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50 Kinky Questions That Will Tell You How Sexually Adventurous You Are

Posted: 24 Jan 2017 08:00 PM PST

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1-10: You’re sexually inexperienced. You’re either a virgin, or you have missionary sex with your long-term partner every night at nine o’clock. No exceptions.

11-20: Your friends don’t wince when you tell them sex stories, because they can usually relate. Your bedroom habits are pretty average — which isn’t a bad thing. You have a healthy sex life. Good for you!

21-30: You get offended whenever people call you vanilla, because you know you’re open-minded. You’ll try MOST things, but not everything. You definitely aren’t porn star material, but you’re still a lot of fun to fuck.

31-40: You’re kinky AF. You’re the type of person your friends go to when they need sex advice, because you’ll try anything once (but most likely, it’ll happen at least two or three times).

41-50: You couldn’t survive without sex. You love it. And, because of all of your experience, you’re damn good at it. Once someone sleeps with you, they’ll never be happy with anyone else again.

1. Have you ever had sex in the backseat of a car?

2. Have you ever sexted while at work?

3. Have you ever had sex while your parents (or roommates) were in the next room?

4. Have you ever used handcuffs?

5. Have you ever masturbated in front of your partner?

6. Have you ever been choked during sex?

7. Have you ever worn lingerie?

8. Have you ever sent any nude photos?

9. Have you ever had a friend with benefits?

10. Have you ever tried anal?

11. Have you ever gotten an injury from rough sex?

12. Have you ever had sex outdoors?

13. Have you ever watched porn with someone?

14. Have you ever kissed multiple people in one night?

15. Have you ever done a walk of shame?

16. Have you ever filmed yourself having sex?

17. Have you ever given (or gotten) a lap dance?

18. Have you ever had sex with someone when you didn’t know their name?

19. Have you ever had sex in a bathroom stall?

20. Have you ever played strip poker?

21. Have you ever had shower sex?

22. Have you ever tasted yourself?

23. Have you ever used a blindfold?

24. Have you ever spanked someone?

25. Have you ever role played?

26. Have you ever gone out without wearing underwear?

27. Have you ever had a quickie?

28. Have you ever worn a ball gag?

29. Have you ever had a one-night stand?

30. Have you ever talked dirty?

31. Have you ever used a strap-on?

32. Have you ever had a threesome?

33. Have you ever had phone sex?

34. Have you ever had sex in front of an audience?

35. Have you ever used a vibrator (with or without a partner)?

36. Have you ever worn a butt plug?

37. Have you ever used a sex swing?

38. Have you ever had sex in a classroom or office?

39. Have you ever gone skinny dipping?

40. Have you ever gotten your hair pulled?

41. Have you ever been pinned down?

42. Have you ever had sex while drunk?

43. Have you ever had sex while high?

44. Have you ever orgasmed five times in one day?

45. Have you ever had morning sex?

46. Have you ever eaten food off of your lover’s naked body?

47. Have you ever used hot wax?

48. Have you ever worn crotchless underwear?

49. Have you ever had sex on the floor?

50. Have you ever had sex in front of a mirror? TC mark 

Tonight My Boss Finally Bent Me Over His Desk

Posted: 24 Jan 2017 07:00 PM PST

Secretary
Secretary

Working with him was just an impossibility at this point. I needed to accept that.

Every morning I would get myself ready for work — find a dress that looked professional but also clung nicely to my curves, apply makeup, curl my hair, and spritz a small amount of slightly too sexy for work fragrance on the nape of my neck. I always wore heels so that I could be closer to his 6’4 frame. And then I’d arrive at my desk and try to do as much work as possible before my distraction arrived.

I’d started working at a large real estate company as a records clerk a few months ago. It wasn’t the work I imagined I’d be doing with my english degree but I’d graduated months ago and my job search had been very frustrating and unsuccessful, so I felt lucky to have a decent paying full time gig, even if it was nowhere near my dream. And the perks… well that would be the 30-year-old CEO, Jack Singer.

At first I thought I was imagining it, this handsome, impossibly successful man couldn’t possibly be interested in me. But his eyes lingered too long, and he trailed his fingers along my back when no one else was around. He found excuses for us to work late, alone together, and always ordered in a complicated dinner, so we’d be at the table in his office for quite a long time, just talking. Nothing had really happened yet, but it was only a matter of time. I was completely in lust with him, with his dark hair and eyes, his broad shoulders, with the way he talked about struggling to fit into his new lifestyle because he still felt like a kid from a working class family playing pretend.

And so I fell into a routine of mostly being enamored and distracted. Today, like most days he walked in and greeted me. His knowing smile elicited a familiar tug between my legs that floated up through my stomach. I wanted him.

As my attraction grew my dresses had been getting tighter, I was waiting for him to make the first move, but I couldn’t wait much longer. Today in particular was a creation I shouldn’t have purchased on my salary, but I was fairly certain it was going to do the trick. It was a long sleeved red sweater dress that hugged my curves but was loose enough to allow it to be short without looking obscene. I’d paired it with black high-heeled boots that hit just above the knee. It was the kind of outfit that would make a quick encounter very easy… which is what I spent most of my time fantasizing about.

Jack walked in the door looking as attractive as ever, he hadn’t shaved the morning and the dark stubble accentuated his square jaw. “Good morning Adrienne,” he called, locking eyes with me and smirking as his gaze traveled down my body to my thighs, exposed between my sweater dress and boots. My mouth hung open a bit in delight as I smiled back at him. “It is a good morning.”

I don’t know how he had even made it into his office to turn on his computer when I got an email from him:

Adrienne,

I’m going to need you to stay late tonight and pull some records so I can prepare for the DRC meeting tomorrow.

-JS

I couldn’t stop the smile that spread throughout my entire body. This is it.

I’m sure it’s not the best idea in the world to start sleeping with your boss. But I couldn’t remember ever having such a strong physical and mental connection with someone, and I trusted him, he was going to act responsibly for both of us, if something bad happened and things weren’t great, he could help me get a similar job somewhere else. I didn’t want to say no to something so intoxicating for a job I cared very little about.

The day flew by because all I did was daydream about various fantasies I wanted to recreate with Mr. Singer. As people started to leave for the day, I was confused to see him, too, in his overcoat. “Adrienne, I’m sorry, you’ll have to pull the files without me, I’ve got a last minute dinner I need to attend.” I couldn’t hide the disappointment in my face, I’m sure he caught it, but I didn’t really care. I was all wound up… for nothing. “Sure thing.”

The minute he left I called a delivery service and ordered a bottle of wine. I may have to stay late and work alone, but I could at least enjoy myself.

Well, one glass turned into three and by the time I’d carefully organized and laid out all the files Jack would need on the table in his office, I was buzzed enough to make a very bad decision. What a shame, I thought, trailing my fingers along the edge of his desk, this is the perfect height.

I sat down in Jack’s expensive leather office chair for a moment, to rest a moment before I went home. I could see why he liked this chair, it made me feel powerful. Sitting behind his desk made me feel powerful. Jack’s smirk this morning made me feel even more powerful, I thought, and remembering the way his face looked as he stared at my legs made me feel excited all over again. I felt the same tug between my legs.

Carelessly I sat back and closed my eyes, running my hand up my thigh, pretending it was his large, masculine hand. I began rubbing higher, brushing the barrier of the black lace underwear I’d put on this morning, with high hopes for how it would be used. I could feel how damp they were, it had been a long day of build up and no release.

I deserve to be be a little reckless.

I reached my hand inside my panties and placed one leg on Jack’s desk. His view would be excellent if he had bothered to stay. I leaned back as I began to slowly finger my clit. It was so relaxing to think about Jack doing this, so perfect.

“Ahem.”

I jerked forward closing my legs and removing my hands from between them in one quick moment. Jack was standing in front of me. Oh shit, I thought before my tipsy brain realized he didn’t look angry. He was smirking. “I’m sorry, to interrupt, but you realize you’re using my office right now?”

“I’m so sorry, sir.” I said, the alcohol giving me the courage to emphasize the last word.

“Sir’ now, is it?” He asked, moving next to me, standing above me looking down with that look on his face.

“It’s whatever you want it to be.”

He reached forward and caressed my throat with one hand, I stood frozen in my seat. His seat. He held my face in his hands, silently thinking for a long minute. He continued to rub my neck with one of his hands while the other traveled to my crotch where he felt how wet I was. “Good girl.”

That snapped me out of my stupor and I grabbed his hips and pulled him closer. He smirked again as I unbuckled his pants and found a full on erection waiting for me. “I’ve been waiting to do this for a long time,” I said, as I licked him from the shaft of his penis to the tip, watching his face react the whole time. “You’re not the only one,” he replied, his hands now stroking my hair.

But I didn’t just want to tell him how much I wanted him, I wanted to show him. I took all of his cock into my mouth and felt the familiar adjustment my throat made to accept it. I used to think this would make me gag, but practice told me it actually supplied more liquid from the back of my throat, making the whole process easier, and more pleasurable for him. The hand that suddenly tightened around my hair confirmed this.

“Get up,” he said, hurriedly lifting me up and spinning me around. He grabbed my breasts roughly, bending me forward over the desk. My only thought was, Yessss.

He lifted the small amount of material covering my butt and entered me from behind. His cock was perfect. It filled me on all sides, but it didn’t hurt. He thrust into me roughly, but rhythmically.

“You’ve been a very good employee, I thought it was time I give you a reward,” Jack said, his voice lower, hoarser than usual. With that, he gave my ass a hard smack. I screamed in surprise and he chuckled. This was even hotter than I imagined.

He began thrusting harder, using one hand to position my hips and the other the massage my breast, occasionally pinching the nipple. I told him I was about to cum and he moved his hand down to my pussy to finger my clit and guide me along. I felt his muscles tense up at the same time as mine. I couldn’t keep my voice down as pleasure took over my body, as my eyes rolled back into my head, as I felt him cum and collapse on top of my back.

We laid there for a moment before he spoke.

“Adrienne, I’m going to need you to work late every night this week.” TC mark

Read more hot stories like this in Adrienne West’s book: Sex For Smart Women available now.

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This Is What Your Handwriting Says About Your Sex Life

Posted: 24 Jan 2017 06:00 PM PST

Credit Ángela Burón
Credit Ángela Burón

The size of your letters

Small: You’re shy and submissive. After you undress, you want your partner to take charge. To get on top of you and make you moan. It’s not that you’re lazy and refuse to do any work. You just prefer it when they take control.

Large: You like to be the one on top. The one giving orders. The one that decides which position to choose next. It makes you feel powerful. Strong. Sexy AF.

Average: Some days, you’re submissive. Some days, you’re dominant. It really depends. You’re all about the give and take, so you don’t mind who’s in charge, as long as you get an orgasm out of the deal.

The shape of your letters

Rounded: You’re creative, which is why you like to switch things up to keep things sexy. Some days, you’ll pin your partner down. Some days, you’ll share a vibrator. And some days, you’ll ‘forget’ to wear underwear on your date.

Pointed: You like to stick to the basics. You don’t feel like you need handcuffs or blindfolds or lingerie. You’re turned on by your partner’s naked body. They’re enough for you, without any of those bells and whistles.

The pressure you put on the pen and paper

Heavy pressure: You like it rough. Hair pulling and spanking are your specialities. And you definitely aren’t a stranger to dirty talk.

Light pressure: You don’t fuck. You make love. You leave light kisses on your partner’s stomach and thighs. You look them deep in the eyes. You make the experience feel special.

The slanting of your letters

Slanting right: You get bored easily, so you don’t want to get into missionary each and every night. You want to try new positions. New locations. New moves.

Slanting left: You don’t mind routine, but every once in a while, you like to be adventurous. To have sex in a new room of the house or to make out in the middle of the mall. You don’t need excitement all the time, but you need it some of the time.

No slants: You’re pretty conservative. You aren’t interested in having sex in public or watching porn alongside your partner. You just want to have sex in the privacy of your own home.

The type of handwriting you chose

Cursive: To you, sex is a piece of poetry. It’s meaningful. Celestial. That’s why you only have sex with people that you’re serious about forming a long-term relationship with.

Print: You’re a realist. You know that sex is animalistic. An urge. You’ve had sex that meant a lot to you, but you’ve also had sex with near-strangers. You don’t think there’s anything wrong with one-night stands or FWBs. TC mark 

This Pizza Delivery Girl Got These Creepy Texts From A Customer Who Couldn’t Take No For An Answer

Posted: 24 Jan 2017 05:15 PM PST

Flickr /Random Retail
Flickr /Random Retail

Women face so much god damn harassment in this world and it’s all awful. But this story is a unique brand of fucked up.

Imgur user  is a pizza delivery girl at Papa Johns. She delivered a pizza to some dude last Sunday, and when she was leaving to get back into her car, he took a picture of her ass.

She didn’t pursue anything at the time, but then the next day he started texting her:

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via Imgur

In this first exchange, she is being MORE than polite to this creeper. She makes it clear that she only texted him for work (probably to let him know she was there with his delivery) and that she did not want any personal conversation with him.

And he reads that as, “Let me keep going and be even more creepy.”

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via Imgur

He’s like, “Oh I feel so bad that you were out in that weather…except, wait, I ordered the pizza LOL.”

But instead of realizing he’s an idiot, he decides to threaten her:

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via Imgur

Her only response was a screenshot of the Wikipedia entry for “blackmail”.

 went on to clarify that she would NEVER talk to a customer in such a way, but after taking a picture of her butt and sending her off-the-clock messages, this dude was no longer a customer:

Okay, I realize that this makes me look bad but hear me out – he took a picture of my ass when I was leaning in my car to get his pizza and I was still pretty pissed about it.

This was an “unprofessional” response and I would like to clarify I would never have said any of this to a customer while working, but when you sexually harass an employee and then text them outside of work (he got my number because he wasn’t at home when I tried to deliver his pizza and had to call him), the employee no longer has any obligation to treat you as a customer.

We haven’t been able to find anybody, as of yet, who would support this creepy scumbag in reporting a female employee for defending herself. Good for her! TC mark

To The Person I’ll Never Know How To Stop Loving

Posted: 24 Jan 2017 05:00 PM PST

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To the person I will never know how to stop loving: I'm sorry.

I was never the girl who fantasized about being in love. I never spent time as a girl daydreaming about what my wedding would look like. I never believed in soul mates, finding "the one," or fate.

Instead I was an independent person, who didn't like to rely on a boy. I prided myself on that. You could ask anyone, I was the person who was terrible at being "in love."

But then there was you.

To the person I will never know how to stop loving, I'm sorry. I'm sorry that I ruined us before we even had a chance to start. I wish I could give you a reason. I wish I could blame it on being young, being naïve, or just plain stupid. Or maybe it was a little bit of all of those. To this day I still cannot give you a solid reason.

What I do know is that I'm sorry I took away a chance at being happy. A chance for you to be happy, a chance for me to be happy, because we were so happy, like the annoying "in love" happy.

People always say your significant other becomes your best friend. They were wrong, they become so much more. You weren't even mine for that long but you became my everything. I went to you if I wanted to spill a secret, if I wanted to cry about the rotten day I was having, if I wanted to just lay and watch White Collar, or if I wanted to make crepes with you in your kitchen while you danced and made me laugh until my stomach hurt.

In our short time together, you shattered this whole idea I had of love. You made me want to be in love, you made me believe in love – or at least our love.

I could say all the cliché things like "you made me want to be a better person" or "you changed me" but that wouldn't do it justice. Because even though you did those things, you also gave me hope. You gave me plans for the future. You gave me a life to look forward to. You gave me you.

Now that I think about it, I'm sorry isn't the right phrase. I'm devastated. I'm devastated I didn't choose you. I'm devastated I let fear come between us. I'm devastated I didn't have the courage to say yes to you, to stay and not run away. I'm devastated that a girl, who didn't believe in soul mates, met hers and turned them away. And I'm devastated waking up everyday knowing this. To the person I'll never know how to stop loving, I'm devastated. TC mark

Ranking The Women On This Season Of ‘The Bachelor’: Is Taylor *Actually* The Villain?

Posted: 24 Jan 2017 04:19 PM PST

Sorry for getting this review up late. I read Cat Marnell’s memoir How to Murder Your Life earlier this month and it has truly put me in a dark place!!! Read it if you want to get unstable and miss your deadlines!!! This week’s episode was truly the icing on my existential dread cupcake!!!!

Here is a review of how the contestants did this week:


Hard pass


Christen

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Christen was the only girl eliminated which is really sad bc she is the one girl (besides our main bitch Rachel) that all the Thought Catalog girls could agree on really liking. She seems really awesome and it’s super bizarre of Nick to eliminate her before some of these other fillers. I’m going to need someone to link me to an interview where a former bach explains why they eliminate people with potential earlier on than fillers.

Brittany

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

We didn’t get to see a lot of Brittany but Nick eliminated 3 blondes last week so I guess he had to do at least 2 brunettes this one.


Still in the running


Corinne

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

If there is a god in heaven pls let Corinne get her own spinoff show. She is so insane and so interesting. She’s a fresh kind of villain who isn’t playing a part, she’s just being Corinne and it’s amazing.

Jaimi

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Still unclear on Jaimi’s nose ring.

Jasmine

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

For weeks we have been promised scenes in which Jasmine brings the drama. Maybe when Corinne leaves she is going to step into the spotlight? I love Jasmine and I am here for it.

Josephine

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Randomly grabbed this screenshot to talk about Josephine and realized she has the most beautiful profile in Bachelor history????

Kristina

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Kristina gets the group date rose, but I’m still kind of unclear about which long-haired brunette she is.

Astrid

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

It’s totally normal to not know who this is!

Whitney

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Whitney is a total wallflower. I always have to look up the cast list to remember she’s even a contestant on this season.

Taylor

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

It’s actually breath-taking that Taylor is the mental health worker on the show and she’s the least emotionally intelligent (excluding Corinne) of the bunch. What kind of advice does she give her clients? What good (besides short-term emotional gratification) is going to come from arguing with someone like Corinne? Feel extremely worried for her clients.

Alexis

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Alexis has done the very hard thing of going from being a joke to becoming a real person! Usually when people are that much of a clown they don’t recover.

Raven

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

I think Nick is reaching a bit with Raven, fulfilling some kind of latent fantasy. I’m a big Raven fan, I just don’t think they have anything in common, and I don’t think she’s the kind of girl that will be a true partner to Nick.

Sarah

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Sarah goes in on Corinne for not being mature enough to marry Nick. It’s a fair point but the example she uses is Corinne getting a giant purple bouncy castle for Nick. As if if Nick brought this out and showed it to Sarah she wouldn’t clap her hands together and squeal about how fun-loving and cool Nick is.

Danielle M

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Danielle M spends most of the episode complaining about Corinne. V snooze-worthy!

Vanessa

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

I really can’t stand Vanessa. She’s so judgmental and snobby and really not fun. I also think her being on the show is super suspect because if she’s going to be so slut-shame-y about Corinne, shouldn’t she have watched a few episodes of The Bachelor before signing up and realized she prob isn’t going to have her values aligned with the show? Especially knowing super slutty Nick was going to be the bachelor.

To be fair, I do think Vanessa goes far and maybe even wins. Nick is eating her holier than thou thing up.

Also: VERY IMPORTANT TID BIT IN CASE YOU MISSED IT. WHEN VANESSA GIVES NICK A BOOK “HER STUDENTS MADE” SHE SELF-DESCRIBES HER STUDENTS AS “ADORING” HER.

Danielle L

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Danielle L gets a very coveted date where Nick gets to show her around his hometown and she meets his parents. It’s interesting to see him pick her, he probably held off choosing her for a one-on-one earlier specifically because he wanted to test out his feelings for her here.

Rachel

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Rachel is queen and every person on the planet is hoping she’ll be runner up or whatever position makes her most likely to be the next Bachelorette.


Burning questions for next week’s episode


Are Corinne and Taylor going on the dreaded two-on-one???

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Will Corinne finally go home???

The Bachelor
The Bachelor

Will we EVER go back to having rose ceremonies at the end of each episode like we all want????

See you next week! TC mark

You Are So Much More Than The Mistakes You’ve Made

Posted: 24 Jan 2017 04:00 PM PST

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Larm Rmah

We've all done things we aren't proud of. Made decisions that we've immediately wished we could take back. Uttered words out loud that have instantly twisted our gut with a pang of discomfort and regret. We've all done things without thinking, or while only thinking of ourselves and no one else. We've all done things because they've felt good in the moment, ignoring what we know will be an unfortunate outcome.

Bottom line, we've all made mistakes. Sometimes we even repeat them. Sometimes not just once, but over and over again. And when that happens, it's not difficult to start beating yourself up. To look at the wreckage that surrounds you, the one that you yourself have conjured up, and hate yourself for what you've caused.

It's all too easy to go back in time, to pluck out those instances from your memory, and count them one by one. To revisit and replay them until they're stuck in the forefront in your mind, instead of in the past where they belong.

No one likes to screw up. We all want to make the right decision, one hundred percent of the time.

But the truth is that what we actually need to be doing is forgiving ourselves for the mistakes we've made, not punishing ourselves for them.

What we need to really being doing is examining those instances, and ultimately learning from them. When we pull those mistakes from the storage of our memories, we can't just chastise ourselves for the stupid things that we've done. We can't simply look at ourselves in anger.

The world that we live in preaches perfection; we're all under the impression that the only option we have is to succeed, that we need to do everything right the first time we attempt it. And our culture isn't one that encourages trial and error, but rather one that pushes perfectionism with the only alternate being total failure.

But I don't need to tell you that this isn't the way the world actually works.

No one gets everything right the first time. There's never been a person who's lived on this earth who has gotten everything completely correct. Even those who seems to have it all figured out have made awful mistakes, ones that they probably thought would change the trajectory of their lives for the worst.

And behind every successful person is a path at least partly cemented with regret for what could have been, but ultimately never came to be because of a mistake that was made.

So instead of beating ourselves up over every stupid thing we've ever done, over every relationship we've sabotaged, every person we've hurt and every opportunity we gave up for something that didn't pan out as well as we thought, let's take the opportunity to learn something. Let's analyze the situation and figure out where we went wrong. Let's right our wrongs and apologize to those we didn't do well by. Let's mourn for those chances we missed and the roads we didn't take.

But after we're done with that, let's put it all aside and move on. Let's bundle up all of those mistakes and stash them into the vault of long term memory; we can't, after all, pretend those things never happened.

But we can decide not let the mistakes of the past dictate the decisions we make in our future. We can't let them define who we are as people, as individuals.

Because we're all only human.

And while we're at it, let's forgive ourselves. Let those feelings of shame go. Let them leave your body in one big exhale. Don't let the mistakes stick to your insides, don't let the regret rot you. Exhale and release. Let go and start fresh.

Remember that you'll most definitely make new mistakes. Because you'll never truly be done with getting it wrong; no one will. Prepare yourself for those blips in your atmosphere. Be ready to let those things go once you're done with them, once those mistakes have taught you the lessons you needed to be taught.

Learn and let go. Make right and then move on. Forgive and take a step forward.

Because you are so much more than your mistakes. TC mark

This Is The Only Time It Is Acceptable To Leave The One You Love Most

Posted: 24 Jan 2017 03:00 PM PST

Bianca des Jardins
Bianca des Jardins

Sometimes, life hands us things that we can’t control. And life can put us in circumstances we never saw coming. Sometimes, you have to leave the person you truly love, and you have to say goodbye to a person you thought of as your forever.

The only time it is ok to leave someone you love, is if either you are unhappy, or they are.

This may seem simple. I know, all couples go through shit. All couples struggle in some way. No one couple is perfect. Everyone is going to argue at one point in their time together. No one is going to be happy all the time. No one is going to always wear a smile on their face. But, the unhappiness I’m talking about here, is experiencing months and months of pain, of pushing and pulling, of nonstop crying, and of love that has evolved into resentment. 

Don’t leave just because of an argument. Don’t leave because you are struggling with a few things in your relationship. You’ve got to try. You’ve got to give it your all. You’ve got to fight. Hard. You’ve got to give them all of you.

And if that’s not enough? You have to leave.

Leave if you are truly, truly unhappy. Leave when you find yourself looking at them, still so in love, but you know that your time has to come to an end. Leave if you feel like you have lost yourself in this relationship. Leave when you have that gut feeling in your stomach, that you don’t see forever with them. Leave if the distance has become too much, and you experience more hurt than joy. Leave if he has stopped looking at you during conversations and has stopped listening to you tell him about your day.

It isn’t your fault, or his. It isn’t a timing thing, either.

This isn’t giving up. This is working so hard to fight for something that is not there anymore. This is not throwing in the towel. This is having the strength to do what is best for you, even though you are still madly in love. This is not being selfish.

This is loving yourself enough, to do this. Even if it breaks your heart too.

Leave if you have tried everything in your power to make it work, and nothing has changed. Leave when you want it more than he does. Leave because you care more, and he knows it. You’ve got to do what is best for. Even though it makes you ache, and shake with pain. I know you have tried. I know you have fought like hell. But, it comes to a certain point where you are too exhausted to try anymore. You are too tired, to fight another day.

You’ve got to leave when you are doing your best, but your best still isn’t good enough.

You can’t stay to please them. You can’t stay because of the love. You will find greater love elsewhere. You will find love that is meant to be. And that is mean to stay. TC mark

Why I Want To Date A Trump Gal

Posted: 24 Jan 2017 02:09 PM PST

Trump Girls Break The Internet
Trump Girls Break The Internet

We'd never talk about having kids because she doesn't believe in planned parenthood.

There will always be an abundance of Stoli vodka in the house.

Though we'll argue quite often, minutes later I'll be allowed to claim I never said any of it.

She believes in outdated racial tropes. So being a black man, she'll assume I'm swinging serious lumber.

Though she'll be initially confused that I haven't fathered and abandoned children with multiple women, it will eventually impress her that I fought off my genetic requirement to do so.

She'll be allured by my air of mystery because I won't talk about my days selling drugs — steadfastly refusing to believe that I never sold drugs.

She'll feel such sympathy for me because I never knew my dad. When I point out that I saw my dad last month, she'll pat me on my shoulder and say "Your real dad, sweetie."

There will always be an abundance of white sheets in the house.

Without knowing anything about my finances, she'll open a checking account for me so that I can stop going to those "check cashing places."

She'll tell me "Now you have a place to put all of your Obamacare money."

She'll treasure our relationship because — according to phone calls with her mom — dating me makes her a patriot.

She read a news story on Facebook that convinced her contact with my skin will keep her looking youthful into her 50’s.

She believes having sex with me is considered reparations.

She believes having sex with me entitles her to a tax break.

She believes having sex with me will finally get her the credits from that African Studies class she failed as an undergrad.

In steamy moments she'll whisper "Make Amanda Groan Again."

When she's worried, I can easily calm her by reminding her "Everything's gonna be alt right."

She'll get a kick out of using air-quotes when referring to "my job."

She'll read things to me, for reasons she believes are obvious.

She'll encourage my writing, but warn that "the world doesn't need another Moesha."

She's impressed by my Harvard degree because it shows I apparently have "mad photoshop skills."

And thanks to recent events, I'd never have to watch The Devil Wears Prada again. TC mark

What Each Zodiac Sign Has Trouble Admitting To Themselves

Posted: 24 Jan 2017 02:00 PM PST

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Aries (March 21 – April 19)

They don't like to admit that they can veer off course sometimes, they're used to having everything together and being an example for others and they don't like to admit that sometimes they don't know what they're doing because they think it will make them look weak or less credible especially in front of their peers.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

They will never admit that they were wrong — ever. They have too much pride to admit that they made a mistake, they can do anything to try to fix it but you will never hear them actually admit – even to themselves – that they were wrong or wronged someone else or even apologize.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

They secretly know that they can make a lot of promises they know they'll break, because they're always out and about, they often get lost in the moment and make plans for the next 10 years and then go home and change their minds about everything. They know it but they will always refute it.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

They have trouble admitting that they're actually a lot more sensitive that they appear to be, they like to act tough and indifferent but the truth is the smallest remark or comment could really hurt them and keep them up all night. They also don't admit to people that they're upset or hurt because they don't want to show others how vulnerable they really are.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

They don't like to admit that, at the end of the day, they don't want anyone to outshine them, they encourage other people to be bold and confident but they don't want anyone else to steal the show. They're used to running the show and they wouldn't like it any other way.

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Virgos like to be proper all the time and they like being the perfectionists of the zodiac, but sometimes they wonder what it's like on the other side, what it's like to be free-spirited and living in the moment. They don't like to admit that they actually care about what people think, their behavior is greatly affected by what others might think of them.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

They don't like to admit that they need help when they're down, they're used to being there for everyone else and they can't handle the fact that they need someone to be there for them too. They like being the ones helping instead of being the ones asking for it.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Scorpios will never admit that they're heartbreakers. They'll never admit that they seduce everyone and then act like they're just friends. They like to use their charm and their sexuality to attract others, they like being admired by everyone so they can have a pool of admirers to choose from.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

They know they're too forgiving sometimes and a lot of people take them for granted but they'll never say it out loud, they will always give the benefit of the doubt or come up with excuses for the ones they love even if they know that these people don't deserve that kind of love or forgiveness.

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Capricorns will never admit that they're lonely. They will always try to put on a happy face and act like they don't need anyone because they're focused on their career. They will never make people feel that they need anyone or that they can't make it on their own.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

While they have no problem admitting everything, they'll never admit that they have a lot of regrets. They have trouble believing that they didn’t make the best possible decision about something. They will always praise their decisions and tell you it was the right thing to do even if they know that it wasn't.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

They don't like to admit that they pushed someone away. They will always blame others for leaving them and won't really try to see if they were the ones who forced them to leave. They live in their own head and they're always trying to dramatize everything — including their reality.  TC mark

Rania Naim is a poet and author of the new book All The Words I Should Have Said, available here.

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