling that by the time you decide you’re interested in someone, they’ve moved on. People aren’t going to wait around forever.

Pisces

(February 19th to March 20th)

For such a self-proclaimed romantic, you seriously S-U-C-K at love. You spend so much time in a dream world that when real life doesn’t mimic your greatest fantasies, you end up gravely disappointed. Stop orchestrating the perfect meet-cute and give actual dating (including the messy, unexciting moments) a shot. TC mark

15 Signs You’ve Gotten Used To Being Treated Like Shit

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 05:00 PM PST

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Twenty20, contento

1. When someone is nice to you, you assume that they want something from you. Sex. Money. A ride. A phone number. All you know is that their kindness can’t be genuine. 

2. You used to have high expectations, but now you don’t have any expectations at all. Whenever you let yourself get excited over something, you end up disappointed. So why bother?

3. When your friends talk about how amazing their partners are, you secretly judge them for being so naive, for assuming that their relationship is actually going to last. You’re smarter than that. You know it’s only a matter of time before she cheats or he leaves.

4. You don’t reveal your secrets anymore. You get screwed over every time you open up to someone, so you’ve closed yourself off. It’s better that way. 

5. When someone compliments you or does something out of the kindness of their heart, you have no idea how to react. In fact, you normally push the person away. It’s a gut reaction, because their warmth is so foreign to you. 

6. You sleep for a longer amount of time than you spend awake. You don’t want to start your day. You don’t want to leave your comfortable bed and go where the people are. You’d rather remain isolated.

7. You don’t try to one-up your friends when they brag about their lives. You only one-up them when they’re talking about how shitty their lives are. They think they have it bad? Wait until they hear your stories. 

8. You don’t cry as much as you used to cry. Things haven’t gotten any better. You’ve just learned how to deal with the pain, because it’s a constant. 

9. You refuse to listen to love songs, the kind stuffed with cliche lyrics. But old MCR songs? Those are your jam. 

10. You’ve stopped caring about what you look like. You’ll leave the house in pajamas, without combing your hair or brushing your teeth. And you won’t even think about visiting the gym. What’s the point in trying?

11. You cancel plans whenever you get the chance and you avoid answering texts. You don’t have the patience to interact with other people. You’d rather be by yourself. All the damn time.

12. Happy memories don’t bring you joy. They just make you more miserable. They remind you that everything good in life will eventually fade away. That so many people you once loved are now gone. 

13. Whenever you meet a ‘good guy,’ you wonder how long it’ll take for him to reveal his true colors. For him to get mean. For him to leave you, just like everybody else has.

14. To put it bluntly, you hate people. You don’t want to be around them. You don’t want to be one of them. You’d rather be a dog or a wolf or a dolphin. Animals don’t lie. They’re authentic. 

15. You don’t like yourself very much. People have treated you terribly all throughout your life, and you’re just starting to wonder if you were the problem all along. Your self-esteem has taken a massive hit. TC mark 

Why Do Women Prefer Guys Who Don’t Treat Them Well?

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 04:00 PM PST

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While sitting behind my computer on a gloomy afternoon, I wonder—why do women prefer guys who don't treat them well? We complain that guys nowadays don't know how to treat women with respect, but the ones who do end up in the friendzone.

Let's be honest, the friendzone sucks. We've all been there once before! Personally, I have been in the friendzone more than I care to admit and have friendzoned people as well. It's normal human behavior but when it too much? Good and genuine men and women end up being friendzoned while the ones we obsess over are the ones who are trouble.

Last night I found myself watching re-runs of Sex and the City while trying very hard not to fall asleep at 5:30 in the afternoon. In one episode, Carrie was anxious because her relationship with Aiden was too perfect and he treated her too well. She was used to being mistreated by Mr. Big, resulting in a healthy and honest relationship being confronting. Naturally, at the end of the episode she cheats on Aiden.  Why is that?


"No girl like a nice guy, we all like a bad boy. The reason why, the bad ones help us learn after we get hurt. The nice guys won't hurt us, so we'll never learn."
—Unknown


In October of 2013, Caroline Kent, a columnist for the Telegraph, wrote about this phenomenon and why women can't resist bad boys. She argues that their powerful, sensitive, and artistic natures allow us to rationalize their emotional unavailability and selfish behavior. We prefer the drama and hurt that comes with that type of men because it's exciting and keeps us guessing.


"So why do women put up with it? The reason we keep going back, for more belittling digs and more nights waiting for the phone to ring, is not because we like it. It's because many of us feel we don't deserve better."
—Caroline Kent


To be honest, we all love a rebel. We like to think that a bad boy will be good just for us. Deep down, they are broken, insecure, and have inner demons that have never been dealt with. They put on a persona of confidence and independence that draws women in. Other women want them just as much, so it becomes a competition. You fully submerge yourself in him because you want to be on the top of his list. His grip on you becomes so strong and it slowly starts to break down your self-esteem. You convince yourself that he will eventually bring down his walls and reciprocate the affection. Just like every song that sounds the same, he will never change and you will be left broken, bruised, and at war with your inner demons.

So how do we tame them? This is all hypothetical but similar to taming a lion; it starts with trust. While still maintaining a barrier, you need to trust the beast. You need to believe that they can't hurt you. Henri Martin was the first known lion tamer and his methodology involved introducing himself to his lions slowly and over a long period of time. He started by introducing his head, then his shoulders, into the lion's cage. Eventually he fully entered the cage. By the time he did, the lion was used to his presence. Make yourself unavailable to him. Don't always say yes to him. Show him that he is not controlling you and always on your mind.

It's a never-ending cycle and it's a common theme. At the end of the day, we are all skin and bones looking for someone to get along with. Bad guys are not bad for nothing; they are bad because of something traumatizing that happened to them at some point in their lives. Unfortunately, they go out of their way to behave in such a way, even after someone calls them out on it. Bad guys will manipulate good girls and keep them hoping, while good guys will stay in the friendzone until someone bails them out. TC mark


"You will think about him all day, talk to your friends about him incessantly, and then think about him some more. If all your mental energy is being devoured, you end up being completely distracted from dealing with yourself. The internal drama becomes a monologue in your mind, inhibiting you from becoming a whole person."
—Toni Nagy

50 Things Girls Should NEVER Do On A First Date (According To The Experiences Of 50 Guys)

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 03:00 PM PST

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Found on AskReddit.

1. Don't threaten to kill his cat if he cheats on you.

"Threaten to kill his cat if he cheated on you.

No joke, a girl I went on a date with suddenly launched into a tirade about how she has been cheated on in the past, and if I did so, she would 'emotionally hurt' me by killing my cat. I almost punched her in the throat. Nobody threatens my cat."

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2. Don't vomit all over him and then lock yourself in the bathroom.

"Vomit all over you and then immediately lock herself in the only bathroom so you have to just sit there covered in vomit."

luciddreamsindigital


3. Don't have a dick.

"Have a dick."

JakeTheSnakes11


4. Don’t play hard to get when you’re already hard to want.

"Don’t play hard to get when you’re already hard to want."

Maximus_Stache


5. Don't audibly gasp when you notice the waiter is missing an arm.

"Don’t audibly gasp when you notice the waiter is missing an arm, then later tell me you have an incurable form of ringworm."

browntown412


6. Don't talk in a baby voice.

"Talk in a baby voice—it’s worrying me how many women I meet that talk like a 5-year-old."

Salutational


7. Don't tell him how you almost died of a heroin overdose like it's a fucking achievement.

"Telling me how she almost died of overdose on heroin like it's a fucking achievement. When I hear heroin I kinda think of really bad STDs, so it's a turnoff."

_Pornosonic_


8. Don't divulge that you still live with your ex.

"Immediately divulging that she still lives with her ex and goes into excruciating detail about their relationship."

picklesarenotokay


9. Don't talk about how your uncle molested you when you were eight.

"Talk about negative things that are not essential for a potential bf to know. I really don’t want to hear how your uncle molested you when you were eight. I get that it was very traumatizing, but don’t drop that bomb on me on the first date."

EnkiW


10. Don't draw pentagrams on the table with salt.

"Draw pentagrams on the table with salt. You were a real weirdo, Kirsten."

bigbear1992


11. Don't keep talking about how big your ex-boyfriend's dick was.

"Talk about her ex-boyfriend’s dick and how big it was. This actually happened to me a few weeks ago. She brought it up on two separate occasions throughout the date…"

Things_Are_Cool


12. Don't give your potential BF your razor blade you used to cut yourself with.

"Give your potential BF your razor blade you used to cut yourself with. On the first date, because I seem 'trustworthy.' I got the hell out of that real quick."

Animalmother172


13. Don't bring your ex with you on the date.

"The woman who, unbeknownst to me, invited her ex onto our date. When some random guy sat down beside me I laughed, until I realized what was happening. When they went to go smoke a cig and talk, I ordered two tequila shots from the bar…slammed ’em both, then just left. Told the bartender to put them on her bill and didn’t even feel bad."

CornyHoosier


14. Don't show up high on cough syrup.

"Showing up to Steak 'n' Shake on a stomach full of cough syrup unable to hold your head up may have been okay if our meeting each other wasn't based around an event where I spoke to a few thousand people about what overcoming my drug addiction was like."

omgsiriuslyzombi


15. Don't be a crackhead.

"Crack cocaine."

Joe_Solo


16. Don't ignore the guy and constantly text on the phone.

"Ignore the guy and constantly text on the phone."

GYN-k4H-Q3z-75B


17. Don't hook up with your ex while you're on the date.

"I was on a first date with a girl and everything was going great. We had a nice dinner and the conversation was great. After dinner, she asked if we could head to the bar where I had met her the week before. I said sure, no problem.

We get to the bar, order a couple of drinks, and we’re having a pretty good time. She points out that the guy she dated for a few months, let’s call him Chad, was there. That’s kind of awkward to bring up, but whatever. I kind of know Chad since he’s a regular at the bar and we have some mutual friends. I didn’t know he and my date used to go out.

Chad sees that I’m with her and soon leaves the bar. A few minutes later, my date starts checking her phone and texting someone. I go order another round of drinks. When I get back, my date asks if it would be OK if she went back to Chad’s house. I told her she could do whatever she wanted to. I then said goodnight and went home alone. She texted me an hour later apologizing and said that Chad wouldn’t let her in. She then asked if she could come to my house. I politely declined and went to sleep.

So, I would say trying to hook up with your ex is a huge no-no for a girl to do on the first date."

TheNewGuyAgain


18. Don't ask him for a date at a restaurant, then seat him because you're the hostess on shift.

"Tell a guy to meet you at a restaurant for a date and then seat him when he gets there because you’re the hostess on shift."

chibbisaurus


19. Don't expect him to keep the conversation going.

"Expecting him to keep the conversation going. Dialog is a two-way-road."

jkvrieaunak


20. Don't be late.

"Being late (maybe 10 minutes is ok, but 30, 40 minutes late to our first date? No thanks)."

inthesandtrap


21. Don't act like a mannequin.

"Enter 'mannequin mode' and expect the guy to bring you to life!"

SuddenDickTornado


22. Don't make him babysit three kids he doesn't know.

"True Story Time. Girl asked me out, which was nice for a change. We were both in our late teens and she said, 'Let’s just have fun.' Sure, okay nothing serious. I meet her at a bowling alley. Her… her friend, and her three juvenile cousins. Umm ok. Proceed to bowl, definitely weird that she has four people for support. Then as per her suggestion, we all go to a billiards hall afterwards. I get a table, after about ten minutes she nopes out with her friend, and I’m left with her three juvenile male cousins, and the tab for the table. I literally was asked out to pay for the privilege of babysitting three kids I didn’t know. She calls a few more times and I never return her calls. Years later, I see her on Facebook and it turns out she’s a lesbian and everything made perfect sense now.

So ladies, if you’re in the closet don’t waste time asking out straight guys if you really just want someone to babysit your cousins as a sham alibi to keep your sexual identity from your parents."

idiot-prodigy


23. Don't show him pics of your ex and other guys you've dated.

"Show you pics of her ex and other guys she’s dated in the past."

Bach2Bach


24. Don't tell him that you're going to rape him.

"First date was a costume party (This was around Halloween). I felt kind of weird going on a first date with someone attending a group gathering but it was a date, and I had been a recluse around that time. I go pick her up and she’s dressed up as Meg from Family Guy. Not a deal breaker, I thought that the idea/joke was clever but the costume itself wasn’t that great because many people remarked that’s how she always looked. I didn’t think she looked bad but whatever. The restaurant was Joe’s Crab Shack and she ordered a giant bucket of crab legs for herself. She ordered it and turned to me and was like, 'What are you going to have?' Halfway through the meal, she asks if i wanted to go by her place afterwards to hang out. So far, I’m not completely turned off, so I said I could hang out for a minute. She gets this really big creepy grin on her face and whispers in my ear, 'I’m gonna rape you.' And there it was. I was suddenly stuck with the question of how I was going to get out of this. I paid for both our meals and told her that my stomach wasn’t doing well and I’d rather go home. She then begs me to come home with her and she didn’t mean to do anything wrong. I really tried to convince her that my stomach wasn’t doing well. Saw her back at work the next day.

TL;DR Went on a date with a woman dressed as Meg Griffin. Told me she’d rape me after eating a bucket of crab legs."

supposedtobeworking1


25. Don't just expect the guy to pay.

"Expect the guy to pay. He will likely anyways but at least offer. 50/50 for the win."

sebwise


26. Don't get shitfaced.

"Don’t get overly intoxicated."

IronHorse1776


27. Don't keep using the upward vocal inflection?

"Liberal unnecessary use of the upward vocal inflection?"

otterpapa


28. Don't badmouth your ex-boyfriend.

"Badmouth her ex-boyfriend. If she does that on a first date it means she is either (one or more): Immature, Not really over him, Unstable, and that she will eventually do that to you."

_Benny_Lava


29. Don't try to convert him to your religion.

"Trying to convert him to her religion. Girl I met went on for hours talking about how it would be good for me to go to her church. It felt like she went there only to try to wolololo the shit out of me."

raw_pasta


30. Don't act like a gold digger.

"Say things like 'Are you loaded?!' then rub your hands together and lick your lips."

Papaya_flight


31. Don't throw a psychotic fit at the restaurant.

"TLDR: having her period all over you then destroying a restaurant.
Full story: Met a girl rock climbing once. We flirted a lot but nothing came of it because we were both with our families. Flash forward two years, she finds me on Facebook (guess that should have been a red flag but whatevs) and says she’s in the city for an acting thing, asks if I want dinner. So she comes over and is immediately down to clown. We get frisky, things go places, and about five minutes in I realize I’m covered from my waist to my knees in menstruation. I ask, 'uh, hey, everything ok? Didn’t hurt you did I?' I knew she wasn’t hurt I was just trying to be gentle about it. She says, 'oh don’t worry it’s just my period.' My sheets are now ruined, but I’m 20 and hot to trot. I just kinda suck it up and finish the deed. We shower (separately) and get all cleaned up. The Neanderthal in me just wants to kick her out (I got my rocks off, why should she stay?) but the part of my brain that isn’t a complete piece of shit decided the least I could do was take this girl out to dinner. So we go to a very nice place and the date is going fine. That is, until I asked about her family. I literally asked, 'what does you dad do for a living?' and that was all it took to bring her to Defcon: Crazy. She starts sobbing, uncontrollably, like, slams her head on to her arms on the table and wailing while taking those deep crying breaths. Oh fuck I thought, but it was too late: the dam was breached. No time to evacuate the town. The metaphorical floodwaters poured in. 'He’s a piece of shit! He’s leaving my mom, after everything she’s done for him! She even lies to the MPs when they come asking about his whereabouts!' She proceeds to expand upon this by loudly and dramatically telling me about how her dad is AWOL from the navy and she hates him. At the apex of this rant she stands up, like Leonidas, and bellows: 'IT’S! NOT! FAAAAAAAAAAIR!!!' and swipes her arm across the table, knocking fucking everything to the ground, I shit you not. Everyone in the restaurant is silent and staring at us, I hastily throw down way more money than the bill, grab her by the hand and get us the fuck out of there. I drive her back to her car, in silence, and when we get there she asks: 'Did I ruin it? Can we have another date?' Trying not to get stabbed or start another crazy wailing session I lie to her: 'No no, you didn’t ruin it! Talk to you later.' And kick her out of the car. Immediately blocked her number. Never put your dick in crazy."

bowenoutofstyle


32. Don't order the most expensive items on the menu paired with an $80 wine.

"If I’m paying for dinner don’t order the most expensive items on the menu paired with an $80 wine."

thardoc


33. Don't tell your date he's "mansplaining."

"She cut me off when the waiter came over & ordered my drink and meal in the name of 'gender equality.' I mean, I guess she equally as much as an arsehole. I just put the poor execution down to nerves and gave the benefit of the doubt.

Then she later got very aggressive while we were discussing our cars. She mentioned that she was just about to spend £150 getting her head gasket replaced. I mentioned that £150 wasn’t close to enough to have it done properly & that it would likely fail again, & recommended my mechanic. She blew off the handle calling me a misogynistic pig and that she didn’t need it mansplained to her. (It failed again 2 weeks later & was beyond the point of being worth fixing).

Needless to say, did not want a second date."

blackslotgames


34. Don't stick your fist in your date's drink.

"I ended up having my first and only date with a girl who was vegan not too long ago. Not that being vegan is a problem, but it’s helpful for the story.

To start, the conversation was miserable and interacting with her was totally awkward. Can’t stand going out to dinner with someone who expects me to carry the conversation, but that wasn’t even the worst part.

What really sealed the deal was when the waitress brought our drinks. Both were waters with lemon. She asked if I ever eat my lemon, and while I thought it was a little strange, I said that I didn’t, and just chalked it up as a vegan habit. She then proceeds to eat the lemon from her water, rind and all. I was a little disturbed by this, but again, this itself wouldn’t have been a nail in the coffin. However, things were about to get so much worse. She then asked if I was going to eat mine, and I once again declined.

She reaches over, grabs my straw and tries to fish the lemon out of my water. I kept my best poker face but soon lost it when she couldn’t get the lemon out with my straw, and instead stuck her hand in my drink to grab the lemon and eat it. Needless to say I was very dehydrated for the rest of my meal while she awkwardly stared at me eating a burger with painfully little conversation.

Ladies, if we’ve been together for several months and you’re trying to mess with me, that’s one thing. On your first date though, don’t touch anything I’m about to ingest. It’s disgusting.

TL;DR First date, girl fisted my drink, she didn’t get the call back."

Poet_Knight


35. Don't insist on a double date then flirt with the other guy all night.

"Insist on a double date then flirt with the other guy all night."

pmmeyourlunch


36. Don't text your mom through the whole date.

"She was in constant contact with her mother during the date. Should’ve been a warning sign to me because she remained that way our entire relationship. Lesson learned for me: the next time I’m on a date and she’s still attached at the umbilical cord to her mother, I’m out. Be an adult, be on your own person."

DaveDavidsen


37. Don't tell your whole sob story on the first date.

"Don’t tell your whole sob story on the first date. Recently went out with a girl who most of what she talked about was how because of family drama and stuff she had to drop out of high school and now couldn’t go to college because she was on her own and had to work two jobs because she had no one to help support her. Just felt like she was expecting me to jump in and say 'oh I’ll support you!' Right then and there.

Oh, also don't ask me 20 times before the first date if I’m going to murder you, eventually my answer will change."

linkman0596


38. Don't order the most expensive thing on the menu, take two bites, then push it away .

"Order the most expensive thing on the menu…take two bites and push it away."

Cahnwulf


39. Don't act ditzy.

"Act ditzy/stupid. It’s not funny or cute, it’s completely transparent and a massive turn off."

MrjB0ty


40. Don't bring your guy friends on the date.

"Have her guy friends join the date. It makes you look weak because everyone else is talking and laughing while you can’t really talk to them at the same comfort level. than you site there like a idiot all quiet and shit."

budguy68


41. Don't treat men like dogs.

"Don’t make us chase you we are not dogs.

Don’t talk to us like dogs.

Do not start making demands and plans we have our own lives we are not your dogs.

Don’t ignore us and text on your phone all night we are like dogs we need attention."

Apostatesteve


42. Don't look COMPLETLY different from the photos on your FB profile.

"Look COMPLETLY different from the photos/FB profile you send me. No matter what people said, looks matter. A lot."

A_Benched_Clown


43. Don't suck out your date's soul through his neck.

"Last date I went on the girl gave me the biggest hickey of my life then told me her ex was into demons and put her through a ritual and she was possessed by a demon for 2 years until she was saved by a red-haired 6-inch pixie with an Irish accent that lives inside of her to this day. I kept touching my neck the rest of the night wondering if she sucked out my soul."

Stupdendoes


44. Don't offer him your chewing tobacco.

"Pull out a can of chew and ask if I want a dip."

The_Man11


45. Don't remark that your date is height-challenged.

"Saying: 'Oh, you’re shorter than I though you would be!'"

Taavi00


46. Don't be an unfunny pain in the ass.

"I went out with a girl who asked me out, before we stop communicating via text she says, 'please don't be an axe murderer' so we meet up at a cafe fifteen minutes from my house. We meet up greet each other and sit down and I make a small joke about forgetting my axe to which she replied, 'that’s not funny' hmm ok well damn a little harsh. The whole night when I made commentary about anything or teased or made an attempt at any joke she responded with the exact same response, 'that isn’t funny.' It was like she didn't want to be there so much I didn't want to be there. I ended up leaving mid date telling her I needed to go to the restroom. (Took care of my bill at the front we were in the back) TLDR; have a goddamn sense of humor when you ask someone out."

antigravy


47. Don't talk about rape culture and how all men are evil.

"Talking about rape culture and all men are evil kind of stuff."

Santaball


48. Don't bring your mom and get drunk with her.

"Invite your mom and proceed to both get drunk on 5 vodka cranberries each while I’m sipping my 1st beer."

orangeisstupid


49. Don't try to take my bacon.

"Try to take my bacon."

jfrawley28


50. Don't be extremely late.

"Don’t be extremely late. 10-15 minutes is ok, but give him a heads-up. 1-2 hours late is not OK."

swollennode TC mark


Read this: 50 Things Guys Should NEVER Do On A First Date (According To The Experiences Of 50 Girls)

60 People Share The Most Soul-Crushingly Cruel Thing Anyone Ever Said To Them

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 02:00 PM PST

Illustration by Daniella Urdinlaiz
Illustration by Daniella Urdinlaiz
Found on AskReddit.

1. "You will end up alone."

Heard this today.

jokadnts


2. "I wish you hadn’t failed."

In regard to a failed suicide attempt.

sleepyplantdad


3. "If I was your best friend I would have killed myself, too."

A psychotic ex-friend said this to me once.

douglerful


4. "I hope they never find your dad and I hope he’s dead."

7-year-old boy at my school to 7-year-old me when my father had been missing for a month. They did find him a few weeks later. And he was dead.

Nw5gooner


5. "My life would be so much better if you were never born."

Mom said this.

chknbsct


6. "You will end up alone."

Heard this today.

jokadnts


7. "Why couldn’t it have been you that died?"

When I was 11, my mom had a miscarriage and told me this.

GGoDDeSS


8. "I wish you would die, I would cry tears of happiness!"

My dear mother, to 14-year-old me. She said some real hurtful shit to me before and after, but that line broke me inside out…

Alseur


9. "You are my biggest disappointment in life."

Thanks, Mom.

whitefox00


10. "At least you know you’re ugly and accept it."

Stung quite a bit at the time.

TheNumber31


11. "I almost aborted you….but then I got drunk one night and decided, 'what the hell.'"

My mother to me at 9 years old. I think about that sentence all the time.

MolarFairyAssistant


12. "The world would be a better place without you."

And people wondered why I tried to commit suicide three days later.

05-12


13. "No wonder your father left you."

My neighbor once said to six-year-old me. (My parents divorced when I was 4.) This was in response to me rollerblading up and down a shared garden path…

TheUniverseCaresNot


14. "I don’t love you, I’ll never love you and I see no future with you."

My long-term boyfriend broke up with me by saying that.

am-not


15. "I never wanted a second kid."

Said by my dad to 16-year-old me, the younger of two kids. That killed any affection and respect that I had left for him. 15 years later, none of it has returned and I have nothing but spite for him.

Kitty_Rose


16. "If you only looked different but still said the things you say to me I would probably date you."

This girl I really like told me that.

MarcoReus7


17. "I am disappointed in you."

Said very calmly is CRUSHING.

officialchourico


18. "You’re too fucked up for me to be with you anymore."

Not that they were wrong, but it still fucking hurt.

FerrisTM


19. "The only reason I didn’t put you in foster care is because the social worker said I wasn’t allowed to."

Thanks, dad.

katieames


20. "I don’t believe any of that stuff your mother-in-law says about you."

This sentence could end a marriage and ruin a family very easily.

a_trashcan


21. "I don’t think you got raped, I think you really wanted it."

My ex-husband once when we were fighting said something along the lines of this. I was anally raped at a party a few months before and still having PTSD from it at the time. it destroyed me then.

glimmerfox


22. "I’m going to have to learn how to stop loving you."

Gee, thanks, Mom.

FlyingHapa


23. "You have no future."

From the right person it cuts deep.

Rimjobs_4_Vengeance


24. "I’m not mad, I’m disappointed."

Your parents telling you this leaves any kid absolutely crushed.

dconde4930


25. "Don’t worry you have a shot, she goes for personality!"

Said to me by a female friend genuinely encouraging me to ask out one of her friends.

Mehmmers


26. "You can’t even do one thing to make me happy."

Happened during a bit of a emotionally tumultuous time with mom (college applications and stuff). I never felt so shattered.

Jennypennypants


27. "I don’t love you anymore."

That one definitely took me down for a long time.

pm11


28. "Nobody actually liked you. We just invited you to come along because you seemed like you were having fun."

Said to me by a guy in my high school friend group about a year after we graduated. Joke’s on him, since I’m still close with several of those people and on good terms with most others, while most of them don’t want anything to do with him anymore.

atheologist


29. "I can’t marry you. I’m leaving with What’s-his-name."

That one just about literally killed me. Tried to hang myself 6 months later.

lumineferousethan


30. "You deserve to lose everyone."

An aunt said that to me and I still think about it.

15402983


31. "No one will ever love you; how could they?"

My ex-husband's passing shot. Stuck with me for longer than I’d like to admit, and even now I sometimes question why someone chooses to love me, or if they even do.

FrankieLeeG


32. "You guys were so bad growing up (me+ 2 brothers) that we had to adopt a little girl."

From my mother. It has taken me 20 years to get out from under this and many other comments my mother has made regarding my life as a child.

Haaa_penis


33. "You’re like that new toy you get that’s exciting at first but after a while you lose interest."

Girl once broke up with me by saying this.

DanBarLinMar


34. "You brought all this on yourself."

Yeah, buddy. Real nice thing to say to a mentally ill person that’s dealt with stalking and abuse.

Mistah-Jay


35. "You could probably throw yourself out of this car right now, and I won’t even stop and no one will bother to find you."

Said by my abusive ex when I asked him to stop the car so I could leave. For a while I believed him.

TerraNikata


36. "Go ahead and kill yourself. You just want attention anyways."

My horrible aunt said this to me multiple times when she used to fight with me and make my life hell. My mom had just recently died of cancer and my dad had committed suicide years prior. I was 15 and ripped from the only state I knew as home to move in with my grandma and that aunt. There was no escaping the torture and she wanted me gone the day I arrived. So much for family.

OvercastKidz


37. "You deserve to be alone; I can see why your partner broke up with you."

I got told this by a friend (now ex-friend) after a breakup.

lovelyblasphemy


38. "You’re the reason your mother is dead, and will probably be the death of your father and me."

My stepmother to me at 17 years old. (My mother passed away from a brain aneurysm when I was 6 years old on Christmas Eve,)

CamoFeather


39. "At least I’m a good person."

My wife hit me with it last week during a minor disagreement. I’ve thought about it every day since.

CortanasHairyNipple


40. "No wonder Dad thinks you’re weird."

My sister said this to me, and because he never indicated as much, managed to wreck my relationship with my father.

Blightking


41. "There’s something wrong with you, you’re a failure and you shit upon this family."

Hearing years of this sentence and similar sentences, as a young kid, from your own father.

DangerousReality


42. "I don’t love you anymore."

He then proceeded to tell me the spark is gone and he sees me like family more or less. It crushed me at the time but now I feel the same about him and we’re decent friends :) Mickey, if you ever read this, thank you for being honest.

Bubbie_The_Whale


43. "Your mom should have swallowed."

Dad to 6-year-old me.

gobrowns69


44. "Wait, people actually like you?"

My family acts shocked whenever I see one of my friends. I don’t really have too many friends, so hearing it is a constant ego-killer.

StuStutterKing


45. "I hope you find me on the floor dead."

My mom said this to me. No lie.

Frank43073


46. "No wonder why everyone leaves you."

Said by my ex-friend who was so mean and hurtful to me for the whole two years after telling her we should no longer be friends.

burgerkingqueens


47. "Well, good luck with that."

When confiding in a friend that I was having suicidal thoughts and was really considering committing suicide.

He’s still my best friend 4 years later. He thought I was joking. But it still really, really hurt.

elbowroom_


48. "No wonder nobody likes you."

Bitch in 6th grade. I was being bullied.

PotatoAvenger


49. "I don’t have time for you."

I’m not a demanding girlfriend yet 3 guys have broken up with me and have all literally said this phrase. It’s really gotten to me.

espresso92


50. "I never wanted you anyway."

From your father when you’re still a child.

vault151


51. "I love you, but I don’t like you."

My mother always told me this. I haven’t spoken to her in a decade and I’m pretty fucked up emotionally.

peachyhez


52. "YOU are nothing. YOU have nothing. YOU will be nothing."

Husband said it. He was drunk, upset that I disagreed with him about something, and proceeded to demean me for being 'just a stay at home mom.' Broke me to my fucking core…

murp89


53. "I understand why your father killed himself. Do us a favor and join him.

Heard this in boot camp.

Highspdfailure


54. "When I know you’re coming home it makes me want to kill myself."

My ex-wife said it.  She had severely untreated bipolar and said shitty things often.

trunamke


55. "If your sister didn’t die, you wouldn’t be here because we didn’t want any more kids."

Dad to 6-year-old me. What a lovely way to find out I had a sister who passed away before I was born.

throwaway273603


56. "No wonder nobody likes you at school."

At that time I was severely bullied in school.

111Ireth997


57. "You were always a burden."

My mom said it when she left my dad and moved in with her boyfriend, did quite the number on my psyche. It was right after I said I loved her and to not do this.

Beelzebubbbbles


58. "I haven’t loved you in years, I was just staying with you so you didn’t kill yourself. I've also been cheating on you since I studied abroad."

Best way to waste five years of your life.

Princessrollypollie


59. "None of my friends like you, I’m only friends with you for convenience."

Said to me the other day by one of my best friends. This was shortly after I told her that my grandmother was dying. My grandmother passed away last night.

CousCousOtterCat


60. "You’re still fucked up. You’ll never get better."

Said by an ex-girlfriend to me during a breakup. I had been attending therapy for depression and was coming around to the idea that maybe in time I could actually be satisfied with who I was as a person and look at life more optimistically, that one kicked me right back down again.

one80down TC mark

The One Sign You Should Stay Away From, Based On Your Zodiac Sign 

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 01:00 PM PST

 @saltinourhair
@saltinourhair

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Pisces. You're too practical and a bit detached for the overly sensitive and emotional Pisces. It's going to take a lot of work and effort to make this relationship work, and you’re a bit impatient and also too busy to be in a relationship that demands more from you.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Gemini. Geminis are too loud and all over the place for you. You crave consistency, stability and routine and Geminis will always be 'too much' for you to handle.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Virgo. Just like Taurus, Virgos are also practical and loves their routine and their alone time, they're also reserved with their thoughts and feelings and you're always speaking your mind and expressing your feelings, which is why Virgos will always seem too 'quiet' and somewhat boring to you.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Capricorn.  Capricorns are a bit detached and it takes them a while to get attached or trust someone, while you on the other hand, are the most caring, giving and loving sign of the zodiac and you need your intense and strong emotions to be reciprocated one way or another.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Libra. You're too boisterous and demanding for the balanced and diplomatic Libra. You'll always have your way and there will be no challenges but you thrive on challenge. You need a more passionate/fiery sign like you.

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Sagittarius. Simply put; you like to stay in one place, Sagittarius loves to roam the world. You two will barely have time to see each other because you're probably working and Sagittarius is probably planning their next trip.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Cancer. You love everything in perfect doses and you like everything in moderation, which is why the intensity of Cancer can make you feel uncomfortable. You will always feel like you're not doing enough and it will make you feel guilty all the time.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Leo. As much as you two have a lot in common, you butt heads more than agree on things. You're both confident, charming and charismatic and love the attention, which can get competitive in an unhealthy way because one of you will always be trying to outshine the other.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Taurus. A Taurus will not really support or like your nomadic lifestyle. They're perfectionists and like to plan for the future and you like to live day-by-day. You will get tired of how a Taurus will tell you how to live your life because you already love it and you don’t want to change it.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Aries. Outside of work, there won't be much to agree on. There will always be lack of communication between you two because Capricorns are private and Aries are impatient. You both like things to be done your way which is why it will take forever until you two finally open up to each other.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Scorpio. Your rebellious nature and unfiltered personality may rub Scorpio the wrong way. Scorpios don't forgive easily and they care about how they look in public, while you are more of a free-spirit and you embrace your weirdness, you don't care about making a fool out of yourself in public and Scorpio is all about 'reputation.'

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Aquarius. You'll not be able to keep up with an Aquarius ever-changing thoughts and emotions, you're quite emotional yourself and you like someone who pays close attention to how you're feeling and talks to you about it. Aquarius can sometimes get lost in their own head and may not be able to read you because they're still trying to read themselves. TC mark

One Day You Will Meet Someone Who Will Love Every Single Part Of You

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 12:00 PM PST

Thought.is
Thought.is

One day you will meet someone who will love the ugly parts of you. Every flaw, every scar and every rusty edge. And they will love those parts just as much, if not more, than the better parts of you.

You see, you aren’t supposed to look for someone who will only love you when you are at your best. You aren’t supposed to be looking for someone who only will treat you right, if you do everything correctly according to what they want. You’re not supposed to look for someone who doesn’t even love the real you.

And I can promise you this. One day, whether it’s two days from now, or five years from now, you are going to find this person. Whether you believe me or not. You will. 

I know this person is only in your dreams right now. This person is only a fairytale for you right now. And this person, doesn’t even exist for you at this moment. You’re probably thinking it won’t happen to someone like you. It won’t happen to someone who talks like you, or looks like you, or acts like you. But darling, guess what? One day you will find the person who adores the way you talk. Who adores the way you look. Who adores the way you act, no matter how crazy or silly you are.

You see, the right person for you isn’t going to be a perfect human. They probably aren’t going to have a six-pack with a million dollar smile. They probably will have characteristics that a lot of people would hate. But just like they will adore your negative traits, you will adore theirs too.

The difference between everyone else, and ‘your person’, is that this special person for you will accept who you truly are. And they won’t just accept it. They will adore it.

They will love the way your nose crinkles up when you smile. They will love the way you snort too loudly when you laugh. They will love the rolls on your tummy and will kiss the hell out of them. They will love the way you get so mad at the tiniest of things, and how you are too stubborn for your own good. They will love the way you drive them crazy. They will love all the baggage that past relationships gave you. And they will love you in moments, when you try to test their love for you.

They will love every single part of you. And no matter how terrible you can act towards them, no matter what ugly words come flying out of your mouth, they will still love you. Despite it all. Despite the parts of you that you wish weren’t there. Despite the parts that you hate about yourself. And despite the parts of you that you are ashamed of.

They will take all of you for who you are. They will hug your ugly parts and kiss those flaws, just like they kiss your other beautiful parts.

Because to this person? Every part of you is the most god damn glorious thing they have ever seen. And they wouldn’t ever, ever dream of changing anything about you. TC mark